Hey, I came to an epiphany last night about feminism, masculinity, and femininity.

Feminism states verbatim that its goal is to tear down patriarchy by deconstructing masculinity. And feminism also claims to want strict gender equality. But seems reluctant to hold the same blowtorch to traditional femininity, like an old faded wedding dress they no longer fit into but like to take out of the closet and hold up to the mirror and pretend they are young again. I think feminism may recognize the damage psychology tells us this endless criticism of gender identity has caused for men, but I’m assuming not considering they are continuing that onslaught on male identity unabated.

So I think we need to help feminism deconstruct femininity and give them a gentle push off that cliff because I think a key factor in the current tension in society is that one gender identity is under constant criticism and the other is completely free from criticism. Feminism would describe this as men being less tethered to traditional masculinity because feminism deconstructed/destroyed it for us, (gee thanks!) and I think we should help them free women from traditional femininity and cut that tether such that it can never be remade.

The pillars of virtue within traditional femininity as I see them are: - Motherhood - Beauty - Empathy - Goodness

Motherhood can be reunderstood within a world of overpopulation and ecological destruction as an existentially gluttonous and narcissistic act, gobbling up all of the resources and sacrificing the future of the planet just so the feminine can make more copies of themselves.

Feminine beauty can similarly be recontextualized within a world where we know the lengths the feminine routinely go to in an effort to enhance their beauty. They use anti-aging skin creams on their faces which are made from the private parts of baby boys bodies.

Empathy is often weaponized. When you are told how you feel, or told that your feelings are due to misunderstandings, or that feminine feelings are somehow more valid, you are experiencing the antisocial side of feminine empathy. It is not a virtue to be able to read others emotions when that information is used to control and abuse.

The concept of WAW comes from the feminine relational morality which really just asks the basic question “is everyone happy? And if not, are the right people happy?” This tends to work well in small groups and completely falls apart at scale. It is a low functioning people pleasing form of morality that should be widely understood as genuinely inferior to universal rules.

My understanding from feminism is that to deconstruct (destroy) a thing you only need to criticize it endlessly. Because by criticizing it repeatedly you reduce it to something worthy of constant criticism and inherently degrade it in the eyes of others. If it is something we consider sacred, like masculine stoicism or feminine motherhood, endless criticism wipes that sacred varnish off and makes it mundane, and killable.

So I invite you all to join me in this quest to find and compile the best legitimate criticisms of traditional femininity with regard to its actual value to humanity, and try to strip away all sentimentality. We need to develop a script we can repeat at scale that will articulately question the value of traditional femininity. Let’s burn that dress!