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I am on my way to a serious relationship with an alpha male for the first time in my life.

MissJanuar
March 6, 2015
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Title I am on my way to a serious relationship with an alpha male for the first time in my life.
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MissJanuar
Upvotes 7
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Date March 6, 2015 10:21 AM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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Woman's question: I am on my way to a serious relationship with an alpha male for the first time in my life.

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March 6, 2015
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[–]SoonToBeMrsHim[🍰] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

Since our second date (about 4 weeks ago) we have sex every time we see each other.

Your title leads me to understand you are not yet in a LTR? Are you monogamous? Is he?

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

I am, he is not (at least he wasn't in the first two weeks or so), but I am at least the only one he sees frequently. There is some chemistry between us though and we talked about it, LTR would be a thing for both of us.

[–]SoonToBeMrsHim[🍰] 10 points11 points12 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Hannah you're a plate. Maybe he's thinking about upgrading you but you better surrender to him and fast. Bite your tongue, at all times, the good piece of advice I received when I started my RPW journey was to give up all control. Make no decisions and when he makes one you smile and don't ever sass back.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

So the only way to get there is complete surrender? I always thought I was funny when talking back, I tend to have a big mouth and sometimes have to fight to control it... it's hard! But the smile and accept rule sounds like a pretty useful advice.

[–]SoonToBeMrsHim[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Does he find it funny?

I constantly catch myself answering back to him, being a bitch and I know he hates it. Yesterday he even left without a word after I could now constrain myself again. I really want to be with him and want to change myself...

[–]MissJanuar[S] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, you caught me. I feel stupid. There are times, when he laughs about it, but most of the time it's just annoying I guess...

[–]SoonToBeMrsHim[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Been there! If your mind is in it to fix this and surrender then you can make that change. Surrendering is hard if it's not your norm but you can do it.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I have little to no problems with surrenderin in the bedroom, it's much harder to surrender in everyday life to me. I wasn't raised that way, you know... turning around after 19 years somehow makes me feel so insecure about myself. I want to do this and I will make it, I promise, I just feel that there are hundreds and hundreds of steps to take for me.

[–]dancing_junkie4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Your making excuses. You either want it or you don't.. Don't make promises to random people on a forum. A hundred steps or one? Stop being entitled and show this guy you want a leader in your life. Harsh words but the point is to get through. Do you meditate? It's one of the best ways to get some self realization and understand what your doing is not going to lead you in the direction you want (being a plate). Good luck to you.

[–]deesquared1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

As a RPW who meditates. High 5. I just made a major relationship decision through meditation yesterday.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for your words, I guess it needs some harshness for me to understand... I don't meditate yet, I read about it here, and I'll try it. I really want it, I'm not sure how to get there in the quickest way possible without falling back into old behavior at any time. And you're right, I've always been good at making excuses. Thanks a lot!

[–]TempestTcup1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I am at least the only one he sees frequently.

Yes, of course, you are his new girl; they always spend more time upfront with the new one, but when he finds a newer girl, the frequency will slow down and you will be put on the back-burner. They also always talk enthusiastically about serious relationships and LTRs because it is a good way to keep a plate spinning. They want you to up your skills and compete with other women for "the prize" which is why they let you know that you are just one of their women.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

You can't desire a man who doesn't take shit from anyone, and then treat him like shit.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're right. I've been a bitch... I'm going to talk to him tomorrow and apologize for my behavior. Thank you.

[–]deesquared1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm typing on my iPhone so ill kept this short. Do you love being right more than being with him? If so, then you are going to end up alone... But right. I'm assuming the bitichiness is coming from a place of control and needing to be right. RPW surrenders to her man and doesn't fight him. They work together as a unit, Him as captain and you as cocaptain. I would recommend reading some more of the basics in the sidebar like Encouraging Your Captain.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I love being with him more than I love being right. Yeah, I definitely have to catch up on the basics. I'm on it. Thank you for the advice!

[–]TempestTcup-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

This might be a serious relationship for you, but it is not a serious relationship for HIM; he is seeing other women and has made you aware of that fact. You are a plate. Plates are very rarely unplated, so your future with this man is sharing him with other women until he kicks you to the curb. Meanwhile, he is wasting your youth.

Since our second date (about 4 weeks ago) we have sex every time we see each other.

Of course you have sex every time you see each other; sex is the entire reason to have plates.

[–]MissJanuar[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Well... it doesn't sound too fancy if you put it in those words does it. I see him tomorrow and I'll try to talk to him (if he's in the mood, don't wanna piss him off), tell him I'm willing to change my attitude and maybe already have achieved that in a way, and ask him about other women and our future. Thank you for your advice and candor.

[–]TempestTcup-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I wish you the best of luck and i hope that he was only still dating around at first. He might have gotten rid of the others to date only you, but then again he might not have. There's always that chance.

I suggest you test his commitment to you by asking for exclusivity; if he doesn't want it then he will disappear. If he does want it then you have a boyfriend that you are crazy about.

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