Hello. I am right at the two month mark from filing and moving out. I had many life events happen the same month the divorce happened (Dad unexpectedly passing, dissolved 20 year business/thus unemployed, 15 yo daughter needing treatment for mental health issues, etc.)

Not to sound like a sad sack, but it's for context. I've felt a fair amount of shame and general entropy for only just now this week starting to get my sh*t together.

But on the other hand I feel OK about it, since I think having such a "trauma tornado" naturally left me numb, stupid, disoriented, and dysfunctional for 7 weeks.

I am also older (56) and moved from a small town to a nearby large metro (San Francisco.) I owned a house with my ex, left with nothing except clothes, records, and books.
Then on top I have been strategizing on how to live in a 520 sf apartment after just leaving a 3500 sf home.

On the plus side, ex and I are amicable. Agreed to everything in writing, no lawyers. I see my daughter most weekends. Have some money to last a while. Have a therapist who has helped me prepare for a year.

So I consider myself fairly lucky despite the obvious sadness and foreseeable loneliness. Even though I knew it would be lonely, man it hits like a truck sometimes. Sex life has been DOA for many years. I suspect some of you can relate. Even almost more I miss the platonic friendship - as all of our friend's were "couple's friends"

But in two months I've put myself out there, started a couple of business ventures, bought furniture, and started rediscovering a lot of myself that had been invisible and forgotten for years. Not a bad start.