Feeling lonely , always :-(

vandaalen · 2015-11-07T07:41:33+00:00

Start MMA or BJJ.

RocketManV · 2015-11-07T05:40:29+00:00

Go out more. Go to bars alone and walk up to a group of people, introduce yourself, be curious about them. Be funny. Learn how to be funny. Go out more.

tb87670 · 2015-11-07T05:40:45+00:00

I suffered this. My friends moved on. I was stuck where I was due to unfortunate incidents compounded with various injuries. Had social anxiety and PTSD, this crippled my public life. Took Phenibut to help with that and it made a massive difference but I do not recommend that to everyone. I was lonely, seriously lonely. I get that feeling, been there a few months ago. I liked being alone most of the time yet felt hollow. I think it's a wolf-dog type of scenario. A wolf-dog is a confused animal, instincts of a wolf clashing with the domesticated mind of a dog all the time. Wolves cannot look people in the eye, dogs can. In my case it was a person who gets drained from social events yet craved to have company or people who cared. An introvert that wanted friends. It's because humans are social creatures by nature.

I started flirting with random chicks that are a bit overweight at the store then leaving, struck up random conversations with strangers. Met people, tried a tad of online dating which is total crap nowadays but still got me something. One hobby class is not the end of the world if you don't get friends, I have several tech classes and just didn't like most of the people even though the subject I did enjoy. Maybe try hanging with men from your workplace? As corny as this sounds, I never liked poker much but poker night with guys is actually a super fun thing. It's mostly you talking shop and talking shit about how dumb some things are in life, the cards are just there as a distraction so it's not just 4 or more dudes sitting in chairs. No cash even, have a set of chips which you should be able to get cheap at like a WalMart. You don't have to be good friends and hit off immediately, just hang with some guys doing simple poker night stuff and after a month or two you all get used to each other and have a rapport going on. You can make friends in this manner. I'm working on this now and it seems to work, I can chill with guys as long as they are not total asshats.

RacialRealism · 2015-11-07T08:53:16+00:00

Meetup is only good for picking up, pretty shit for friends seeing as all the guys there are just there to fuck (in the younger ones at least).

Join a social club that is on every night of the week, that way whenever you feel lonely you can go. Met some really great friends through martial arts.

[deleted] · 2015-11-07T19:24:06+00:00

Go to a bar. Order a big ass pizza and ask cool people if they would like to share. Who turns down free pizza? Bullshit with them, become a regular. People like familiar faces. Go be seen. Get an inside joke with the bartender or waitress, if people can see you making a bartender laugh, they know you're a funny guy. Entertainers attract people.

Title	Feeling lonely , always :-(
Author	Ghanti9
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	November 7, 2015 5:26 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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