I gave up control... Basically I was in a disaster of a relationship, my first after 15 years.. I was used and manipulated till I left. I was a novice, still am, but learned quite a few lessons.

As the toxic relationship was winding down I met someone else. She seeked me out more then I did her honestly. At first I juggled my toxic girl and this girl who seeked me out. I gave no fucks about the new girl, basically used her as a reserve. I would disappear for days, pitted her against my toxic girl and was caught texting the toxic girl and laughed it off and walked away.

New girl pursued still...where other girls would prob not put up with it she stuck by me. Constantly proclaiming how foolish she felt and how she wouldn't allow any man to treat her like I did.

So, wrapped things up with the toxic girl and decided to see what happens with the back-up. At first I was hot and cold, still not caring to much.

But it happened...Almost 3 months in and I've become weak. I realized she's a great girl and I regretted treating her poorly. She's smart, funny, and cute. I've said stupid shit like "I'm falling for you" or written walls of text in messages being far to weak.

I noticed she's cooled off..she's still into me but not as pursuing..and I miss that and I need the control/I can leave at anytime aspect.

I've learned she has a long history of men seeing her, but never saying she's their girlfriend, and/or just disappearin weeks later. Shes dated but guys never make it official or stick around she said. I'm the first one in 3 years to actually say we are in a relationship.

Wed night, I said I'd call...but I forgot. She turned it into "you blew me off" and "if you say your gonna do something do it" I was weak, wrote a wall of text being to touchy feely. She responded the next day "Just do it and don't give me a wall of text" She spent the rest of the day being distant, responding to all text in 1 to 3 words. Her usual sweet goodnight With emoji and shit was "Goodnight. Sleepwell" To be honest her tons of emoji text, tons of "I miss you!" text, and cutesy text have all cooled off over the last 3 weeks.

Seems as if I've given more and tried to explain to her I've caught feelings she's pulled away.

I worry she's with me cause... show her a good time a couple days a week..She has dirtbag GF that treat her like shit and very little friends. No hobbies or anything to do really...I think I'm the highlight of her week. I'm a bit out of her league in looks. I could do way better then her but I like batting a bit lower cause its less stress. Cause...I'm here..

She's also one of those people that "stick around". One of those people who you want to end something or tell you they want out but they will just stick around.

So after yesterday's "distant" day we are suppose to go out tonight. I have a pretty pricey night lined up with good food and wine. Wondering how I can use this moment to bring back the power or how to use tonight to get that clingy dynamic back she had for me. At this moment I'm set not to "good morning" text her. I do it every morning so I wanna test to see how she reacts not receiving one. I figure she was so distant and gave me a half ass goodnight last night maybe I should let her text me first for once.

Any tips or info on how to proceed. I wanna keep her around and do like her but I want her to need/cling/worship me again.