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I've been with my LTR for over 2 years. We moved in together at the start of Covid and (surprise surprise) her sex drive has disintegrated. Moving in together was a bad idea unless you were planning on getting married---which would also be a bad idea. It sets up a routine and provider vibe which you're now experiencing. There's no reason for her to do anything...she's got you. I applied light dread by withdrawing effection which resulted in her constantly asking (5+ times per day) if I love her.…
/r/askTRP04/10/20 12:35 PM
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This is a typical tactic when they meet another guy. The sudden tantrum followed by the bikini pic is meant for someone else's benefit. I have been in this position. When I happens, I just disappear. It's such a great feeling to just vanish. Ghosting someone like this will have her chasing you so fast. Bottom line, she's seeing or about to see some other guy. She wants to blame you. If you accept this frame by "talking" to her about her "feelings", you'll feel worse. You like in different cities…
/r/askTRP15/02/20 11:48 AM
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Huh?
/r/askTRP30/10/19 10:22 PM
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I had a very strange experience recently. A plate I was banging moved to my city to go to school. She came over one night I was hosting a club event. I banged her 4 times. She came to the event, I was working it. She sat alone. A guy I know started hitting on her and had a car and lived near her. She was supposed to stay over but they came up and he---not knowing the situation said "she lives near me, I'll take her home..." I shrugged and never spoke to her again. She's with that guy and I do se…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 10:40 AM
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We spent Friday, Saturday and Sunday all day together, things were great, lots of sex etc. I also looked through her phone and saw the string of texts with him, about 10 texts back and forth but it was all congratulatory. She was the last one to send a text to him. Don't do this... So I messaged her today telling her that her initiating contact with someone she used to sleep with is not ok and that it's best if we end things. Why do nuclear? If you want to end things ok but you're banging this g…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 10:37 AM
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This isn't working for me. Good luck. Cut all contact after that. Or you could just....disappear.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 12:33 PM
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I was just wondering what exactly is taking place when girls do this and how should I approach it in the future. You're escalating too quickly and not sparking her attraction switches. You need to calibrate your game with your plates. Back off. Do a back turn. Do something else---go up get a drink, act like nothing's wrong. Try again. If you get it a second time find a way to wrap up the evening. If you get this a second time stop spending so much time with them until they come around. Some girl…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 04:13 PM
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Don't second guess yourself. She'll come back begging you to take her back. Then you can decide if you can stomach just banging her. \
/r/askTRP13/10/19 04:03 PM
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She's grooming you as an orbiter. Proceed slowly and with caution. If you appear to eager you'll turn her off.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 02:35 PM
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”When you come over, remember to bring those gray pants!” What difference does it make, they won't stay on long anyway. ”You and me forever?” Behave...
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:27 PM
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Stop spending so much time with her and find other girls. You're wayyyyy to invested.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:24 PM
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Similar situation happened nearly 2 months ago. A plate I was banging hard just suddenly went for a dude who is an acquaintance of mine. Weird story, I was banging her a few times over the last year. She moved to my city, she texted me. She came over to my place one night I was djing. I banged her 4 times in a huge balling session. We went to my event. She met another guy and left with him. They've been together since. He doesn't know. She keeps staring at me. It was strange to me. I thought I'd…
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:23 PM
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This question and concern comes from a place of scarcity. Adopt an abundance mentality and this won't matter. We all beta backslide at some point when we let our guard down. But this isn't a relationship problem it's an inner game/mindset problem. If she's a plate it means you do bang other girls right....RIIIIIIIGGGHHT??? If not, spend more time with other plates. I have this question and issue sometimes and it's usually because I get too fixated on one plate over the others. Don't do that.
/r/askTRP06/10/19 08:58 AM
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I had a plate that I banged 3 times last year and once this year. The one time this year was 6 months of radio silence from her. She moved back to my city for school, texted and it was game on. She agreed to come over and cook and then we were going to the club where i was djing that night. She came over looking smoking. Within 15 minutes we were banging---after 6 months of radio silence. I banged her 4 times within that 3 hours before my gig. She came with me but wanted to be discrete so she di…
/r/askTRP03/10/19 08:25 AM
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Sometimes doing the right thing doesn't always feel right at the time.
/r/askTRP03/10/19 08:20 AM
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Yes. Didn't need the drama.
/r/askTRP03/10/19 08:20 AM
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Right, except the OP is over-invested and has oneitis. So he can't see anything beyond his next bang...like an alocholic who thinks he can only drink once a week but spends the other 6 days thinking about drinking....
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:13 AM
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Stop investing so much time in this and start finding other women. Then you can continue banging her while you move on. But then again, you can't move on because you're obsessed with this Oneitis so the above strategy won't work. Only cutting her off will work because you need to get your own perspective back.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:11 AM
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I just wrote about something like this happening to me. You get lulled into some false sense of progress and before you know it you're doing shit like accepting behavior and crap you shouldn't. Stop. Drop. Roll away. Girls will burn through your time. they love that especially when they get the attention of a good looking guy with a high income and don't need to invest anything.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:08 AM
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What should I do? I've never used online apps, or "gone out" seeking women, or any of the game related stuff. Shit just kinda happened organically. Is this something I need to do now? You're making excuses. Get out of your own head and find some solutions: take a class with lots of owmen, salsa, pottery, yoga shit like that....do whatever you need to do to get out and mingle. Stop making excuses for why you can't do something.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:05 AM
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Hypergamy. Here's a situation I recently faced, a plate I was banging all last year moved to my city for school. She texted me to meet up, came over, banged me, then headed with me to a club where I was djing. She was all set to leave with me but some dude came over and was hovering, offering her a ride home. She took it, left with him and has been going out with him ever since. Wrap your head around that: bangs me 4 times and then 3 hours later leaves with another dude who has a car. I know you…
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:03 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. Hard sometimes when one gets sucked into a situation without realizing it.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 07:21 AM
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Thanks, i'm usually good at this. But somehow I dribbled the ball on my foot with this girl. I texted exactly that. She freaked out. Now to understand how I lost my way on this.
/r/askTRP29/09/19 03:03 PM
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Thanks. It's what I needed to hear.
/r/askTRP29/09/19 02:29 AM
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She's trying to get closer to you. Bad idea to work together. She'll create drama, hit on other guys.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 03:03 PM
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The final straw was when I brought her to a music festival with some of my best friends (girls and guys) and she ended up smacking me in the face, throwing a drink at me, and yelling at the top of her lungs at me (in front of my friends) when she found me sitting on the ground next to a girl friend of mine (we had history). After this, she wouldn’t leave me alone to the point where I had to get security to detain her and had to get my own hotel room. Question for you: Why is your self esteem so …
/r/askTRP14/08/19 03:00 PM
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Standard shit tests. In addition to the ones posted here are my responses: "Don't fall in love with me..." "Good, I'm not the jealous type..." "Good, he can make us breakfast..." "Hope he doesn't find out about us..." this is really pushing it.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 02:57 PM
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Strategy vs tactics. It's not the length of your texts, it's the content. If you're having long discussions with a girl, they should be leading to sex. Talking about your day...is ghey. Asking her about her day is super ghey.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 11:35 AM
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"That's what you like about me..."
/r/askTRP02/08/19 08:06 AM
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A couple of possibilities: Low attraction Low investment---you did too much of the pushing on this Attention from other guys Busy
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:25 AM
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They're completely different and you're mixing them together. There is no "Rapport Stage" in a seduction process.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:21 AM
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There's no "Rapport Stage" in seduction. It's AttractionComfortSeduction Rapport is a tingle-killer. It builds familiarity and kills attraction. Read the Mystery Method.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 06:46 AM
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Fuck Ten Other Women... I've been in similar situations. There is no way to "fix" this. There's nothing she can do to make this right. What you need to do is read everything you can and do everything you can on the alpha way to get over a break up. The hardest part will be all the second-guessing you will do. Stop. There's nothing more you could have done. Chalk it up to experience and move on. The best advice is Fuck Ten Other Women....
/r/askTRP29/07/19 09:19 AM
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Any suggestions on what should have I done differently or what can I do? Yes, stop obsessing and get more girls. The fact is despite all this nonsense they spout about "NO ONS" that's just a way of them rationalizing having a ONS. Case and point, I met a cute girl online, banged her twice, suddenly she doesn't want to see me. She's busy. My response? Nothing. I have 4 others on the go. Without knowing the details of your interaction it's hard to know precisely what happened. But in general the s…
/r/askTRP20/06/19 12:48 AM
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I just took a suit to the tailor's instead of throwing it out. I was amazed at how even after a few years it looked weird on me but after having it re-tailored it looked great. Think of your life this way. You need to take the original material and adapt it and update it. If it's worn out, throw it out and get a new one.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 12:41 AM
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It'll also make your intentions clear.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 07:30 AM
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Be mysterious. Make her qualify herself.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 02:15 PM
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A couple of things to consider here. This isn't a "shit-test" she is placing you in the Friendzone. You have THREE choices: ​ accept that and go along on her terms and in her frame: if you have not game and no options this is the one to pick walk away and ghost her: if you have no game this is the option Reframe in a Hail Mary move: Use these exact words, preferably in person but in a text if you haven't met up with her since said this. Say these words exactly as I've written them. They have nev…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 02:13 PM
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"oh well" and leave it at that.
/r/askTRP11/06/19 04:33 PM
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Read the Mystery Method. Understand the structure. It works. Without knowing the details some common mistakes my gameless friend who is younger and good looking makes: ​ Doesn't understand the Mystery Method so if he's lucky enough to spark attraction instead of going to Comfort he launches into Rapport asking her about her work, talking about his job etc. Attraction killer. Talks too much and then runs out of things to say so he hangs around staring. Attraction killer. Doesn't sexualize properl…
/r/askTRP07/06/19 01:36 AM
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I just want her to be a friend. So no guy in his right mind ever... You don't have to explain it to us. You need to get clear in your head what you're after. She didn't want to fuck the new guy and realized getting into an office romance wasn't "worth" it...meaning your value and the whole making yourself not available didn't work because you hadn't built up enough value to her. She can easily find a guy she DOESN'T work with. You on the other hand need to let go of this and smarten up around wo…
/r/askTRP02/06/19 02:57 PM
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Maybe, probably she realized she shouldn't shit where she eats and cut off the whole work flirtation after you started playing games at work. Now instead of chasing you, she's inside your head, you have no options and you've got oneits. Meet Mr. Sidebar about that.
/r/askTRP02/06/19 12:38 PM
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He says his notch count is close to 250. I have seen him bang many women and I can verify he is definitely in the triple digits. ​ There is an unhealthy tendency to compare one's self to another "natural" when you're starting out. Everyone is at a different place in their journey. If you're adopting the Red Pill and learning Game it's because you're actually UN Learning Blue Pill, Beta "AFC" ideas. I went out on a couple dates with this girl recently and she ended up telling me she is still talk…
/r/askTRP25/05/19 08:55 PM
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Keep your wealth hidden it only breeds resentment among peers and raises expectations of you being a provider among women. I keep all my transactions modest, I don't spend lavishly but I try to live well.
/r/askTRP25/05/19 12:26 PM
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I have this exact scenario pretty much word for word except she doesn't flake, she just disappears for a while. But...she's a PLATE. I have other girls and I don't really care. You should get other girls then you'll forget about her so when you ping text her to meet up and she doesn't respond, you will have also pinged 2 or 3 other girls and decided on YOUR best option. The problem I see here is guys haven't truly adopted the Red Pill...they see a lot of the Red Pill discussions and game advice …
/r/askTRP25/05/19 12:25 PM
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Yes, value for her as you become her orbiter.
/r/askTRP18/05/19 12:27 PM
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It's Tinder, keep swiping, you don't want drama.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 11:33 AM
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You're adopting a version of the "savior complex"...trying to mould her. She'll hate you for it in the long run. You should be working on getting girls to QUALIFY themselves to you. This is one area of game that has been lost because most blogs no longer talk about this. Getting a girl to qualify herself means she's working to get your attention. If you want a simple strategy to get her to change, just give her less attention. Watch how she responds.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 11:30 AM
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Probably true tactically but from a Red Pill perspective you're missing the cues into why this is happening. The 3 criteria for male to female attraction are: 1) leader of men 2) protector of women & children 3) pre-selected by other women You're looking at your success without understanding the underlying dynamics driving it. It's now about what you're doing it's about HOW you're sparking that attraction that the Red Pill offers an explanation for.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 12:25 AM
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Never take relationship advice from women. NEVER EVER EVER be "friends" with women. It's a sure-fire way to be an orbiter. What this "fiancé" has that the women are truly looking for is that he's unavailable in some way. The "Friend" part is irrelevant. IF this guy has sparked attraction and then withdrawn it in some way that's what these women are chasing NOT the connection.
/r/askTRP16/05/19 11:56 PM
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If it's South America I really don't think the police will do anything and if it involves homosexuals complaining they'll likely just laugh it off.
/r/askTRP16/05/19 11:27 AM
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A plate I was banging who claimed I was seeing too many other girls dropped off. I saw her and matched with her on Tinder. Then she texted me: "are you dating one of my friends?" Right. In your case, break up. Don't say why. Just "it's over...."
/r/askTRP15/05/19 01:46 PM
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I still get this and have to stop myself. I get this also when I know I'm being jerked around. I stop. I pause and let that feeling of insecurity pass and try to analyze whether it requires action or not. Plate yesterday "accidentally" sends me a text clearly meant for another guy. My response: "hahaha". Then suddenly she's waffling about meeting up. Me: "ok" Her: blah blah blah may have other plans Me: Ok. Her: but if blah blah blah Me: ok. Then I went through my other plates to set something e…
/r/askTRP15/05/19 12:41 AM
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If it's a first time I just tease and say "Behave, what makes you think I'd want to fuck you?" IF it's a plate, I just say "Nah, it's ok, i'll find something else to do and we can meet up another time." That will instill dread...or it won't and you'll know. Never be afraid to display your masculinity or sexuality. Don't be fake.
/r/askTRP15/05/19 12:37 AM
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"Great, you can buy the first round..." It's a shit-test and you shouldn't push beyond making a joke of it. If she doesn't follow up or follow, drop her.
/r/askTRP14/05/19 12:38 AM
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She made him out to be a selfish man-child, Translation: He was a likeable jerk and that turned her on... I want you to help me in everything that can make me better in the future. You are my present and my future right now. Translation: I can't stop thinking about my ex, can you be a good guy and provide for me so I don't lose interest in you and go back to a guy like THAT! This advice is going to be harsh but that is what the Red Pill is....she can't stop thinking about this guy and wants to b…
/r/askTRP04/05/19 06:32 PM
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I feel embarrassed ashamed and it's bringing out all the exs i had out the wood work and they are slandering me on the news article. ​ This is a struggle for men raised in a feminist, shaming culture. You're taught that if you don't conform you're condemned to your status for life. This is FLAWED co-dependent thinking that bases your whole self-worth on what others think of you. This requires a mindset shift that comes with adopting the Red Pill. Shrug it off. This is a story about self-improvem…
/r/askTRP30/04/19 12:32 AM
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You beat her to it. This is the ONLY way you could possibly get her back. But by doing this and disappearing for a short time she'll come back. Then you'll have hand and she'll be in your frame...now you can recalibrate your own personality and adjust your game to not be the BP bitch you hate.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 12:19 AM
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It's a person confident in themselves and unfazed by what others think of him. But part of this is to constantly be striving towards self-improvement.
/r/askTRP25/04/19 12:37 AM
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Or you can just keep debating it hoping to find an answer as a way of avoiding moving forward.
/r/askTRP22/04/19 12:28 PM
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This is a situation in your own head. Breaking out of this means setting little goals and achieving them. It could be as simple as waking up at 6:30am every morning. My life has meaning because it has structure. After 30 years of working I basically got fired 6 months ago because of politics, costs, crap etc whatever. Within 30 minutes of that "talk" with my so-called "boss" I reached out to two friends who had been in a similar situation. One offered to hire me, the other offered to help me set…
/r/askTRP20/04/19 02:16 AM
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You handled it well. But here's a better way that I use effectively: Her: I'm not someone you just fuck.. Me: Whoa! Behave! Who said anything about fucking? You'll have to wine and dine me first Her: blah blah blah You: I'm the one who should be scared. I'll be keeping my eye on you...
/r/askTRP17/04/19 11:29 PM
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Should we, as men, abstain from Social Needia, even though it may bring results, so we do not fall into the trap of becoming feminized? Social media is turning a generation into attention whores and whiners. Stay away from posting your "feelings". Personally I avoid political topics. I use it to notify fans and members of my musical group of upcoming events. I share videos or musical clips. That raises my value with girls while avoiding the "soy" elements I wrote about above. Consider social med…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 08:06 AM
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There are a number of these scams. One includes getting you talking on video then capturing that video, doctoring it to look like you're jerking off and then demanding money before posting it. If you play into these scams you take huge risks. If it feels too strange avoid it. Normal girls in 2019 usually wait before giving their contacts. Normal girls want to know more about you. Normal girls generally send photos or exchange photos. Ask what they do. If they hesitate or get defensive it's a red…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 12:22 AM
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When you recognize hypocrisy in any form it's frustrating to the point that you're now reaching. I feel it EVERY SINGLE DAY and it's been 10 years since adopting the Red Pill. It's like you see things no one else does. You recognize motives that other ignore. You see double-standards. I deal with this by channeling that anger and rage into some form of self-improvement. I recognize I can't change the world but I can improve myself. I set benchmarks, examples, continue with things despite the cri…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 12:18 AM
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but remembering how much of a fag I used to be really pisses me off. Have any of had anything like this? ​ This is something that you should see as positive. It's a reminder of your final phase of unplugging. The point of this is not to remember how you were and get upset but to look back and see how much progress you've made. Co-dependence is something that takes years to reverse. Regret about not being able to change something that happened in the past is really an exercise in moving forward. …
/r/askTRP15/04/19 12:44 AM
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Something similar happened to me. But it was a plate who pushed for me to be a boyfriend. Then instigated a dramatic exit all so she could then try to fuck two of my friends. I didn't react...to her provocations. But those two idiots are no longer "friends" and never were. I cut them both off. One got it because he's a sneaky fucker. The other one was trying to rationalize it. I told him to fuck off. He then went running around saying I was mean to him. What's interesting about the whole thing..…
/r/askTRP11/04/19 12:59 AM
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I told her no worries and asked what was wrong and she didn't have an answer. She's said and I quote "Still trying to figure out." I replied feel better and left it at that. ​ Never let a girl off the hook by saying "no worries". Just "k" or even better, when a girl flakes I don't bother responding. My gut is telling me she's lying but I'll give her the benefit of the doubT Trust your gut. You don't have enough experience or abundance so you're rationalizing this bad behavior because she's couch…
/r/askTRP10/04/19 04:16 PM
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This is exactly the joke I told him after. He's the young bull...blabbing away. The girl moves over to me and starts asking questions...he's blabbing away. It's the adrenaline and he doesn't quite get it.
/r/askTRP10/04/19 12:37 AM
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The thing I struggle with with this mindset is this, can’t one adopt this mindset and in reality it not be true? What if you’re not the prize in real life, but via TRP you make yourself believe you are...what does this make you really? Great question. The Red Pill is "Truth"; it is truly a mindset shift to see the world as it is not how you wish it was. Yet the idea of "I am the prize may seem to contradict this. How you see yourself is "Truth". If you see yourself as a loser who can't do anythi…
/r/askTRP08/04/19 12:45 AM
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My old man yelled a lot which I "thought" was alpha. But years later when I thought back to his actions and looked through his military record he was just a goofball. He had no clue about women, he had no real marketable skills, he was kind of just...a goofball. He taught me to be suspicious of everyone, use people when I can. I think he showed clear signs of depression. It's a case for me of "If I knew then what I know now..." I stopped listening to his nonsense around the age of 10 but by then…
/r/askTRP05/04/19 12:41 AM
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I get how that can be seen as co-dependancy, but aren't most relationships (friends, family, spouses,society at large, etc) about co-dependancy? No...savior relationships like the one you're describing are about co-dependency. I think you have to make a very difficult decision and face some potentially uncomfortable truths about your thought patterns and approach to relationships. If you feel a sense of "obligation" that is not healthy...period. Read your response again...and again. It's full of…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 01:50 PM
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I feel like if you do that to a plate without an adequate excuse, they're gonna think you're too much of an asshole and not want be around you anymore. ​ This is co-dependent thinking. If she's ok, I'll be ok. Her behaviours and needs and moods come before mine. This is an unhealthy way of living. I know. I lived this way for most of my life until I started to recognize these behaviours in myself and started to change. Just using the "her dog runs away" example...I would simply say "I'm so sorry…
/r/askTRP30/03/19 06:05 PM
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Helping is co-dependent. Being supportive, being empathetic, being strong doesn't mean you feel bad when she feels bad...that is the definition of co-dependency. I used to be like that. Now I can accommodate but if this starts to be taking advantage I walk. Girls I'm with know they can't push me into being their bitch. It's a strange irony: women want you to be there to help yet never appreciate it when you do help. They actually resent it. Find that balance.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 02:11 AM
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You have to be mindful of not being sucked into a girl's drama. It's ok to listen but for you to think you can or should "fix" it for her is wrong. When you start doing this she starts blaming YOU for things that don't go right. Empathy is important but setting your boundaries early is also important so you don't get walked over. is it ever good to be like "Oh she's upset, I'll be upset too" Absolutely not...you're the rock not he co-pilot. ​
/r/askTRP29/03/19 05:41 PM
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You come here for advice. We give it. You don't like it and you lash out. You're more Gamma than Alpha. If you're truly committed to understanding the Red Pill leave your ego at the door and open yourself up to real feedback. You don't understand women and their hypergamous nature. You clearly don't understand shit tests and you have a very thin skin.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 05:13 PM
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If you don't give a fuck, why are you asking for advice? She's a plate...a plate you're obsessing over and trying to qualify yourself to us about because she's sticking with another guy? Come on.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:56 PM
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Number farming is a dead-end. Unless you've built up enough attraction and moved to comfort she'll flake. Why? She's not invested. It's all you chasing and her responding like she does with every guy who number-closes her. You have to put in the time and make the number-close seem like a reward with a high-value guy. ​
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:52 PM
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I have mixed feelings,at times I want to convince her to get back with me,other times I don't. Stop lying to yourself. To ask the question is to already know the answer. No. You're still obsessing over her. Read the sidebar. ​
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:46 PM
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A rule of thumb here is when they cancel but don't offer an alternative drop it. There are girls who have said they're busy but they usually offer chapter and verse of why and when. In those cases yes I do follow up. But if it's "Sorry going to the movies :) " No. Leave it.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:45 PM
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been fucking me for 3 weeks now. she pushed for the LTR status last week, i let her know that shit don't come easy and not gonna get into that kind relationship with a girl anytime soon. Ok "i feel like the gap between us is huge, ur gonna get bored of me and drop me", Shit test i took it as a comfort test and... yesterday she let me know she has gotten into an LTR, not to be insulting but the guy seems like a total loser, You have a lot to learn about spinning plates and female hypergamy. How c…
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:32 PM
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The best reaction to this is NO REACTION. They're both dead to you, invisible. Ignore, avoid, ghost. This will be hard at first but consider it like kicking an addiction. I made the mistake of chasing my ex who did something similar. Then one day I asked her out and she made up some excuse. I ghosted her. That was 4 years ago. I only started speaking to her in social situations this past month and it was because 1. I no longer give a shit 2. She made the effort to come out when I was djing and I…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 12:07 AM
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OP has a fundamental lack of understanding of intersexual dynamics. But then his mistake is common and I must admit I was guilty of it as well pre-TRP. This is it: hypergamy. It's neither your friend nor your enemy but a concept to be understood and managed. ​
/r/askTRP28/03/19 12:04 AM
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There is so much you could do with this: Her: "Small dick..." You butting in..."If you'd done your job right it would have gotten a lot bigger.." Her: "Small dick" You: "Make it bigger..." Her: Small dick You: It's resting... Her: Small dick You: Nothing's big enough to fit into THAT snatch... Her: Small dick You: (Whispering) Having a huge..massive...wide pussy...is nothing to brag about... Her: Small dick You; Yes...like an M&M...melts in your mouth not in your hand...
/r/askTRP27/03/19 12:48 AM
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TLDR: hot plate left for her ex who provided the commitment I refused to provide up front We are all ego-invested in these relationships and it can be hard to understand "How could she leave???" The more you understand the Red Pill and hypergamy the more these situations become clearer and the less they tend to affect you. ​ Plates come and go. Enjoy them. Learn what women want from them. But don't get too invested or you'll find yourself in your current situation. ​ A few recent examples of my …
/r/askTRP25/03/19 12:55 AM
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You did the right thing right up to this exchange: Me: I had a blast and actually thought there was a connection. I saw you turn away and put your number in his phone. Wishing you all the best Better: ​ Me: Hey, good luck Her: blah blah blah etc etc etc I had a similar situation which I handled very differently. Girl I met on OKC and BANGED first night I met her suddenly went cool. Coincidentally I nearly bumped into her walking down the street---with another guy. This was 3 days after she blew …
/r/askTRP19/03/19 01:39 PM
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Because...Pre-selection is the ultimate aphrodisiac. You guys really do need to read through the Mystery Method and everything from 10 years ago written about attraction and evolutionary psychology. Pre-selection means other women want to fuck you. It's a way a woman's brain rationalizes a short-cut to the alpha male. If other women want to fuck him he must be worthy of her eggs.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 02:16 AM
1

She's the one who should be considering this not you. This sounds like a case of growing oneitis.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 02:30 AM
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Girls who live in other cities are unlikely to follow up. I banged two girls who live in other cities. One I banged 3 times, she came to my city for a university PhD interview and contacted me to bang her. I ping texted her twice in the last 3 months. She came to my city for some other school-related thing....and didn't call me. I ran into her at a bar. A second girl I banged, I went to her city for a business trip. She was away on business and didn't make any effort to follow up. Bottom line...…
/r/askTRP13/03/19 05:38 PM
1

