I’m feeling totally defeated right now. We don’t even have a date yet for our dissolution and I just found out my wife is already secretly dating someone. When we decided to split she tried to stop it and would tell me how much she loves me and only sees a life with me and no one else. But come to find out she has been seeing this guy even before we decided to split. Even when I caught her with this guy she denied it until I showed her the proof and then after that she tried to justify it. The real poison is I work with both of these people. The mental games she has played with me for the last several months all just hit me at once when I found this out. I can’t eat or sleep. I just don’t know if I will ever get over this.