I just payed for my modest 1 bedroom apartment after taking out a 10k personal loan to float me until I recieve my settlement from my stbxw. She is buying me out of our house. The realization of seeing my kids every single day to seeing them for 12 overnights for the rest of 2026 is weighing heavy on my soul.

Next May in 27' my work schedule changes to mon-fri as oppossed to my sun-thurs current schedule which will allow for my full every other weekend custody. But this year is going to be solitary for me with new found freedom and time to build myself. I joined a gym and am moving into my apartment in a few weeks. I have plans for this new found time.

I am a musician and an artist, so I have started a cover band to gig and make extra income, I'm going to take on students to teach, as well as create art to sell. I am also going to reclaim my real estate license I let go during my marriage and put it in referal. I'm getting my arm sleeve finished this summer and Im going to book a vacation not sure to where yet though.

I'm grateful I woke up today that I get to pick my kids up from school after work today as my stbxw is working 1-11pm. And trying to saver every moment I get with these wonderful beautiful happy kids of mine.

Divorce sucks but was nessasary for me to file for the mental health of everyone involved and so my kids can have a less toxic situation as my stbxw is a total mental mess suffering from clinical depression, post partum depression, childhood trauma, and undiagnosed mixture of BPD and NPD that I have endured and enabled for the last 10 years.

She is moving in with her family so we don't have to pay for daycare and the kids can go to a good school system. She is also going to rent our house out and use the money to put towards are kids colleges as per our divorce decree.

Cheers to all you dads out there and men who are going through something similiar.