They don't. Without Game and a clear understanding of the Red Pill a Good Looking Guy (GLG) only lucks out but doesn't progress. Confidence isn't based on looks.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 12:28 AM
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Looks don't matter. Learn game. Read everything you can about the Mystery Method.
/r/askTRP11/03/19 12:06 AM
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Something always replaces the previous thought or person in her subconscious. It's the nature of hypergamy. This is the reason you need to spin plates. I just had this the other night. Two months ago, plate from another city comes to town, texts me to meet up at her hotel and bang her. Within that 2 month period we texted twice---just pings. I go out to a club, she's there. She hadn't notified me she's in town. She had no interest in seeing me. What happened? Probably another guy. It's ALWAYS an…
/r/askTRP09/03/19 10:27 AM
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Trust your gut. If it sounds too weird it probably is. The cam thing is a red flag. There are many girls on these sites who try to get you on camera and then when you appear they try to get you to wack off or create animation that makes it look like you were whacking off and then they threaten to post the video if you don't pay some ridiculous amount of money. Be careful. Situational awareness. There are so many Red Flags in your description I'd bail.
/r/askTRP08/03/19 12:39 AM
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The point of spinning plates is that when one does stuff like this, you make plans with another. Why are you obsessing over your plate. You have a few right? RIGHT? Or by "plate" you mean a girl you're banging but haven't locked into being her bf yet?
/r/askTRP03/03/19 02:52 PM
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This is a great neg to use on a girl... The response if a girl asked me this would be: "Are you as dumb as you look?"
/r/askTRP03/03/19 01:53 AM
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Alpha is a mindset. You're a thirsty untrustworthy sack of shit for doing this. Now you're here's seeking OUR validation. No, you don't need anyone's permission to bang any girl. But if you have an ounce of self-respect and personal integrity you would exercise some self-control. TL;DR don't shit where you eat...and that includes trying to cuck friends.
/r/askTRP02/03/19 05:46 PM
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I'm going to be harsh because you're here seeking Red Pill advice and clearly no one in your real life will set you straight. Stop rationalizing your behaviours and cut all contact. Hanging out with her friends is keeping you tied into her life which is leading you to come here seeking our advice on clarifying the behavior of the girl you're still obsessing over. Stop it. Move on. Find new friends.
/r/askTRP02/03/19 12:56 PM
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Then he says it’s the principle behind you fucking the girl I fucked 2 weeks later, without asking me before hand? I said, oh when did you become a pimp and start trafficking women? You're no friend. You're a thirsty asshole who could have banged any other girl but decided to try to consciously or unconsciously prove to yourself you're superior. Then you come here hoping we'll validate that it was no big deal. But if that was the case you wouldn't be here would you? ​ ​
/r/askTRP02/03/19 12:17 PM
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So I went to the club with my former oneitis and her friends, I just did my own thing and didn’t even dance with her at the club at all, "Former oneitis"? You're still an orbiter.
/r/askTRP02/03/19 12:13 PM
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An ultimatum is a frame-snatch attempt. If you follow her lead, this relationship is forever finished. She will never respect that you caved in even though she may claim otherwise. ​
/r/askTRP01/03/19 11:28 AM
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Been in this position. I realized the guy I was helping was effectively hopeless. So I put the EXTRA effort into bringing him up to speed. I left that company. Now I use the experience so that when his name comes up in conversation I say "Nice guy, I had to train him, sadly he's coming along but not quite there yet..."
/r/askTRP27/02/19 08:48 AM
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Read everything you can about "Hypergamy". Women always keep options open because from a biological perspective it allows them access to the best sperm. In a modern sexual context it means you don't over-invest and spin plates.
/r/askTRP27/02/19 12:36 AM
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Bravo! This is something EVERY dude whinging about the one who got away should read. You showed balls. You now have total hand over her. Leave her to stew and beg. Bang a few other girls and if you can manage, turn her into a plate. if not, just ghost her for good. This was an inspirational post.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:35 PM
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You "red-lined" the car.... Too much, too soon. The best response to that without red-lining the car is to be playful and mysterious: How Old are you? You: Old enough to know better, young enough not to care. Your line was tactically funny and escalated. But it wasn't focused on the goal---which was to fuck. You freaked her out without comfort. My response above has the SAME impact but makes it more clever and mysterious.
/r/askTRP14/02/19 04:29 PM
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I'm in my 50's and I plate girls in their 20's generally below 30. I meet them in different places: mixers, salsa, online, on the street. The ones I meet want a MAN not a BOY. They know I'm older but I look good--fit, well-dressed, professional. Things they say they like: my "dominance" my "masculinity" which they say is from "a different time", my "experience" my "decisivieness". Plus they like the way I smash through their various shit-tests which younger soy-boys don't or can't. The ones who …
/r/askTRP14/02/19 12:45 AM
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This is an important post and insight. I find also that prior to understanding Alpha, the Red Pill and its tactical approach through Game I was constantly all about "LOOK AT ME!!!!" Now I've adopted a much more aloof, selective approach. Amused Mastery. I call it being a Ninja. Stick your neck out when you need to otherwise stop being try-hard. What you're describing is "inner game" which took me years to fully grasp.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 01:53 AM
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Look up Boyfriend Destroyer. If this becomes a bigger issue you dump her. If she starts doing it and ignoring or changing the subject doesn't work, use the ideas I suggested.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:43 AM
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Lots of material on this but it's important what NOT to do. When she brings up her "ex" it's because she's still thinking of him and on a subconscious level comparing you to him. If you get upset it immediately elevates him in her mind and downgrades you as insecure, needy etc. Control that urge. The best response is no-response. Change the subject or reframe it around YOUR ex. Read everything you can about "Boyfriend Destroyer"---lots of material out there. The idea is not to put him down but t…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 01:50 AM
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Her: “I haven’t fucked anyone else in months! I want to take things further with you” Hypergamy in one sentence. She left out "...but I could have..." You handled it perfectly. Stop obsessing over that. Now you have to decide where she fits into your soft harem. One of my plates keeps telling me "I love you..." I just say "Of course you do..." or "What's not to love?"
/r/askTRP11/02/19 01:45 AM
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That is the easy and default position. But if OP has any game, he could gauge the IOI's he was getting and set up the second "encounter", run game and escalate. In my case as I describe the girl had a bf and really wanted to work through the "do I want to fuck this guy?" in her head with me present. It was quite fun seeing this. It cost me nothing beyond a drink and was hugely experiential. Plus she dressed hot for this non-date.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:47 PM
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You can't "Soft-next" a girl you haven't banged. Women who have bf's or are in the middle of something usually act the way OP describes.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:19 PM
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I had this once recently. It was with a girl who had a bf. I met her at a mixer and ran standard game on her. She was up for meeting...first for "lunch"...then it was "drinks". At drinks she asks: "Is this a date?" I laugh and say "Date? Who goes on dates these days?" Point was she was hamstering. She revealed she had a bf but didn't want "Drama" but was happy...but was curious about me...but. Point here is go on this second meet up ready to escalate or bail. Keep it simple: drink after work. Wh…
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:17 PM
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Push is where you take initiative. Pull is where you set it up for her to chase.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 08:05 AM
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Yes. It shouldn't surprise you she left. Being Red Pill and Alpha doesn't mean being a total asshole. It means being confident and seeing things as they are. ​
/r/askTRP10/02/19 02:26 AM
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How do you deal with such nagging ? It gets on my nerves ? You withdraw attention. Clearly she's pushing for more comfort which means she's probably nearly done with you. I wanna hard next her for irritating me so bad. And?
/r/askTRP09/02/19 06:50 PM
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Ok, you owed her money for the Morning After Pill? You dump her and she immediately posts photos like she doesn't care? You really need to pull your head out of your ass...
/r/askTRP09/02/19 06:47 PM
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I conclude you're in total denial and she's gaslighting you with this nonsense. The details don't matter. You're about to get cucked.
/r/askTRP09/02/19 02:07 AM
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Girls know what they want. This may come off as too desperate and lower your confidence.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:29 PM
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Yes. Stop chasing. Find someone who IS available to meet up.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:29 PM
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There are plenty of materials available including the Mystery Method that outline the tactics of how to game a girl to banging her. Suffice to say "I am the prize" is abundance mentality. It comes from believing that you have something to offer. Learn game. Understand the Mystery Method. Go Fuck Ten Other Women. Then come back and report to us how it feels when you approach.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:28 PM
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You're over-thinking this. Everyone bangs ugly girls. I do it for practice...I can't eat steak every night but sometimes I'll go for a burrito or a Big Mac. Chill dude.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:26 PM
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Abort mission NOW. End it before you come back HERE saying "Ex gf banged her ex after telling me she didn't like him anymore what gives?" Here's a simple Red Pill truth that I have learned many MANY times the hard way. When a girl brings up another guy...she's testing your reaction. Happened a few years back with a plate who brought up "hanging out" with two of my "Friends"...I would set boundaries which she LOVED because it gave her a thrill that she was the centre of some sort of rivalry. Unti…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:24 PM
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There is a very good insight here. If an HB5 chubby can have that much confidence to demand you be her dancing monkey imagine what YOU could do if you mastered game and understood the Red Pill?
/r/askTRP08/02/19 08:29 AM
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To adopt the Red Pill is not to "hate" that women are "this way", it's to accept and use to your advantage that women are "this way". As for the "Soft Next" make sure you read all about how to execute this properly. When I've done it properly it works. When I reach out first, when I don't wait for a proper apology or some sort of act of contrition I lose ground. The example is the time I saw the plate with another guy. She immediately started texting and apologizing. I waited 3 days then reached…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:44 AM
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Depends, but in many cases it's 4-9 months of regular banging. Suddenly they start acting out. Some examples: Plate 28, starts acting out within a month of regular banging. My mistake was keeping it going. She ended up trying to create drama by playing me off my friends. When I ghosted her she freaked. I never spoke to her again. It lasted 9 months and it's been 2 years of radio silence. She still tries to get my attention. Plate 2: met her online, banged her first meet. Suddenly she went cool. …
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:41 AM
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One of the Red Pill Truths is women want the one thing they immediately push away. That's why push-pull is such an important game concept. You showered her with security and in the process killed attraction. It's now time to go silent for as long as it takes for her to stop talking about her ex. Read about the Soft-Next. I'm in a situation with one of my plates who I meet up with once or twice a month and bang senseless. I gave her a lot of attention in the form of texts and compliments. Suddenl…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 12:32 AM
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Part of managing girls is to know when to engage and when to walk away. Her: "Whyyyyyy???" You: I"m going to the gym, have dinner ready Her: Whyyyyy? You: You know why bye. ​
/r/askTRP07/02/19 11:29 AM
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My main plate suddenly started acting like a bitch ahead of a big holiday she was going on. I didn't waiver. I just smashed her shit-tests and then didn't follow up. It's been nearly a week of radio silence. Probably there's another guy...there's ALWAYS another guy involved. I've got two other plates on the go. You are absolutely right. The minute you start panicking THEY sense it. That's why a soft next works so well. By dropping off when she does or says something stupid you let her imaginatio…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 01:18 AM
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Responding to a question like that is beta in general. She's shit-testing you. The way to respond to that is to say "Awwwww is this your way of saying you want to get back with me? Play your cards right and I might let you wine and dine me..." Or whatever. just don't play it straight. Why are you still talking to your ex anyway?
/r/askTRP05/02/19 11:39 AM
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No need to make a dramatic declaration. It's Blue Pill and rarely works. Just disappear. She'll keep drifting back or not. With my plates when they act off I just stop texting....they come back and I just pick up where we left off.
/r/askTRP03/02/19 03:18 PM
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she asked me if I've ever been in love before and I said that I was once when I ate wagyu beef in Japan. I'm using this. I asked her and she said "Sort of. I've never known if it's love or not. I don't think I've ever fell in love romantically and I could only love my own children." Translation= she's really emotional and doesn't want to scare you off with it. Watch what girls do not what they say. Great line btw. ​
/r/askTRP03/02/19 02:24 AM
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Why would a girl do this? Seems like she lost frame and got upset it didnt go her way. A few reasons: ASD, low self-esteem, emotional issues, she read something online and feels bad about it, saw some friend of hers with some hot-looking guy and wants that etc etc. Forget WHY she did it...figure out what you want out of this. When you get good with women you'll find they all do this nonsense. NEVER....I repeat NEVER ask her why. She'll find a way to blame you for it and then you'll be back-pedal…
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:35 AM
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There is a nagging compulsion among newbies to the Red Pill and Game that you MUST respond to EVERYTHING. Don't. Ever text a girl out of the blue because you're bored? 8/10 times she never responds. If in doubt...think like a chick. Stop being logical and start feeling it more. You'll do the right thing.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:27 AM
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if it's more just me being childish and wanting her to know that she isn't worth my time anymore, Dude...it's been 5 YEARS!!!! Responding would be indicating she IS worth your time!!!
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:25 AM
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She was FWB and you upgraded her. Why? I have a plate. We fuck and do all sorts of nasty things. Suddenly this past few days she starts acting weird. I smashed her shit tests. These were followed by more. So I just drop it. The point is NOT to demonstrate you're rattled. The point is to have options and be busy with other girls.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 05:33 PM
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Yes...always.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 05:30 PM
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A few things arise from your post and if you're serious take my response to heart. The fact you're here asking us instead of looking at it, laughing, deleting it and blocking her means you haven't fully moved on. Yes, she's been dumped, lost a job or is searching for validation. YOU are not the ONLY one she's messaged. She's scattered her approach so don't feel special. Abundance. Avoid Dumpster Diving---read about it. It's a Red Pill concept to understand. I have absolutely no intention of fuck…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 05:30 PM
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I had a friend who similarly kept talking about all the girls in our social circle he was banging. ​ It sounded amazing until I took a look at WHO he was banging: MILFs, Fat Chicks, 6's, over 35's. Basically fishing with dynamite. Right. I'm banging fewer girls but they're younger, hotter, tighter. Don't compare yourself to others. Set proper benchmarks and meet them. ​
/r/askTRP01/02/19 12:49 AM
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I had this situation with a few girls. They would break up expecting me to chase. I didn't. They would freak out and chase. My mistake was to get back together. Don't make the same mistake. Girls are emotional creatures but a break up is an extreme measure. She does this and you come back...and you've lost frame.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 10:32 AM
2

Shit test. I just had this. I just listened and smiled saying "Wow they must be desperate".
/r/askTRP30/01/19 12:27 AM
2

I had a similar situation in which a roided Asian body guard at the gym I used to go to suddenly went mental a few years back claiming I had used his towels. From that moment everytime I saw him he would mumble "Fucking asshole." This guy could do some serious damage. But I just ignored him and avoided him. When I saw him I just smiled which I think triggered him more. Get away from people like this unless you're in a position to do some damage. But even then you'll always be the one who started…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 12:43 AM
1

Advising companies on business strategy. Basically I'm selling my past experiences in developing brand strategies for companies but doing it on my own. By doing it on my own I'm making less money than my salaried job---for now. But I have incredible peace-of-mind because I report to myself.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 12:08 AM
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After working nearly 9 years at a company I got laid off/fired. I immediately started my own business and used the notice period to get all my tools ready: computer--our IT guy sorted one out and got it together, branding, cards, name etc. I told all my old clients (I was a management consultant) I was starting my own consultancy. All were excited for me, several immediately threw projects my way because they always trusted me. In my first quarter I made almost the same as I would have in the sa…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:58 PM
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It's too long to read. The main point is you're obsessed with her.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 12:25 AM
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How do I deal with the friends or family of the girls I'm dating when they talk behind my back and make me look like a villain? You do realize that the more those betas talk about you to the girl, the more it increases your value---as long as you don't start getting defensive. Just shrug it off. The problem here isn't that people are talking about you behind your back to the girl...it's that you don't have other options so you've over-invested. I've been in this situation more times than I can c…
/r/askTRP21/01/19 04:13 PM
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tl:dr I have oneitis because I have no options in my own town. I wanted to ask her out. But there is a problem. She is from another town, 2 hours away. The work bus is taking her directly from the factory to her hometown. I'm in the middle of getting my driving license so I can't drive her. stop obsessing over girls you can't have. The logistics are off. Find a girl closer to home.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 04:08 PM
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I've known women who suddenly get married but don't post about it. I also know women who have boyfriends and don't tell anyone about it. The third reason: It's hypergamy: they want as much possible attention or validation to avoid the possibility in their mind that they'll be stuck with some loser.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 02:53 PM
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happened once to me. The girl turned out to be crazy. She was emotionally all over the place and then did some stalker shit. Probably best to distance yourself from her...slowly.
/r/askTRP19/01/19 05:58 PM
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No one would know this about me but I face it constantly---in my head. Then I worry that it's translating into actions, then I worry more. It's an obsessive circle. I'm dealing with it by just stopping the thought process. I say "no" loudly in my head and just continue. The reasons for this thought process are long and complicated but stem from co-dependency and a people pleasing upbringing. Just be conscious of it and stop those thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 01:39 AM
2

Google Inner Game and Mystery Method...start there. Mystery's audiobook is on YouTube. If you can't find what you need to sort yourself out you're not trying.
/r/askTRP17/01/19 10:51 AM
1

Learn game. Part of learning game is developing strong INNER GAME. How? It's mindset. But there are many resources available, many free and online that will help you develop inner game.
/r/askTRP17/01/19 12:21 AM
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Two things for you to manage this. Both take incredible discipline and the outcome is basically you emerging from this ready to start spinning plates. So you or her will break up first. Short term instill dread: start distancing yourself, being less available, pull back. She'll start asking questions and acting flighty. They ALWAYS do even if there is another girl. Start gaming other girls so when they text you, you act all suspicious: things like picking up the phone, smiling, shaking your head…
/r/askTRP16/01/19 10:42 AM
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Too try-hard. That always has to be understood. Any girl's response to that line would be: "have fun". My suggestion is cocky, funny and zero fucks given. This sounds butt hurt. Be mindful of how you pass yourself off. Sounding hurt is a major turn off. Overdoing the "Chicks dig me" concept will back fire. Demonstrate, don't explicate.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 11:56 PM
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Yes, it's called shit-testing. Response strategies: ​ Ignore Agree and Amplify Cocky/Funny response I just had a girl I'm gaming who is shit testing me. I let her know I'm djing at some event I'm organizing: Her: Is this a special event or something regular Me: We'll see Her: Because blah blah blah i'll support but I have other things to do otherwise blah blah blah Me: I'm more fun With masculinity in short-supply shit tests will become even more savage. Knowing this and how to calibrate is crit…
/r/askTRP15/01/19 10:36 AM
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Perfect response. Now watch her start chasing.
/r/askTRP14/01/19 03:19 PM
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Women lie. She's testing you. I had this situation with a plate so I really didn't give it much thought. But of course she ended up having a meltdown in a bid to bang one of these guys and trying to blame me for her running off. When I just ghosted her it only re-enforced that the stupid plan to get me to chase failed and she was left banging some loser to spite me. haha. I digress. Yes you should dump her but not for the reasons you think. You should dump her because she's not worth your time a…
/r/askTRP07/01/19 08:32 AM
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This is the norm. Plates are plates. The only response to this should be: "Don't fall in love with me..." I've said this to plates. They laugh and it re-enforces what this is about.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 01:09 PM
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Push= push away, any sort of negs or disinterest Pull= active gaming, rewarding with attention
/r/askTRP04/01/19 06:59 AM
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Not sure how you met as this isn't specified in the original post but the main reasons girls flake: 1. another guy not enough comfort built up after attraction. This is something I've been working on and now get fewer flakes. The girl has to want to meet up. If there's too much pull and not enough push her buying temperature when you first encounter her will be sky high. Then without enough comfort to make sure she sees you as someone with High Value her own sense of dread will talk her out of m…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 12:17 AM
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No. Desperation is not attractive. All girls already know you want to bang them it's just a matter of you not fucking it up. If you're at this point you should just disappear for a while.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 12:12 AM
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Why's that funny fuckhead? Go fuck off fucking fuck head jerk and stop fucking trolling.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 08:33 AM
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She has a new guy...it's ALWAYS the case and there is probably something you overlooked in this. Regardless, don't text her or follow up. Let her do it. When she does...wait a few days and play it by instinct.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 02:28 AM
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She's probably forgotten about it because it was not important to her. You're obsessing over it. When you understand that women are all in the moment you'll understand that this meant nothing to her and EVERYTHING to you. I've had these same obsessive thoughts and it's taken a few years to get them under control. I just pretend nothing happened. What's interesting and you could experience this as I have is that she will be extremely friendly towards you expecting you to give her more attention. …
/r/askTRP31/12/18 12:04 AM
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Its like every single woman I know is a cheater. Yes, it's called "hypergamy"...read more about it. Please tell me I've just had bad luck and that some women can resist temptation and their urges enough not to do that. Luck has nothing to do with it. Understand hypergamy and a woman's biological nature. Secondly start spinning plates. You are the prize. Right now you sound like you feel "lucky" a woman would even consider talking to you let alone going out with you. Like how the fuck am I suppos…
/r/askTRP31/12/18 12:00 AM
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Stop fake-bragging. You're whining because a girl is buying you stuff and suddenly you feel like...what? a whore? So be a man and buy your own shit. I don't see a question here just an ungrateful indecisive jerk.
/r/askTRP29/12/18 01:55 AM
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This is a shit-test. Part of this is coming from a position of snatching frame. Once this starts to happen you have to have iron frame or be prepared to dump her or for her to walk. Where this is coming from could be a number of places: frame control, loss of attraction, comfort or possibly some other guy hitting on her and this shit test is her way of rationalizing all this. Agree and amplify. Make yourself less available and start to consider the prospect this is slipping out of your control a…
/r/askTRP26/12/18 12:22 AM
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Hypergamy is a woman's ability to trade up on a sexual mating strategy. Older Korean woman=off the market in home country Young dude=opportunity to fuck without any judgement or prying eyes. Korea is an extremely racist and hierarchical society. Korean women IN Korea have to watch themselves. That's why they look abroad for adventure. The whole talking about another guy is a classic shit-test. Ignore. But seriously get better at game. "Hello" is an opening for an Asian MILF.
/r/askTRP24/12/18 11:48 AM
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Older Korean woman----no Korean guy will ever touch her so she's adapted. I also live in Asia and many of my friends are banging OLDER women---but it's like fishing with dynamite. You're young she's OLD---by Asian standards way on the shelf. Don't read much more into this and stop dumpster diving with older women and start fine-tuning your game to focus on younger, hotter, tighter. My friends banging Asian MILFs are frankly lazy in my opinion. On a wider Red Pill level what you're witnessing is …
/r/askTRP24/12/18 12:28 AM
2

Two things: 1. I used to get offended by flaking. It took a few years to get to a point where I would screen girls so they wouldn't flake. Being "offended"--yea I also used to be like that. Now I've stopped caring. It's taken several years and a lot of reading and practicing game to adopt the abundance mentality. When you do that a girl's stupid behaviours won't bother you. You'll be too busy. In this case...drop it and move on.
/r/askTRP24/12/18 12:23 AM
6

Stop being so needy. Start spinning plates and one's erratic behavior won't mean so much to you.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 09:41 AM
1

Some insights. Two years ago a "friend" of mine began chasing one of my plates who had been pushing to be my gf. I kept banging her, he kept chasing her. I was pissed that he was constantly talking crap to her about me. Finally I banged her one last time and ghosted her. That was two years ago. She constantly shows up where I am with him. Today I was djing and she shows up. Both are nervous. I couldn't care less and find their nervousness amusing. Why? Abundance. I have 2-3 plates now at any giv…
/r/askTRP15/12/18 07:27 PM
0

Stop fucking around here. Your post got 70+ responses, if you're just trolling for attention for "educational purposes" save the space for guys who really need advice and help jackass.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 11:26 AM
1

This is where congruency is vital to understanding the Red Pill. Guys when they first learn game see it as a super-power. Then the girl starts to poke holes into it aka shit-test. ​ If you don't believe what in what you're doing you're only acting and then something like what you described will happen. If all that happened and you didn't care...then you would be fully Red Pilled. You're experiencing what many of us did...a misalignment between your thoughts and actions. Red Pill isn't a set of a…
/r/askTRP13/12/18 12:45 AM
2

This is a messy situation despite the whole "it's your turn" nonsense you'll get from this site. I was in this situation. My plate was trying to nail me as a bf. When I pushed back and stuck to banging she started manipulating the situation by chasing two of my thirsty loser friends. You find out quick in this situation just how desperate and thirsty more beta males are. No winners in this. I basically had to ghost her because she went nuts on me. Then I had to ghost two of my "friends"...becaus…
/r/askTRP01/12/18 05:21 PM
41

"I know"
/r/askTRP26/11/18 12:31 PM
4

Goofy slut vs drama queen. She's sending him provocative photos and he's reacting. The HARD NEXT isn't a punishment, it's his way of moving on. You guys are framing the HARD NEXT as if it's something to do with her. It's not. The dude is struggling with the classic early player dilemma---how much game to apply. It's too late. She's not worth gaming because she's already out there with weird shit.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:37 AM
4

I had a plate that I engaged in this sort of nonsense drama with....the ONLY time she actually fell into line was when I soft nexted...until she figure it out and then tried other stuff. Mine was chasing after two thirst "friends" of mine. The best thing I ever did was hard next her. By hard next I mean ghost---disappear and never ever speak to her again. She tried several times to get my attention in the same dramatic ways. I ignored. It's been 2 years. Ghost and never look back dude. Otherwise…
/r/askTRP22/11/18 12:14 AM
1

For instance she hit me at 11p on the bathroom break of another movie date she was having. She said she wanted to talk, I told her that i’d be up for a while so she could hit me after (alluding if she was tryna fuck to let me know, in hindsight this might’ve been stupid) or another time. I never talk to girls on the phone. You're beta. Stop being so available to girls that aren't fucking you. ​
/r/askTRP19/11/18 10:01 AM
2

I find myself increasingly on my own. I have plates, I have a few acquaintances but I now tend to avoid friendships because of the very reason you describe: too many guys I know are just so thirsty and don't get it. I've written before about my thirsty as fuck "Friends" macking on my plates and ex's. Zero self-control, zero understanding of abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP17/11/18 06:13 PM
1

You have a scarcity mentality. He's not that great a friend believe me. Also you'd best just disappear and ghost him. No explanation needed. I sent a nuclear text to my "friend" but he was hassling me and his bullshitting made me angry.
/r/askTRP17/11/18 05:43 PM
1

Depends on which brand but it's good enough. There are some German brands of de-alcoholized beer that you can't really tell the difference from real beer except there's not buzz. When I'm out and they have it, I order that and because it has some exotic Czech label my friends can't tell what I'm drinking but it looks and smells like beer. I've stopped getting hammered except in rare situations or sometimes I'll have a girl over and we'll crack open bottle of sparkling or go for a cocktail. But I…
/r/askTRP17/11/18 05:41 PM
2

Have a lime soda, it looks like Vodka Tonic/Gin Tonic. I also drink de-alcoholized beer if its available.
/r/askTRP17/11/18 11:35 AM
3

If they don't give me their number and just want to banter on the online site I just bail. But I did get into a texting then sexting situation with a girl who lived in another city near me. This went on for 3 months. I enjoyed it. But she kept flaking on me. After the third "oh I can't get a travel visa" nonsense I just dropped her. A month later it was my birthday, I flicked her a text: "Hey". She responded in 2 seconds. I then said it was my birthday and come over. She said ok. She did and we'…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 05:32 PM
2

You're trying to justify something that you're 100% correct in feeling. My response to my "friend" was to cut him off. He started getting anxious around me after I began ignoring him. He texted me some crap about "Bros before ho's". My response: "Fuck off you duplicitous piece of shit". That was the last time I spoke to him. The girl meantime I ghosted 2 years ago. The point of this is these girls know what they're doing when they start making out with your friends. Your friend is a thirsty desp…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:19 AM
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Similar situation happened to me. Plate I was banging and distancing myself from started chasing two of my "friends". Something happened with at least one of them. I told him flat out she was trying to create drama and to stay away. He didn't. I cut him loose. He tried a few times to make amends acting like a cat that shit the bed. I don't need "friends" like that. If this guy is a "friend" then he'll understand that regardless of whether she's an ex it makes you uncomfortable. There's tons of g…
/r/askTRP15/11/18 09:49 AM
4

I just got a text from a girl I met on Tinder-- 10 months ago. She wanted "Company". I simply said: "If you promise to behave come over and we'll make margaritas and listen to old blues records..." Her response was a bunch of blah blah blah about being lost and wanting someone to talk to. Me: "No worries, good luck, sorry about your surgery" Unless you're going to bang her do not entertain her.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 09:37 AM
1

The Red Pill is Truth. Truth means looking at a situation as it is not how you wish it was or how you imagine it could be. It's been nearly 9 years since I discovered game and the Red Pill. It's been a struggle. I've had these episodes of Oneitis and have been sucked into drama that I now know and realize was all because I lost frame, I thought it could "fix" a situation instead of moving on from it. Now I focus on things that matter to me. That doesn't mean I don't do things for other people or…
/r/askTRP15/11/18 09:34 AM
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Take classes, dance classes, special interest classes...anything where girls would go for those special interest activities. This demonstrates a "passion" on your part, it demonstrates leadership. Also it allows plausible deniability. When I go to my Latin Dance classes I'm always finding girls in their 20's that want to bang a guy like me in his early 50's. They even admit it.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 11:57 PM
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Asked this girl if we could start something serious this time around. She responded she's seeing someone from her work place. Never ASK a girl to be "serious"...EVER. That is the MOST Blue Pill/Beta thing any guy could do. You should always be the prize, the one SHE wants to nail down and get serious with. I stopped reading your post after that first line. The rest of whatever you're asking about is unsalvageable if that's your mindset. ​
/r/askTRP14/11/18 11:55 PM
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I don't know what country you're in but in my experience, Asian girl, "rough week" and tequila shot= boyfriend/man troubles. Your outreach was weak. Don't ask her for things...it's weak. "Tell me the name of that series..." "Remind me again..." I never ask girls anything. If I want to bang them i'm direct: "let's meet up for another tequila..." or whatever. Also, you see one girl giving you IOI's and it's a big deal. Try this with 10-20 girls and you'll be much more selective.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 12:12 AM
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Total shit-test. A girl I'm banging texted me something along the lines of: "Next time your turn to serve me, don't always be the tyrant" Me: Ha, your turn to cook Actually I'm a great cook and she's lousy, I don't think I'd really want her to cook but there's no way i'm going to start negotiating whatever sexual role reversal she thinks she wants. Don't ever get defensive. Always agree and amplify or reframe. Deep down they don't want you to change that's why they shit-test. That type of femini…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 11:51 PM
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She told me months ago that she doesn't like having small breasts and that she hates it, so me pulling that line on her must've been rude, or not? What do you think? ​ Here's what you should have done....amused mastery: You: "Small hands? Your tits make them look massive..." Amused mastery. The problem here is something I've spent years trying to overcome: Being too inside my own head and taking shit like that as "insults". Girl I'm banging constantly shit-tests. I barely react. She's going on a…
/r/askTRP11/11/18 02:31 AM
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Here's what you SHOULD be saying and it's what I say in these situations: "Don't fall in love with me..." I banged a girl who was shit-testing like crazy. We actually got along quite well and she responded to my game. But as a pre-emptive measure, I texted her the next morning: "Great dinner. PS: Don't fall in love with me..." She replied "Don't worry I wont. I'm cold and logical". Means: "I'm batshit crazy and can't stop thinking about you. I texted her recently just to ping her because she liv…
/r/askTRP05/11/18 10:44 AM
2

She wants you to be her beta provider, emotional tampon while she bangs other guys...basically...she wants to plate you.
/r/askTRP04/11/18 01:36 AM
9

What does she want from me? Asking this only because I think I can plate her if she still wants me. From a Red Pill perspective what she wants is attention and validation. This is a very clear pattern of female behavior. She's likely been dumped or "between" relationships so you're seen as a provider of attention. Don't fall for it. As for being able to plate her...no you can't. You're too invested evidenced by your confusion about why she's reaching out. You'll be wrapped up in the drama and sh…
/r/askTRP28/10/18 11:44 PM
1

Let's say you've invested for a long time in an ltr with a girl who seemed at first an almost perfect ltr material. First mistake. Blue Pill thinking. Red Pill thinking is "Here's a girl who seems cool, I'll see if she lives up to my expectations, meanwhile I'll bang other girls because All Women Are Like That". **Shouldn't i just tell her that i won't invest in a relationship with someone who's not showing enough commitment and who pulls disrespectful shitt like that?** From a Red Pill perspect…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 05:31 PM
-3

She was visiting. You don't get out much do you?
/r/askTRP26/10/18 05:23 PM
90

This is the Red Pill board so be prepared for what I'm going to say. 2 year LTR? You're over-invested. You have no other options and she's exploring hers because---hypergamy. You can't change her behavior until you change yours. You need to start instilling dread. Disappear for a while. Start flirting with other girls. Start to distance yourself and be prepared to lose her. Do NOT confront her about this. She WANTS to get caught otherwise she wouldn't be doing this so publicly and blatantly but …
/r/askTRP25/10/18 11:26 PM
1

