I absolutely love FDS. I’ve been on reddit for years and I never participated as much as I do in this subreddit. It’s nice to be in the company of so many bomb ass Queens who are so different but unified in philosophy.

I was raised with my grandmother and as the eldest grandchild and only granddaughter we had a very close relationship. I have always felt like I was an old lady before my time but never in the negative way that mainstream depicted older women. My Nana was so bad ass!! She made me feel like I could do anything and I realized very early on that she was teaching me things about life that a lot of girls my age were not getting from their elders. So for a long time I felt a bit out of place because I’ve always had very radical ideas about womanhood and I have never felt that men were the center of my life.

One thing she used to say to me when I was young was “god bless the mother, god bless the father but god bless the child that has her own”. I used to hate it!! I was like 11 and she was like “yeah life sucks sometimes but you have the power to make it better for yourself. no one else might do it for you but you can do it for you and that is your right.”

I feel like finding this subreddit brings me back full circle. I don’t have my Nana anymore but it’s very nice to be in a space that is definitely Nana approved.

Y’all are amazing 💗