This is a problem I've always had with women. There's a chick right now who im trying to ignore because I dont want to be an orbiter, However we also hang out with mutual friends. I'm trying to ignore her, but she keeps messaging me, and I don't want to lose composure and I also hate the fact that I have to ignore her.

The backstory was she had a boyfriend so I didn't pursue her, but also didn't acting like I wasnt interested either. When she became single, I asked her to hang out, then I made my intentions clear and eventually, she responded with "Youre an amazing friend." Whe she said that i felt like poop but also got over it quickly, she and I then enjoyed a very nice deep chat since I no longer had any care about her opinions of me.

Yesterday at a party we saw each other and her intentions were clear to me. She wanted to get close to me, but have me be the one to say something, I guess nobody else was paying her the attention she wanted.

So anyways today shes blowing up my phone and I have yet to respond. She said in a text "I thought we were getting along great, then you pretend not to hear me, and now your ignoring me, at least tell me what i did."

Personally these things hurt me, I try to be a cool down to earth person, I don't have any sucess with women and this always happens, I dont know what to do, If I say anything about being rejected Im a chump, If I dont respond, everyone else will chime in how I'm acting like a chump. More than that if we really are just friends, why would she blow up my phone with 12 messages to no responses? Like that makes me feel she does kinda like me. But then Id just end up trying kiss her, and her saying were just friends so I'm just confused. On top of all of that, I personally dont believe ignoring them is the right course of action, I dont want to be bitter, But I also dont know what to tell them.

Edit: grammer