Whenever I get these kind of wishy washy texts I reply this way. Text her these exact words: "I'm a man, you're a woman. I see you as a woman not as a dance partner. If you're not interested I understand. Good luck." Watch the way her hamster suddenly launches into panic mode and she'll start blasting you with stuff... If she agrees to meet up again, it's on. Find a way to invite her over to your house and bang her. Then...go dancing or whatever you want.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 01:09 PM
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She wants attention and you're giving it to her. You ask her to meet up. If she blows you off drop it. The problem here isn't her flaking it's your scarcity mentality. When you start getting better with women you'll be able to figure out if she's just leading you on or if she is legitimately busy or if she's hesitant and wants to know you better. If you're running here asking for help you need to step back from this and get more women in your rotation. I have a plate I bang senseless. She texts …
/r/askTRP24/10/18 11:57 PM
2

The thing about shit tests is that if you can't think of anything the best way to respond is either ignore it or just with "k" "cool story, I'm having ice cream now" Or just "oh".
/r/askTRP24/10/18 01:34 PM
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She wants attention. She wants to KNOW she can be shitty to you and STILL get that attention. The Red Pill is about understanding the dynamics at play: 1.hypergamy: she's looking to move ujp "just get it" you banged her, she wants you to get that and move on beta orbiters: you've become one There are more lessons in your post, start with those for now.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 08:25 AM
1

Just agree and amplify... "Yes, now get in that kitchen and make me a sandwich". If she asks again ignore. She's afraid you'll find someone else so she's using the ultimate shit-test: Shame... to try to et you to back down. Shrug it off...just keep making a joke of things..."Reading a book...try it sometime..."
/r/askTRP15/10/18 10:35 PM
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The guys have said it below, i'll just add one personal insight...this "Oneitis" is something you've been conditioned to experience through the Feminist Imperative that indoctrinates you to think of "the one" and pedestalize women. If you don't: you're a misogynist, chauvinist...etc. etc. shamed and put down. When I adopted the Red Pill I began to realize these "feelings" for any one girl are really wishful thinking. I pull back and look at things as they are. Hypergamy--a woman's biological nee…
/r/askTRP14/10/18 03:43 AM
3

This is where you have to walk away. I've had plates who start "hanging out" with my "friends". I told her it was off-limits. She continued to "hang out". I put distance between us, banged her one last time and ghosted her. She could have them. I think the goal here is not to make these types of girls your "GF". Bang them, hang out with them but don't get into a position where it matters.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:04 PM
0

Learn game and the Mystery Method. There are many canned routines you can practice and get good at that help you take the lead and sexualize the interaction without being creepy. Learn to listen more. Find ways to make the interaction playful. It felt awkward reading your report because it's a very old school "date" instead of hanging out. The awkwardness was in your head over the English/Spanish thing. The more girls you meet the less awkward it will be if you start to learn game. The Mystery M…
/r/askTRP11/10/18 10:43 PM
3

Her: I'm only gonna have time to see my family There are two ways to respond. "K" and never see her again. Or: "I'm a bit busy, we'll figure something out when you're back" And leave it. In the first instance you're shutting her out. That's great if you have other options. But guys on this board deferring to "Next" don't have much experience with women. I would shit-test back...make it seem like of course you're going to meet up but it's just not that convenient right now. I did this last weeken…
/r/askTRP10/10/18 04:00 PM
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You're over-thinking this and it's coming from a scarcity mentality which I used to have. If you want to meet up, text her. "hey smiley girl, drinks this week. What's your schedule?" If she flakes or gets into some push back leave it. Find several girls to meet all around the same time then you won't worry so much if one doesn't call back or flakes.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 03:53 PM
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Don't bother to respond. She's from Tinder and is cheating on her bf.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 11:36 PM
2

To ask the question is to already know the answer. At the heart of this is a scarcity mindset. I just had this **EXACT** same thought about a plate I've been banging who goes off the radar---probably because of some other dude. I bang other girls. But suddenly I start having these Blue Pill fantasies about "What if we actually moved this into something more stable...?" I quickly give my head a shake knowing this is the fantasy. The reality is she gets in touch when she wants to bang and so do I.…
/r/askTRP06/10/18 01:10 AM
1

They always come back. I recall 3 cases where the girl was flaking, canceling etc. I just stopped reaching out. Two came back. In the third case I reached out after a month. She immediately set up plans and came over. I think another factor in her flakiness is more than likely another guy--not a bf but someone who's chasing her. The "options" are confusing to her. So you've gamed her properly, you haven't lost your shit when she's flaked. Leave it.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 11:18 PM
10

I have a similar situation and can say there are some factors at play here. Girls self-sabotage. They want stuff to happen but don't want responsibility. In March I went to a dance party, met smoking hot HB8, danced, gamed her, asked her for drinks. She declined and as I was leaving she followed me out. I made out with her in the elevator, finger-banged her in the alley and she then went back to the hotel she was staying at with her BF. We stayed in touch. She texts me a few days ago asking wher…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 11:20 PM
1

The one thing working in your favour is that with anti-migrant sentiment at a high, those idiots realized that anything they did to you and the girl would probably reflect badly on their wider culture. So stepping in was a gamble and a calculated risk that in this case worked out in your favour and helped an innocent victim escape. But always be aware of the wider situation. Things could easily have gotten violent fast and since you're vastly out-numbered would doing this right thing have been t…
/r/askTRP01/10/18 09:03 AM
3

You can read the Mystery Method and there's a lot of detail about how to open and game a "two-set". Neg the target, build rapport with the friend. But honestly, it's much easier to find single girls or isolate them. You really need to polish your game and get some routines and openers down for multiple sets. If you're asking, you're a new, start with the easier options. I rarely complicate my game with multiple sets.
/r/askTRP16/09/18 02:18 PM
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Everything you're experiencing is normal, Beta, co-dependent behavior. Stop looking for a shoulder to cry on and start relying on your own wits to move forward. The Red Pill is "Truth"---once you see things as they are it's frustrating. There is comfort in "hope"... But "Hope" is a passive reaction to dealing with reality.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 01:56 AM
5

just "k" The "get back to me when you're ready" means you're waiting, it's low value.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 11:50 PM
1

Hey Trouble. Drinks. What's your sched?
/r/askTRP11/09/18 01:42 PM
14

Considering the rate of flakes and your clear lack of confidence after bagging 6 enthusiastic acceptances, this is really yours to fuck up.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 02:55 PM
-1

Agree and amplify: "I'm poor. My welfare cheque hasn't arrived."
/r/askTRP05/09/18 11:24 PM
0

saying that she 'feels weird' that we aren't talking and that she 'misses' me. She misses you when you're not in the same city---means she wants your constant attention as an orbiter. Unless you've banged them, don't constantly be responding to texts. The only time I do this is if we are banging and it's a way of maintaining comfort until the next meet up.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 11:22 PM
1

I know TRP states never cry in front of a woman that isn’t your mother. She’s never seen me cry before in the 3 years we’ve been together. I also couldn’t just leave I was in the shower. And I broke down in front of her. Do you think this will damage my LTR? Firstly, sorry for your loss dude. I'll dissect this for you and explain it from a Red Pill perspective. Firstly, this is a huge loss and the show of emotion is justified. The idea of crying or not crying is irrelevant. In your case you didn…
/r/askTRP05/09/18 12:41 PM
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But I still ask her out for drinks after work, 1 in 5 times she'll say yes. A few things. Stop this nonsense now. Get a life outside work. Exercise Start taking classes that girls take: yoga, pottery, dance classes, some foreign language learn game: read the Mystery Method, then Krauser's DayGame Mastery Ask out other girls---once. If they refuse don't pick it up again. Orbiters stick around after rejection.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:14 PM
2

It's only awkward because you think it is. Stop caring about it. I have this in my social circle where I dance and DJ. A "friend" who I realized had been taking advantage of me: free-loader, not helping on simple things, not paying when he attended some of my events and then constantly bringing up, bragging etc that my crazy ex was hitting on him. A combination of ALL those things led me to just drop contact with him. I didn't say anything I just wasn't as active. He showed up at a recent dj nig…
/r/askTRP02/09/18 03:14 AM
1

I've had this problem ALL my life and it could be the people I thought were my friends were more acquaintances. They're always trying to protect their own interests and when I do well, initiate something, contribute something, win something---instead of being supportive they'll "critique" it...because "i'm your friend I can tell you these things." I've since become much more guarded about who I spend time with and how. You should too.
/r/askTRP02/09/18 02:04 AM
2

You're obsessing. If a girl is truly interested she'll make time. This is basic. Somehow it takes time for guys learning game to truly understand. No amount of additional gaming will change her mind and will lower your value in her eyes. It happens. Girls give IOI's, agree to meet. You text. They flake. This is the reason for having an abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 10:52 PM
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This is too long. You have oneitis. It's common for girls to give IOI's then suddenly change. It's in their nature. Treat this as a shit-test and move on. I number closed a girl who was giving me IOI's and who I gamed Saturday. She agreed to drinks when I was gaming her. I texted her to meet up. No response. Ok. No more outreach from me. It happens. There's no magic solution.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 10:49 PM
2

Say as little as you possibly can. Be playful. "Hey Trouble. Drinks. What's your sched.?"
/r/askTRP29/08/18 10:33 PM
3

You feel like a sex object? Please.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 03:37 PM
1

That's the point....she's making a thing of this...you're now the "Fixer". It's bullshit. You don't need to talk to him at all if this is the case. she can sort herself out. Stop white knighting women. The fact she's nervous indicates: drama and possible residual feelings. When women feel NOTHING they are ruthless. The fact she cares and wants to manipulate you into doing something about this...is a Red Flag. Proceed with caution my friend.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 12:50 AM
2

The problem is too many guys are always available. This is a thing. I find myself also falling into this situation but usually it's with girls I'm banging or have already banged who want some sort of comfort. But once we arrange a meet up, I stop. I think tonality is critical to this.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 11:28 PM
-1

Opening text: "Hey Trouble. Drinks. What's your schedule?" keep it fun, clear, leave no doubt about what this is about. Many girls love texting. Some at the beginning or when you number close them are nervous. By keeping it clear and reaching out for logistics you avoid the possibility of try-hard which is a turn off. There's a girl who strictly a friend---no interest in gaming her. I coach her in Latin dance and we practice. My texts are all: "Wednesday. 9;30?" Her responses are "OK" if she can…
/r/askTRP28/08/18 11:27 PM
1

I'll talk about it from my personal perspective. I've had 2 instances of this with an ex and a plate. The plate was constantly trying to push me into some sort of boyfriend status which I resisted. She started to chase after 2 of my friends. Long story short, it destroyed my friendships with these two thirsty douche-bags. With the gf it was 5 years ago now. She had what I could only consider were BPD traits. Broke up to spite me 2 days before a big event she had helped plan. Being Red Pilled I i…
/r/askTRP28/08/18 11:03 PM
1

It's abundance mindset dude. Get out of your own head thinking she's something special and you're not. You're the prize...get your head around that.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 11:20 PM
1

Go to text: "Hey trouble. Drinks. What's your sched?" Simple, to the point and as few words as possible. If she ignores move on. But there is total clarity in that text. I've tried different variations: "Whats your sched this week"---too narrow. "I'm busy this week". "When are you free?" "Always busy" "Hey it's xxx, What up? let's meet for drinks." too vague. She told you to hit her up. Do it once. Be clear. If you receive no response---move on. I would not be embarrassed to have that text share…
/r/askTRP27/08/18 03:34 PM
3

Talk about mixed signals. I asked her to hang out with me at a concert, and she was like “yeah but I may bring my best friend.” I concluded low interest and didn’t text her back. Yet she still keeps sliding in my DMs and when she talks to me, we talk like normal. The issue here is she has tons of options and you're turning into an orbiter. She sexualizes...you respond. She pulls back....you move away. She's controlling the interactions. You're the kitten and she's playing the ball of string. Rev…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 11:58 PM
1

But it's complicated to be with people who have known you for some time when you begin to change. This was the case here. I began to see this guy as a self-centered cunt who truly didn't give a shit about me or anyone else. When I pulled back on proactively contacting him. He could sense something and I heard from another friend he was making it out to be somehow I was being unreasonable when it came to asking him to shut up about how my ex was hitting on him. But it wasn't that. That was only o…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 02:33 PM
3

Personally I find running takes away the mood swings. Also focusing on some type of project. For me now it's DJing, organizing an arts event and staring my own business. There's no one to hold your hand. You're on your own---that is the essence of the Red Pill.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 08:05 AM
2

This is a great insight. Increasingly I talk less about what I do and instead just do it. I organize an arts project for the last 5 years. The amount of drama that comes with that---including some from this guy who wants a freebee, doesn't help, insults the artists I bring as not being up to their craft---is mind-numbing. But it's also educational. I see that this petty criticism comes from people who virtue signal they're "just giving feedback" when what they're really doing is trying to underm…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:54 AM
1

Good advice.
/r/askTRP26/08/18 07:50 AM
2

Maybe it is largely my fault. I just can't think straight. I haven't had great success in relationships before. You wrote this twice in your post. You're blaming yourself. I blame myself because I've been co-dependent all my life and take on the responsibility for other people's feelings. I think some people smell this off me and take advantage. It's a struggle for me. You can only feel good when other people around you feel good. She acts out---you feel bad. it's a shitty way to live. You can't…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 03:00 AM
2

Find a cool music club where you're known. Go for drinks there. I belong to a cool club. I usually just say "Let's go for drinks at my club".
/r/askTRP26/08/18 02:38 AM
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Because they're emotional and it connects to that part of the nature. Guys are like this too. I have a "friend" I just had to cut off because he was soaking up the attention of an ex of mine who was deliberately creating drama by chasing him. I told him I didn't like that....he kept doing it. He likes the drama and attention. She likes the rush of feeling something...anything... I now prefer to avoid this crap and focus on easy to manage stuff. So cutting out people who cause drama at first was …
/r/askTRP25/08/18 07:32 PM
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She's keeping the phone as some sort of ransom...to keep you plugged into her drama. It's a good learning. I often realize these material things that tie me to idiots are meaningless. An ex helped me set up an event, invested a lot of time, effort and energy. She then broke up with me 2 days before the event. It took discipline but my response was "ok". Of course the event was amazing. She texted me late at night with some nonsense. Then wanted me to remove her name from the "thanks to all who h…
/r/askTRP25/08/18 07:28 PM
2

I see this a lot in my Latin dance circle. Lots of HB8's...but their beta orbiter "Classmates" cockblock outsiders from getting in their line of sight. The girls themselves just love attention so whether it's from me or an orbiter it doesn't matter. You can only game after you approach so yes it's a dilemma. I generally ignore these cunts and eventually they come around....or they don't. They don't give their orbiters any respect.
/r/askTRP24/08/18 05:23 PM
2

It's all about game. If your game is solid you'll meet more women and bang more women. Many girls I meet are in their 20's and I'm early 50's. I'm in great shape and very masculine with solid game. But....not all girls in their 20's will respond. The point of game is to open more women and keep your SMV high by doing things like: learning game, working out, dressing well, focusing on things that matter to you etc.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 10:22 PM
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I must say that I am a bit puzzled about all this. Especially because I had a pretty good performance before. Does anyone have any experience with stuff like this ? Girls now have tons of options. The first date goes well, you start to chase with a second and they cool... I've had this situation after I've banged girls. Could be a series of different factors: busy, ASD, options, have a bf or some combination of all those. Doesn't sound like you did anything particularly wrong, stop obsessing.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 10:19 PM
0

a LTR where I know it's "just my turn"? That's kinda what you have now...
/r/askTRP20/08/18 10:14 PM
0

FWB with some potential for LTR (still vetting) Blue Pill thinking. You think an FWB wasn't being chased by other guys and possibly banging them? My go-to answer if Agree and Amplify doesn't work is to smile and say: "You know better than to ask..." IF she pushes get out of the situation and go cold for a few days. She is not LTR material now or ever.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 09:53 PM
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One of my plates didn't like giving blow jobs...she tried it, I rewarded her by eating her out. She's on her period....wants to hang out. No. We meet when we can bang. You need to set the guidelines. You don't have to be explicit....she'll figure this shit out based on how you act and react.
/r/askTRP19/08/18 10:20 PM
2

I get this, pretty standard stuff. "Maybe I'm the one who should be worried? " Reframe "How do I know you won't burn down my kitchen when you come over?"
/r/askTRP19/08/18 09:43 AM
1

I see this a lot. Guys with girlfriends cock-blocking me... Why? Because they don't want to see you succeed. It reminds them of their own shitty existence. Beta is controllable. Alpha or Sigma are wild cards and independent thinkers.
/r/askTRP19/08/18 02:46 AM
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You're not maintaining frame, you're wasting your time being this HK10's orbiter. You're providing: support, entertainment, company. She's offering: what?? She blocks me and says "uh uh". So I fall back on my abundance frame and continue the kissing and cuddling as we watch Netflix. Movie ends and I go home, she goes out with her two girlfriends and sneaks into a bar (she is not 21 just quite yet, I saw this on snapchat and she mentioned she was going to go out with her girlfriends) THIS is wher…
/r/askTRP19/08/18 02:42 AM
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Here's a contrast: a plate I banged but lives in another city sexts every few days, sometimes with a photo, or wants to sext or just to say hi. If I cut it off, don't respond or respond with one word replies she gets the idea and backs off. For her it's a way of making sure she feels like we have some sort of connection so she's not a slut but...she's a slut. In your case...it's obsessive and it's grating on your nerves so ghost her.
/r/askTRP19/08/18 01:41 AM
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Here's the thing...and I"m speaking from personal experience. When you first learn game and you start banging girls on the first meet up---you get shit-tests. Then you wonder "How do I handle this???" so you come to boards like this. When you start to get better at this, you KNOW what to do...usually it's nothing. You met her online. You banged her on the first meet up. What else is there? Keep banging her. Your only texts should be "Come over" or "Let's meet up".
/r/askTRP18/08/18 06:08 PM
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This has to be from screened girls who are genuine. The OP says he got solicited for pix right after matching which is a Red Flag. When I get this I always report the post to Tinder as "solicitation". In your case you may be having more success but it sounds like a different context. Still girls be crazy so watch it.
/r/askTRP18/08/18 03:35 AM
2

he didn't hate the kitchen cabinet: he hated his wife, his two daughters, his whole house, the back yard with its power mower, the garage, the radiant heating system, the front yard, the fence, the whole fucking place and everyone in it. He wanted a divorce; he wanted to split. And so he had, very soon. And entered, by degrees, a new and somber life, lacking all of that. Probably he should have regretted his decision. He had not. That life had been one without excitement, with no adventure. It h…
/r/askTRP18/08/18 01:46 AM
2

I can relate. After 9 years in a job where I put all my efforts, I was constantly undermined to the point the boss took me in and effectively fired me. I was being gaslighted into thinking it was me. But he operates in secrecy and doesn't want a strong personality. It hit me hard...I was speechless. Within 30 minutes I'd called 2 friends. One offered me a job immediately the other offered me advice on setting up my own business. In 3 weeks I've set up my own business and am serving out my notice…
/r/askTRP16/08/18 04:18 PM
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Honestly, they know and they don't care. If they cared they wouldn't be plates they'd be your LTR. The point of spinning plates is not to worry. I have had up to 5 at one time. When one goes away, another fills in. When I'm free and I call around, first one available gets my attention. They know. Eventually they leave. The point is to get good with women by being with women.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 02:00 PM
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To provide a bit of background she's 28 and Chinese, Means only child, princess, entitled. You tolerating her nonsense then putting your foot down prompted her to lash out like this---think of how a child would act when confronted. I've been through this. The best thing you can do is walk away. She'll of course come chasing after you---that is unless by "taking a break" she's already got something planned. This is a more likely scenario. A 28 year old Chinese girl in my experience wouldn't do th…
/r/askTRP11/08/18 09:49 PM
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For gods sake I met her on tinder, I stopped reading at this point. I know how it ends...badly. Hard next and walk away. Giving one of your beers to the dude she dressed up for. Instant ghosting. So you did well. Now make sure you don't cave in. Experimental LTR Right
/r/askTRP11/08/18 04:47 PM
1

Yes, it's called "Hypergamy"---the tendency to trade up sexually.
/r/askTRP11/08/18 01:47 AM
2

What she's really saying is: "I'd like to start seeing other people so you start doing it so I can feel good about cucking you..." I think it's time to end things and move on.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:11 AM
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I can relate. I was basically fired after a very lengthy career. I was undermined, sidelined, treated quite badly and still delivered what was expected. Within 30 minutes of learning of this I called 2 friends, both of whom run their own business: one offered to hire me, the second counseled me to start my own business and introduced me to someone who does this. Within 3 weeks I had started the paperwork, incorporated, developed a name, brand, business cards and began reaching out to potential c…
/r/askTRP10/08/18 10:30 AM
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I had this. The best thing is to ghost her. In my case this shit went on and on. It got worse with her chasing after and banging one or two of my friends. When I ghosted her, she went nuts. But I held firm. It's been 18 months of silence. She still comes out every time I dj just to...I don't know why. But not a word from me.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 02:18 PM
1

It was a fuck up. I had my phone at the table, I was walking her back to hers. Hilarious. The second girl I got it straight.
/r/askTRP06/08/18 11:35 AM
2

The issue here isn't her it's you. You've experienced being with a hot busy woman and now realize that they get horny and act on it. She's been super keen but logistics are a real problem. Everything is going normally. What's happened is you are thinking you did something wrong and are freaking about it. Stop obsessing. Leave it. She will return when she's got time. I met a hot girl online. We were set to meet a few times but she flaked. I never got angry. I left it for 2 months, then reached ou…
/r/askTRP05/08/18 11:36 PM
2

Stop wasting your time. This is what orbiters do.
/r/askTRP05/08/18 11:31 PM
1

Hey trouble maker, let's go for drinks... Or some variation of that ending with "let's go for drinks".
/r/askTRP05/08/18 11:29 PM
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I had a similar situation and cock-blocked myself this past weekend. I met a girl at a club, got her on the dance floor, ran standard game. She gave me IOI's. I then said "If you promise to behave let's grab a drink, what's your number?" Her: "Be- what?" Me: Behave... This went on a few times and because of the noise she could get the context of the line and finally I said "Before I leave I"ll grab your number..." I didn't get a chance to grab my phone before she left. Point is...be bold. These …
/r/askTRP05/08/18 11:27 PM
1

If you read The Rational Male you'll have read the part about not Dumpster Diving...
/r/askTRP05/08/18 11:24 PM
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A year ago, I loved a girl. This really has not place in a Red Pill forum. What would you do? (I only want to bang her) Read the side bar. Seriously, stop wasting everyone's time here seeking blue pill dating advice. Tell her how you feel, offer to paint her kitchen, get her a card, ask her if she would like to meet for coffee sometime...
/r/askTRP05/08/18 01:40 PM
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You're over-thinking this. She's a plate. I have plates who don't reply for several days. But if they want to come over I don't really care. I've got several on the go at any given time.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 03:24 PM
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No. I've had this for years. Take the drug program when you start to show symptoms. Use the cream. Wait 2 weeks until the sores heal and you're back to normal. Stress brings it on. I now have rarer outbreaks. It's related to chicken pox. The outbreaks I have vary from mild to severe. I use condoms and avoid banging girls when I have an outbreak. The more you stress about it the worse it gets. As for resigning yourself to banging 5's … the more you lower your goals the more of a loser you'll be. …
/r/askTRP30/07/18 09:09 PM
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Be careful with this. There are girls who are blackmailers on Tinder and other dating apps. I got into a situation like this a few years back. I didn't even whip it out but got into a video chat with what appeared to be a hot girl. I later learned by researching this that it was a video of a naked girl put up to lure some unsuspecting idiot into whipping it out. As it turned out these blackmailers created a video of what looked like me with a massive cock flopping around in the foreground like I…
/r/askTRP30/07/18 09:06 PM
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I dropped my plates for her because i though she was special...sweet innocent christian girl, This happens and it sort of happened to me a few times. In one case I handled it badly and got upset, called her out on it...it only made things worse. You handled it well. Now hold firm and ghost her. In another case I ghosted the girl and it's been 18 months and I have never spoken to her. She still stalks me--shows up when I'm djing, shows up at a club where people are celebrating my birthday. But I …
/r/askTRP29/07/18 10:53 PM
1

Often girls self-sabotage. Don't over-invest.
/r/askTRP29/07/18 02:12 AM
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Get off your keyboard and meet real women...see how a stupid idea like that plays with a real women. Dick. Read more, post less.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 04:32 PM
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Add one more line: "Hope they tip well...I could use a steak dinner". The last part lowers their value.
/r/askTRP26/07/18 03:00 AM
4

I learned game, read everything I could about the Mystery Method and Krauser's London Daygame Model/Daygame Mastery. Joined Latin dance classes, became more involved in organizing, djing. Try talking a bit to anyone you meet--old people are great for this.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 02:20 AM
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You're not alone. I am still battling this after YEARS and tons of success with women and professionally... It's co-dependence---you're basing your feelings on how you "think/feel" other people will see you. It is a mindset not founded in reality. The reality...no one cares. You've got to just go through these things and when you feel that surge of surge of SHAME because that's what this is---stop, pause and understand what triggered or prompted that surge of SHAME. SHAME is the belief that you …
/r/askTRP21/07/18 03:26 AM
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I think there's a point in every interaction where you've got to know when to push and when to pull. When girls say this, they mean to add that there's always an exception and in this case you're not it. If I get this I smile and go "sure...." then eject. It's not unusual and there's no magic formula for flipping this around.
/r/askTRP21/07/18 03:22 AM
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It's a temporary stage. Move out of it into something more productive.
/r/askTRP16/07/18 09:13 PM
1

Reframe it. Realize your hurt feelings are your own and actually---no one cares. You're actually magnifying it by thinking it's bigger than it is. I know. Instead find a way to channel that anger into something productive. Example: plate I was banging starts trying to bang my friends. I get upset. Then I realize...no. I'm just going to bang other girls and ghost her. To this day she still stalks me. I've moved on. Recent example, at my work I get told my position is being eliminated, no support …
/r/askTRP16/07/18 02:28 PM
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Credit goes to Mystery.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:28 PM
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Yes this is possible response. Proceed as normal...continue agree and amplifying. I use the word "fuck" as much as possible. "I'm totally serious...we are NOT going to fuck...I'm not doing you doggie style...I will NOT spank your ass and pull your hair...nope..." Then change the subject.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:28 PM
1

Shes 30 and goes to psychist. I stopped reading after this.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 04:33 PM
2

It happens. Nothing you did. It could be you red-lined the car and spiked the buying temperature...now she has some regrets... Either way it's her issue. Just leave it. Girls on Tinder have issues.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 04:27 PM
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"I'm glad you said that...." Her: "Why?" Here's where you reframe it Me; I"m not just going to let you fuck me...you have to wine and dine me first. This works every time. It reframes the shit test, it uses the word "fuck" which embeds it in her mind and it's a version of Agree and Amplify... Every time I've used it...the shit test dissolves.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 04:25 PM
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Whatever happened, no one remembered and it's probably not nearly as bad as you thought. It's only a setback if you think it is....otherwise it was just a fun night out and you made a jerk of yourself... Next time don't do that.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 07:04 PM
1

They are as long as you don't come off as a thirsty coyote. It has to be something YOU truly want to learn...then you can DHV the shit out of the girls taking it. I piece of shit ex-friend would take the same Latin Dance classes I did--to chase pussy---and it got him basically socially exiled. At one point he was trying bang a plate of mine...came off as a desperate loser. Flamed out. Don't be that guy.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 11:18 AM
4

Old joke: Guy walks into a doctor's office, shows the doctor his arm and says "Doc, my arm hurts when I do this" and proceeds to move his arm at the elbow. Doctor looks at him and says: "If it hurts when you do that, don't do it." Find a better way to come off as more mysterious. I usually just smile and say "I'm your basic international man of mystery..." That leads to follow up questions indicating a level of engagement. If I said I was a forklift driver in a warehouse....yah...well, tingle ki…
/r/askTRP14/07/18 02:07 AM
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This can happen in school, special interest classes or work. I now am friendly but otherwise sexless in my office environment. I tease but never go beyond that unless i'm more familiar with the girl. It means I won't bang them and they may even consider me a non-sexual prospect. But context is king. There are plenty of other opportunities to meet girls than in that kind of environment. I think you came off as uncalibrated and in a climate of power struggles you have to be smarter. Next time dial…
/r/askTRP14/07/18 02:05 AM
4

..."always room for one more in my harem..."
/r/askTRP12/07/18 10:46 PM
1

Just reply with "k"... leave it. No use in pushing.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 10:45 PM
2

I have this. I'm late 40's, hugely successful, banging girls in their 20's, cool hobbies. But I'm constantly second-guessing myself. Despite understanding the Red Pill and acting in a way that demonstrates those behaviours...I still have this nagging need for validation. The only thing I can tell you dude is to just plough on. Keep doing what you're doing. There is no "old me"....there's just "me". I have to keep positive through positive self-talk, doing things I never thought I would---like no…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 12:35 AM
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It's over. But you cannot show any sort of over emotion. Go about your day as per normal but immediately: get a separate room in the house do not fuck her anymore keep all conversation in front of the kid regular get a lawyer and protect all your assets find a quick way to kick her out if legally possible but get legal advice on how to protect you assets and move towards a divorce. start planning to reboot your life dude---you're free now. Find a way to ensure you keep access to your kids.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 12:00 PM
1

