How does one be dominate?

bmer92 · 2016-02-03T21:09:46+00:00

Dominance is simply knowing what you want and going for it and not compromising on that goal. If you try to exert control over people your just being controlling if you control yourself you control your surroundings. Example: You ask a woman out you make the plans on where you're both going, when you arrive you start the conversation calmly and casually you walk before her when you go into the venue you sit down before her. You control the direction of the conversation. You decide when its time to go.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-02-03T21:36:10+00:00

I am not dominant enough.

Story of my young life. You can and will overcome this, and the answer isn't "become an asshole."

Iv asked if they mean

NOOOOOO! Don't ask a fish how to catch fish, ask other fishermen and study their successful strategies. Women's advice to nice young guys serves to maintain them as beta orbiters, to the benefit of the women, not the young men being advised.

My personality is that I am a very nice person if a friend needs lunch as an example ill buy them and refuse to be paid back

STRONGLY recommend you read No more Mr. Nice Guy and When I say no, I feel guilty. This will help get you onto the path you need to be.

My personality is that I am a very nice person if a friend needs lunch as an example ill buy them and refuse to be paid back. Im not the type of "bad boy" that girls look for.

As a man, your stock-in-trade is commitment, in the form of your time, company, and potentially resources. If you give it away for free upfront, it diminishes the value to near zero for the recipients; of COURSE they don't find themselves attracted. Learn to internalize that YOU are the prize, and how to offer commitment-y things AFTER receiving the affection and sex you want from a woman, and more importantly, to WITHDRAW commitment if she offers up bad behavior. Learn about push-pull, and escalation.

You don't have to turn against your kind internal nature and become an asshole to attract and keep women. In my case, the women I've dated would describe me as "The most ethical, and nicest guy I've ever dated... but DAMN he can be stubborn!"

framednblamed · 2016-02-03T21:39:09+00:00

Maybe something like swimming would be easier on your back.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-02-03T23:03:03+00:00

Step 1: One becomes dominant.

Step 2: When you do that, you dominate.

The words are different.

smartengineer93 · 2016-02-03T23:18:45+00:00

Dominance, in my experience, is more subconscious than verbal. I read a tip from a self help book about envisioning a strap (like what they hang from by their teeth in the circus) hanging from every door frame. Raise your chin to get that strap. Sounds dumb, I know, but by simply raising your chin you: * look taller * puff out your chest * exude confidence * look like you own the place cause other faggots are looking at their feet

There on other things you can do, but this is the best basic thing I know of.

Title	How does one be dominate?
Author	Pizza105
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	February 3, 2016 9:06 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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