24 yo virgin here. Last week I got rejected by my best friend. I was staring the truth of hypergamy in its face, and it hurt, it hurt so bad. I thought for a long time that there would be something between us. But I realize now I've nothing to offer her but being a good guy. It's been naggin me for a while and now it's apparent, she's falling for another guy (whom she loathed), and it seems that the only reason is that he's been successful with some ladies (plate spinning).

I've been in despair for the first half of this week. Two days ago I found back here (knew about TRP one year ago), and now I'm more determined than ever. I need to better myself, I need to become a man. Therefore I'm going for monk mode for some time. I've spent enough time these years just worrying and idling, stuck in my own head. Now is the time for action and discipline. I figure I'll come out a more confident man in the end.

I'm gonna focus on school, get shit done. No unnecessary shit-chat. My future career could be at stake, being at school means I work.

Keep the gymming going, minimum 3 times a week, aspire for more. Keep the pump going.

Grow a beard, I've never tried. Figured now is the time.

Do some real cooking. Mix it up a bit, learn something new.

Stop the porn and fapping, cut it out two days ago.

Keep the instant gratification at a minimum. This includes, sleeping in, idling on social media, games, tv-series.

For fun: drawing, cinema, watching a movie max one a day. Computer game time set to max an hour a day. And never on the day.

The social bit: Not being an ass, but not spending needless time on conversations and going to the cafeteria n such shit. I'll be myself, with a shifted focus.

I'm alright in a social setting nowadays, though I've not always been. Obviously I have approach anxiety since I'm still a virgin. Ultimately I'm looking to lose my virginity and gain confident with ladies, but that's up the road. I figured self improvement is in order first.

Am I dealing with this the wrong way or does this seem to be in order?