Typical BPD behavior. It doesn't feel like it right now, but honestly, it's a good thing you're out of this. Be prepared for her to return and try to "hoover" you back in. It's not because of your great game---it's to feed her empty sense of self. These girls are jello without the mold. You were that mold for a while. Now she's gotten too close and run away. Don't try to understand. If it makes you feel any better just know you probably got the best you could from her and it's time to move on.
/r/askTRP10/07/18 12:03 PM
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She had Cluster-B tendencies. But labels aren't helpful beyond helping to understand it wasn't you, it was her. I have been in this situation and it's draining. You get sucked in despite having an iron frame and no matter what you do they have a way of attacking that frame. In the last case 2 years ago a plate I was banging kept pushing for some sort of exclusivity---which I resisted. Her tactic was to start chasing my 2 beta thirsty loser friends and trying to play everyone off each other. I sa…
/r/askTRP10/07/18 12:51 AM
1

So I recently got a new girlfriend who shows everything I want in a LTR You call her an LTR but it sounds like you met, took her out and then became exclusive way too soon. Now you're starting to discover...ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT (AWALT). Stop being so quick to dive in. You'll always discover things about women that are a major turn off. I've banged girls who were the ex gf's of friends of mine. But because they were just plates...I didn't really care. That's the difference. You care.
/r/askTRP09/07/18 11:44 PM
3

I answer: "A better question is when is the next time I"m going to have sex..."
/r/askTRP07/07/18 12:12 PM
1

Simple, my rule is I'm friends with them IF I don't want to fuck them If you're friends with them and WANT to fuck them...you're an orbiter. I do have female friends who I take dance classes with, sometimes have drink with---practice game on. But do not want to fuck because i'm not attracted to them---even though some are hot.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 01:55 PM
3

Girls immediately slot guys into 3 categories: Guys they want to fuck, guys they want to marry, guys they'd never fuck or marry. You're giving off a provider vibe and you're getting girls who want to go on dates and be wined and dined. I meet girls and make my sexual intent clear. If my game is tight I can pull. I've banged girls I met just 2 hours prior. Because they've slotted me into the guys they wanna fuck category because I'm believable in that category.
/r/askTRP03/07/18 03:16 PM
3

I find myself in these situations and then start to consider---am I giving off some sort of negative feedback because i'm inside my head over this wave of rejections? When this happens...i'll pull back. I'll reframe in my head some positive self-talk. I'll stop approaching and gaming for the moment. Leave. Get a good night's sleep and then consider my options. A related point: after a long period in my current job I just found out my supervisor wants me out---lots of different reasons---he's mad…
/r/askTRP30/06/18 02:19 AM
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Holy shit...pure gold here...
/r/askTRP30/06/18 02:13 AM
2

Leave it...don't respond. Let her start bombarding you. When she asks repeatedly why you didn't respond; "Busy...drinks?" If she in any way deflects this invite...ghost and delete forever. Here's a few insights about Chinese women and Taiwanese are ethnically Chinese: Male-dominated culture, so you can imagine, the girls really need to effectively learn "Game" to stand out...they're experts at grooming orbiters (like you). They are competitive by nature---because of having to try to stand out in…
/r/askTRP26/06/18 12:17 PM
3

Stop obsessing, find other girls, ghost her and wait for her to reach out. She will reach out--they always do. Start reframing. One-word texts, replying 5 hours later etc. Then invite her out again: "Drinks...Friday." If she blows you off, delete her. Asian girls HATE being ghosted forever. It's like Vietnam, you have to destroy the village to save the village. Walk away dude.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 11:29 PM
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These are shit-tests you're failing. Taiwanese and Chinese girls need tight game. You're acting like one of her Asian orbiters. You banged her--what more do you want from her? Seriously. You're sounding very needy when what you need to be doing is ignoring her, then texting her with instructions: "Drinks, Friday. Dress hot". I've been gaming and banging Asian girls under 30. They get like yours if you're not firm. It's a shit test which you're failing.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 01:21 PM
2

One of mine started asking me to take her out as well. I would invite her over, we'd make pasta---or in other situations she would cook and i'd bang her. But this also lead to more stupid games---her hitting on my thirsty friends who would be more than willing to take her out of expensive dinners and drinks. I bided my time, kept banging her, further distanced myself and when she had a text meltdown as a premise to meet up with one of my "friends" I ghosted her. It was classic. So stop worrying …
/r/askTRP23/06/18 02:29 AM
3

You don't need the drama and your friend will hate you. If you want to be a Red Pill coach you don't do that to friends. Tons of other girls out there, avoid creating problems for yourself.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 10:13 PM
3

A so-called "Friend" tried gaming a girl I was already banging. She was pulling crap by texting him, asking him to meet up etc etc. The ploy was a bid to get me to commit as a boyfriend. I didn't. But the point of this story is when my "Friend" admitted he'd been taking her our for drinks and expensive dinners I never spoke to either of them again---ghosted both. Of course she had no further interest in him after that so he lost me as a friend and isn't getting banged. Don't be stupid. If you va…
/r/askTRP16/06/18 12:31 PM
1

you're an idiot. stop trolling. Guys come here with serious questions and issues looking for insights. Get off the internet and start meeting people for real.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 11:50 AM
3

It's a shit test. Agree and amplify. "True, but for now you'll do..."
/r/askTRP14/06/18 01:22 PM
9

A plate does this to me. It was a chat from some loser she met online telling her he wants to find a wife. I replied; "cool, he can make us breakfast..."
/r/askTRP14/06/18 01:20 PM
3

This happened to me within a year of me discovering game. I had a "friend" who I used to hang out with whenever I visited her city on business. She was quite attractive. One weekend she came to visit with her friend. I gamed her, then I banged her. After that she started flipping out. But I understood what was happening and I understood the male/female sexual dynamic---something my pre Red Pill self was too nervous about exploring. That was 8 years ago. I see her once a year and we bang. You too…
/r/askTRP14/06/18 12:24 PM
2

She's still thinking about you.
/r/askTRP13/06/18 12:00 AM
2

Reading the guy's texts, I give him 10 for boldness, but 5 for effectiveness. I fall into this trap as well...I fire off a funny one, then she doesn't respond...I think hmmmm maybe she didn't get the joke and fire off a second and then boom...blown out. Less is more. I've now taken to replying in one-word or asking a girl out with one word: "Wednesday?" Surprisingly there are two types of girls: ones who love texting and ones who see it as something they do selectively. If you make it too easy--…
/r/askTRP10/06/18 11:18 AM
1

Girls do this all the time. This is why you need an abundance mentality. There's no specific reason she flaked--she probably had 3 other offers. Game increases your chances of getting laid but it's not a magic formula. You have to get out and circulate and make plans with several.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 02:46 AM
3

No. This has been the source of all my failures with women and what eventually lead me to discover the Red Pill. Here's what this line of thinking does: Pedestalizes the girl Sets unrealistic expectations Raises her value and lowers yours Sets you up for oneitis---a "crush" Fucks up your calibration by making you second-guess every interaction, text, response This is the reason to spin plates.
/r/askTRP10/06/18 02:43 AM
6

Your sudden assertiveness triggered her abandonment fears. Like the other guys say, she was always crazy, your beta nature just didn't allow you to see it.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 09:17 AM
4

I find this too. It goes in waves for me and i'm in that slump. Like most things, I just plough on. I force myself to go out. I continue gaming and being social. I just don't make an issue if i don't go beyond having a good banter. I was killing it for a while then like you say started to get disappointed. But i think part of that is avoiding the prospect of rejection. Just keep doing it. Stop rationalizing not doing it.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 02:40 AM
2

a fart joke. well done.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 11:13 AM
2

First of all, a movie is a terrible date idea because you're sitting awkwardly in the dark not talking. A better idea is to meet up for drinks somewhere and then take it from there. "hey smiley girl, let's meet up for drinks" If she passes, leave it. It means you haven't established enough attraction. I find sometimes that girls will either give me their number or i'll take it after gaming them. If they don't want to meet up after it means I didn't establish enough attraction. Time to move on.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:56 PM
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The problem isn't the plate...it's that this "friend" has broken your trust by blabbing crap about you to her...to curry favour...and she's clearly using him to get to you. I was in the exact same situation. I dumped the girl. Then i distanced myself from the guy. But the "friend" was still in touch with her. So finally he approached me all ansy and nervous...said he'd gone out with her and she'd gotten drunk (of course he was plying her with wine) but nothing happened and he's a friend etc etc.…
/r/askTRP07/06/18 12:37 PM
1

Some girls will step up and offer. In some cases, the girls I'm banging are working as au pair's and have no money so in those cases I don't take them out, I invite them over and get them to cook or the costs involved are a lot less. In other circumstances before the bill comes I'll say "I'll get this, you get drinks after..." Otherwise I go to really cheap places and have a drink and play pool which doesn't cost me much at all and then i gauge whether I want to bang or see this girl again.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 02:23 AM
2

She wants you to chase her and qualify yourself. Don't. If i get something like this I usually just leave it and move on...it's Tinder for fuck's sake...there's always another potential lay on the next screen. As for what you wrote, don't take what guys here are saying, if she was interested she'd laugh at that and banter.
/r/askTRP02/06/18 02:20 AM
2

You're like a virus...you just never give up and yet you make it so obvious. Fuck off...
/r/askTRP01/06/18 05:44 PM
7

She hasn't been with any other guys since we broke up cough cough oneitis cough cough
/r/askTRP31/05/18 12:44 PM
1

That sounds retarded but nearly every fucking time it goes through my head. Negative self-talk. Wishful thinking. These are parts of the pattern of codependent behavior. You cannot be happy unless someone tells you it's ok...or that you're good or that you deserve it...whatever it is, your whole world view is formed by how others see you. I know. I've struggled with this most of my life. But I've simply had to over-come it. There are strategies to dealing with and breaking these patterns and goi…
/r/askTRP31/05/18 11:19 AM
1

Nothing unusual here. Had a situation where girl asks for my number. I send ping text, she responds. Pretty standard. It's all going great. Then i suggest a meet up. Dead silence. I leave it and move on. The idea is to have a few of these on the go at any one time so you don't end up obsessing about the unicorn. Her value is much higher than yours and she knows it. There's no mystery to what you're doing.
/r/askTRP31/05/18 01:14 AM
1

Co-dependency requires either cognitive behavioural therapy which i went through briefly and didn't do much or a more conscious effort to recognize and stop/reframe the triggers that prompt the co-dependent reaction. Read Codependent No More, great book with exercises. It's taken me 20+ years to deal with mine and i'm much better but still not at the Zero Fucks Given point....
/r/askTRP30/05/18 11:47 PM
4

I refuse to commit to an unstable relationship. So why were you together...FOR TWO YEARS!! This is an hard next right? You really need to ask? Read everything you can about co-dependence. Start working on that. Your self-esteem is so low right now that you've wasted 2 years with someone immature, lazy and unstable. The age gap seems to be that you feel lucky to be with her. Read more about the Red Pill...work on breaking your co-dependence.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 02:21 PM
4

You're taking what she says wayyyy too seriously and she's touching a nerve. Next time this happens smile...smirk, stare right into her eyes and very slowly say: "Oh? Don't feel bad, i still prefer older women. Enjoy it while you can." Let's break this down: "Oh... that's the pause that will get her hamster spinning Don't feel bad Reframe i still prefer older women. Demonstrate higher value, your youth is valuable. Enjoy it while you can." Neg
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:47 AM
1

Virtue signaling is when people act sanctimoniously as if they are better than everyone else (showing their virtue) not as an act of genuine goodness but to put other people down. In the case I'm referring to it shows it self as: "Guys who dress badly shouldn't be allowed to ask girls to dance" ---written by a guy it's aimed at trying to make himself look better than everyone else. it's fake.
/r/askTRP28/05/18 11:29 AM
2

It requires a complete reframing of your own mental state and values. Men have been conditioned through media, politics, pop culture, books, movies, social media and laws to pedestalize women. I see this now and realize that at times I also slip into being intimidated by some...SOME women in certain situations. These situations are usually social and it's when my guard is down and i'm gaming and they react strongly or resist or start virtue signaling. It hasn't happened in quite a while but has …
/r/askTRP27/05/18 02:26 PM
1

it literally is a Disney story beyond what I believed was possible. Blue pill fantasy.... How do I make it good and fun for her to enjoy without her thinking I’m a “player” and stuff, Beta thinking: how do I make someone like me? You're headed for a disaster and here asking for Blue Pill dating advice not Red Pill life-coaching. Your confused mindset is common. Many guys discover game without internalizing the concepts. You become good at picking up girls but not keeping them because they percei…
/r/askTRP27/05/18 03:45 AM
1

My "Friend" wasn't really a friend. I immediately ghosted him. He knew he'd fucked up and started sucking up to me. I sent him a simple text: "Fuck off you duplicitous piece of shit". Before the key board jockeys start laying with "beta bitch" the point of this was there were at least 60 other girls he could have chased but instead he acted like a thirsty loser. She played him perfectly. I ghosted her. I cut him off. There were no winners in that scenario and i walked away with my dignity.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 11:58 AM
2

Two things: she's trying to start shit with you and your friends and secondly he ain't your friend. I have a similar situation. This guy is creating drama for you and it's working.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 12:06 AM
7

3 years ago i hard-nexted my Oneitis. We had been banging for 9 months, she dumped me...I had oneitis for a year. Finally I just realized i was an idiot. Immediately after for at least a year she chased to get my attention. Now, 3 years later she tries to get my attention from time to time--the latest is by trying to bang a friend of mine. I've told him very clearly don't create drama for me and have since distanced myself from this guy. But overall I've realized she's gotten older and is pathet…
/r/askTRP24/05/18 12:04 AM
2

There's a weak frame here. You can't believe your "luck". The real question you should be asking is: "Can I do better?" That's always the Red Pill question. You should also be spinning plates to avoid coming back here with the title: "My 30 year old Ukrainian GF dumped me for a younger guy..."
/r/askTRP21/05/18 01:16 AM
9

Better question: Are any women rational?
/r/askTRP20/05/18 02:49 AM
3

I think....that's your rationalization hamster trying to weasel out of gaming and banging more girls...be careful you don't use the "I can get any girl I want but i just don't want to..."---mode. 28? Dude you've been holding out too long---why? Fear? Lack of self-confidence? Stop lying to yourself it was no big deal and start being a man and going for what you want.
/r/askTRP19/05/18 02:15 AM
2

I banged a girl who had a tattoo of another guy's name on her ass. Turned out to be my middle name which made it mildly acceptable for the short term. True to form...i asked her whether she ever thought about getting the name removed or inked over. "When I get married..." she said believing her own bullshit. She was 34 at the time and could stop a train... She' now almost 40 and works hard to keep those looks up....still not married. Oh and yes she was nuts.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 11:20 AM
1

Happens all the time to me. It happens when guys try to sabotage my chances with other girls or pressure the girls in my group to avoid me or not talk to me...Social pressures make it hard for them. Privately these girls will chat with me, publicly no way. I started Djing... I was so good I shook up the other dj's who'd become complacent. They'd bad mouth me on social media---usually indirectly. I just kept going and people kept turning out. Suddenly these same people started copying some of my …
/r/askTRP15/05/18 12:17 PM
2

It's both...she wants to see if you start drooling and chasing like a thirsty coyote. Don't chase or appear too eager. Smile and say: "Behave". Game and escalate as per usual.
/r/askTRP14/05/18 11:31 PM
1

The Go Fuck Ten Other Women sounds like a cliché until you set your mind to it. I did this when I was in a similar situation....then i went and fucked ten MORE other women. You're wallowing in self-pity and guess what---no one cares. So stop it and move forward. Step by step. She wasn't that special...she wasn't. You'll see that if you GFTOW.
/r/askTRP13/05/18 02:11 AM
3

You again? Give it up...stop making a mockery of dudes asking for help...
/r/askTRP07/05/18 02:17 PM
2

True story, I had a friend visiting me when I was organizing a party. At this party was a MILF, a married woman was there and while me and my friend were cleaning up she was helping and hanging around. I could see she was trying to escalate and I wasn't interested so left. Around 930am the next morning I get a FB text from her husband asking me where she was: "She didn't come home last night..." I immediately realized my friend banged her. Yup. But not only that...she had called her husband from…
/r/askTRP07/05/18 12:23 PM
2

I'm going to take a different approach to the rest of these guys replying. "Hey" is a ping text. If she was invested or interested, she'd text back "Hey" or reply. She didn't. Leave it. She'll respond. Texting with a full plan? That's like shouting into a tunnel. I always send a ping text, when I don't get a response I leave it.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:27 PM
2

I think the problem became that I stopped giving a fuck. Ok but.... This includes snide remarks in conversations and telling everyone anything that is on my mind. I was a typical people pleaser and maybe the change is too sudden. Now you're back to giving a fuck. This is a situation I faced when i first discovered game. The "Fake it until you make it" means you have to not only act like you don't give a fuck...but you have to actually personally BELIEVE you don't give a fuck. It's a process. You…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:41 AM
1

I had this same issue for years, practically all my life. I identified it 20 years ago as co-dependency. It's bad programming that leads to these bouts of anxiety. I still get it but then i stop myself and try to dissect the triggers for it. I avoid the triggers: drama, negative people. Also i have to recite like a mantra my successes to over-take all that negative self-feedback that propels me into that anxious state you describe. It's truly about recognizing what is driving this and taking it …
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:49 PM
7

Troll...
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:53 AM
7

A story and a cautionary tale. I had a plate I was banging who wanted me to get more serious. She was truly nuts but I was banging her. At some point she started chasing after 2 friends of mine---and then telling me they were hanging out. But these two guys showed their true colours as thirsty losers. So plate has melt-down, I ghost her, she apparently gets one of these "friends" to take her out to an expensive dinner, gets sloppy drunk, gets the wine to go and takes him to the park and tries to…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:39 AM
3

Frank and Lola: a lesson in how NOT to game a girl. Perfect for a lot of you guys coming here for advice. I just re-watched Basic Instinct from a Red Pill perspective. The Sharon Stone character is clearly a Borderline Personality Disordered woman. The Michael Douglas character thinks he's alpha, but he's always in chase mode and she manipulates him perfectly into falling in love with her. The ambiguous ending suggests he's her next victim in more ways than one.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 12:27 AM
4

Go away asshole. You've been banned.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 07:22 PM
0

Just had this happen to me: girl actively sexting me...suddenly flakes claiming she can't get a travel permit to come to my city. My response: "find a way to make it up to me..." Her: But my documents were held up by customs blah blah bla Me: hahaha, find a way to make it up to me And...leave it. But what made my story so sweet was when one flaked, i lined up two others to bang on the days primary target was supposed to come. So now ball is in her court and I've got my weekend plate. Spin plates…
/r/askTRP27/04/18 05:56 PM
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Two things: Your text game is blah....read everything you can. Buy Krauser's Daygame Mastery practice and learn how to sexualize. It's Tinder....it's on or it's off.... I get them into the real world as quickly as possible or they are cold leads.
/r/askTRP25/04/18 04:25 PM
1

Another week, another handle...fuck off...stop trolling here. You've cut and pasted the same thing on 5 different posts...reported.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 11:55 AM
1

You again? You're like a virus....we ban you and you come back. Get a life. Stop cutting and pasting.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 11:43 AM
1

I do miss her Careful here...you buried the lead. "Girl I miss who ghosted me get in touch" Plates drop, usually because they have bf's or other guys. They come back when that falls apart. That's likely what happened here? Are you ok with this? IF yes then meet up and smash. If you're heading towards oneitis...better hold back for your own sanity.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 11:37 PM
1

Ignorance is bliss....you didn't know what you didn't know and it was all "luck" and "Hope" in my Blue Pill days. Now that I understand the Red Pill and Game I can't unsee certain things. Now i'm conscious of every interaction. I just texted a girl to meet up and teased her then offered her logistics. She was busy. I begin worrying: "Did i text too much?" "was i too anxious???" In other words, I've progressed to the point where i can be objectively conscious of what I'm doing. That's good. Now s…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 01:04 AM
14

My finger slipped..don't make regret this...
/r/askTRP22/04/18 01:54 AM
1

Wrong board dude...nice try on the trolling.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 12:06 PM
1

I immediately report him and he disappears only to reappear under another equally idiotic handle but with the same cut and paste nonsense...
/r/askTRP21/04/18 08:56 AM
1

It's easy to say "Stop caring"...but you're invested...OVER invested. This is the time to cut it off, ghost her and start to do a deeper dive into all things Red Pill. I still find myself getting wrapped up in these ridiculous dramas. When i do...I stop, pause and reflect on the various Red Pill truths. The most important is to spin plates and adopt an abundance mentality. That requires incredible discipline and a mindset shift. You're hoping against hope that this girl you invested so much in w…
/r/askTRP21/04/18 02:23 AM
4

Archwinger was a great Red Pilled commentator who I always looked out for. There is one idiot who constantly posts the same cut and paste nonsense : "Ghost the bitch" or some variation. He has ridiculous handles...pretty easy to spot. When I see his crap i report him and his posts disappear. If you see crappy commentators or trolls report them, that crap brings down the overall quality of the board.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 02:20 AM
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Yes as long as you're totally not interested in banging her and you still game and tease her. The orbiter part comes from the hope of banging her. Also, you have to make sure she's not leading you. I have several girls who are "friends"...but they see me as masculine and not some push over supplicating beta.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 02:17 AM
1

Dude...let's break this down: Me: “It was nice meeting you last night” Her: “Yeah you too:)” Me: “We should hangout sometime” Her: “Okay:)” Was that asking her out? Seems like a comfort text after a bang. Fast forward to earlier today Me: “Doing anything tonight?” Wrong: Better: "hey, let's meet up for drinks...what's your schedule like?" Her: “My bestie and I have plans” What did you expect? Ask a question, get an answer. She didn't follow up with an alternative. Girls do this if they really wa…
/r/askTRP20/04/18 11:17 AM
1

Ok. It's a coincidence that your ex was host. Either way best to avoid situations that put you into the vicinity of potential drama. I go to a club several of my crazy ex's go to. I totally blank them to avoid any possibility of seeing them or interacting with them. In one case the ex tries to hit on my friend every time he comes in. I ignore. After I let him know that's not cool. By reacting and her apologizing you entered her frame.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 11:47 PM
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I'm fucking this girl for a few months now That's kind of a crucial part of the story. Why are you concerned? Girls flake. She's shit-testing you. Soft-next her for a few days....Read how to do that properly. Always have other girls and options.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 12:01 PM
1

This is her way of keeping you as an orbiter. I get this from time to time...i back off. Met a smoking girl online...we start chatting, she's sexting me regularly. I invite her to come to my city...she cancels last minute. From there it's a lot of waffle. I just back off...you made the invite, leave it.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 11:27 AM
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My ex has been seeing a guy for a few months directly after I ended the relationship. She tree branched... I was invited a small campus event that she hosted What a coincidence she would extend that invite... after I left. My ex called me to apologize Apologize for what?? Dude she's playing one guy off another and digging the drama. This whole two dogs growling eat each other shtick is for her benefit. You did nothing wrong...he's clearly struck by the realization he's the "Rebound" guy and one …
/r/askTRP18/04/18 11:24 AM
1

You again?
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:52 PM
1

You again?
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:50 PM
3

This comes in various forms... A few responses: "Behave..." "Wow...someone's horny" "zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....who's this?" "Seems you really want me bad huh?" Anything that flips the script.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 02:48 AM
2

Here's a story that puts it into perspective. Two girls I ghosted continue to hang out at places i go to. In both cases it's 100% ghosting---nothing, walked away never contacted. They constantly try to get my attention---in one case the girl tries to hit on my friend. My friend trolls me by dancing with her. Then laughing saying "You're still in love with her! Hahahah" kind of thing. No, but when I ghost someone I don't want to be reminded of them in any way. So i leave. That's the point. They w…
/r/askTRP15/04/18 02:33 AM
6

Some girls are texters, some aren't. Text game is critical to gaming girls. This "Text for logistics" is 10 years out of date. All girls see texting as a test of your ability to fuck with their minds: That doesn't mean texting all the time--it depends on the girl. I text a lot with some girls...who send nude selfies and sext a lot... For others it's "Let's meet" and logistics Stop looking for "rules" and starting learning to calibrate your game.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 12:39 PM
1

I did this exact thing...over Easter. Except it was once. After that the HB5 kept texting. I just ignored.
/r/askTRP12/04/18 11:23 PM
1

It's a statement of clear intent. As opposed to: "Can I rip off your clothes?" or "Would you like me to rip off your clothes"? When would i used it? When i was escalating with a girl I was about to bang.
/r/askTRP12/04/18 11:12 AM
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They do that... This is why you should spin plates and have multiple options. She'll come back, they always do. Just get on with doing other things.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 11:56 PM
1

"Join me, what's you schedule?" "Let's go for drinks..." "Come over...I'm free Tuesday or Thursday, what works for you?" "I want to rip off your clothes..." Etc. Examples of maintaining frame.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 11:54 PM
3

Common shit test. I asked a girl I made out with and finger bang to join a dance contest. Her: "So many pretty girls to chose from" Mystery nailed this as the "Why me?" shit test. Me: Indeed. Always room for one more... That smashed that shit test.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 05:20 PM
3

Read everything you can on AMOG'ing....there is a whole body of work around your topic. But it amounts to ensuring you have built up enough attraction and if the AMOGing techniques don't work, stop hanging out with a girl who disrespects you. I avoid bringing hot girls into the vicinity of other distractions.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 10:11 PM
3

Ghost her. She's not interested.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 09:02 PM
1

What you do next is less important than HOW you ask her out. I think calibration is key. Whatever you do should lead to finding a way to escalate and bring her back to your place. But a few things to consider: girls get it...they know this is about banging them so don't try to under-play what you really want. Secondly, you've already hung out once..so you might want to try the same approach and invite her back to your place for cooking and salsa: "If you promise not to burn down my kitchen, let'…
/r/askTRP08/04/18 09:01 PM
1

"let's do drinks...what's your schedule this week?"
/r/askTRP08/04/18 02:47 PM
5

He's already in the Friendzone by his own admissions, best to find someone else and use this one as social proof.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 03:48 AM
3

I already have 2 current plates that I acquired after getting involved with TRP over a year ago and I consider my game good enough to consistently get lays. You're qualifying yourself...you came here looking for advice, leave your ego at the door. I'm "obsessing" over a particular text You're a newbie...You're over-thinking the tactics instead of adopting the strategy which is "I'm the prize..." I'm only bringing up the other option in humorous way. You're offering options instead of issuing com…
/r/askTRP08/04/18 03:45 AM
3

You're making the common newbie mistake of obsessing over every single text. You're texts are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too long and cute, not sexual in any way. Still from the sounds of it you by some miracle manage to spark attraction. Rather than blowing it with this: Let's do dinner/movie tmrw, your place 7:30pm...unless you're up for something more adventurous 😈" You're in her fame....timid "unless"...worst approach eve. Just do: "Hey, let's broil some steaks, drink sangrias..." She'll say whatever…
/r/askTRP08/04/18 02:27 AM
5

There’s this girl in my friend circle, we’ve kind of been friends through friends for half a year, but I’m pretty sure she’s into me. Only lately I’ve started to take a proper interest in her. I feel like deep down, we both know we like each other. We are both uni students, for what it’s worth. This set up falls into the category of Blue Pill dating advice. A Red Pill way to position this would have been: "There's a girl in my social circle I've know and want to bang. How do I do this without ca…
/r/askTRP08/04/18 02:23 AM
1

The better question is why are you confused by their bad advice when you now have access to Red Pill truths which will help you make better decisions in approaching and seducing women.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 06:41 PM
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The Brad Pitt rule is for YOU to guard against rationalizing and self-hamstring: "Yah, she's probably just busy..." In some cases that may be true---in which case leave it and they'll re-engage. In most other cases, they're blowing you off.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 03:10 AM
17

Worst strategy ever. You do understand the concept of "pre-selection" right? That's a key Red Pill concept. Girls want to fuck a guy other girls want to fuck...it's deeply rooted in Evolutionary Psychology. Now pause and think for a second...you deliberately make yourself unattractive to ONE girl with the hopes contact with her will put you into contact with her hot friends. Except you leave out the part she tells those friends "He's so "NICE" and de-sexualizes you... Learn game, read everything…
/r/askTRP03/04/18 10:13 PM
1

She's a plate. There's no need to get upset. But...i do understand you can get attached to a plate... Truly having abundance means not caring whether she contacts you again or not because you're busy.
/r/askTRP03/04/18 10:10 PM
1

Continuously being direct to the same person despite clear signs she's not interested=needy
/r/askTRP03/04/18 10:08 PM
2

Do you think texting her, after a year of radio silence, to get shit off my chest is worth it? Seems beta as fuck to me, but could be quite rewarding. What do you think? You have an obsessive, co-dependent relationship. To even ask the question is to reveal you've been thinking about this situation and the drama. You're addicted to drama. Start finding healthier outlets for this and deal with that co-dependency which you need to make you feel alive.
/r/askTRP03/04/18 10:06 PM
3

Common situation.... I usually give it 2 tries then leave it. By tries i mean "Hey xx let's go for drinks..."
/r/askTRP03/04/18 09:56 PM
2

Something similar happened to me. Long story short, I cut him out. He knew i was pissed and why but still insisted on pushing me. I finally texted him: "Fuck off you duplicitous piece of shit". Now...was i right? His first reaction was to complain about me...to other girls!! So yah, he's a bitch. He still sees me and tries to be chummy an shake my hand. I hand him the limpest noodle of a handshake if I'm in public and walk away. This dude is not your friend. He's a shameless opportunist. Be care…
/r/askTRP03/04/18 02:31 PM
1

