Have people been sexist to you in a period in which you were insecure or didn’t have a backbone?

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2025-07-31T18:39:39+00:00

It's harder to stand up for yourself when you're a kid. When I was in the 7th grade, my male Social Studies teacher gave every girl in the class extra credit. Not one boy got extra credit. Now I'd complain about that, but when you're a 12 year old kid...

My childhood was not as abusive as yours, but my old man was emotionally abusive. Never seemed to care if I was alive or dead. Maybe because my abuse was not as bad as yours, but it did not seem to stop me from having a substantial backbone. Not verbally anyway. I was always hesitant about getting in physical fights, but that might've been because I was a small kid.

So sorry you had a rough childhood. Needless to say, it was not your fault.

World-Three · 2025-08-01T01:07:57+00:00

Most of society doesn't care until people they do care about are harmed.

Think of the show adolescence, school shootings, mass shootings and crimes like it. Troubled people who everyone seems to understand is having a hard time but not reaching out to them or doing anything for them, not even acknowledging them, UNTIL they do something to people they care about.

Think of the silly videos you see with kids. The girls doing whatever they want to the boys, everything is comical and cool until the male decides that it's time to stop and tries to take action, then everyone who was watching in amusement steps in...

I can't answer your question... Because to me, helping people is simple if I matter enough to them for them to listen, but if I don't, then there's not much I can do. That isn't at you, you don't know me I don't know you. But when you hear things like, "if it's important enough to you YOU MAKE TIME" it just shows me that the reason why things are the way they are for men is either because people want it to be, or they don't care enough to change it... And both action and inaction of the same degree support the same outcome.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-07-31T22:21:48+00:00

Because society wants men who don't need help. Nature is terrifyingly Darwinian in most respects; it's important to remember that egalitarianism and equal treatment are deeply unnatural ideas.

KudereDev · 2025-08-01T04:02:56+00:00

I feel your pain. I was weak kid back in the day, quite tall with lots of problems that comes with it. Didn't have father in my family as he became alcoholic and literally trauma dumped at me when I was like 6 before going out for the milk for good, he won't be a good father anyway, so whatever.

Like without some kind men to men learning you would start to miss really needed skills, like basic repair, charisma training and confidence build up. I missed most of it outside of basic DIY and repairs lol. My grandpa told me that and that is all of men skills I have. Without charisma and confidence you are so screwed for life and it is extremely hard to build even when you in your 20. Your life can be already twisted af, building confidence on it is like building house of bricks under water and except it to be waterproof.

There where "fun" starts. You need to be confident, stoic and charismatic, but you don't know how, then bullying that explode your self esteem and it goes though the floor. No one cares about you until you are badly hurt or literally dying. And when adult life comes you are as lost as new born kitten. Then comes complaints, oh you NN years old, why you can't become successful, where is your confidence. You need to be a man, man up and push though all problems you have, even if you don't know how. It is hard life and for the love of God it would become so much harder in future.

Last situation literally stunned me like mace hit. I was forced to fire up BBQ with charcoal. I see BBQ and charcoal for the first time in my life. I don't know shit about igniting or maintaining fire. But everyone expects you to know, you are a man, you need to do all the steps and we would berate you along the way. Well that is sexist af, like we all have 0 experience, why only I do shit and call shots.

gmanex · 2025-08-02T09:11:00+00:00

They are just placing their own expectations on you maybe.

Title	Have people been sexist to you in a period in which you were insecure or didn’t have a backbone?
Author	Theo04t
Upvotes	46
Comments	5
Date	July 31, 2025 6:11 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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