Would greatly appreciate a feedback, insight, opinion from more experienced bros !

For context, I've been through a traumatic breakup some couple years ago and I have been battling with the idea of cold approaching for almost a year now, and a major part of the obstacles for me were mental health issues + unfortunate periods of isolation.

So for the first 15 attempts, magnified with my isolation at the time, a part me would just put too much stake in the approach, which will leave me freezing at the possibility of failure when I see a cute chick.

Recently though, I've been putting a good amount work into other areas of my life to shift my mindset into a more growth-oriented one, one that celebrates effort for its own sake rather than the outcome, and I tried to incorporate it into my outlook about encounters and seduction.

Leading us to today, where despite not really talking to a girl, I felt like my mental composition is less neurotic than usual and this is thanks to two things that contributed into my mindset shit :

  1. I don't need any girl in the world. I'd love to have sex with said girl but in no way am I desperate for it. (Show someone you're desperate to obtain something and you're automatically shunned away, it's vital to not be desperate)
  2. The outcome doesn't matter, the only metric is to do an encounter. (This is something I knew for a long time but only recently did it click with me)

I know that this doesn't feel like much, but I believe in celebrating micro-achievements.

I'm planning to go back tomorrow, I know it will work out eventually.

P.S : I live in a conservative city in a Muslim country so there isn't really a culture of bar alleys, nightclubs or similar places to meet people, at least not in this city per se