Sure, the sooner the better. Girls have a ton of options and orbiters. You want to weed out the time wasters early.
/r/askTRP03/04/18 02:28 PM
1

No. You're writing here because you already know the answer. You still have oneitis for this girl. You're not reaching out to her out of genuine compassion, you're looking for an excuse to contact her hoping she'll somehow appreciate this gesture and open herself up to another meet up. Don't do it. She's not a "Friend"...evidenced by you doing the right thing blocking/deleting etc. Stay strong dude. Move on.
/r/askTRP03/04/18 12:11 AM
1

I love her, but I really want to be able to just let the whole thing go now - I realise she will never be mine and I will always end up disappointed. Oneitis.. I feel like he will now get the improved version of her, who won't cheat again, who will now appreciate what she has, who will be a better partner who has regained respect and attraction, someone who's learned their lesson. No. You're projecting you're own "learnings" onto her hoping against hope that she's "Different". "Special" "The one…
/r/askTRP03/04/18 12:04 AM
2

Drama queen. Run.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 11:43 PM
-2

Another line that works: "To be continued..." And walk away or in response to chick texts: "I miss you" "To be continued..."
/r/askTRP01/04/18 12:52 PM
1

Agree and amplify: Her: We're equals You: Behave... Any more trolling just ignore, make other plans. This is now the reason to spin plates. If this happens to me---and it does---i just make plans with the next one who's free and up for whatever I'm up for. This is not some dream, it's possible if you start working on what's important to you and not trying to figure out someone else.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 03:32 AM
12

Best way to handle this is to set up a date. IF she dodges or whatever, stop responding. She'll get it. Women get it. What she wants is attention, she's uncertain over you. But the problem is tons of texting isn't going to solve this for her. I just fell into this trap. Girl I met online sets up date, sexts me for an entire week: sexy pix, sexy texts. The day of our meet up she sends me a note saying she's got an obligation she can't get out of. Right. I just replied; "Oh well..have fun" and lef…
/r/askTRP01/04/18 02:28 AM
5

Once she got here she went through all the emotions people go through during a breakup... anger, accusations, then desperate attempts to get me to change my mind, all culminating in her saying she loved me. This.... She said, "I love you. Do you love me?" and I just said "Yeah. But you should go." and I walked her to the door. THIS....aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand.... I don't want to ghost her... I feel like that's pretty fucked up to do to someone you've had sex with dozens of times and shared intimate th…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 03:46 AM
6

My question is, do I tell her why I want to breakup? For her, this will come completely out of the blue since she met my family a week ago Exactly this: next her, say as little as possible. Then break off all contact. It will be hard but after 2 weeks you'll have moved on. In future don't get so involved with a girl...
/r/askTRP30/03/18 06:06 PM
3

If they flake and they're plates or you haven't fucked them yet...shrug it off. I just had a girl i met online, who'd been sending me all sorts of hot selfies...flake on me last minute. She made up some bullshit excuse which was a clear provocation. Me; "oh well...have fun" That's it. why bother getting upset? I lined up another plate.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 08:14 AM
5

It's a challenge, but it has the potential for inducing the Anti-Slut Defense. You want to appeal to her sense of hypergamy: "You want a boy (lower value) or a man? (higher value) That's why the best boyfriend destroyer is "You're the best he'll ever do..." Implying that she could do better (with you).
/r/askTRP29/03/18 11:21 AM
1

Nexting a girl you haven't banged is like boycotting a restaurant you haven't eaten in...means nothing.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 11:19 AM
2

And girls won't care. They don't mind someone as old as their dad...they don't want a dude who LOOKS like their dad--daddy jeans, dad gut, trainers...hair in the ears....
/r/askTRP29/03/18 11:18 AM
0

A few things stand out in your post: Generally, he's seen as "fun to be around" in his friend group, in spite of serious self-confidence issues. Nice guy...non-sexual. Women categorize guys into lover or provider, he's a provider....or whatever: fun, attention etc. He is open to them about his relationship problems, probably way too much so considering the information has gotten all the way back to me. He's beta. The girl he's with now called Alex has cheated on him countless times, often with t…
/r/askTRP29/03/18 01:22 AM
11

Exactly...I'm early 50's but in great shape so girls can't tell the exact age they know "older" because I only target and game girls in their 20's. They'll say things like "You're my dad's age" or some similar crap. I just agree and amplify... tease back or reframe. 29? Come on. She's shit-testing you. Do you really think any girl can tell the difference in age between 27 and 29 and that makes a huge difference experience-wise? Unless you're a veteran or have some amazing life experience 27 and …
/r/askTRP28/03/18 11:57 PM
0

"In that case you can buy the first round of drinks..." This isn't "Soft next"---you can only next girls you've banged. This is drop a note like you don't care and move on. You did fine. I usually neg or tease them and then drop it. But...I do always ping them again from time to time. It's a low investment way to keep the lead alive. Just DHV's--if you're Djing....send a photo of the venue: "DJing tonight...come" That sort of thing.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 11:53 PM
2

Today the Girl said she wanted to hang as friends. You're wasting your time hanging out with her if you don't have "the talk". The talk is very simple: "I'm a man, you're a woman...i see you as a woman not a friend...If you're not interested i understand, there's no need for us to be in touch." Ghost. This works 100% of the time. Because if she's on the fence, she'll come running back because you've raised your value. If she truly did Friendzone you, you've just maintained frame and walked away.…
/r/askTRP28/03/18 03:07 PM
3

It's just really tough lol Sack up dude...that dick of yours won't suck itself...get out and start learning game.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 02:59 PM
1

because for girls, a call signifies something more intimate, something a bf does not a dude they just met or who they're banging. Get inside a girl's head if you want to get into her pants.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 02:58 PM
2

Every girl Self-defeating generalization. Stop deluding yourself and get out and meet women. You're using this false idea to avoid making changes to yourself and going out and meeting women.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 10:34 PM
1

Examine your motivations. Are you truly needing a break or is your mind fooling you into avoiding going out and meeting women? When you feel this go out and open 10 women to avoid that self-fueling delusion of "it's ok to take a break"...otherwise you'll be back here asking for help with "my game has suffered a setback, how do I get back into it?"
/r/askTRP25/03/18 10:31 PM
2

Girls hate calls....they do. This whole "text for logistics" is a bit old school. I don't know very many of the girls I'm banging in their 20's who don't love sexting, sending photos and find clever texting and bantering a major turn on. Text game is critical to banging girls in their 20's.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 01:27 PM
3

You: let's meet up at 6pm, Her: ok, i need to take the bus to xyz You: xyz? Ok, text when you're leaving i'll find you her: do you know xyz You: Send photo Her: ok, sometimes there's a traffic jam You get the idea....with girls this can go on for a while.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 03:38 AM
1

"We're both hungry, catch you later"...
/r/askTRP24/03/18 07:43 PM
2

You sound nervous. Don't be. One girl told me she fantasizes about me peeing on her... I just go with the flow (pun intended) and bring out from her why and the "feelz". If they feel that comfortable telling you this stuff lead them.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 05:58 PM
1

Enjoy it dude. She's going to start banging guys my age soon if you don't step it up. I have a 29 year old sending me hot selfies and calling herself my "little girl". Kinkiness is a way to express herself. Being an older dude girls at that age open themselves up to me in that way to explore all their dirty little fantasies because guys their own age just don't have that experience. Girls shit test to make sure they're not wasting their time on poseurs and losers so they don't feel cheap after t…
/r/askTRP24/03/18 05:14 PM
3

Troll...
/r/askTRP24/03/18 08:23 AM
1

Go away...
/r/askTRP24/03/18 02:02 AM
0

Troll...
/r/askTRP23/03/18 05:47 PM
1

How the f*ck do I stop this shit? There is a ton of online information if you google "game", there's so much amazing free information online. There's also great videos, the entire Pick up Artist reality tv show Mystery created is online. I bought Krauser's DayGame Mastery and his follow up book. They were the best investment in myself and game i ever made. Understanding game is one thing, understanding the mindset is entirely different. Understanding the lover vs provider dynamic. ' Understandin…
/r/askTRP23/03/18 01:10 PM
3

Had two amazing dates with one of my plates. You don't date plates, you bang them. I'm slowly starting to dread an excuse or a no. She's not a plate she's your oneitis. I'm thinking of 3 options: You left out...possibly quite deliberately the ONLY option: No response. Your game is completely uncalibrated. You should be already in her pants by the second meet up. It should be crystal clear from the first meet up that you're a sexual being.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:16 PM
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The girls weren't super attractive though. Maybe HB4 or HB5s. If me and her had something in common we'd start a long conversation based on that. Troll
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:11 PM
2

Mostly it has been online dating and small chats back and forth. The way things go is I'll ask them a few questions, what they do, >what are their hobbies, favorite places to go visit, foods, music, the whole nine. I think we've located the problem in your approach. Do you see it? It jumped out at me the second i read this epistle you wrote. Then I'll start describing things I like, music, programming, rock-climbing, cars. Things like this. Dude, there's no "game" here. No tease, no negs, no sex…
/r/askTRP23/03/18 01:09 AM
3

Condolences, sorry for your loss... Then act as per normal. The bigger question here is why are meeting the parents of a girl you're only banging? This is something reserved for LTR's... Don't fool yourself about what you're in for and what you're doing. The damage you could to do this girl suffering a loss could blow back on you. Be smart.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 01:04 AM
4

This is how girls text guys...now you know. Also they love the attention so while you're away...some other guy is sniffing around. I had this situation pop up at least twice. I didn't handle it well and confronted the girl which only made me look bad. When I finally stop giving a shit and demoted the girl to bang status it was perfect. She acted up and later went out with one of my friends. I ghosted her and never spoke to her again. Wow...she did not take that well sending me crazy notes, stalk…
/r/askTRP22/03/18 11:48 PM
6

she posted that she needs a place for stay since plan a and b fell trough. I (and two other - a girl and a boy) offered her to stay and she took my offer. I said she can have the spare room or sleep on my couch and in my room, but she responded with 'whatever works for you I don't want to inconvenience you' Agree. The whole thing is way too risky. The OP should have gamed the girl and sexualized the interaction. From what he describes the girl is coming with the expectation of free room and boar…
/r/askTRP22/03/18 12:02 AM
1

It's easy. I don't drink much when I go out. When I do it's more pure drinks: craft beers or clean higher-value whiskies. But one instead of 3. I order mocktails or club soda....Girls don't care. start learning how to nurse a drink and focus on your game.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 11:57 PM
1

I've suffered from co-dependency my entire life. It's crippling. Since discovering Game and The Red Pill 8 years ago I've now had a surge in my confidence. But it's still a work in progress. Every day I try to find something...anything that I can let go of. Because honestly, no achievement is ever enough without that mindset of abundance.... The whole idea of caring what others think is a scarcity mindset...
/r/askTRP21/03/18 11:55 PM
1

No need to comment at all. You can now see a chick's normal emotional reactions, they're a roller coaster. One minute she's freaking out, next she's feeling bad about it, next she's feeling hot etc. Get used to this and the only response would be a complete reframe about something cool you're doing: "At the gym..." "Buying steaks..." or whatever
/r/askTRP21/03/18 11:52 PM
1

Online game is the best. Girls are specifically looking for someone they couldn't find in real life. But if you approach online in the way I do, it's always bolder and sexualized. It intrigues them.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 11:36 AM
4

The first moment you're passed over for ANY kind of promotion or increase in responsibility, leave the company. You're done there. Be smart about this. I have a niche skill but my boss has passed me over for positions because he's younger than me and less experienced. He doesn't like confrontation so by passes me on important decisions but then comes to me when things go bad. I've got a thing going and am respected by my peers and that keeps things in check...for now. But he hates hates hates wh…
/r/askTRP21/03/18 01:05 AM
1

On the street, at parties, online. I'm tall, successful, athletic looking and don't look what most would consider "middle age". I have interesting hobbies like djing and travel a lot for my work. I have an interesting life though at my "age" i feel things are slowing down. At work the younger folks are aiming for my job...trying to sideline me, politics and crap. But I've been successful and so i ride it out. It's taken a long time and hard work to get where i am in terms of internalizing the Re…
/r/askTRP20/03/18 11:52 PM
2

I discovered game in 2009. Yes i was greater beta when i was younger. i was afraid of girls, of rejection, supplicating, doing all sorts of Blue Pill stuff. It's taken 8 years and I'm still working on it. But now I'm getting to the point where it's becoming more natural. I still fuck up. But I experiment with game techniques as well.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 11:49 PM
1

You don't say anything when girls burst into tears. You just look at them and hold them. They stop crying, you start ploughing them again.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:53 PM
3

Things like: "How old are you?" "You're so old..." "Be careful, you're old" But they can't guess my age. I agree and amplify. Another one is "You're too old for me..." I reply: "You want a boy or a man?" Or "What is it about older guys that turns you on?"
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:46 PM
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No, I usually say something like: "Old enough to know better young enough not to care". I look considerably younger so they assume it's early 40's. One 21 year old I was banging knew i was 50 and didn't care. She liked the experience.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:45 PM
75

Yes, I'm in my 50's and only bang girls 30 or younger. They actually prefer that maturity and experience. Some push back initially but it's just the usual barrage of shit-tests which if you know what you're dealing with can easily brush off. But you have to dress cool, keep in shape, stay current---don't make references to Aerosmith or The Fonz---girls in their 20's have no clue.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 12:07 PM
2

Depends on your schedule. I usually reserve Friday/Saturday's for stuff I want to do. That leaves Sunday afternoon's or earlier in the week. A weekend date is more for LTR. Girls get this. Girls want a guy who gets it too.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 12:04 AM
1

This happens all the time in various forms. If i get strong IOI's from the girl i may reach out one more time after a period of a week. If i still get the wishy-washiness I cut contact. But then I still get these wishy washy girls coming up to me at parties asking me to dance or chit-chatting. I've learned that if that happens and she doesn't contact me...i cut it off.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 11:53 PM
4

Yes...
/r/askTRP19/03/18 12:52 PM
1

Careful...stop cut and pasting...
/r/askTRP18/03/18 07:20 AM
2

Totally right...the drama decreases or disappears when you have 2-3 other girls in a rotation. She acts out? Simply say: "That wasn't cool..." Soft next. Trial and error OP...
/r/askTRP18/03/18 02:23 AM
1

keep agreeing and amplifying. If this gets too much, next her.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 12:53 PM
14

When you get good with women things like this become much more obvious and common and you don't need advice on what to do---you know what to do. Bang her= winning. Move on= winning Second-guessing what happened=losing Let that sink in.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 03:46 AM
3

Leave it and move on. I gamed and number closed a girl yesterday. Ping texted today. She responded "hi!" I suggest drinks....nothing. No response. I dump those and move on. They've either moved on...or they'll come back in which case I'll decide how to respond.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 05:58 PM
2

I dumped a girl, then caved in and changed my mind....bad move. She stuck around 2 weeks, then dumped me once she'd re-established frame.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 05:39 PM
3

From an evolutionary psych point of view, she wants to make sure she's getting the "best" seed. By making her work for your attention she's convincing herself she's earning your attention. So you have to initially show intent and then withdraw interest. That is the essence of game. It's actually what girls do to get dudes chasing...
/r/askTRP16/03/18 12:16 PM
2

I have this situation but I've dealt with it. When that whole mindset of not wanting to do anything hits me...i frame it as an intruder and fight it. That means I have a routine: run everyday. Gym everyday...the times are the same... By doing this you can plough through those periods of anxiety, dread and unproductivity. So in that sense...i leave a little time for that unproductivity it just doesn't dominate my thoughts and day. Get more disciplined around this and then you can contain that per…
/r/askTRP16/03/18 01:17 AM
1

I bang girls in my social circle. It's important that they see you as "lover" not "provider". If you're not sure what that means do some more reading and then start calibrating your behavior around these girls to be more sexual. Nothing worse than seeing a dude with 5 girls around him and all are "friends"...
/r/askTRP16/03/18 12:07 AM
2

"If you promise not to burn down my kitchen, let's cook together, come over, bring wine we'll broil steaks". She'll get it. EVERY girl gets that if she's coming over it's for "private time". How you escalate is a factor of your game. Cooking is a great interactive activity. You can order her around, tease her, drink together, kino....feed her, she feeds you etc. Watch 9 1/2 Weeks with the kitchen scene for more ideas.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 12:16 PM
1

Girls want a guy who "gets it". If you've gamed her and number closed her properly, the follow should be: "Let's meet up for drinks, what's your schedule?" She'll either respond to a meet up or not. If yes, proceed and escalate. If not, you've weeded out a time waster. NO RED PILL GUY in 2018 asks girls out on "dates" because: 1. it pedestalizes the girl 2. the guy is prize If she's not interested....ok. I usually give it once--twice if there seems to be some IOI but an inconvenient timing. When…
/r/askTRP15/03/18 12:14 PM
3

A key learning here.....you opened a can of worms by using the word "date". Now she's freaked out because it puts the whole outing on a different footing. With girls everything has to be implied. "Let's go for drinks...." Now you're in a position where she's snatched the frame from you. Ignore it and learn from this. If you see her again and she gives you IOI's pick up where you left off as if the last exchange never happened. Game her and then say "Let's go for drinks..." If she pushes back I a…
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:32 AM
7

Hamstering. Whatever happened, she'll rationalize it to make you out to be the bad guy. She'll waffle wondering why you're not like the other guys and chasing her. Or she'll become distracted by someone or something else. Stop thinking about what's going through her mind.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:55 PM
2

too much DRAMA. Exactly. You can bet that right now she's loving this whole "let's you and him fight" ploy. This guy has a bruised ego. Ignore them. There's nothing to talk about. It's her problem not yours. Block/delete.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:53 PM
2

When texting a new girl, if she doesn't respond within an hour, don't follow up.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 03:03 PM
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Wait a day then shoot back: "Find a way to make it up to me" Then see how it goes...that should be how you leave it.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 02:39 PM
9

Draper is Red Pill and alpha, Dick Whitman is Beta. But this begs the question who is Don Draper? It's like who is Superman? Superman is Alpha but Superman's alter ego is Clark Kent. But Superman is always Superman except when he pretends to be Clark Kent. Bruce Wayne becomes Batman....Superman is ALWAYS Superman. So why does he "act" like Clark Kent? This is a question every man must deal with. Who is he? Is he really Superman who acts beta from time to time or is he Draper---beta who acts Alph…
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:15 PM
3

On an evolutionary psychology level women are attracted to men who are pre-selected by other women--means chicks dig guys other women want to fuck. Google it and the reasons behind it. What's important tactically is that by not caring, your body language is more confident rather than nervous... This is all subcommunication. It's not obvious on the surface.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:10 PM
1

Because this is how bitches will treat you if you let them. That's the simple reason. The deeper reason is the OP is a very serious individual who takes these things very seriously and in the process over-looks details of a woman's behaviours. The Red Pill is a way to look at the world. I now take myself way less seriously and try as much as possible to enjoy the moment---not easy when you've been co-dependent all your life. The OP needs to work on himself, deal with his co-dependency, start bei…
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:07 PM
1

You're over-thinking this.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 03:28 PM
4

You're way too invested in her. She's gaming you not the other way around. Read about cat-string theory. Give a cat string...take it away...they chase it. You're the cat in this scenario.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:20 PM
16

You: "i came early because I thought you might need a hand..."
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:19 PM
4

pet some fish. Oh...makes sense. Dude there is so much to work with in terms of agree and amplify, amused mastery here... She fucked with your jacket...instead of getting upset you could have looked at her and teased the fuck out of her...
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:17 PM
0

Go somewhere cheap, don't make a big deal of it...just say "I'll cover dinner, you get the drinks." If the girl is decent she'll pay for the next thing.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 01:14 PM
1

Do it. She'll either say yes or no. Depends on the girl. You may want to take her out once just to get a sense of how to calibrate your game. Inviting her over is a bold move, it shows intent. It's high-risk and high reward. You have to make it easy for her to say yes. I say "Come over, let's make pasta and watch the sunset." That makes it sounds more like dinner not just come over and let's bang...i get a large number of girls coming over---especially Tinder/online girls.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:37 AM
4

she replied saying that she has too much going on in her life right now, but that she would see me in class. The end. Don't be her orbiter/friend.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:34 AM
1

is there more to this story?
/r/askTRP13/03/18 11:31 AM
1

Women love drama and this "Two guys are after me" scenario will eventually lead to a "let's you and him fight" when she spills the beans to the other guy. Treat this one very carefully. If she's a plate keep her in a rotation and maintain a cool distance. Girls say a lot of things in the head of the moment, usually it's for their benefit not yours.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 11:47 PM
1

If you want to be clever about it, wear a suit and buy a rose and pin it on your lapel. it's a classy move. Then when you're gaming her you can tease her when she brings it up: "Get your own".."Play your cards right..." "In my country..." Have fun with it.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 02:52 PM
2

But how did I look to her just walking off and not caring if she followed? High value or butt hurt? You banged her. You won. What she thinks of you is irrelevant. You made your move...own it. She was being a cunt, wasn't fun, whinging....you walked away. The only think i would give you feedback on was asking her "What's wrong?" I've stopped doing that because whatever they say is rarely what it is. If it was going this badly after the show, I would have either said "let's get out of here" and br…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 05:38 PM
1

Lots of KJ's here...not sure some of the posters actually meet women in the real world. Kissing a girl during a night out is escalation. Not every girl is a raging slut. Game is about understanding her personality type and finding a way to seduce her. Girls tell you how to seduce them early on. It's yours to fuck up. In my case it was going great. Then she hits the breaks a few days later. But she's still engaged. That's the conflict aka hamster spinning.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 05:23 PM
0

her cooking dinner is boring. There is nothing more sensual and sexy than cooking together---even if a girl can't cook. You're ordering her around the kitchen: pass me this....get that... You're feeding each other tasting things... negging her It's all about the experience not the output. The food could be shit but you're having wine, listening to music, lighting candles.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 05:21 PM
1

That's hypergamy.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 12:42 PM
1

K-close is good if logistics don't allow you to F-close at the time (you're busy/leaving/don't have much time). That was basically it. I find it laughable that some guys here think that if a first meet up doesn't end in a bang it's a fail. I have banged a ton of girls and some do and many don't until the second or even the third. The point is to be escalating which i did. This girl is into me. She responds instantly to texts she was keen to me up again. It was clearly a forebrain/hindbrain confl…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 12:16 PM
3

The evolutionary psychology explanation would be that it raises your value and lowers hers making it more difficult to mate. But another reason is that feminism has altered the state of sexual dynamics. Women have become the "Chosers" and men the "Chasers". When that role has been taught to you from an early age through media and everything around you...some guy dumps you and it's a huge wake up call. "Maybe I'm not as good as i thought..." The lack of responsibility guys here talk about also pr…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:21 AM
1

Love your posts dude. This confirms what was confusing me. Giving ground while seemingly innocent would be a far greater sign of weakness than walking away. She'll be back at some point. One thing she did tell me was that she saw me as higher value....what she actually said was "I respect you for what you've accomplished". The hotter the girl, the bigger the shit-test.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:17 AM
3

I can't remember where I read it but game is about thinking like a chick but acting like a man. Women have natural game: they tease, they backturn, they spin plates (orbiters)they wait hours before responding, they always appear interested in something else--distracted. Game is effective because it flips the script on them.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 02:12 AM
2

A few things to consider: women don't remember this shit the way you do. For her flaking was a thing she probably did spur of the moment, felt bad about it, forgot it. You remember it because you're processing the rejection more harshly. Forget it. She'll remember it next time she sees you and it will be awkward for her. Just be indifferently casual to her like she's some girl you've never met before and have no interest in. Never bring it up. If she gives IOI's be aloof and that will either spa…
/r/askTRP10/03/18 02:10 AM
3

Thanks, that's what I did.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:33 AM
1

She doesn't like the idea anymore. I had a woman that I just would not let her off. She owed me a dinner, I was even going to buy the meat. Pretty much the scenario I described.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:33 AM
1

Solid.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:31 AM
1

the very IDEA of coming over to cook for a guy has a lot of time to cool down and seem like a pain in the ass. I'd say 99% of the time this comes up the girl actually either proposes it, agrees to it or finds a way to accommodate it---by bringing something over: wine, dessert etc.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:30 AM
1

If all she said was that two word answer then she's definitely not interested. No she texted in full sentences and was bantering about how she was panicking about being a bad cook etc etc "let's postpone". Of course if she had just replied with two words I wouldn't have posted here for input i would have understood she's not interested.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:27 AM
1

As much as I've adopted the Red Pill and Game...i still find myself lapsing into this "reactive" mode to bullshit things like the text you describe. Just pause, wait, see how it plays out.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 10:05 AM
3

The Snapchat was of her organising her sock drawer, Typical vague validation-seeking. She probably sent this out to a bunch of different guys. I've made this mistake. Girl I took out, k-closed first night starts to text randomly. After responding a few times about meeting up for drinks I suddenly realized that this is just her on a bus, or at the hair salon pumping out a text to a bunch of dudes so it will fill her empty day with attention. Leave it alone. If she comes to your city then hit her …
/r/askTRP05/03/18 08:29 AM
1

To ask the question is to already know the answer. You know the answer. The real question here isn't whether she's with you because she's hitting a wall....the real question is why are you at 22 with an older woman you're now having doubts about? I've been in this situation. A lot of it has to do with your own self-esteem issues and whether you don't feel you're good enough, hot enough, whatever enough to pursue hot girls your own age. I'm now late 40's. After discovering the Red Pill and Game i…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 01:09 AM
7

4 years back i set myself a goal that I would only game and bang girls under 30. There's been a few exceptions but overall i stick to the under 30's because any woman over 30...is just too angry, lost, or makes me feel old.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:18 AM
7

If she found it, means she's also on it.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:17 AM
2

realised how fucking nasty and butthurt that was, ignoring someone I used to be happy talking to. I don't think ignoring someone is acting butthurt. It's what guys are supposed to do when they're friendzoned. But the thing about ghosting is you can't back-track. You're projecting your own feelings onto her. She defriended you because her ego was hurt after you blew her off. Why would you care at this point what she thinks? I generally disappear. Girls always make some effort to come back. Stop b…
/r/askTRP03/03/18 07:46 PM
1

The question is why couldn’t I do it? Is it something deeply rooted in me that I can’t approach even when chances of me succeeding is high To use an over-used label, you're "triggered". I can only speak from my own personal experience. I start to second-guess myself, start living in the past or future "What if she turns out to be like xxxx". Before I started to get good at Game and really truly adopt the Red Pill I treated each rejection as a complete shame and statement of my character instead …
/r/askTRP03/03/18 03:45 AM
1

