Ok... so after posting here couple of times I got some good advise. I have started lifting but due to shoulder pain I am taking it slow.

I have done some introspection why so many girls rejected me or why I felt bad or lonely many times. One thing that repeatedly came out was lack of friends and social circle. Heck, if I had friends I would be more happy and won't think as much as I do now about getting girls.

Its not like I never had friends. I had friends in college but I realized they all were shittiest people who always looked down upon me, always made fun of me, insulted me. At job also I met some extremely dirty minded people when I came to US. They were worst kind of Indian people you could imagine.

From my own life events also I admit that was angry most of the time. I guess anger was due to loss of hair, negative comments made about me. I am 100 times more calm and understanding now than when I was 25. So yes , I never had good friends who would support me, I can open up to or help increase my smv.

Before you answer my question please don't ask me to read how to win friends and influence people. I have read it. Although book is good most advise is not practical in generation of the iPhone and the Internet.

Questions if someone could advise -

  1. At 30 I find myself lonely. What shall I do to get good friends. I drink socially once or twice a week in bar. I don't want to become drunk lord and don't want to drugs.

  2. Joining activities or going to meet up is cool. Many people at meetup are not looking for friends though. At activities everyone runs home as soon as they are done. It feels like every one has friends and asking to hangout or number is too needy. I also don't want to give impression that I am gay. ( no offence ).

  3. I want to be friends with people who I can open to and guys and girls who can increase my smv.

Within 2 min of talking with me I get asked if I am from India. Both guys and girls don't want to associate themselves with Indians for some reason or they give vibe that we are superior than you and don't need you.

So in a nutshell I am trying to become social misfit to socially fit guy who has good friends and girls want to hangout with. This way I also want to build network. I have zero connections at the moment.

Thanks.