background: 19M, uni kid, TRP for two years, + for HSV2 so some insecurities about boning (made a mistake one night and woop there it is.)

quick FR: Met up with a girl for a date in the city, she was very responsive and I felt like things were going to go well. We went to see a movie (Deadpool). Before the movie starts there's no one there and I go for the kiss, but she stops me, saying she needs to know me better. Now, I'm minorly bummed but whatever, let's watch the movie anyway, cause I haven't watched Deadpool before and it's awesome. We're watching it and I have my arm around her, and I'm touching her bare skin around the stomach area, making little circles and shit.

Now, in my head at this point, I'm thinking, "So, she rejected the kiss, but she's allowing this. That means that she doesn't want much out of the first date and wants to take it slow. Therefore, I'll go with this for now."

However, what I didn't know was that this girl was really promiscuous, and although she wanted me to jump her bones, she just didn't do kissing for whatever reason.

Eventually, she got frustrated, and just outright took off her bra midway through the movie, grabbed my hand, and put it underneath her shirt. Once she did that we were off to the races, but I was definitely really slow in recognising what she wanted. Eventually I explained to her that trying to bypass the kiss like that confuses guys, and she understood.

Normally I'm pretty good at going for it, but generally I base the future success of things on whether or not she goes for the kiss or not. So I now recognise that I need to understand my IOIs beyond just "does she want to be kissed?"

So yeah, how to recognise IOIs friends?