This is why I spin plates. When i started to get more invested in "one"...crap like this happens, drama ensues, i feel disrespected, i over-react and it's a mess. I just had this thought reading your post. I rarely have any "fights" with any of my plates. It's about banging....that's it. There's not arguing over the remote control.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:41 AM
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she's 10 years older (i'm nearly 30) Wait..What!??? but i could have sworn last weekend she told me the guy is hard to communicate with and he's boring. Oneitis...obsessing. I speak from experience dude. You're wayyyy too invested in this girl which leads me to think that your rotation is pretty slim. Dump her....you're lowering your value with a 40 year old woman...come on. You can do better, you know that.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:38 AM
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Been hanging out with a girl **** now and recently she's been very touchy with me. Friendzone... The issue is they also constantly say how I'm just a really good friend to them, and have said stuff like "I love you" but like in a friendly manner. Yup...friendzone. Before I understood Game and the Red Pill I would "hang out" with and then "hope" something would develop---like all those movies I was raised on. Now...I go out once, maybe twice with a girl. If there is no escalation or she starts pu…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:34 AM
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The 48 Laws of Power have a lot more relevance to the corporate world than Game. But there are some good applications. I think you're confusing concealing interest with concealing intent. I'll give you an example. Last night i went for drinks with a girl I had once worked with but who had quit. She actually asked me out for drinks. I made the plans and displayed enough interest to get her comfortable but then focused on displaying intent that I was interested in banging her. I did this by verbal…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:29 AM
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Girls do this thing where they want to get your head spinning by approaching you with the idea of asking for "advice"...but it's a good way to make you an orbiter. Why would you help an "ex" with any sort of relationship situation? She's tooling you. It's working.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:23 AM
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Same situation: number close hot girl at party. Texting goes fine, let's do drinks. She's away that week. I roll off it and say "let's do something when you're back." I wait a week, send a ping text. She responds enthusiastically, asking me about my day, etc etc. I suggest drinks. She's busy all week. I leave it. Contrast this with another girl I worked with who was leaving. I wish her the best. She messages me to meet up. She responds within minutes. We go out, have a great time, she pays for d…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:56 AM
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Anyways, my question is, what's a good time to wait before getting into another LTR? You're asking the wrong question. The better question is how can I avoid another train-wreck? We've all been in this position you're now in. Discovering Game helped to get me on the path to abundance. But of course there were stumbles, beta backsliding, over-gaming, chasing. Just keep focused on learning from every interaction, spin plates, believe in your own mission whatever that may be. The focus is you.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 11:24 PM
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You won...she broke. The whole "frame" thing is irrelevant after she approached you. Yes, next time game her better. I just had a girl i made out with text me: "What do you do when you're lonely?" Me: rarely happens, too busy. Where you? Come over we'll make pasta and watch 50 Shades Her: no, I'm chilling with Amy Winehouse Me: I didn't mean tonight...but well done. Myeh...banter is banter.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:16 PM
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if you want". That's very Japanese. It's not patronizing at all, it means she recognizes she fucked up and realizes you may not want to. Go ahead and be playful: "Ok, but you're buying the first round..."
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:10 PM
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I'd respond: "We'll see, drinks at xyz" and set it up like that. The guys telling you to blow her off assume you have an endless pool of pussy. The purpose of game is to improve your abilities to read and seduce women. She's dangling a shit-test as though she's the prize. Re-frame it: "We'll see..." Then when she responds with "Blah blah blah...." "You can buy the first round..I may not want to kiss you next time" Be playful, be cocky....
/r/askTRP27/02/18 01:05 AM
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Question: What's a good opening line for a MILF? Answer: 'hello'
/r/askTRP26/02/18 11:49 PM
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True story: my ex wife used to dress plainly despite me buying her heels and encouraging her to dress up. All this was in my Blue Pill beta days. Finally for a number of reasons i dumped her. Suddenly, she started dressing smoking hot. Then when the divorce was finalized she married a rich dude. All women have this in them. If you're not happy maybe it's time to leave.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 11:33 PM
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You did the right thing. Now you see: All Women Are Like That... (AWALT)
/r/askTRP26/02/18 11:31 PM
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I've only started to not feel the sting of rejection by realizing that it's not a big deal. You're asking them to do something/go somewhere/hang out and they refuse. Ok. Move on. The rejection comes from the feeling of thinking or over-thinking it. Any guy who just shrugs it off isn't rejected.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:56 PM
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From what you wrote it's hard to tell why she disappeared. But hot girls will do that when they have other guys which is probably what happened. Also girls won't throw you into orbit unless you actually start chasing. Text her back: "Hey, let's meet up for drinks, what's your sched?" Pick a time from that. If she hedges then leave it. Eventually she'll come round or won't. Get busy with other girls. I get this from time to time. I usually give a girl 2 chances if I haven't banged her. If i have …
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:53 PM
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Today my LTR of 10 months This caught my eye.... "come on show me, tell me her name, is she more beautiful than I am? A very crazy and insecure plate I banged for nearly a year pulled this very same thing. She pushed me to show her photos of my wedding and my ex-wife. I absolutely refused. But i realized what was driving it was some sort of insecurity: What kind of woman would marry this guy?!!? Could it be me!??? She kept pushing for some sort of commitment from me and then pulled all sorts of …
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:50 PM
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even in this party i had to do some things like calming down people when he wanted to say something to everybody cause he was too shy. You're the beta nice guy....he's the brooding, dark Triad guy. You're the one making his life easier...it increases his mystery and value. Find new friends to hang with. Don't be so accommodating in future and get better at gaming women instead of managing your friend's social awkwardness. Sounds like he's doing fine.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:03 PM
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Wall of text. Flakiness is part of the female psyche. You have to game and bang a lot of girls to understand that very often a flake is a rejection. But flakiness--women's indecision---is an internal conflict between the rational and emotional parts of her brain. So you'll see a girl agreeing to something then suddenly throwing up roadblocks. As your game improves you'll note the difference. An example of this. Girl I number close seems keen. Then when I text her to meet--she's busy. But she's s…
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:00 PM
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Dude, look at Putin, that dude from Ballers, Ed Norton and MMA fighter. Chicks dig confidence. Own it. You don't want to look like Homer Simpson or a 1970's math teacher with receding hairline....screams beta.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 12:44 PM
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Really? Dude I'm in my 40's and killing it with girls in their 20's. The bald thing isn't going to hurt your changes, having low self-esteem will.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 08:17 AM
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Everyone says that...until you do it.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 08:16 AM
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Dude...The Red Pill isn't about situational scenarios, it's a way of viewing life. The Red Pill is "Truth" in male/female sexual dynamics and beyond. It's a way of viewing and adapting to TRUE human behavior. What you're asking about isn't a Red Pill question, it's a game question. Two things emerge: 1) Don't shit where you eat 2) don't lower your standards. As an aside, I work with a large number of hot girls. I game them: tease, neg, DHV them. But I never ask them out. The ONLY exception is if…
/r/askTRP25/02/18 08:14 AM
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Shave your head clean. It's a better look.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 07:46 AM
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Pre-selection.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:41 AM
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just text a photo from your day--shot of a beer being poured, a coffee, something at the gym. I send photos instead of texts. Krauser calls it the "Window on my World" text... Shows you're doing something cool. I just shot a girl I'm gaming a text of the full dance floor where i was djing... If they respond you can take it from there. If they don't respond---who cares.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:34 AM
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my father and his friend warned me about Asians being gold diggers and to stay away from them. Not true. This all depends on who they are, where they're from. If these are women who hang out in bars or are from the provinces and are clearly throwing themselves at "Farang" watch out. But use game. I bang a lot of Asian women. They never ask anything of me apart from my time and if they come over, we cook so i would buy the groceries--but again this is very minimal--pasta? I think this depends on …
/r/askTRP24/02/18 11:45 AM
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A few things: Started out strong but this rambled on and one. Each spike has to lead to something sexual and once you feel she's ready, wrap it up and set up a meeting. Her: So just a cheap flirt then? Your subject is more of an art than science Ok Her: Also your not so subtle sexual innuendos are not appreciated This is where you need to reframe and stack. You: You have a dirty mind, but if you promise to behave let's meet for that drink. Her blah blah blah After that it's logistics or next. He…
/r/askTRP24/02/18 11:39 AM
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I'm asking you, should I try to fix it? Trying to fix things is co-dependent and therefore beta in mindset. Move on. Act like nothing has happened. The change or "fixing" has to be in your mindset. I've spent a lifetime dealing with co-dependency. "Did i look stupid?" Alpha doesn't care. Alpha shrugs and moves on. Beta frets about how he looked, whether people noticed. One thing I keep telling myself: girls don't remember what you did...they remember how they "felt" at the time. That's why ridic…
/r/askTRP24/02/18 02:11 AM
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I think too much advice here focuses on being "asshole" in your game and not enough encourages playfulness. What you said is less important than how you said it. A line like that delivered with amused mastery and a slight smirk is what you're striving for.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 11:45 PM
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she said that I’m a great guy but she’s not ready for a relationship. Friendzoned...
/r/askTRP22/02/18 01:25 PM
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Why do you even bother with this woman who regardless of her status in your life, you clearly go out of your way to not give a shit about, then write us here asking if you should do something i would do to the cleaning lady in our office. You're mistaking The Red Pill with being completely shut off. Reflect on this because what you're writing and asking advice about is something that doesn't need to be obsessed over to the degree you seem to be doing with this woman.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 01:23 PM
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she says she doesn’t want to string me along That's your answer. She's not interested. It happens. The point of game is to understand women to improve your chances of banging more of them. Not every date results in a bang. Not every bang results in a plate or gf or whatever regular thing you're looking for.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 12:42 PM
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She knows she fucked up. No need to blow this up. Just play it straight and make it seem like you didn't hear from her so made other plans. "Hey, crazy day. Tied up right now. How's Saturday?"
/r/askTRP22/02/18 11:46 AM
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I posted about something similar a few days ago that may also be relevant. I met HB8, solid opener, IOI's, neg, comfort, number close. I ask her out the way i described with the option of "I'm free xyz" Some posters suggested I was TOO available. The girl posted "I'm away this week". I replied: "Cool, let's do something when you're back. Safe travels". I then left it and will leave it. But in retrospect, it wasn't that bad. Girls don't remember the text or what you said, they remember the "feeli…
/r/askTRP22/02/18 12:08 AM
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I said I'm free and asked same plan or if she had something else in mind. She hasn't replied and it's the day of. You're panicking, chill. She's got options so without confirmation of time and place she's flaking. It's a good lesson and one I have tried to avoid by being very specific when I text girls about my availability. Next time lead--leading is better than wishy-washiness. "Let's meet Monday, 8pm. [Location]" Default to drinks or some other easy to arrange activity. One thing i do is say …
/r/askTRP21/02/18 11:51 PM
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Do you guys think the naturally born alphas will always be a step ahead? Alpha is a mindset. You working on yourself, gaining confidence, standing up for yourself, maintaining healthy boundaries is going to serve you well in the long-term Don't compare yourself or your progress to others. The thing about learning game vs being a "natural" is that by learning you become much more sensitive to your surroundings.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:27 PM
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and cease banging her cos i (falsely) thought i'd be able to get loads of plates spinning and balance Uni work. This is where you fucked up...I've highlighted for you so you commit it to memory. Falsely thought? You fucked up when you started second-guessing yourself.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 01:49 PM
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she seemed to enjoy herself but has deleted me since leaving This is a Red Pill Truth that takes some time to sink in. There's this whole external Blue Pill world portraying women as victims, indecisive, submissive etc etc etc. Alternately, men are portrayed as mysoginistic, sex-starved beasts. Then suddenly that script is flipped on you and you're like "WTF??" I had a similar situation a few years back. A 21 year old student I met at a party and banged a few days later seemed into me. In fact, …
/r/askTRP20/02/18 11:55 PM
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Here I am trying to keep my plates under wraps out of respect, or at least not flaunt my savagery.... Note to self: in future...flaunt my savagery. Or better yet, keep it under wraps. You've learned a few Red Pill truths: All Women Are Like That (AWALT) Hypergamy. Classic example Don't believe what women say...watch what they do. If it's any consolation, something similar happened to me and yes, it did hit me hard from an ego standpoint. "Wait...did she just do what I think she did!??" Next time…
/r/askTRP20/02/18 02:17 PM
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k
/r/askTRP20/02/18 02:14 PM
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I got two of these types of messages, very similarly worded. In one case I ignored it and the plate then sent a follow up blasting me, then blocked/deleted me. The second one tried something a bit more sneaky. She texted me to meet up. I proposed a time and place. She then said she'd get back to me if her bf wasn't visiting. I said 'k'. Left it. A week later she wrote back asking me if i wanted to meet up for Valentine's Day as "Friends" and no sex blah blah blah. i said no, we aren't friends. I…
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:55 PM
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She said she was thinking of deleting her tinder That's what we've come to as a society...commitment means deleting your hook-up app...
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:39 PM
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People can't be saved. They'll make you the enemy. There's comfort in wallowing in their own misery and hope. No one who's ever adopted the Red Pill did so because they were pushed or coaxed into it. It's 100% voluntary and takes so much work in deprogramming that Blue Pill/Beta/the one thinking...that it's best to let those guys find their own way.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:38 PM
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How's that trolling working out for you?
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:36 PM
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Be careful with this. There are a lot of bots, fake profiles and scams out there that lure unsuspecting guys into doing the same thing. Then they try to blackmail you. Delete. The minute i get something that sounds "off" i delete.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:00 AM
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It's a shit-test to gauge your interest. Be vague: "Maybe if you play your cards right we'll see..."
/r/askTRP19/02/18 11:51 PM
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it's when i make mistakes halfway, and am left wondering what if I didn't do that one stupid shit. I think rejection is hard. But it's really all in your own head. I'm working on that part of my own inner game--not giving a fuck. Read everything you can about game. Try things. Try NEW things and see what works for you. I've created a few new routines based on things I've read. Some work, some don't. Nothing works on EVERY girl. The more girls you meet, the better you'll get at reading and calibr…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 11:50 PM
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She responded immediately and bantered back and forth.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 11:45 PM
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I am just curious to how she can be so into meeting with me and always respond super fast, and then one day out of the blue stop. Chicks thrive on drama...when it isn't there, when there's no mystery, no intrigue, no challenge they drop off. That's why you can never make it too easy for them. Ask them out, make it clear, if they don't accept, disappear. It took me half my life to learn this.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:01 PM
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Even better...I just don't think the OP is quite there yet.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 10:49 AM
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I have a third bitch today, probably will fail too. There's your problem right there: defeatist attitude and negative mindset. Reframe it: I have a third option today. Probably be a blast if I maintain an abundance mentality and work on improving my game and myself.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 09:27 AM
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She was very respectful on why she was going to stop talking to me and I just want to ask if I should try to continue dating this girl, No, you shouldn't try continue thinking about this girl...
/r/askTRP19/02/18 08:46 AM
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When I first discovered game and the Red Pill 9 years ago it was like a re-birth. Then for a while it was like having a super-power--i'm doing this stuff and I'm getting everything that was missing. Then suddenly you realize that the tactics and strategy aren't aligned. You're getting what you want---but your inner game is shakey--just as you describe. When i don't get something i want, when a text or opener or girl doesn't act how i expected...i now pause. Then i tell myself: believe in the min…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 03:34 AM
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This. I know that when things start to go well i get into risk-management mode. I start thinking "This is going too well, what if I'm beta?" This "What if I'm seen as beta" mindset that starts to interfere with my confidence and i start second-guessing myself. Then i realize i'm probably over-investing or over-thinking. When i look back and read texts there's nothing unusual or outstanding. But I'm personally anxious. For me the way i deal with this is to take step back, breathe, relax and wait …
/r/askTRP19/02/18 02:30 AM
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so yea yesterday (saturday) afternoon i texted: "hey (her name), this is (my name), what times are you free on tuesday?" (anything wrong with this text?) Pretty standard. Short, clear. Nothing wrong with this. so yea its been like 24hrs with no response, thinking i'll give it another day if i dont hear by tuesday morning just going to schedule something else for that time. I've found myself in this same situation recently (last 6 months). I meet a girl, game her, we talk about meeting up (qualif…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:56 AM
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Third time? Never respond and ghost. First bail you can be more firm: "If we meet up again you're buying the first round". Second time? There isn't a second time with me. Third time? You're an orbiter.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:51 AM
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I don't want to fuck up again, I kind of like this girl. Realizing you have a problem is the first step towards solving it. The texting thing is really a way for girls to get validation. My rule is this...if i enjoy the interaction, i reply. If i'm busy I don't. So in your case since this is a cause of anxiety tone it down. Use it as a learning moment. Since she's a massive texter, use this to improve your text game. Start by making a rule for yourself: reply within 2 hours and then restrict you…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:50 AM
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i did something like this...even after I had started understanding the Red Pill. What you're feeling is anger...this came after "denial". Don't worry too much about this, it's the normal stages of grief. You can only move forward. If anything, take heart in the fact women never remember anything so that beta move of asking her back after she cheated---she won't remember you did that... Just never go back...ever. In my case it was a Hard Next...that set her off...she started chasing me...not with…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:44 AM
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Text game is critical. Girls are constantly on their phones and live for the emotional high of getting a message. It's a tool that has to be used in conjunction with proper game in the field. My text game is generally good. But i do sometimes tend to text too much. But on the other hand girls can forgive sloppy text game if the initial attraction was sparked in the first meet up. They'll rationalize it: "Oh he's just chatty..." Girls will rationalize anything about a guy they're attracted to.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 04:07 PM
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True. Thanks The point of my post was to discuss the merits of my "Assume the sale" follow up text. I was tough on another poster here who suggested that a blow off or "I'm busy" or sudden "I'm sick" flake was ok to say "Cool, let me know when you're free" We went back and forth on it. I then gave this a shot. It produced nothing. Perhaps it's not field tested enough and other dudes have experience of going beyond just "k" or nothing.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 03:10 AM
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Theres a girl i like a lot that goes everyday in the same bus as i do since the beginning of the year, I stopped reading after that...
/r/askTRP18/02/18 02:16 AM
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but keep texts close to logistics. Getting cute can back fire True. On the other hand playing it too cold at the start can come off as being abrupt. "Cool night" vs "Hey smiley girl cool night"--it's tonality and playfulness. This is the second situation in a few months where I've done well in person, got all the IOI's and then the girl blows me off. In the first case turned out the girl had a bf... One thing is certain, after this i wouldn't reach out proactively to her. I think in some cases g…
/r/askTRP18/02/18 02:08 AM
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If you put everything in there at once you are overinvesting and if she objects to any one thing in your proposal she is likely to reject everything. When you string it out you are building her investment instead, as she agrees to each natural next step. Great comment. Thanks.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:06 PM
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Callback humour? Yes...she has a very large smile and mouth. She had asked me: "Do you think I have a big mouth?" I replied with "You have a small face...." the "Smiley girl" bit was flowing from that interaction in our face-to-face.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:03 PM
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Because I have to rate that shit “PG” for “Pretty Gay”. Kind of expected more from you in terms of insights but thanks for taking the time to post.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:02 PM
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Also the second indicator was when you typed a paragraph about your availability and she gave you a short answer and no availability. Good insight. Didn't realize this at the time.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:01 PM
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Screams overinvestment. I didn't think so at the time. I was getting a very sexual vibe from her when she told me she works as a kindergarten teacher and is "bored" and looking for something "interesting"...the sub comms of how she started asking me a lot of questions about myself and i was aloof and vague. I think it's a fine line between investing and Overinvesting. I punted with that last line.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:00 PM
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"Assuming the sale" in this context assumes we will meet up by re-framing her "I'm busy" comment to "Yah yah, we'll get together when you're back..." The converse of this would be assuming it's done with : "k" or just no response whatsoever. My go-to response to "I'm busy" type responses is generally no response or "k". The reason i punted in this situation is because the interaction was positive and playful, she opened me with an IOI and passed a compliance test of me inviting her to sit down.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 05:55 PM
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Here's the issue. She has control via sex. You lose frame by making it clear you've gagging for it like a thirsty coyote. And it's been 8 years...and you have no other options and she knows this. The only thing that works is Dread. I've learned time and time again the hard way losing my shit achieves nothing. Girls love this. This for them is like the best orgasm ever---a guy blows up in response to their shitty behavior: Winning for a girl.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 12:10 PM
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but thinks "im cute and likes hanging out". She hates the rejection and wants the validation that comes with her treating you like crap and you still being there. Pause...wait for her to chase you. You want first hand experience? I was banging an HB7 26 yr old last year. She kept pushing for me to be her bf. I had several plates. So she drops as plates do. But she keeps texting me. I suggest a meet up, she says she has a bf. I drop off---she reaches out. So she reached out for Valentine's Day. M…
/r/askTRP17/02/18 12:08 PM
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You will not know the true nature of women until you hold a soft harem. Truth. Only when you're spinning plates and you see how different girls react to similar stimuli can you truly appreciate the need for calibration.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 12:02 PM
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Totally relate to this..when I first started game. It produced immediate results and was like fishing with dynamite. But then like any sport if you miscalculate and don't know what to do...or what the next move should be you crash and burn. It takes time to re-program yourself from all the Blue Pill nonsense you were raised with. As you get better and better at meeting and banging women, this stuff becomes second nature and you're not thinking process, you're thinking...enjoyment---what do I mos…
/r/askTRP17/02/18 03:39 AM
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How do I get this baggage off my mind? Been through this and each time I get a little bit better at it. I now spin plates, game lots of girls and don't get bogged down in the whole "gf/bf" Blue Pill fantasy. It works for me. I have not yet met a girl I'd want to see exclusively. Some had husbands, others are flakes but we bang. It's a kind of mutually beneficial way to live so far. You're on the right track. It's easy to get wrapped up in the whole "what did I do wrong thing?" It doesn't matter.…
/r/askTRP16/02/18 06:11 PM
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I ask if she can just watch the movie twice, If a girl doesn't want to do something you want to do it's HER loss...roll off it. Your whole post comes off with a scarcity mentality over both the movie and the girl. she says she doesn't want to. Because...she's maintaining frame. I been looking forward to this movie for a long time, so I say well I been really looking forward to this movie..so I'm still going to see it but il watch with someone else. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO....don't tell her th…
/r/askTRP16/02/18 08:26 AM
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no worries That gives the girl a free pass. Being a nice working out for you? "k" isn't butthurt. It's response with the least effort and because of that will spark the hamster.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 08:19 AM
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Absolutely but the whole "Call me..." positioning from a Red Pill standpoint is weak... "k" gets her hamster motoring. It's not what you say, but what you don't say that's important here.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 03:29 AM
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I've never been in a situation that bad. But you managed it and pulled through. I think when you have a situation like that you clearly get gun-shy. Get better at weeding girls out. I had a situation where a plate I was banging went nuts, started stalking me, acting crazy, trying to fuck my friends. I freaked me out. My game suffered. But I just got better at weeding out nutcases and better at after-game. Don't ghost right away, just fade away. Be busy, be remote, be gone.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 01:35 AM
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if you change your mind" No. Never make it seem like you're waiting for a girl to come back. Just; "k" Leverage the power of "k".
/r/askTRP16/02/18 01:33 AM
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"not really looking for anything right now" You: Cool, drinks tonight. If she makes this some sort of Friendzone thing...proceed as I suggest below. A plate I was banging dropped off because she wanted me as some sort of bf. She still texts all the time. Occasionally I'll hit her up and she'll say "I have a bf". Me: Good, he can make us breakfast---or just ignore. The other day she wished me a Happy Valentine's Day. Me: "let's celebrate, come over..." After that she tells me she has a bf and if …
/r/askTRP16/02/18 01:32 AM
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Her: "Do you have other plans on valentine's day? 😘" You; "When is it?" Here; Hahah (whatever whatever) You: Come over Tuesday, I'll have a heart on
/r/askTRP12/02/18 09:59 PM
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Tell us all how you go about making that happen Chad...enlighten us...we're all ears dude.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 11:04 AM
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To ask the question is to already know the answer. But this post deserves a bit more scrutiny. Yes, chicks go nuts on special days: my crazy plate would do EXACTLY the same things. I learned to handle it much better. Firstly, by submitting to her CRAZY frame, you're throwing gasoline on a fire instead of trying to contain it. Asking a girl if she's crazy is only expanding the problem. She'll become more and more defensive as she did. If you had used amused mastery: "Someone hasn't had their nap …
/r/askTRP11/02/18 02:30 AM
4

Ok arm-chair alpha.... Girl responds. Costs me nothing to shoot a text with absolutely zero investment while I do whatever I'm doing whoever I'm doing it with. The fact they're texting or opening me means they're trying to stay in touch. Hamstering is having long text sessions that lead no where. Dude. You clearly don't have a group of available women in your life to understand how to pipeline bangs. But thanks for commenting.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 01:41 AM
1

No it's you moving on. Ghosting means you block/delete and never see them again. How they take it is irrelevant.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 01:39 AM
40

“Fine, good luck!” This is the WORST text possible. It sounds totally butt hurt. This is one of the few times where no response is the best response. Ghost her for a few weeks. Make her think you've disappeared off the face of the earth. This is the nuclear shit-test. She's testing you to see if you'll collapse and start to be her exclusive bf. Any response like the one suggested "Fine..." any response that ever starts with "Fine..." is butthurt. I ghosted a girl who did exactly this same thing.…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:31 PM
2

Right....a lot of posturing goes on in this board. Dudes with a lot of experience with women know all about calibration. Of course women get emotional...this is a nuclear shit-test. She feels vulnerable and weak and is hoping bf will be her emotional rescue while she pines away for another dude. For him to say "No, no, you're beautiful..." is falling into her frame. Ignoring her for weeks at a time is too easy but doesn't address the main issue: her shit-testing of her bf. Agree/amplify...refram…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:25 PM
5

Yes, a lot of arm-chair alphas who post by projecting the shit they know they SHOULD have done or WOULD HAVE done if they ever had the chance. I think it's far too easy to say "dump the bitch"...even though that is the correct approach. This guy now has to get good a gaming her by instilling dread. He can easily do so. Her: "What does she have that I don't???" You: "Yah, I know the feeling...but hey, you'll do for now" Or her: "What does she have that I don't?" You: "Yah, girls today really don'…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:50 AM
2

Interesting...I now spot this pattern early and either leverage it...or dump the girl. She wants pity? Tell her: "If you'd worked harder maybe things will work out better in future"---instill dread and disappear for a few days. Girl I just met on Tinder tells me after we've made out: "It's my birthday coming up and I know all you guys just want younger girls...." Me: If you play your cards right we'll see... Continue make out. I dropped her a text after our first meet up: "Hey interesting night.…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:44 AM
7

Read the Mystery Method and look up how to game two-sets. There's a whole body of work on exactly this area. Neg her friend...give the friend more attention while ignoring the target. "How did you two become friends?" opener? "So of the two of you, who's the bitchier one?" etc etc etc
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:37 AM
1

Just means your game will need to get better and you'll do without. But you can focus your energy and talents on stuff that interests you beyond banging chicks. In my case it's work, travel, djing... Also, I long game girls---ping text girls who've expressed an interest but haven't yet met up...just "hey Cinderella, what up?" At some point if they're still in contact they'll reach out. But that shit costs you nothing and if you're not becoming their text-buddy--won't lower your value.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 02:22 AM
2

A friend of mine who's married and quite well off bangs 5's-6's in our social circle. I lost respect for him because the women are older and just plain... It's like fishing with dynamite. I found I was also bottom feeding and banging the occasional 5 just for the sport of it. This year I've decided I can do better.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:03 PM
1

All great responses. The only thing to add is when I found myself in this situation the last time, I banged the girl one last time. She had some melt-down about some small thing. I never spoke to her again. That's right---ever again. She had that extinction burst stalking me, sending me a crazy note, showing up where I was, parading guys in front of me... Nothing from me. When you realize the best response is no response, you've started to fully internalize the Red Pill and your game is getting …
/r/askTRP07/02/18 10:35 PM
1

Dump this chick now. Go back to spinning plates and work to advance your game to the point where you're spinning women for a substantial amount of time without issue. Then and only then start looking at the LTR material. Solid Red Pill advice. Great response. Every dude here should read this.
/r/askTRP07/02/18 10:29 PM
1

I almost got burned unexpectedly by a plates ex trying to ruin my business this past fall. Dude...careful with these "tests"....
/r/askTRP14/01/18 05:02 PM
3

Since you raised the question it suggests an inner conflict. The wider question is how would this impact her? This sounds like a recipe for drama. In cities it's inevitable a guy or girl will run into an ex. If this situation is still new and she starts pining away suddenly you're on the back-foot. I always like to remove potential drama from my outings. If you were already banging her then it wouldn't matter. If this is a new thing I'd avoid any situation that could trigger stupid drama. Find a…
/r/askTRP14/01/18 01:36 AM
14

Make plans of your own and meet her for a quick drink. Game her, move in for the k-close. At the moment her buying temperature is high look at your watch and say "I have to go..." When she protests "Whyyyyy?" Say, "I have plans, i'll be in touch.." She set this up as a way of getting out of things if they don't go according to her plans. Be cool, maintain frame.
/r/askTRP11/01/18 12:14 AM
1

Take her for a drive and bang her in your car....logistics. Dude start thinking.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 12:14 AM
5

Find a bar close to your place and meet there...once you start escalating then bring her back to your place. This is really about logistics and nothing more. She sounds keen.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 12:12 AM
2

I don't understand why you're even posting. Tl;dr Girl I'm smashing has me second-guessing everything.. This sounds like an ideal arrangement.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 03:43 PM
7

Good friends with this girl who goes to my school, Friendzoned... She is recently heartbroken over her ex, so I almost feel guilty like Beta, special girl, unicorn... She insisted like 5 times before I said "maybe you'll get lucky next time" and back to friendzone... You've shown yourself to be someone asexual...a nice guy...a "friend" whom she can count on to unload on. You've missed your chance and now she'll feel like you're using her if you escalate. Nice work. Learn from this. Stop being su…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 01:21 AM
3

The ability to walk away...communicating that in what you say and how you act. They say "I'm leaving/can't come/I wanna break up" You: 'k' never contact them again. When they realize you're serious then they conduct themselves accordingly.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 12:01 AM
1

One thing to be aware of: women are always giving out their numbers. I now try to qualify them: confirming that they would like to meet up for drinks or come over or whatever...then I ask their number. That way when I contact them I incept the idea i'm following up on something that was their idea.
/r/askTRP07/01/18 11:57 PM
1

Tinder...lol I tried to go for a kiss about 2-3 times during the course of the date (the first time was probably too early), and she rejected me every time. I played it off cool as I believed it was just normal resistance. Good. Nothing wrong here. I asked her "why?", Never EVER ask a girl "why". It leads to the kind of nonsense you just experienced and suddenly you're in her frame. Dude, I just wrote about this. There's a tendency among guys to take what a woman says as the word or what she rea…
/r/askTRP07/01/18 03:39 PM
1

Your game needs to get tighter. You have to run tighter game in the meet up, then move towards finding a way to isolate the girl--a day 2 or drinks somewhere else. You're never going to have enough attraction to move past cockblocks. Mystery has a whole strategy for managing cockblocks but honestly, why create extra work for yourself. Find girls who are either on their own or get their numbers and then leave. Contact them later for drinks.
/r/askTRP07/01/18 02:22 PM
2

Calibration....the OP red-lined the car...
/r/askTRP07/01/18 03:14 AM
1

This has happened to me most recently. Girls display solid interest then suddenly nothing... I can't think of any specifics except that most likely in every case there's another guy. This only re-enforces for me the need for abundance. When one cancels have other options. With this one...ghost. You should never speak to her again otherwise you'll be rewarding bad behavior. Be the ONE guy in her life who said NO and disappeared.
/r/askTRP07/01/18 01:56 AM
-1

we never ran out of things to talk about. You went out twice and never escalated. She lost attraction and moved on. As for the Asian country conservatism...that's just Blue Pill thinking.
/r/askTRP06/01/18 12:49 PM
1

(come at me brah) Lol... Don't be such a drama queen. These girls try all sorts of tricks. When you start stalking them through social media to try to figure them out you're going down the rabbit hole. The purpose of the Red Pill is to see through all this crap. It's quite clear, she's trying to figure out what her ex is doing and using you as a beard, a foil, an excuse. Get her out and isolate her...bang her...then plate her...
/r/askTRP06/01/18 11:07 AM
6

This has happened to me a number of times. The WORST thing you can do is react to it, get defensive, or start responding to it. I did...it just lowers your value and then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The best reaction is to shrug. If you notice the girl starting to distance herself apply standard dread game or ghost.
/r/askTRP06/01/18 02:13 AM
5

