How do you break up with a girl you live with.. who is from a far away country?

pm_me_chuck_hagel · 2017-08-18T11:06:23+00:00

I think some backstory might be appropriate, but anyway... I'm assuming you have more or less brought her to your country? In that case, I'd say it's your responsibility to help her get back home and help with somewhere for her to stay until then. (Could be her friends) This is not strictly RP advice, but I believe in fixing your own fuck-ups.

If she was already in your country and you've just moved in together, the situation is much simpler.

vandaalen · 2017-08-18T11:08:37+00:00

for a few reasons, which are actually completely out of both of our control.

You somehow forgot to list them.

Your_average_Russian · 2017-08-18T11:05:39+00:00

I guess you don't need explaining why it's not a good idea to co-habitate with a girl you have no intention of marrying - especially if she's from far away. Hope you won't make this mistake in the future.

Your best bet is to communicate in no unclear terms that you would like to end the relationship and offer your help with her moving forward - let her live at your place while she sorts her living arrangements out, help her move, if she decides to go home - help her with the tickets and the like. If she's been nothing but nice to you, you owe her that much. Also, don't jerk the girl around - if you've made the decision to break up, own it! Stop displays of affection, don't have sex with her, be respectful but keep your distance until she moves out. Your prior decisions are the reason for this predicament, so don't complicate things further. Time to act like a man for once.

mrpthrowa · 2017-08-18T10:54:30+00:00

Honestly a scumbag thing to do - you got into a livin LTR without proper vetting, and you want to break it now 4 months later for reasons outside of both of your control. You're a drunk captain. Either way she's getting screwed. You're the reason girls get jaded.

If she did you nothing bad you should help her get on her feet - like, help her find a place to rent and move to (not foot the bill...).

Title	How do you break up with a girl you live with.. who is from a far away country?
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Date	August 18, 2017 10:03 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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