I'm struggling with the college social scene and I need advice.

stickfiguresk · 2016-03-01T04:58:52+00:00

When making friends, especially with guys, you need a practical reason to associate with them because it's not in our DNA to be drawn to dudes the way we're drawn to chicks.

For dudes to want to do shit with you, you need an activity that they'd want to participate in, like a game of basketball. For dudes to keep wanting to hang with you, you need to have or attract things that they want, like a car or chicks.

If you want to start modifying the behavior of the people around you, reward good behavior, and let your absence speak for behavior you dislike. Training people is not that different from training dogs.

beginner_ · 2016-03-01T08:16:51+00:00

You say you lift but you can lift and still be relatively skinny if you either don't it right, enough or just have bad genetics. So that would be first thing to look at. If you are big, you will get more respect. Have you ever seen a muscular guy being made fun off all the time? I haven't.

Secondly start some martial arts. First it should help with confidence in general and especially in such situations. And if the making fun off and teasing gets out of hand maybe some day you really need to set an example (but be aware, there will be consequences, so consider this a last measure).

juliusstreicher · 2016-03-02T17:01:29+00:00

Rule No. 1 from the 1 Rule of Power: When they are making an asshole of you, FUCKING DO NOT AGREE AND AMPLIFY!

Rule No 2 from the 1 Rule of Power: When they are making an asshole of you, FUCKING DO NOT AGREE AND AMPLIFY TWICE!!

You may suffer from depression, but, you are a fucking dumbass!

If they start to make fun of you, say "Later, dudes! Gotta make a call."
Then, leave. This will start you on the path to not being a dumb fuck bitch to them.

luzigo · 2016-03-01T04:57:34+00:00

Hi there man, same boat here regarding university. It seems like the college scene here in the USA is very cliquish from the get go, you meet people by participating in activities or joining social groups like Greek Life. I don't know what year you're in but if you're a junior, what I would advise is joining a volunteer group or some sort of a campus club. Make sure to stay active in it if time permits and join your social circle from there.

Sometimes it confuses me too, I walk around and see guys uglier, shorter, and dorkier than me having friends and even getting girls while I am left lonely. It can be pretty rough for guys like us, I worry about the future sometimes man because after college is the adult working world.

If people are making fun of you, it is definitely time to find a new clique.

[deleted] · 2016-03-01T08:20:05+00:00

When they make fun of me

Fight back. It's juvenile, sure, but that's the only way to stand your ground. Be vicious, go over the top. Once they know who they're dealing with they'll leave you alone

[deleted] · 2016-03-01T13:35:07+00:00

Whatever you do - stay strong brother - keep working - keep trying - maintain the faith! Trp is a great resource - stick with it, you'll get there

thor133 · 2016-03-01T14:02:03+00:00

You know you could try faking confidence, since you say you're a loser you might be coming across as one but only because you believe that about yourself. Start standing taller and speak with a purpose. When people insult you laugh it off or insult them back. But most importantly act like you're having fun when you're doing it, don't come across like you're really upset.

alpha_n3rd · 2016-03-01T15:09:59+00:00

Change your friends. Make a clean break.

Title	I'm struggling with the college social scene and I need advice.
Author	collegeproblemo1
Upvotes	14
Comments	22
Date	March 1, 2016 3:45 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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