I noticed something about myself socially and I’m curious if anyone else relates or has advice.

Whenever I’m with my friend group at parties, kickbacks, pre-games, etc., I naturally become the “hype man” / social glue guy. I’m loud, energetic, joking around, talking to everyone, making sure people are having fun. One of my friends even pointed it out recently before some girls arrived.

The thing is: when I’m in that mode, I struggle to transition into a more flirtatious vibe.

What’s weird is that when I go out clubbing, I actually do pretty well socially/flirting-wise — but usually only when I temporarily leave my group and go interact somewhere else. It’s like I can either be:
1. the fun/social center of the group, or
2. the flirtatious guy

…but combining both feels difficult.

At smaller parties or apartment hangouts where there aren’t tons of new people around, I can’t really “reset” by walking away, so I stay stuck in entertainer mode the whole night.

Has anyone dealt with this? How do you keep your fun/high-energy personality while also creating more one-on-one/flirtatious tension naturally?