Hey all! I just discovered this sub after an enormously awful go with an LVM. I’ve definitley had my fair share of terrible relationships and am a mom of 3 to 3 different LVMs starting from when I was just 19. 🙄 I’m about to be 39.

One I left at 20 after repeated physical abuse. The second I was with for 13 years and he almost destroyed my sense of self. And this last one—ugh.

Long story short—2.5 years ago I met a covert narc, fell for the dorky love bombing, rushed into marriage, rushed into having a baby, and this fool had been cheating and using coke behind my back the entire damn time. I was simply a tool for him. One that he liked to keep at home while he paid for sex workers and hit on and pursued women all over the damn place. Oh, and he uses pics of our baby to lure women on social media. Classy af.

He seemed so sweet! So nice! So, naive! Everyone LOVES him. Reality: He’s a porn sick loser who preys on women through his business profiles on social media and is just all around gross. I truly believe he hates hates hates women based on some shit I found a few weeks ago.

Doesn’t bathe regularly. Doesn’t clean up after himself. Doesn’t take care of his teeth (like at all). Is a neglectful dad. Lies about everything. The list goes on. To top it all off we’re still sharing a house (his house. My 🤡 ass thought I was being protective of him because my loans from my masters degree were fresh fresh and I have a lot of debt, so yea, house in his name only pre-marriage) with my two kids and our shared 1 year old.

My point is not to highlight what a heaping trash pile this man is—but how much better I’m doing with myself and my dreams for my own life and my life with my kids from just finding this sub. It’s only been a few weeks but My god. Life changing.

I have learned my lesson and will never fall for this shit again. So. Many. Years. Wasted. And so much more to learn! And see! And be! I’m actually excited about my life again. As a healthy happy mom! As a Queen!

I won’t be dating for a good long long long time, as I have some major work to do—but ladies, thank you. You are the strength and accountability I needed, and I already feel stronger and wiser thanks to this space.