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[–]AncientMowa0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Women control sex and men control commitment. You tried to give her commitment without her asking for it and lost control, your frame, and her respect.
I honestly would completely go ahead and wipe the idea of ever having a "relationship" with this girl from your mind.
IF you can handle it emotionally and not slip into your prior mistakes then ghost and wait for her to reach out, if you see her in a social setting and she reaches out soon after that would work as well. At that point ok to meet up and try to rebuild her into a plate. BUT you will be gaming her from ground zero on very hard mode and honestly may never really fully regain her respect.
[–]notawalrusstopasking0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Very sage advice and mostly what my brain has been telling me. Obviously tempting to shoot a feeler text , but thanks for confirming this is a bad idea
[–]AncientMowa0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A feeler text is likely to be interpreted as desperate or needy. Due to her solipsism she won't see herself reaching out to you the same way which is why that could possible work.
Still - that text from her is likely to be in response to her being down about herself... pumped and dumped etc. which means you're basically just giving her validation. If you can separate the emotion and just take the sex then that's solid.
If it is in response to her jealousy i.e. you were at a party where she saw you having a blast and now she wants to hit you up... then that gives you a chance to reframe the interaction in your favor.
Ironically, if you had just responded to her wanting to break it off with "K cool thanks for the jacket... later" then you'd probably be in decent spot at this point.
Good luck.
[–]1walawalawa0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im well aware of my dumbassery and oneitis at this point and simply respond hours later with something along the lines of yup things moved too fast
Face palm...
Girl says things are moving to fast. You respond and agree. Now you want to know how to proceed?
Walk away. Drop her. Leave it for as long as you need to until she comes back and is only interested in what you're interested in.
I just had a plate I was banging all last year but who fell off my radar in April. At that time she was texting something along the lines of "Are you my bf?" I never answered directly. She diseappared.
Suddenly she recontacts me ... wants to come over and bang. Ok.
She's coming over to bang. I didn't follow up for that 3 months because I have a small rotation of girls.
Get one for yourself and you won't be stuck in these situations agonizing over what to do.
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