My wife of 7 1/2 years and I are getting a divorce. Long story short I had been a really bad husband a for a long time. We’ve both had our affairs but we worked through it to try and make things work. We have 2 kids and after our second was born things got so much better. As time went on things got bad again. I struggle with bad anger issues where I would yell, scream, or break object (which I am now seeing a therapist for) which of course scared her. She had been asking me to seek therapy for over a year which I kept putting it off. I found her looking at apartments a wee before she left and when I asked she said she was just looking. She took both of our kids which I rarely get to see now even though I know that’s how it’ll be from now on. We still have arguments over the phone but try to calm things down. She’s told me she loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore. We’ve had our conversations of opening up since the separation and gained some clarity about things. Agreed that we want to be able to make or receive calls without getting anxious or scared and wanting to interact peacefully. She’s mentioned she has moments during the day where she would tell herself I would be home soon or come home for lunch and then realize things are different an that won’t happen anymore. She’s told me we’re not getting back together which I 100% understand but I know time can change people if the circumstances are right. I would love nothing more than to reconcile in the future once we’ve both grown and learned how to do things right.