Because it's the only way they can rationalize you not talking to them. I got blocked and deleted by three girls---oh and my brother after he acted like a little bitch he de-friended me. I lolled. You should lol too.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:25 PM
2

I wanna say "sidebar" but...
/r/askTRP04/01/18 01:06 PM
2

It's like a super-power. But two learnings from my experience: calibrate your game. Cocky-funny doesn't work on EVERY girl. Also, start working on your inner confidence otherwise it's just a put on. Start working on making that cocky-funny a permanent part of your personality not just a tool you use when you're out.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 12:22 PM
2

Okay - first off, if you were my son, I would slap you. Great line. I was in orbiter mode once despite having solid game. An ex strung me along...and despite knowing what to do from a Red Pill perspective I fooled myself into believing I still had a chance. She of course strung me along...for 2 months. I suggested drinks. She blew me off. Me: "Let's meet up for drinks this week..." Her: "I'm not free this week..." Then it hit me...this would go on FOREVER if I let it. Her word-play was awesome..…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 12:10 AM
3

A lot has been written about this and you can search online in Shark's old blog or Heartiste's. In the case of 2 girls I had to hard next...I just look through them...they don't exist for me. It's been 3 years for one and 1 year for another. It drives them crazy. I just look everywhere but their direction if I'm at the same club or party... I ignore completely. Eventually you'll stop thinking about them and it will be a non-event. But I must say it took some time to get over my over-thinking "Do…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 12:03 AM
3

Some possible responses: "Obviously...." said with smile and amused mastery. "It's Mr. Fuck boy to you..." "That's just a rumour started by all the women I've been fucking..." "In the flesh!" "Lock up your daughters..."
/r/askTRP04/01/18 12:00 AM
1

This is why we tell you to be outcome independent, because sometimes you will still fail even though you played it textbook. This is the key. I never replied and haven't heard back. It was fun gaming her. Good experience. Keep ploughing.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 11:58 PM
12

Girl I met, gamed and escalated but didn't bang---on the first meet...wanted me to meet her "best friend" a gay guy... I said "Three's a crowd". "Let's meet when you're not playing Mrs. Claus to visiting elves." It's a cockblock. Don't do it...unless you're already banging her and it's a casual meet up...
/r/askTRP03/01/18 11:01 AM
2

Thanks, very good reality check. I generally know when I've well and truly fucked up. In this and another recent case I pretty much nailed it in terms of having tight game but still got flakiness. It's exactly why I began spinning plates 4 years ago to avoid the trap of being stuck without anything to do.
/r/askTRP02/01/18 11:46 PM
2

It's the second time in several weeks where my game was solid. I number closed and the girl just flaked. In this case, the girl actually came back to me to verify she'd given me the right number by taking mine, added me on FB and then bantered along with my negs. I can't think of anything I could have done. Only thing I gather from her FB posts is she's in town for a week and is coming out of either a bad divorce or break up and maybe this is freaking her out. Just a guess.
/r/askTRP02/01/18 02:56 PM
7

soft next = ignore for a few days. You can only next a girl you've already been banging. Otherwise, it's just moving on.
/r/askTRP02/01/18 12:06 PM
6

Depends on the state of your interactions. If this is the very beginning and you've gamed her properly and sparked attraction..."sorry forgot to respond" is basically "I want attention and realize I looked like an idiot". I would shoot back a text: "Oh. Find a way to make it up to me..." This does a few things: 1. Shows you don't really care or didn't notice. 2. Gives her a command 3. Forces her to qualify herself. 4. Makes you a prize. 5. It's a surprise response so she'll get tingles thinking …
/r/askTRP02/01/18 12:08 AM
2

Exactly. Enjoy the interactions. Here's a recent example of my own. Meet girl at party, she's only in town for a week. It goes so-so. At the end of the night I number close her. She then comes over to me to CONFIRM my number so I realize it's an additional investment on her part. I come up with a clever nick-name for her, shoot her a 2-word text Me: Hey xxx Her: blahblah blah I then ask her out. She says "I'll let you know." We have some banter. The next day it's New Year's Day. She texts me at …
/r/askTRP02/01/18 12:03 AM
2

Just happened to me a few weeks ago. I was 99% sure it was on. Suddenly the girl is cool to me, she shows up to an event i'm djing at with another dude. Oh...ok that's why. As to the reasons why? My game was solid. But when you're dealing with women or human beings in general there are variables which you may not be aware of. I should have read the signs. But in my case, I figured I suggested meeting up, she didn't go for it....end of story. It still beats not going for it and then wondering---s…
/r/askTRP01/01/18 03:45 PM
0

Dude, google it, there's a huge repertoire and sites dedicated specifically to patterns and routines.
/r/askTRP01/01/18 03:28 PM
3

Thanks for correcting that. Now you just answered your own question. Game more girls. Read more from Mystery on kissing. There are specific signs and you can work them into that state: eyes widen, she's focused on you, leaning in slightly. The idea here is that your game needs to get tighter. Even moving in once and getting the head turn is better than not escalating. Women who are receptive will ALWAYS respect that you made a move---if you've gamed correctly. If you just try to kiss a girl with…
/r/askTRP01/01/18 01:11 PM
1

and left her on read a few times too, to show I'm not needy. Ok...but: I tried calling her today to try and make plans and she didn't answer or text or anything She's gaming you now... which you should expect. so my question is in this situation should i wait for her to get back to me or should I wait a few days then text her and try to make plans? Let's review: You're in a friends with benefits thing with a girl who you're growing more and more attached to and who now you're obsessing over EVER…
/r/askTRP01/01/18 01:05 PM
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Yes...and then there's this: "yea we should go back to the dancefloor". I realise it's over, and I say I have to talk to some friends of mine real quick. I never see her again. He should have escalated earlier and then when it was going no where eliminated her as a prospect. This is a common game error where you become over-invested instead of qualifying girls earlier. I had a similar experiences. The common element is when they say they have a bf or husband to gauge very quickly whether this is…
/r/askTRP01/01/18 11:55 AM
3

This is common. Many attractive girls have been hurt by Chads or early on in life been forced to be over-achievers in some way: beauty queen, sports etc. It's hard to say. I just realized this the other day when I met an HB8 at a party and started gaming her. She was super receptive...then stand offish---cool. Then suddenly started texting me. Then when we played the Questions Game she kept saying: "I'm just a humble, average girl". I sexualized it but realized I had to dial-down the asshole gam…
/r/askTRP01/01/18 02:52 AM
1

I just acted really needy afterwards and even told her how inexperienced i was. Don't do that again, learn from it. Do you think backing of and not asking her out/ texting her will make her come to me? No. It's over. Move on. Do better next time.
/r/askTRP30/12/17 05:33 PM
1

Dude, she's leading you and having a great time watching you (consciously or subconsciously) struggle. Women who are interested make themselves available. Here she's grooming you as an orbiter. In any male/female interaction you need to reverse these roles so she's chasing you. I recently began testing this idea. For every girl I number closed or gamed online or met and banged at least once... If I texted to ping text her "Hey trouble maker what's up?" or set up something "Drinks, Thursday?" IF …
/r/askTRP30/12/17 01:07 PM
4

She's gaming you. Stop being so available. Women DON'T send mixed signals they know exactly what they're doing. if she doesn't show up, then don't meet up with her again. Period.
/r/askTRP30/12/17 11:48 AM
4

Oneitis. You ask, if she accepts proceed and escalate. If not, stop obsessing.
/r/askTRP30/12/17 02:19 AM
3

I would have replied: "It's Mr. Asshole to you...."
/r/askTRP28/12/17 05:21 PM
3

No.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 04:55 PM
1

Every failure reminds me of how better my life was before the break-up and that I fucked it up. It's co-dependence and low self-esteem. I've struggled with this. This is about reframing your negative thinking. Avoid over-exaggerating every set-back as if it's a major failure. The other night I was djing a party. A girl I was gaming and who showed interest suddenly showed up with another guy. I didn't show it but I was disappointed. I had a few drinks. I got home and realized I was hammered. Then…
/r/askTRP28/12/17 12:57 AM
1

This is common. If you reach out twice and she's not making any effort, drop it. The point of spinning plates is to avoid getting locked into or obsessed with one girl. Just move on and forget it.
/r/askTRP28/12/17 12:42 AM
4

I had a girl try this with me---by text. She was a plate and then suddenly told me that she didnt' think we could see each other right now because---and then some reasons like I wasn't serious. Funny thing was she didn't even give me any chance to respond...she just said "We shouldn't see each other..." My response? No response. I was busy traveling so I couldn't reply. Melt-down ensued....by text and then she blocked me (I think because her picture disappeared) So to sum up: she wanted to talk,…
/r/askTRP27/12/17 01:14 AM
2

Despite huge success breaking old mindsets is hard. The girls won't know i'm disappointed but I'll still be wondering: "Was I beta?" A little self-assessment is ok as long as it doesn't morph into obsession about "the one" who got away. I get blown out all the time but I have a rotation so I just keep ploughing on. Eventually if you leave them they'll come back. How you react is a factor of your game. Play it cool. Err on the side of not acting. Let her chase. Be more mysterious.
/r/askTRP26/12/17 03:10 PM
2

Just had a similar situation. Girl was super keen...suddenly plays it cool. She comes out to a club where I'm djing with a bunch of friends...including a guy. I danced with her but otherwise played it cool and gamed other girls. It's usually another guy. Move on.
/r/askTRP26/12/17 01:55 PM
7

It's now full of fake profiles, trannies and potential blackmailers.
/r/askTRP26/12/17 03:03 AM
13

Happened to me...twice. I mishandled it by calling the girl out: bad idea. They get defensive and it triggers in them a turn-off. In the second case it was a plate who was chasing after my friends in a bid to create some jealousy plotline. After consulting this board I stopped calling the girl out on it. I just focused my attention on banging other plates until finally she pulled some additional crap and I hard nexted her walking away and haven't spoken to her or looked at her in a year. I also …
/r/askTRP26/12/17 01:58 AM
1

I'm guessing the best thing to do is keep the texts to logistics only until we can meet up? Something like: "Text me when you arrive..." is a good reminder and a command. I would not text her again until the meet up.
/r/askTRP25/12/17 02:28 AM
1

I'm worried that if I do the 'no contact' rule in order to increase her desire she will simply forget about me completely. Troll? Sidebar.
/r/askTRP25/12/17 02:27 AM
1

I did this. The whole "feminist" nonsense was just a kind of bravado masking a very insecure and crazy girl. She would use that label/ideal to justify everything: friends with tons of guys, chasing and trying to fuck two of my friends, constant arguing and shaming. So in short...proceed with caution. Yah, you can bang her if your game is tight but then they tend to go off the rails afterwards.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 12:43 PM
1

Just realized it's been 8 years for me. I'm still working on it. There are times I'm totally chill and alpha and then other days where something sets me off and I'm slipping into beta ways. A few months? You haven't even started.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 12:28 PM
3

you blocked them and they contacted you?
/r/askTRP24/12/17 07:27 AM
0

That being said this girl had a crush on me back in high school and I didn't want to hurt her feelings by not reciprocating... blue pilled and beta as fuck Face-palm
/r/askTRP23/12/17 08:02 AM
3

People who work in the service industry treat regulars with respect and attention because it generates better tips.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 03:16 AM
1

True, it's their rationalization. You have to determine whether inviting them out for a Christmas drink is worth it. Otherwise ignore it...
/r/askTRP23/12/17 03:14 AM
1

was going to say merry christmas only to maintain any interest she has, Your rationalizing your oneitis for this girl. I really think she has some interest. I really HOPE she has some interest in me. Fixed it for you. i cant really make her work for my attention since im away from her. Because she's not attracted to you. Girls I've banged and have forgotten about after they displayed zero interest are now suddenly wishing me a Merry Christmas---because I don't care and they sense the loss. You'v…
/r/askTRP23/12/17 03:13 AM
1

During the date I said i liked her and would want to meet her Sat. Too much. If I have a good time with a girl I usually say "Good connection"....keeps it more vague and open-ended. Paves the way for more exploration. "I like you..." is the thing she should be working to impress you to receive. You give it away too soon and you find yourself in the situation you're now in...confused. Except it's not confusing. The girl is turned off because she wants to work for your attention and company...she …
/r/askTRP23/12/17 01:55 AM
2

This. She's in contact because OP is allowing her to be in contact. That gives her free reign to do what she wants, when she wants and there's always....you to come back to. Where's the challenge?
/r/askTRP23/12/17 01:51 AM
1

This is a common Blue Pill concept of thinking that wishing a girl Merry Christmas, or Happy Birthday, or Happy New Year is going to somehow revive her interest. I'm guilty of it sometimes as well. A plate I was banging suddenly wanted more and then ended her involvement by text. I never responded. That was a few days before her birthday. I thought it over: should I or shouldn't I? But her text was so crappy that I felt reaching out would actually make doing that ok. I didn't. Haven't heard from…
/r/askTRP23/12/17 01:50 AM
1

Anyway there’s this one girl who ... I stopped reading.
/r/askTRP22/12/17 05:08 PM
56

"No, but if you're good we might go to breakfast...anything off the kids menu" This is a shit test and you need to maintain frame.
/r/askTRP22/12/17 05:04 PM
2

(It is worth noting that I had some serious family issues come up at the time, so I was on edge). She responds with a "I gotta study but I'll try to". I respond with "You can tell me if you don't want to hangout it's fine". She responds "What?". And I said "Not trying to be an ass but I feel like you're fading on me a bit." Cringe-worthy. You sound butt-hurt and that's not attractive to women at all. Here's how I handle this crap. I met an HB8 at a party a month ago. She gives me IOI's, I number…
/r/askTRP22/12/17 12:53 PM
2

No. This is a waste of your time unless you just want to be their orbiter. I met a girl online 7/10 two weeks ago. We went out, make out, escalate. She won't come home with me. But we're up for meeting again. Then she invites me out on Christmas...with her "best friend" who's a guy and "gay". She tells me he wants to "meet you" after she told him "about us". My response? "After your Christmas drinks with your friend, come over I'll provide the stuffing." She was quite adamant about the "three" o…
/r/askTRP22/12/17 12:44 PM
3

"Crawling back"? That's your projection and hope. She just messaged you out of desperation because the other guy she dumped you for...dumped her. Learn how to read women's actions properly. She's not crawling back, she's rebounding. Don't take the bait.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 11:22 PM
1

Stop wasting your time with girls who are involved. It's self-sabotage.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 11:02 PM
3

Depends...if it's closer to where you are and it's cheaper and fun ok. If she's changing it because of some other reason no. Don't be so rigid. Calibrate. If it's in your own interests then fine. If it's inconvenient then simply say: "It's closer to where I am and you can have anything off the kids menu". IF this looks like a sure thing then why get into a battle of wills over nothing.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 11:01 PM
4

What's to be confused about? You want an LDR? She doesn't. She's here for a good time not a long time. The only thing confusing is that you're still Blue Pilled and haven't figured out that all women are sexual. It's now yours to fuck up. Game her, escalate...if nothing happens, don't see her again... In other words...treat this like you should EVERY GIRL YOU MEET.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 01:59 PM
1

I did this....it's awesome and liberating. They freak out at 'k'.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 12:28 PM
3

Get to know people...you mean like this girl you're stalking?
/r/askTRP18/12/17 11:57 PM
4

"Hard to get" is Blue Pill thinking. Yes...sometimes girls are uncertain and waffle. It has happened to me. But as a rule I give a girl 2 chances meaning two invites. If she's busy, unavailable for whatever reason, I drop it. A guy has to display clear intent. Text game, banter etc. But if a girl is suddenly busy after 2 invites....she's simply not interested or invested. Your situation is so common it's text book. Banter---then invite. If she's busy twice, drop it.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 11:55 PM
6

Troll...
/r/askTRP18/12/17 03:17 PM
1

Block and delete. She has all the Cluster B behaviours.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 02:24 PM
2

Simple... just text back: "Find a way to make it up to me..." Then see how it goes. This way you maintain frame. She has to earn your attention.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 10:32 AM
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Ok...so I'm reading this and I check the following from one of my crazy plates lists: has had pregnancy scares has had STD scares yes has attempted suicide Don't know but says she was depressed has been sexually harassed/raped claimed various guys were chasing/stalking her has no money yes has never had a 'good' boyfriend yes I kept trying to get away from her, she'd stalk me, and bang my brains out. Finally she had a melt-down of some sort and tried to bang at least one or maybe 2 of my "friend…
/r/askTRP18/12/17 09:05 AM
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You seem to know a lot about her. She's putting this out there to see if you'll run. The fact that you're sticking around is giving her more reason to groom you into something or someone who she can dump on. Run.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 08:39 AM
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Stop making excuses. There are plenty of opportunities to meet girls: Online Take dance or specialty classes: yoga, salsa Street approaches Everything in your reply oozes rationalization and that is a recipe for oneitis. Get out more. Only you can make the necessary changes.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:10 AM
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On the other hand, she is a self proclaimed slut, has a past as a coke addict and, I suppose, as a prostitute (she used to pay her rent in "nature"). Learn to filter better. This is a recipe for disaster. She'll be hitting you up for money. If you're as Blue Pill as you say you are, she'll sense a neediness--these types of girls have a very good intuition on how to play guys---and will then begin with the poor waif routines asking for money and making a variety of shame-inducing demands that wil…
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:08 AM
2

Girls often don't know what they want. So you ask them out and they say they're busy: question and answer. If this happens to me, I usually wait a week or so, then I do one of two things: "I'm going to xyz...join me": this implies you're busy and she's coming along, she's following. She'll ask questions if interested. OR "Hey, I'm back in town, let's meet up, what's you schedule next week?" This assumes the date is on and she can offer some times. IF she doesn't, drop it. In both cases it is a n…
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:05 AM
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Why arent I valuable yet? Value is in the eye of the beholder. Read more about the concept. You can raise your value relative to the type of girl who would be most attracted to you. What can I do to become more valuable? Adopt an abundance mindset. Become more clear in what it is that you bring that adds value.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:01 AM
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Very common. Sometimes they're busy, sometimes they have other options, sometimes they agree to something to avoid appearing rude. You have to stop obsessing over this and adopt an abundance mentality. I get this all the time and don't take it too seriously.
/r/askTRP17/12/17 11:59 PM
2

If you're referring to Korea... I know. Korean girls in Korea are repressed sexually and only come alive when there's no one around judging them. Learn game and stop giving off the needy vibe. Start getting better at spotting girls open to being gamed. Get them away from their social circle. Find the girls who have been educated overseas and understand the difference. You're obsessing over the wrong stuff. Don't try to fit in...make yourself stand out.
/r/askTRP17/12/17 11:59 AM
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You're probably over-gaming. Calibrate your game. Understand the Mystery Method better. The girls are seeing your lack of congruency and it's triggering their ASD. It's easily managed if you dial-down the asshole a bit when you sense that she's attracted. Read more about the comfort-building routines. She has to see you as a real person not some dude who's going to bang them and leave---they know that anyway. They want to "feel" comfortable with you. Study the comfort-building routines. Lots of …
/r/askTRP17/12/17 02:51 AM
2

Besides not being fluent in my mother tongue, Excuse I had depression and socially isolated myself for so long in the past Excuse so my poor social skills suck and that's probably a large part of the reason, Excuse but is there any other reason why this anti-masculine girly guy attracts more girls than me? You're confusing being an orbiter with guys getting hot girls. What you're seeing is not necessarily what is actually happening. Stop making tons of excuses, it's bringing you down. Learn game…
/r/askTRP17/12/17 02:46 AM
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Two things: Learn better text game. There are simple ways to get things going and then move it to asking them out. Don't waste too much time. if you invite a girl out once, possibly twice and they decline, move on. From experience, I meet girls in person and online. The online girls I give more lee-way. If I invite them out but either i'm busy or they're busy I allow for 2 invites. Usually it's "hey let's meet up this weekend." For the other girls, sometimes it's trickier. I have a few girls who…
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:37 AM
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It's not so much WHERE you go but WHAT you do. You're not screening these girls early or before dates to ensure you're setting a sexual frame. Tease them more via text. Learn better text game. That way you weed out the time-wasters. Secondly go for "drinks"---find a cozy pub. You don't have to drink alcohol but get into a place where it's darker and more prone to escalating. Finally, learn how to escalate. There are tons of materials and even new materials available on how to do this. Check out …
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:33 AM
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Regarding putting girls from Tinder on your Social Media--no. Be discrete. I put girls who are "friends" that I'm no banging on my social media profiles or in my albums. Putting a girl from Tinder on your social media profile may backfire by making your liaison more public. Alternately it could lead her to think you want more than a bang.
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:29 AM
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She's looking for comfort. If you've established your "lover" cred then it's fine continue as before.
/r/askTRP16/12/17 12:02 PM
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Too much...dial it down. This is for after you've fucked her.
/r/askTRP16/12/17 12:02 PM
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"Cool...he can make breakfast for us..."
/r/askTRP16/12/17 12:01 PM
2

Read the Mystery Method...it's all in there and laid out very clearly.
/r/askTRP16/12/17 03:46 AM
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If you ask on two consecutive instances and both times she makes an excuse you walk away. This is for your sanity. She's not going to come out and say she's not into you. Two strikes, and you walk. Only if she contacts you (not likely) then it's now in her court to ask for a date. This...I follow this rule as well. One chance... busy, can't...maybe she's not totally clued in---it can happen. But a second time? She's flaking.
/r/askTRP16/12/17 03:46 AM
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Things were going ok...then you started chasing. I have one situation with a "busy" girl. She is a flight attendant. She texts me from time to time. Once in a while she comes out. I've never escalated. So I treat her as a low-effort prospect where she texts and I passively respond. Contrast that with you....chasing. Abundance...dude.
/r/askTRP16/12/17 03:44 AM
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Typical female rationalization. When men do xyz= assholes When women do xyz=freedom, equality, blah blah blah
/r/askTRP16/12/17 02:28 AM
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I just had this...girl agrees to meet up. I text and say "let's go for drinks...I'm free Tuesday Wednesday" She replies it's her birthday and she's not free that time but maybe another time. I'll leave it until next week, shoot a birthday text and suggest drinks again...if she blows it off...THEN...I drop it.
/r/askTRP15/12/17 11:39 AM
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Dude you're jumping from one obsession to another. You can't have a "plate" on its own...when you have 3 they become plates which you spin. You're trying to cure the symptoms not the disease. You need to stop with the scarcity mentality and adopt an abundance mentality. Obsessing over any girl--whatever status you want to award her---is still oneitis
/r/askTRP15/12/17 09:34 AM
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I am currently in a dwindling LTR (2 years) with with my oneitis, I stopped reading after this. Spinning plates is the complete opposite of the scarcity mentality that drives oneitis. You don't have a plate, you have another oneitis...stop it.
/r/askTRP15/12/17 12:15 AM
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I cut them loose.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 10:21 AM
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usually it's OVER-reaction.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 01:43 AM
2

I was in this situation...the girl was playing me off another two of my "friends". The problem is that it became a situation where these two idiots were constantly undermining me to try to get into her pants. They gave her constant attention and my attempts to soft-next and modify her behavior were constantly undermined because she'd just hang out with one of these idiots. I would suggest rather than dumping her...you start spinning plates and have a few more on the go. This girl is not someone …
/r/askTRP13/12/17 12:49 AM
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Race Troll...
/r/askTRP12/12/17 06:30 PM
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@Whisper Great post. Great insight.
/r/askTRP12/12/17 02:28 AM
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Update: I just had this exact situation. Two weeks ago I meet an HB8 at a party. She's keen, chatting kinoing me...I'm running standard game: qualifying, negs, then switching back and forth with Comfort...number close. She suggests drinks. I text her the next day: "Hey trouble maker...if you promise to behave drinks...Thursday. Nothing...zero for two weeks. Suddenly late at night...one day before I'm hosting a massive party that she bought a ticket for through someone else...she texts me: "Hey J…
/r/askTRP08/12/17 04:17 PM
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Or say: I think we should just be friends. Then take a step or two back...and she shrugs and says "ok"... Because she already friend-zoned you. Her asking you out again was due to your push-pull game. Wow. Read more comment less.
/r/askTRP08/12/17 11:02 AM
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"Alright... Do you still want to go out?" You: Only if you're buying the first round... If she blabs, then never reply. Some posters have said you were Plan B or C or D... Doesn't matter. You played it cool and she suddenly bounced back---on cue too. Shit-test passed. Now flip the script. Make it seem like she's working for your attention. Meet, escalate and bang. Then say "I'm not really looking for anything at the moment."
/r/askTRP07/12/17 05:03 PM
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PS The day i told her how i feel she said she doesnt know what to say then a few days later she says she couldnt decide so she just friendzones me Facepalm....... I think this is more evidence of the influence of the Feminist Imperative.... Guys have lost that element of mystery and desirability by being constantly fed the wrong information by media and other channels developed and aimed exclusively at women. Every woman wants a man to express themselves to her but no woman actually wants to see…
/r/askTRP07/12/17 01:16 AM
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This post is cringe-worthy..especially the part about getting invited to hang with her and her gay friend---which you agree to only to get ghosted.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 04:37 PM
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and having emotional talk. Blue Pill. Fix that. I was banging a plate who kept pushing for some sort of exclusivity. I always felt she was clingy and just a bit crazy. Every time I'd try to next her she'd freak and bombard me with texts. She started a new tactic: chasing after two of my friends. These two dudes are a couple of thirsty faggots. Since I kept our thing low key I never bothered to tell these two. But what I discovered was these two dudes were undermining me all the time. This "let's…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 02:45 AM
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You have oneitis and are clearly obsessing over this "one girl". The best reason for cutting it off is to dial down this obsession. Apart from that you're reading way too much into a girl's behavior. If you're busy you can make other plans. If a girl is attracted she can go years without straying. That's the concept behind the "Alpha Widow". Learn more about Red Pill thinking and start adopting it. Cutting off a girl for no reason is just idiotic.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 01:24 AM
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Troll.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 07:59 AM
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"If she plays her cards right...we'll see"
/r/askTRP03/12/17 03:38 PM
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Not terrible but not what I want. Wow... When I tell her to wear it, she flips the cards and says I am the mean one. And...wow. The title of this post should be: "Guy with no options fools himself into thinking he doesn't have a gf but acts like a butthurt bf when she doesn't wear make up" The solution is simple: dump her, stop being so dependent on one girl and get out of the house and start meeting new girls so when one doesn't do what you "want"...you can move on seamlessly without the petty …
/r/askTRP02/12/17 03:00 AM
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Yes...
/r/askTRP01/12/17 04:38 PM
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For the last week been texting this girl who has a bf Seriously? You're confused she "Ghosted" you? She didn't ghost you...she has a bf!!! Stop obsessing over this one girl...
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:17 AM
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Do some research and try the stuff....then come back and post if you have questions.
/r/askTRP29/11/17 03:19 PM
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This is ridiculous and doesn't consider game or Red Pill thinking. Here's a better strategy: everyday open 10 girls, number close, go out for drinks....not coffee. Coffee dates are for Beta losers and lead no where. Being "friends" with girls leads to them relying on you for friendship. Attraction in women is not a choice. Once you understand game, you realize that sparking attraction has certain triggers. Read everything you can on game, Mystery Method, buy Krauser's next book on Daygame Master…
/r/askTRP27/11/17 09:54 PM
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It's because Blue Pill, Beta, Passivity is easy. It's harder to be a leader than a follower. Also you have a lot of factors working against you in real life: The Feminist Imperative is everywhere: work, movies, TV, commercials---all of which portray men as stupid, evil or redundant in some way. Just keep focused on your own development.
/r/askTRP27/11/17 09:49 PM
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and to be honest, I am making more of it than she is. This is at the heart of co-dependency. To be honest, the timing of it--after your break up---the casual mention of it---at dinner and the whole climate of the post-Weinstein polemic....I'd be very careful with this girl.
/r/askTRP27/11/17 01:02 AM
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You have to do your own homework. The sidebar is one part of that but there is a huge amount of Red Pill and game material online. Stop being lazy
/r/askTRP26/11/17 11:56 PM
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Stood up? "Flaked'. Use the right words to get the right advice online.
/r/askTRP26/11/17 11:55 PM
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You have oneitis and you're trying to white knight an "ex". Don't try to save women, it's a sink hole. You went out for 6 months and it never came up...suddenly AFTER you break up with her she finds a weak spot in you, brings this up DURING DINNER!??? You seem to be making more of this than she is. I had a plate who over the course of 9 months tried everything to get my sympathy: Fake std scare Fake pregnancy scare Fake imminent heart operation scare The only thing that did work...to a degree is…
/r/askTRP26/11/17 11:53 PM
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I was going to send her that post along with a dm like "Hey, I'm always open." along with a winking emoji and see what her response is. Good idea or no? Great idea...if this was the Ask the Blue Pill board. Needy, clingy, obsessive, scarcity mentality. She's trolling guys...and you're reacting? Work on yourself stop worrying what people post on social media.
/r/askTRP26/11/17 02:36 PM
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Just met a girl at a party the other night. She gives me IOI's, she's making sure I get her name, number, I suggest drinks she's all about that. Then I suggest splitting for drinks after the party. She says not this time but we'll set it up. I leave, I do a routine follow up text: "Hey smiley girl, good connection." Nothing. No reply. Girls are like that. Usually when it's that full on and there's no follow up it generally means there's another guy in the picture somewhere. I don't get too beat …
/r/askTRP26/11/17 02:04 PM
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She's simply not interested. Move on. You're reading way more into this. Sometimes girls want attention at the time. You number close...then never hear back from them or they flake. That's why abundance is so important.
/r/askTRP26/11/17 01:47 PM
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She’s an attention whore and There's your answer right there...
/r/askTRP26/11/17 03:33 AM
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This is where the go-to text response: 'k' works. She will start texting like crazy. You just leave it and move on. This whole hamstering and rationalizing she's doing it how you should be gaming girls. When I meet a girl and number close after getting a ton of IOI's or a make out session like the one you describe, I now have a go-to text: "hey, good connection." This immediately states interest without being needy. It declares your intentions without any expectation. If she responds, it's on. I…
/r/askTRP26/11/17 02:30 AM
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It’s been about a week since- am I alright to text her again? Sorry if this is a lame question but I haven’t been in this position before and this girl is a bombshell. Don’t want to sound desperate but I really don’t have anything to lose. I'll just share my own experience. When I find myself in a situation where I've met a hot girl that I've gamed it usually start the opening text like this: "Hey smiley girl. Good connection." Then I wait for the girl to respond. This does a few things: This se…
/r/askTRP26/11/17 02:16 AM
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Agree...this is a very unstable girl and the bombarding of needy texts is a red flag. Disappear.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 06:28 PM
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Beware over-gaming....you've sparked attraction now you want to dial-it down to move to comfort...the switch to Seduction. The over-gaming is a default response by newbies. If she starts with the shit-tests...agree and amplify. Once you smash it...then move towards building comfort. The Questions Game is ideal for that with sexual spikes built in.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 06:25 PM
2

