Been Thinking About My Ex Lately

justletmemakeanacc · 2020-08-25T08:48:34+00:00

I was in a relationship for somewhere close to that. I'll be honest and tell you that as a fellow guy, you'll unfortunately be rocking those emotions for years to come. When a guy bonds with someone, its a fucking hard bond to break. I could be wrong and it could just be my personality but that's my experience.

We really do pull the short straw on this as it doesn't really take women that long in comparison to get over their partners. The best thing to do is keep busy and have hobbies even if they're exceptionally useless.

silly_birb · 2020-08-25T06:51:51+00:00

If she needed a contract to proove you loved her then you dodged a bullet.

To cope with it just realize that the woman you loved was more in your mind than in the real word. Sure the potential to be your ideal woman existed but she didn't act on it.

I was cheated, my LTR hid for years that she was psychologically unstable, tried suicide, lied on her college results and cheated behind my back using sex to soothe the pain like a drug addict. Meanwhile with me she acted the happy and perfect gf.

So it's all in a man's brain, i could have bought a sexdoll and made up a lovestory in my dreams and it would have been better (at least the doll doesn't try suicide).

gtowerthrowaway · 2020-08-25T08:03:34+00:00

Yeah, it can be rough, especially for certain types of personality (like mine). Took me a year to get over the most recent.

She was normally sweet, though when she got upset she would throw a tantrum like most. The sex was epic. But things just didn't work out. No harsh feelings about the time we enjoyed together.

Basically, time heals the wounds. You did the right thing, as marriage changes them for the worse. All monopolies suck.

VampireGhoul · 2020-08-25T11:01:30+00:00

Nature just wants you to reproduce and does not like you walking away from a possible mating opportunity. Nature doesn't care about your logic and just wants you to reproduce.

Those feelings of longing, jealousy.... all this bullshit are just the chemicals in your brain trying to get you to reproduce.

I had those feelings you described over women I did not even like. I studied up on all this and logically removed myself from some bad situations.

You have seen these articles before I am sure, but here is another one- this bitch describes it all well.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-neurochemical-self/201802/the-neurochemistry-love

souris101 · 2020-08-25T16:52:26+00:00

if a woman demands marriage then she is demanding the government oversee your marriage so she can get full benefit when it fails. Women are pretty easy to see through. The fuck does government have to do with love? Not a thing.

selfism_mike · 2020-08-26T11:20:53+00:00

We don't fall in love with someone who is necessarily good for us but with someone we feel comfortable with, meaning with something about the person which we know.

If you grow up knowing shit and you spent a lot of time and energy dealing with shit, then chances are high that you end up you falling in love with shit. It's the patterns you learned to deal with that generate the attraction.

What looks special and wonderful is just those patterns trying to draw you in again into the old rat race that you can only escape by being on your own and exercising emotional unavailability.

I think once you realize that your judgments are not your own but guided by social and biological coersion you learn to distance yourself from these addictions and realize that these strong emotions and attachments are all based on illusions.

At this point you realize that you never really lost anything by not having or continuing a "romantic" relationship.

Chakra_Devourer · 2020-08-25T18:58:28+00:00

Why does she need to get married to be happy with you? Two people living together without issue, but suddenly "if marriage is not on the menu" then the let's break up.

So she thinks a piece of paper will make a couple a "real" couple? Or maybe marriage will sure that she can trap you financially should things don't work out. Since you don't want marriage, that option is eliminated.

Drachenhohle · 2020-08-25T22:24:51+00:00

I was in a similar situation two years ago, ended a 5 years relationship.

Honestly, it won't be easy. It takes a good six months. What I did was moving out from the place, getting rid of the stuff we had and even those (like tshirt, watch, whatever) that she bought. I also talked with my closest friend over it over many beer talks. I found long distance walking helps a lot. All and all love yourself and do whatever that makes you better.

NippyRex · 2020-08-25T23:23:36+00:00

If you only broke up with her because she wanted to get married you're probably not going to get over it TBH if she was your best friend you are the one who initiated it

Title	Been Thinking About My Ex Lately
Author	TripzeroPandD
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Date	August 24, 2020 11:23 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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