Long as fuck. If you can help, that would be amazing.

I’ve been in a LTR for about 8 months now. The girl is cool. She loves me way more than I love her. She was a virgin before me. Sex is good. I’m the dominant one in the relationship most of the time. I’m not into marrying, but she is the kind of girl i could settle down with for life.

Monday my GF and I had a little argument. It started because I got high (i’m trying to quit all types of smoking), then she started getting all weird on me. Taking the piss out of me, and generally not supporting me.

So I emotionally cut her off, told her I didn’t want to spend time with her that night. If she’s going to make me feel shit, why would I want to chill with her? She comes ‘checks up’ on me that night at my house. Again, I don’t give her much attention. Emotionally dead with her. She goes home. Almost cries because ….umm…. I don’t know.

Tuesday I ignore her phone call at lunch time, couple of texts. Around 4 I’m at my mates house. I’m just about to chill when she calls me. Like a dickhead I answer the phone and she’s screwing at me again. WHERE ARE YOU? WHAT ARE YOU DOING? I didn’t want to give her my details because I don’t want her to ‘check up’ on me again. However this wasn’t good idea. She DEMANDS, that if I value this relationship I should leave my mate’s house and meet her somewhere in town for 30 mins. So i do…

We meet. We are outside somewhere is public when she starts moaning at me again. Crying, can’t control her anger, talking far too loudly. I’m still emotionally dead with her. I’ve told her this situation is not the best time or place for me to fully open up to her. I guess she doesn’t really care. She wants me to know how shit I am because I don’t emotionally support her. She thinks I am not scared of losing her, but she is scared of losing me. SOME HOW, this got turned into me being the bad guy. I still don’t get how I’m the bad guy. The original problem of me getting high isn’t even mentioned. It’s just about her feelings, and how I’m not helping her to deal with them.

An hour later, she’s hugging me, crying, say ‘Oh my name, Oh my name, Oh my name’, I just let go and left. I tell her this is stupid and she’s worse now than when we started. I got back to my mate’s house and got high.

Wednesday, we met after work. She preemptively waits for me outside of work. YAY! We go to a bar. I tell her I don’t want to entertain her at my house all night (when she’s being a dickhead like this). Chill in the bar. I hoped we could have a civil conversation, but she can’t handle that. She’s bored, so we go back to mine. There she has the breakdown of her life. Cries, and tells the same shit from yesterday. I guess she got all the stuff off her chest and we hug and calm down. At this point i do feel bad for her, which is why i try to comfort her. We sit by the window and listen to the rain together. This whole time my mind is occupied, thinking about all this shit. She however doses off.

I go to bed, she says she’s staying round. She’s trying to get too intimate with me in bed. Now she feels OK, that means we are both OK. Right? It’s like she thinks the problem has gone now. However I tell her to move over and give me more room. I get a rubbish nights sleep.

Thursday, wake up and she’s off to work. Kissing me as I’m half asleep. BYE

Lunch time and she comes round to my house without notifying before. I guess to check up on me again. I’m still emotionally dead with her, although we do have conversation. She must know i’m still pissed off, but i guess that doesn’t matter if she is happy.

I don’t want to fuck my girlfriend. That feeling has gone. She’s lowered her value so low now it’s not cool. The fact that all she cares about emotionally is herself just makes me figure that i shouldn’t invest emotionally in her.

SO, what should I do now? What should I have done? Can I save this? Is my GF crazy?