I interviewed a student of mine who, before working with me, had never had a date, never done an approach, and was literally starting from zero. This isn’t meant to be a testimonial - it's just a conversation that I thought might be useful for some of you. Especially if you're starting out, I think you'll relate to what he went through and pick up a few helpful insights. Hope this helps.

Me: Thanks for doing this video. For people who don’t know you, can you quickly introduce yourself?

Alex: Sure. I'm Alex, 26, and I work as a scientist in Switzerland, I’ve been living here for the past five years. I work in a lab, so it’s a pretty introverted setting - kind of like how I am as a person. When I met you, I basically had zero dating experience and hadn't had a date in my life.

Me: Coming from an introverted background, what made you decide to actually do something about it?

Alex: I’d say I became aware of the issue when I was 18. But I always assumed it would just sort itself out with time. I figured I could just keep living my life, and eventually, something would happen naturally. But as I progressed in other areas - career, education - this part of my life stayed completely the same. At 26, I still had no dating experience, and I realized, “Okay, this is not going to fix itself. I need to actually do something... and something drastic.”

Me: You told me the decision to work with me was kind of improvised. You saw my YouTube video and just booked a call. How did that happen?

Alex: Yeah, it was a bit impulsive. I had just finished my doctorate and was like, "Okay, no more excuses. Let’s do something about this." I had no idea where to start - dating apps, friends’ advice... none of it was working. Then your video popped up on my feed, and I just thought, “Why not?” I signed up without much of a plan - just threw myself in the deep end.

Me: I remember that first session. You were walking around, clearly overwhelmed, and said it felt like you were undressing in public. Talk me through that experience.

Alex: Yeah, that first session was rough. You asked me to go to a busy area, do some warm-ups - asking for directions - and then give a compliment to a random girl. Sounds simple now, but at the time, it felt incredibly difficult. For about an hour I just paced back and forth, feeling super exposed and awkward. I kept saying it felt like I was completely naked, just walking around doing something absurd. Looking back, it’s kind of funny - but at the time, it felt very real.

Me: But then you started to improve. You had some conversations, got a few numbers, and eventually got your first date. You said it felt as big as finishing your PhD. Can you share what that felt like?

Alex: Honestly, it was one of the most exhilarating experiences of my life. It wasn’t just that I got a date - it was that I earned it. I had to message back and forth, stay persistent, and finally set it up myself. It was the first number I got where you weren’t directly helping me, and that made it feel real. I walked around the neighborhood for an hour afterwards, just buzzing. It’s one of those moments you never forget.

Me: You’ve said before that the mental resistance was just as hard as the actual actions. What were some of the limiting beliefs you had to overcome?

Alex: Two big ones. First, I believed that approaching a girl on the street would bother her - that she wouldn’t want some random guy coming up to talk. But that turned out to be completely wrong. Most girls are actually flattered and appreciate a guy confidently giving them a compliment - even if nothing comes of it.

Second, I had this idea - probably from movies - that once you “get over the fear” once, it becomes easy and natural instantly. But that’s not how it works. It does become natural, but only after repetition and practice. It’s not a one-time thing where you gather courage and then everything is smooth. It’s a skill you have to build like anything else.

Me: It’s been about three months now. How would you describe the change in yourself?

Alex: The biggest shift is my attitude. Before, talking to a girl felt like such a big deal. That mindset made me nervous and awkward. Now, it feels much more casual and normal. I don’t take myself so seriously. I’m more open, confident, and just relaxed. Not just in dating - but in how I carry myself in general.

P.S. If you want to see the actual video, here it is