Self-esteem and success

FeralRed · 2019-01-10T17:48:54+00:00

Tell her you're a janitor.

Tell her you're a spy... "Shit. Wasn't supposed to tell anyone that... Now I have to kill you."

Tell her you hum "Star spangled banner" on Skid Row for pocket change.

Etc.

It's not an interview. Don't be boring, don't feel like you need to reply honestly or even at all to all the filler bullshit women spew...it's all bullshit. As in shit test.

They only women who care what you do are gold diggers and whores.

Stop being a boring fuck on an interview and have a little fun. Flip it, lead the conversation, steer it toward where you want to go rather that just allowing an ask:answer session. Not a fun time for either party.

STFU about yourself. She really doesn't care. Talking about yourself DOES NOT "give you an edge". You come across as a boring arrogant self involved prick. Whom wants to fuck one of those guys? I sure don't.

Girls just wanna have fun. Be fun, give them an experience.

"Love yourself more?" Fuck that feel good bullshit. Stop trying to act like a woman and fuck some instead.

aiberdeen · 2019-01-10T19:50:52+00:00

Read the art of happiness by the dalai lama. Im almost finished and its really eye opening to see how he views and thinks about the world

Small steps my friend, small steps

TheFastCat · 2019-01-10T22:30:29+00:00

Some insight as someone who has fought that battle as well: that drive you recognize as a weakness also understand is a strength. While not purely ideal recognize you have an uncommon discipline, focus and drive that few do -- be proud of that. Next -- that negative voice inside your head that wants you forever to be better (and also makes you miserable) understand that voice *is not you.* That is the voice of an ugly, little gremlin who wants you to think he speaks for you. He is a part of who you are, but not the only part. Learn to tell that asshole to STFU when needed, and give attention to other voices inside yourself that have been silenced -- your recognition that they have been silenced (written here, by you) is a huge first step. I applaud your insight that you have work to do on yourself. Remember that this is what you do best -- discipline and intelligence is what has gained you financial success and freedom so far -- imagine the effect when aimed, laser-focused at the mirror! I am excited for you. Actively prioritize fun inside your life. Just fun. Even if it is getting drunk watching Netflix on the couch on a Tuesday, going on a long weekend to vegas, flying international business class to a vacation destination that excites you. Cultivate healthy desires and learn to foster them. Help feed that part of you that seems to have been starved. As you understand already -- until you foster, strengthen and supported those parts of you that have been neglected, a relationship with a woman will not satisfy your real needs.

RedPillRey · 2019-01-10T22:00:09+00:00

I am not as wildly successful as you I have my own business that does well but I am a sole proprietor I also can talk and talk and talk about lots of boring shit to do with investments and making money that women don't care about. For myself personally I find that every woman wants to know my job especially after she sees my vehicle. I try to not let them see it for as long as possible and avoid job talk. I joke about my job but eventually they want to really know. I feel she has no interest in anything i'm saying about my job and will just get the main pieces of info she wanted to gather so she can google what she thinks my salary is. I get constant creeping thoughts into the back of my mind especially since swallowing TRP that she is laughing and engaging right now ONLY because of my success and financial situation and her wanting to get on the golden ticket.

I am in a very bitter or angry stage of TRP atm I love to fuck women but I hate their hearts and minds they are so unattractive outside of being the life support system for a vagina. It makes me feel disappointed in them for the monsters they are and especially in myself for believing in the lie and allowing myself to be used and be a beta bitch in the past with oneitis I hate myself i think. I will be able to retire when I am 40 in 8.5 more years but the last thing I want to do is give the best years of my life when ive aged like fine wine to some post wall bitch who aged like milk and gave her best years to the CC.

Most likely I will just use code 72T withdraw early from my retirement accounts and move to columbia and chase tail there until I cannot get civies anymore then just fuck the whores once im wrinkled and old and my SMV drops and then I die alone. Because what is my alternative give some undeserving bitch a piece of my pie that i busted my ass and sacrificed everything to make while she partied and fucked chad and tyrone?

CheesyStravinsky · 2019-01-11T00:41:03+00:00

Why is your self-esteem so low if it is tied to financial success, and you're extremely financially successful?

Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits · 2019-01-11T04:43:10+00:00

“For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself..."

Setting the goal to "be happy" might not be a really good idea. Do you have a metric for happiness? And when you satisfy that metric, are you sure that what you consider "happiness" will not have changed?

I had the problem (and still do to some extent) with talking about myself too much. What I've learned to do is basically figure out how to ask her questions. You have to be able to gauge, however, when you have been dominating the conversation. If a girl could literally not get a word in (which was probably hyperbole) then chances are you need to work on that gauge. You need to just intermittently ask yourself "when was the last time she said something?"

I think a mistake that I used to do, and that a lot of people probably feel like they have to do, is to maintain continuity in the conversation's direction. There are literally an infinite amount of things to talk about. If whatever you have been talking about seems to have dried up, mention an idea you've had your read about. Ask her what she thinks about it.

To be honest, you always hear how people talk about their introversion like it is a fucking disability but the truth is that I think that being extremely extraverted comes with its own set of challenges. Specifically, finding people who tolerate by unabated loquacity. But now I'm probably making this post more about me than you...

Title	Self-esteem and success
Author	wolf6608
Upvotes	12
Comments	11
Date	January 10, 2019 5:23 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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