Can lack of sex lead to depression in men?

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-03-31T12:19:01+00:00

One person isn't enough to base a statistic on but I can tell you my experience.

Entered into my first LTR at 17, married her later on and got divorced about 1½ year ago. What I'm saying with this is that I'm used to not having sex. A had a bunch of sex with a friend after the divorce over the course of 6 months and it seems to me you can get used to not having sex though it seems to be an urge you supress rather than not wanting it. The more sex I have the more I seem to want it.

I think my background makes it easier for me to be patient on my journey to improve myself. Pussy is of course one of my big goals but it's not THE goal.

[deleted] · 2016-03-31T16:34:24+00:00

Yes, it CAN. But there are many variables.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-03-31T19:14:33+00:00

No. Absolutely NOT. If you define yourself in always having your dick wet, or if you define yourself as arm candy around a girl, then sure, you'll become depressed. But that is as equally shallow and pathetic as some girls with their validation issues.

No, brother, the happiness you seek isn't found in women. The secret to life is much more profound than that. Stop putting women up on a pedestal.

[deleted] · 2016-03-31T16:40:24+00:00

I'd argue it's more depression, or rather a lack of self confidence and purpose, that leads to no sex.

However, for a depressed person, it's a lot easier to whine that you aren't getting sex and that's why you are lonely/sad than to complain about not improving yourself.

InformalCriticism · 2016-03-31T16:53:11+00:00

It's likely a case-by-case basis. The more you focus on the absence of it, the more likely your mind is to decline in health.

I have worked so hard I've forgotten to eat.

Case in point: You can fill your life with things that give you a sense of satisfaction to the point where you don't even notice you don't have that in your life.

freshthe_sp · 2016-03-31T18:59:11+00:00

[deleted] · 2016-03-31T19:21:38+00:00

Of course, I'm no psychologist either but I'm pretty sure perpetual frustration can lead to depression.

Redpilltrowaway · 2016-03-31T19:36:45+00:00

I'm depressed from time to time because of this but I suppose it's because I'm a virgin.

mr_nate_ · 2016-03-31T19:42:02+00:00

Maybe not "lack of SEX" but lack of fulfilling the strong DESIRE to have sex.

oldredder · 2016-04-01T05:15:39+00:00

in some men it will, in some it will not. Could be purely hormones, could be for some men it's psychology that self-value matters only from female validation.

It's highly variable.

Also there is no such thing as omega or sigma. That's pure fiction. Alpha and beta are real science.

Elliot Rogers doesn't apply at all. He's far, far off the scale of normal, deep into mental illness.

ChaozNacho · 2016-04-01T17:32:29+00:00

It's Elliot Rodger. Not Rodgers or Rogers.

XMATIC_4 · 2016-03-31T18:24:22+00:00

Well,im 18 and I didnt loose my virginity,its not the lack of sex that leads you to depression. Its the lack of life goals,procrastination,eating shit food and being a fatass.

LiquidZebra · 2016-03-31T17:07:26+00:00

My understanding is that sex can actually lead to depression. There are 2 week dopamine-prolactin hormonal cycles following each orgasm in men. These cycles make a small subset of men genuinely sick (post orgasmic illness syndrome), while a larger sunset gets milder symptoms.

Title	Can lack of sex lead to depression in men?
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Date	March 31, 2016 12:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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