Heya askTRP,

I am a beta in the process of swallowing the red pill and I have a scenario I want to share for review. It involved a girl I met while I was still full beta and when I tried some of the teaching of TRP it has crashed and burned.

BACKGROUND: I met this girl on Tinder and early on we agreed that our relationship was casual. What this entailed was that we could both date whoever and do whatever. I was cool with it, so we gave it a shot. For the first month she wanted to hang out all the time, whether it be at her place chilling or at my place cooking and watching TV. We wouldnt really go out on the weekends because she worked at one of those juice places.

Things were going well, but early on she also dropped a bomb on me saying that guys always hounded her for sex. Me being the dumb beta that I was took that and being the nice guy that I was decided to never push the issue, so any time we would hang out we would just cuddle...naked (Im an idiot). In that time I ate her out a couple times and she gave me a couple blowjobs.

Well, I was leaving for Ireland for vacation and to send me off properly she decided she wanted to have sex. She was throwing out those vibes and I escalated and it was all good. I leave for Ireland and I send her snaps of stuff as I am going about thinking all is hunky dory. I get back from Ireland and that is when things change.

She came over the night I got back and she wanted to reiterate that this was a casual relationship that meant we could do whatever we wanted. The whole tone was "I am about to start sleeping with other guys." Well, she stops coming over as frequently and I just felt like I wasnt getting what I wanted so I said I didnt want any part of it anymore.

A few weeks later she texted me seeing what was up and we chatted a bit. I eventually invited her out to dinner. Again, my dumb beta self paid for dinner. We came back to my place and just cuddled...naked...like always...

This started things back up and about this time she started stripping again because she was tired of the shitty money from her juice place job. She used to strip a few years ago, but stopped because the lifestyle was getting to be a bit much (her words, fuck if I know the real reason). This allowed us to be able to go out on the weekend because she made enough money during the week she didnt need to dance the weekend.

It always seemed like every Saturday and Sunday she would have plans, so that left us Friday. We went out just about every Friday (sometimes with my friends) and my dumb beta self paid for every dinner we went to. Every single time we would end up at my place cuddling...naked...even more....

AFTER TRP: So, as I said. I have recently swallowed the pill and decided to see if I could gain back any alpha status in this relationship.

This week I kept the text to logistics and all was looking like I might make some headway. She comes over and we go out to dinner. I paid again. I dont have a good excuse other than its hard for me to have a girl pay for dinner. That is something I will need to work on.

Anywho, we are vibing like always having a good time. We walk back to my place and I start kissing her shortly after we get into my apartment. I feel like she is feeling it so I pick her up and hold her up in the air while I am kissing her all over. She says she like how small I make her feel and so I decided to just take her to my bedroom. As we are kissing I start to undress us both, but when I get to her pants I catch some LMR. She says:

Hey mister, what do you think you are doing?

I decided to let that go and just kissing her furiously all over for a few minutes, sucking on her tits and I try again, more LMR, the same line. So again, I go kissing around shes still feeling it and I try one more time and she resists again.

At this point I stop because its starting to feel a little rapey to me and I ask her whats up. She says she doesnt want to have sex right now. Well I know good and well shes been sleeping with other guys. I mean hell she had an IUD put in a few weeks ago. So I ask if she doesnt want to have sex in general or just not with me. She replies saying that she doesnt think we are sexually compatible.

Now I dont know if I lost frame at any part earlier in the night, but I sure as shit did there. I just stopped and rolled over. She snuggled on up to me and I kinda went beta again asking dumb questions. At some point she said she enjoyed my company, but just didnt think we were sexually compatible. She found me attractive, but didnt want to have sex with me.

Right then and there I decided it was over. What I want in a casual relationship I wont be getting from this girl. I didnt ask her to leave and we cuddled the night away. This time she had her leggings on.

We get up the next morning chilling like nothing happened and I suggested we go get something to eat. We do, we go out have a good time, but this time I made her pay the check. She dropped me off at my place, we kissed and then she left.

Now, my plan of action is just ghost and let the hamsters do their thing. Ultimately, this is over as I am not getting what I want. I still have a lot to learn and read and I was using this as more of a field exercise since it was handy. What I am asking yall is to critique my application of TRPs teachings

TL;DR - Started a casual relationship with a girl while I was a beta. Next to no sex. Swallowed the red pill, tried to get sex and was denied. Ghosting away