Advice.

Using a throwaway.

Background: Basically, my wife is a neurosurgeon, and barely finds time for me.

And i am in corporate law, so when it comes to raising our 2 children, we are mostly absent and outsource through boarding schools and nannies. (They are 14,16)

Last week my daughter (who is age-14) came home early for summer break.

I had no idea and was with in bed along with my mistress, for a pleasureful weekend.

She caught us in bed and i managed or at least tried to manage the situation, but at the dinner she told everything to her mummy.

Now, after the dinner i came back to my room, and found her, where she calmly and in a composed manner without any drama said, “i want a divorce.”

Why?

I have no idea. Because that affair thing wasn’t the cause as since the start of our relationship we were clear that we can have these relationships, if we were discreet and there if we didn't embarrass each other in public.

My daughter saw us but it has been an acceptance in our household, (i know i was sloppy but the reactions by my wife are purely unjustifiable according to our agreement)

I love my duaghter but she is extremely spoiled and tried to conciel her silence through gifts yet she chose to rat on me.

She has stopped talking to me and giving me cold shoulders. And also has contacted her parents, for some legal paperworks regarding the divorce.

I do not want this, it is messy and will affect me financially and logistically, and her family despises since the start of our relationship, as i am not from a wealthy household like theirs and ruined any prospects for a good alliance marriage for them.

Request: HOW TO SAVE MY RELATION WITH MY WIFE AND MY DAUGHTER?