How to swallow the pill and change my life for the better?

2016-07-27T06:02:54+00:00

smart but even in my school work I'm lazy and do the bare minimum to get A's.

If you're effortlessly getting A's you're in a good position for now, but building yourself up to fail in college. You really have to fight for your marks in college and unlike in high school, people ain't falling over themselves for you. If presented with the opportunity many professors will absolutely not lift a finger to help you. Some of the most profound college failures are people who didn't have to work hard for their A's and B's.

but on the social side I'm completely clueless.

Get used to the feeling that you've been wandering around blindly with a bag on your head. You're probably introverted, choose your friends carefully and keep them like you would a treasure. But at the same time recognize that most friendship is fleeting in nature. People come, people go. Ultimately you have to make decisions that guarantee what you want in life. Living for someone else is a guaranteed way to be unhappy.

I've got very little freedom, and I'm continued to be moulded by my mother all while being expected to be alpha.

Do you have money? A job? Unless she's paying for college, if she's a negative presence in your life I'd start pushing back. Getting kicked out of the house may suck, but what she's doing is building an emotional tampon for herself. And guess what? She's going to die some day. And after that you'll be left alone. In some senses even being homeless is preferable to that.

AlfredApple · 2016-07-27T06:36:49+00:00

Welcome mate. Explore the main sub, read the side bar material and digest top/year top/all time posts and their comments when you have time. It will take about 8-12 months for it all to fully make sense. Stick around and you'll be fine.

First things first, drop the weight and lift some weights.

Title	How to swallow the pill and change my life for the better?
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Date	July 27, 2016 5:36 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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