Classic Mystery response: "Player? I'm the coach" "Hater the player not the game..."
/r/askTRP25/11/17 06:22 PM
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It pissed me the fuck off but i know ill get over it. I really just wanna known the motive behind this. Is she just doing it for validation from an ex or to fuck with my head? Possibly...but whatever her motivation she IS fucking with your head so find a way to stop obsessing about this. It is NO REFLECTION of you. You said yourself YOU broke up with her. I've been in this situation. I understand. Just chill and move on.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 08:25 AM
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I'll put this into a Red Pill context for you so it's easier to understand: My main plate has been acting up, Shit test So the last she did it, I told to drop the bullshit, Fail [SHE] asked why I would care, You just lowered your value and she's losing attraction and... I said I don't and just walked away Butthurt... It's harsh. I did all this. One of my plates kept acting up---much worse than this. I would lose my shit, then leave...she would keep begging me to come back. I later began to reali…
/r/askTRP25/11/17 03:48 AM
1

Means she sees you as a friend...
/r/askTRP25/11/17 01:54 AM
1

She texts I suggest drinks, it's either on or off...then I move on.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 10:10 AM
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Today she said "I am not feeling well .... I think we wont meet tomorrow". To which i just replied 'Take care'. Well done... Then she replied 'Mad?'. I haven't replied yet. Don't reply. Let her hamster fry. Let her THINK you have other options. Then...go find other options and leave this one. I have a plate like this. She texts me all the time when she's in my city. I suggest meeting up. she disappears. I don't care. I have 3 others on the go. She knows this.
/r/askTRP24/11/17 12:01 AM
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It's co-dependence. I've struggled with it all my life. It's low self-esteem. It's only been within the last two years that I've been able to better contain it by being more conscious of it and stopping the thinking. Also, I've been more relaxed and worked harder on my own projects to get them good. It takes work to unclog that shit.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 04:11 PM
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I just had this. I read the sidebar. In my case the girl was a plate and texted an ultimatum. I ignored it. She got angry and wrote me not to contact her. I have 2-3 other plates on the go. When you get this question you have to manage this. She's seeking comfort. You can use one of the ideas in the sidebar or just drop her. Otherwise she'll walk out.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 11:33 AM
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Despite all that though, i still have a cute girlfriend, a good guy friend, and a wide social circle of people i am accuainted with and who like me. So what exactly is the problem?
/r/askTRP22/11/17 03:11 PM
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THe minute a plate or any other girl in your life starts flaunting things like meeting other guys---via Tinder...leave. Drop her. It will make you lose your balls. She's actively seeking out guys to bang and you're enabling her. Do you not see this?
/r/askTRP22/11/17 11:36 AM
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Yesterday she matched this guy on Tinder, gives him her number. They text, he gives off a weird vibe, Dude...you've become her emotional tampon and orbiter. Remove yourself from this story and what do you have? A girl reaching out trying to bang random guys on the internet. Think it through. This is the emotional waif looking for a white knight. She's got you sucked into her drama. Leave.
/r/askTRP22/11/17 12:39 AM
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I suspect that what actually happened was there was another guy who was "nice" and a contrast to my carefree ways. That sparked her to launch into the "I want a family"....and the rest.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 11:38 PM
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Just opened the texts or rather wall of text she sent. I realized she ranted about me not wanting a relationship and then said I had no guts, then she said not to contact her anymore. Then I realized she blocked or deleted me. She did all this on her own. I did not say a word. My phone could have been lost during those 3 days. She hamstered me out of her life all on her own.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 01:52 PM
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You skeeeeerd?" stopped working on you when you were 7. Right. But it's not the first time I've heard that emasculating language: 'coward' 'no guts'. This was a good reality check. The last response she sent which I could read on preview but didn't open was words to the effect of: "you were only looking for a fuck..." etc etc. More shaming... because of course girls don't like sex.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 11:55 AM
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Shame is a powerful motivator. In this Blue Pill beta world the Feminist Imperative has made shaming their tool of choice. Don't do something I want? You're a terrible person... Don't respond? You're a terrible person. It takes real will-power to disconnect from that. Thanks for the response.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 01:08 AM
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Similar but different. In my case this was a plate who I saw for 6 months. We would hang out and bang once a week or so. Suddenly she got demanding about my level of commitment and was texting words to the effect: 'men must work to make women happy'. In your case, no, the girl got it. You did the right thing.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 01:06 AM
2

This is a great insight and one that I over-looked.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 12:04 AM
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Great reply.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 11:48 PM
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"k" has to be used in certain situations. In this one, the girl pulled the exclusivity ultimatum and then said we shouldn't see each other. I didn't reply. She freaked out. "k" would have over-played it.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 03:49 PM
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Thanks, I've had this "you coward" stuff thrown at me after I stuck to the ghosting I advocate guys on here to do. It works. I think it's vital to keep spinning plates so when one drops like this you're not wallowing in self-pity. I called up another one and spent the day with her...no drama.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 03:48 PM
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Shark had a great post on his now defunct blog about this. A lot depends on how things ended. If you ended it...plough on like nothing happened. If she ended it and you accepted it and were alpha be aloof and neither engage or run away....just sort of walk through her. If she ended it and you were a total beta...ignore her and make sure she doesn't see you.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 02:29 PM
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"I've been wanting to save the talking for the date. Come meet me tomorrow and you can talk to your heart's content" Next time keep it to two or three words. I would have replied: "Talking's over-rated."
/r/askTRP19/11/17 02:17 AM
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I'll share a current story. I've been banging a plate for 6 months. We have a great time together, bang, lots of laughs. I get a text today...actually a wall of text saying: "it's been 6 months blah blah blah blah and something something...so we shouldn't see each other until..." Basically an ultimatum for exclusivity according to the Sidebar. I didn't react....yet. That calmness is what gets the hamster spinning. My reaction would be a calm: "Oh...time flies. Good luck then." I've reacted badly…
/r/askTRP19/11/17 02:09 AM
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why do they find a calm stoic man so attractive? From an evolutionary psychology perspective the 3 qualities that spark female attraction are: Leader of men Protector of women and children Pre-selected by other women A calm man in the face of a crisis falls under the first two. The third would be presumed.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 02:07 AM
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You want to keep her as a plate...she doesn't want to be a plate and is blowing you off. Best move? "k" Leave it. I just got a wall of text from a plate who wants to be exclusive and true to the SIDEBAR starting with "it's been six months...." and then giving me an ultimatum: "we shouldn't see each other until..." I didn't read the rest of it. First thing I did: didn't open the text. She'll see I was online and the texts are unread. I'll wait a few days and respond: "oh..time flies" and leave it…
/r/askTRP18/11/17 06:00 PM
1

Oh yah...she came back...by first stalking me at my djing and then dropping off a box of the Christmas gift I gave her with a hand written creepy note that rambled on about how she hoped I lost my job. She would occasionally show up when I dj'd and chase other blokes--including a "friend" of mine. I didn't react. I told the "friend" to fuck off and never contact me again. Now, 11 months later...I see her occasionally and I honestly don't notice her or what she's doing.
/r/askTRP18/11/17 09:10 AM
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This takes a lot of work and it's mind over matter. It took me years and years to work on this. When I discovered the Red Pill and game it gave me a template and structure to deal with my co-dependency. But inner-game is more important. I get all the concepts but the "feeling" sometimes requires me to stop. Pause and let it pass. It does require a complete re-wiring of your fucked up inner programming. Read everything you can. If necessary find some credible behavioural therapist specializing in…
/r/askTRP18/11/17 02:18 AM
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There's always the 80-20 ratio in Game: 80% of the women always go for 20% of the men. Be among that 20%. Learn game. With a sex ratio like that, let the betas and orbiters crash and burn, be the one who stands out because he isn't supplicating.
/r/askTRP17/11/17 05:36 PM
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No....leave it. Move on.
/r/askTRP17/11/17 12:12 PM
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You can't "next" a girl you haven't fucked. You made the overture, she expressed interest so leave it to her for follow up. I have this a lot. Girl says "yah yah yah"...then I suggest a time and place and she doesn't agree. I always make other plans and then if she reaches out, reschedule....or in your case...schedule.
/r/askTRP17/11/17 11:01 AM
0

You again? Go away...get off your keyboard you pathetic attention-seeking broken doll. First it was the stupid Nazi references, now it's the right-wing presidential candidates. You got the attention...now fuck off.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 02:44 PM
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Please post ways you've cured your oneitis or has helped immensely. You're looking for a quick fix: lift, GFTOW...the problem is you. You break up and there's a huge hole in your life instead of it being "hmm...oh well, i'll find someone else..." then calling someone else.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 02:40 PM
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Troll....
/r/askTRP11/11/17 08:36 AM
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ignore her. She's turning you into a plate.
/r/askTRP11/11/17 08:35 AM
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One hour before the date she sent me a text saying that she could not come to the date. This is a flake and it's unacceptable. Not sure what your relationship is but if this is a first meet up or early meet up, it's unacceptable behavior but very common. She also apologized but did not provide me with an excuse. Terrible. I did not reply to the text. Good. Don't reply. IF she reaches out again, leave it for a few days to judge her sincerity and panic. If she's not interested, don't reply. There …
/r/askTRP11/11/17 03:45 AM
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The ex will get pissed off claiming that it's "humiliating" that I do that in front of our colleagues who know we were together. Tl;dr ugly co-worker may get angry if I bring a girl to a company Christmas party. The real issue for you isn't your ex---it's the possibility you'll let this uglier girl undermine what seems like a good thing with this newer hotter girl. If that's the case go stag. If you want to move on...bring the hotter girl and forget the uglier one. If there's any possibility of …
/r/askTRP07/11/17 11:51 PM
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Closure if for women. Do.Not.Give.Her.This. Closure is for losers.... She dumped you. You leave and never speak to her again. This will do wonders for your self-esteem.
/r/askTRP07/11/17 01:40 PM
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Simple...see less of her.
/r/askTRP06/11/17 12:56 PM
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You held your frame with her. What's the point of confronting him? Will it make him stop? It will make you look insecure by revealing too much. A better way would be to weave it into a conversation if you're talking to him: "What's with guys these days when did guys become such gossips they're worse than girls...I was talking to one of my girls who was laughing about how dude was talking shit about me like that was going to get her to go out with him or something...can you imagine that?" Tap him…
/r/askTRP06/11/17 12:53 PM
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Terrible advice. You're not her therapist.
/r/askTRP05/11/17 11:04 PM
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This is the best advice of all. If I get these types of messages I either ignore or make a joke. If you start "helping" you lapse into provider mode. You want to set the "lover" vibe. But the OP's comment: The nice guy in me immediately thinks to either ask what’s wrong or let her vent to me etc... Is what needs addressing. There are many ways to stop this thinking: No More Mr. Nice Guy, addressing co-dependence issues etc. It's the Blue Pill beta thinking that is at the core. The fact the OP qu…
/r/askTRP05/11/17 11:03 PM
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there's one more thing I don't understand, everyone say she came looking for validation, from a woman's biological level she wants attention and orbiters. When you reject her, ghost her, disappear, instill dread---IF your attraction is high it will trigger in her hind brain a response of making you unavailable and therefore raising your value. validation for what exactly? Women who break up or leave hate hate hate the idea that they're a bad person. So after she breaks up, she de-sexualizes you …
/r/askTRP05/11/17 03:32 AM
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i just really do not understand what was so wrong about the way I responded tonight, Ok, it's not what you said it's what you did. By responding now your hamster is in over-drive spinning and over-thinking. Here's a clear example. Just yesterday my crazy ex who I had major oneitis for and finally ghosted 2.5 years ago broke silence. Of course... I cut her off and despite seeing her out and about regularly I ignored her. She approached me to buy a ticket for a concert I'm putting together. The dj…
/r/askTRP05/11/17 01:37 AM
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'kinda seeing someone' but happy to meet up as friends and only looking to be friends. I stand in the "Plausible deniability" camp here. There's a standard response to this you need to give and this will sort her out fast: "I'm a man you're a woman, I see you as a woman, not a friend. If you're only interested in friends that's fine. Good luck." That is in line with your sexual frame. You will know instantly what the deal is. She's not nexting you...she's playing around here and shit-testing you…
/r/askTRP04/11/17 06:06 PM
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My crazy ex who I ghosted 2.5 years ago broke the silence today. She approached me nervously to buy a ticket to a concert I'm putting together. The DJ is a friend of hers. She approached asking to buy a ticket. Naturally because I no longer give a shit, I of course ran standard game on her: Me: "One? Buy 10...I need the money" Her: blah blah blah Me; The dj will be happy Her: blah blah blah She paid in small notes Me: You laundering money? I realized she was making an effort and thanked her for …
/r/askTRP04/11/17 06:00 PM
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She begs for me back each time we break up and she's very girl like and submissive. I just can't seem to walk away I always just say fuck it what's the harm in staying its only sex. Similar situation...same types of behaviours. I just started banging other girls and slowly eclipsed her out of my life. Finally she got the hint and created a massive drama which gave me the excuse I needed to ghost her. There was of course the "extinction burst"--she came out to an event I was hosting and dumped a …
/r/askTRP04/11/17 03:37 AM
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If they lie about that...what else are they hiding?
/r/askTRP04/11/17 01:54 AM
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She lied about her age.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 05:35 PM
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This is an amazing assessment.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 12:59 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with this at all---except the sudden scarcity mentality. Lose that and keep the rest of this whole attitude and keep ploughing.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 10:43 AM
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I honestly don't know what's happened. The guys in my various social circles are: 1) thirsty 2) not helpful or loyal in any way 3) back-stabbing and undermining 4) beta orbiters who think supplicating to girls will get them special treatment or feel that's the way to be a 'man'.
/r/askTRP02/11/17 11:39 AM
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No it doesn't. That's a perfectly executed soft-next. She does something to annoy you, you disappear, she reaches out. If you ghosted everyone who rejected you, you'd never get anywhere.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:52 PM
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Similar situation happened to me. Plate was trying to spin a jealousy plotline by hanging out with two of my friends. I think she recognized their orbiter potential early and leveraged that. What pissed me off was 1) their utter sloppy thirst, they would ask her out in front of me...she was even embarrassed 2) they undermined me to her 3) they played into her frame All the while I was banging her she was taking dance lessons and going to yoga with these two losers who were subtly bad mouthing me…
/r/askTRP01/11/17 01:38 PM
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He'll learn...eventually. But telling him to give up when the girl suddenly re-connected is an IOI.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:53 AM
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Pretty much everything is telling me to stop talking to her Stop right there... because I still have oneitis but absolutely hate the fact she still has this power over me. This sentence is all wrong...it should read: she still has power over me because I still have oneitis Fixed it for you.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:41 AM
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That's a defeatist mentality. It's terrible advice because it offers no other alternative. If this guy was ploughing through women sure. But he's a newbie to game and confused by what any Red Pill guy could have easily predicted: walk away and she starts chasing. Orbiter grooming is different. It would be more like he asks her out, she says she's busy...he keeps chasing...she finally agrees and starts getting him to buy her drinks, dance with her, etc etc. That isn't the situation in this post a…
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:38 AM
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Disagree... ghosting is the default position. But in this case there is a chance to run asshole game on her and flip the script. That's the point of game...it's a tool. Ghosting is what you do when someone has truly wronged you. He asked her out, she said no. He walked. Now she's curious as to why she didn't hear from him.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:36 AM
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.Couple months later she realizes she made a mistake. You're still stuck in Blue Pill thinking. Girls don't "realize" they made a "mistake". They are ruled by their biology. A more likely explanation was that after you disappeared and let her be she ran through her rolodex of orbiters...thought "ew" and then realized there was someone who was probably with someone else and was bold enough to ask her out so her hamster started running overtime. Asks if you want to chill? Tossing out some beta chu…
/r/askTRP01/11/17 11:25 AM
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I've done things like this...I wouldn't recommend it. it comes out of the blue and sets you up from lover to provider her expectations for a provider immediately go up and then the nuclear shit-tests start unless you're prepared to have the power dynamic in the relationship switched in her favour don't do it.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:58 PM
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We all got that ex. I stopped reading after this. Oneitis. Sidebar. Ask a real question next time.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 03:21 PM
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I still feel shitty for not even telling her I don't want to speak after she pretty much begged for it That's co-dependence. Something to start working on. You're too nice a guy. Not surprising she dumped you and is surprised you grew a set of balls and ghosted her. This is winning. Sometimes doing the right thing doesn't feel right at the time. Doing the right thing isn't easy....doing the easy thing isn't always right.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 03:19 PM
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Scarcity Yes...and Blue Pill fantasy thinking about meeting "the one". She's out there...my special unicorn...
/r/askTRP31/10/17 03:15 PM
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I feel like I lost an opportunity Scarcity mentality... You break up for being beta...she's off with whoever, doing whatever...you get on with your life...suddenly she contacts you--I've explained why above. You're like a thirsty coyote...the first sign of a sheep and you're running and drooling. Get a grip man. Can you tell me why I won? Because you moved on and she came crawling back. Chalk it up as a victory and move. She's not the only girl in the world---you discovered that after she broke …
/r/askTRP31/10/17 02:50 PM
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Fuckkk I seriously feel like I'm about to break You won. Ok, this is my last piece of advice. Block and delete. Learn from it and move on. Don't post anymore you've got everything you need.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 12:58 PM
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"we had something special, maybe she really just want to know that I'm ok" This is based on hope and hope is Blue Pill. Red Pill is based on reality and an understanding of evolutionary psychology and people's true motivations and hidden agendas. The reason adopting a Red Pill mentality is so powerful is because you can immediately tell what will and what won't work. Hope motivates you to invest in situations and people that burn or waste your time. I'm going through this myself. But I stay focu…
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:52 AM
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I've discovered TRP after my Ex broke up with me, we've been together for a year and a half. Good. After the break up I was in a really bad place, major oneitis. But kept working on myself and kept no contact, deleted her number and tried to move on. Congratulations. You're doing great. I'm thinking give her a few more hours than answer "yeah?" And see where it takes me... any suggestions? Yes...move on. Delete and block. You've just discovered the Red Pill truth that you ex ALWAYS comes back af…
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:33 AM
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I agree with her post and comment "that's retarded" Well wouldn't you know, it pissed off all the SJWs in the group. "you shouldn't use that language its ableist" "you are offensive" It's not alpha to deliberately provoke needless confrontations. The people in the group agree to kick me out, no big deal its the internet, but my LTR of 9 months doesn't defend me and stays in the group. Women seek validation. You've lowered your value with this needless confrontation. From a "biological" perspecti…
/r/askTRP31/10/17 01:08 AM
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tl:dr I couldn't get through this. Sounds like you ghosted a girl and then regretted it when the ghosting worked in getting her to react. Grow some balls.
/r/askTRP30/10/17 11:35 PM
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Ok, I've offered you enough advice. Suggest you lay off the weed...it's clouding your judgement.
/r/askTRP30/10/17 01:03 AM
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You're confusing general banter with true IOI's. She's looking for a provider---someone to GIVE her a joint or PROVIDE her with some entertainment. She's already seen you as that beta provider and made a play for your friend. Start to read more about evolutionary psychology and you'll see that questions like that are clear indicators of seeking SOME THING a PROVISION from you. It's not necessarily an IOI. Also when you ignore girls they tend to react instinctively to try to get your attention ba…
/r/askTRP30/10/17 12:16 AM
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Reason I stopped talking to her: she got drunk, saw a picture of me with a good friend (we look very similar) and she asked for his contact info. Good. More guys need to read this and do it. Why do you care? She disrespected you. This is a perfect illustration of how girls develop orbiters.
/r/askTRP29/10/17 11:48 PM
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Do you think the chances are slim she'll start to like me later? Learn game and get a better understanding of Male/Female sexual dynamics. She's made her mind up. Leave it. and asked if i smoke. (Smoking usually can lead to fucking) Lol...you have a lot to learn
/r/askTRP29/10/17 11:45 PM
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You're over-thinking this. Sounds like you've done amazing work on yourself. 7 notches? Great. I have 15. A few were 5's but hey any experience is good experience. The hot ones were really hot Once in a while I find myself like you...not converting the girls to bangs. Take a step back and realize game is a tool---it's a way of increasing your odds of getting new girls. But more important is to just get out there and circulate. Not every girl you meet is going to want to bang you and flakes are c…
/r/askTRP29/10/17 09:38 AM
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I then say "let me know". Congrats, you just gave up frame. For you lurkers wondering what frame is and how to keep it or lose..."let me know"...passive, gives the entire decision-making process to her. A better way that I use is just simply say "we'll see'. "We'll see" incepts the idea that you'll decide, it gets her hamster spinning and instills enough dread to prompt her to react. That...is you how you KEEP frame. She says "remind her :)". Ok so you were a "nice guy" with the "let me know" be…
/r/askTRP29/10/17 09:35 AM
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For this situation you done goofed and should next. I think a lot of guys mix up outcome with output. Frame is about you having the final say. If she wants to pick a place it puts you in the deciding role. If it's something you like...cool. If not, tell her to find something or then say "I'll pick it...you're buying the first round." I often cook not because i'm losing frame but because I enjoy cooking. But the girl will always do dishes, light candles, pick music or whatever. if not...next. Fra…
/r/askTRP29/10/17 09:00 AM
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These are shit-tests. Sounds like you just need to let her go. By the third-date if she's pulling this crap she's high maintenance. A way to be flexible and keep frame would be to say: "We're staying. Next time you pick the place and buy the first round and I'll decide if I like it..." Smile and she leaves anyway. Let her go. That's keeping frame AND being flexible.
/r/askTRP29/10/17 02:18 AM
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"Are you writing a book?" "Girlfriend? I have tons....." "Girlfriend? What is this the 1950's?" "Always room for one more in my harem..."
/r/askTRP28/10/17 05:41 PM
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3 weeks after we became monagamous, she tells me she was hanging out with her ex boyfriend one on one after she got off work Right... She always tried to convince me that sge was a good girl, but i later find out she was using tinder the whole time even when we were monogamous. She ssid its my fault since i was aleays calling her a whore. I had a similar situation. I just banged the girl. When she got too crazy I finally ghosted her. Funny thing...she went nuts...wrote a nasty note, showed up wh…
/r/askTRP28/10/17 05:40 PM
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I just ignore them. They hate that. With any ex or girl who tried crap on me...I just blank them. They hate that. One sits across from me at parties. I just ignore. That gets her hamster spinning.
/r/askTRP28/10/17 05:35 PM
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Classic case of over-gaming. There's a big difference between playful asshole and jerk... She's all keen and instead of escalating and moving towards banging her...you just keep gaming her. Learn the Mystery Method. Ready Krauser's Daygame Mastery and figure out the steps. Rollo says something to the effect of: she wants to fuck you...don't give her an excuse not to. Your game needs calibration. The tone of your post is defensive, passive aggressive and hostile frankly. It's not a surprise she f…
/r/askTRP28/10/17 11:35 AM
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If that's the case--why would you keep her around? You have a residual scarcity mentality and that's prompting this obsession.
/r/askTRP28/10/17 01:20 AM
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The problem here is that you didn't isolate after the first two attempts. Girls will dodge, it's what they do. Your job is to calibrate: more comfort? Pull back? The correct way to handle this is to continue like nothing happened, find a second moment and go for it. If she dodges but is still engaged as you describe, she wants you to figure it out. I asked where she's going, she said to the bus, so I took my hat back, she takes it again, she said she was going to the bathroom, I've asked if she …
/r/askTRP27/10/17 05:47 PM
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She's a plate, plates leave. You have to stop worrying about one leaving or banging other dudes when you claim to have abundance. You're only "cucked" if you care.
/r/askTRP27/10/17 05:40 PM
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How do you handle this if you want commitment from her without giving her commitment? Simple answer: increase your SMV by adopting an abundance mentality and stay busy. These are the kinds of things girls try to lock you in, instill dread in you. It works because guys need obvious signs. Instilling dread in women is simply canceling a date with minimal explanation: "A bit busy..."
/r/askTRP27/10/17 12:36 PM
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Again with the new handles and the same useless cut and paste comments. Comment less, you have nothing to say.
/r/askTRP26/10/17 11:51 PM
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From Krauser: I'm a man, you're a woman. I see you as woman not a friend. I have plenty of friends. Good luck. If it's a shit-test she'll immediately buckle and throw herself at you. I've used this with 100% success in weeding out time wasters.
/r/askTRP25/10/17 12:44 PM
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If she's down to hang out as friends...you're friendzoned. Girls are very specific when they're attracted to you. You are "hanging out" or they prefer not to define you. Move on.
/r/askTRP24/10/17 03:06 PM
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We're watching your comments. Stop the cut and pasting and read more...comment less.
/r/askTRP23/10/17 03:53 PM
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My girlfriend does this thing where she talks about how hot other men are (celebrities and models usually), or IG guys. She's very into fashion, and very aware of her looks, takes care of herself. The girl I was banging started doing this. But she started doing it when other attention-grabbing behaviours didn't work. I reacted badly---got angry, would shut her out, soft next her... I should have ignored it...agreed and amplified... "I don't think I like how you're objectifying men...I'm offended…
/r/askTRP23/10/17 03:49 PM
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You opened her up. You got a reaction and it seems to scare you. Now start calibrating so that you're seen as more easy-going and not so angry and sarcastic. It's all about the tone.
/r/askTRP22/10/17 02:29 AM
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Ghosting means never seeing them again. Sounds like you're talking about "Soft-nexting". What's your goal? If you're doing it to get back at them, you're coming off as butthurt and insecure. There are whole sections of blogs devoted to soft-nexting, start with Black Dragon's guide to soft-nexting.
/r/askTRP21/10/17 06:55 PM
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What's missing from your negs seems to be amused mastery. Being a tease is fine but it has to come off calibrated. If you're making snide comments you sound angry. Example..A girl I know at a Latin dance party I started gaming last week...I tease her like this: "Interesting outfit you're wearing, it's like a bathing suit...fits you like a second skin..." She looks surprised: "So it's not good?" She's seeking validation. She's hooked. Me; It's interesting-- keeping it vague. That keeps her thinki…
/r/askTRP21/10/17 06:48 PM
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I am the same way. I'm better now...but a lot of that is because I've become better at managing my temper and emotions. But when I look back at my life, the outcomes and failures would have been pretty much the same if I hadn't been so worried about them and stayed focused. A lot of this comes from a lifetime of co-dependency. Discovering the reasons for it, the triggers of it and stopping them takes a lot of work. Read everything you can on co-dependence and obsessive thinking and strategies fo…
/r/askTRP21/10/17 12:40 PM
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I think he mean ****ing...
/r/askTRP21/10/17 11:57 AM
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Women always know exactly wtf they're doing. This has taken a while to sink in but it's a Red Pill truth.
/r/askTRP19/10/17 11:59 PM
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This.. we were like angels together....We only had 2 fights in all our relationship. And this: She replied 20 minutes ago saying 'What the fuck? Leave me alone creep'. Swallowing The Red Pill often leads to the bitter realization about some uncomfortable truths about women: they're not loyal, attraction is never a given or permanent and they can change quickly. You can read more about all this and the biological reasons for this. For now, stop obsessing or thinking that by chasing her, being "ni…
/r/askTRP18/10/17 11:56 PM
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The BP-programming about girls also runs very deep and I still >I still hav to actively hold myself from defending or explaining myself, or to retreat if she pushes back and being prone to getting guilt tripped is my achilles heel. It's something I have to consciously stop myself from doing...
/r/askTRP16/10/17 11:29 PM
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Many of us are in similar situations. We had abusive childhoods, poor role-models or something similar to your situation. Two things from personal experience to share: 1) there is a wider victim culture that feeds into an idea of entitlement: "I had a shitty child so that makes it ok to seek external validation of that and/or blame my mistakes, lack of success on that 2) no one cares. Many say they do...but they don't. Sadly you're on your own. In my case I fight that urge of blaming---or I find…
/r/askTRP15/10/17 11:25 PM
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She says she never fully understood the importance of sex in a relationship, agreed that we were waiting too long, and she wants to give having sex a try. Congratulations...you've successfully executed a soft-next. A few things...don't jump on this too quick. "We'll see, bit busy this week..." Leave it a few days, then text with time, place: "Let's broil steaks...bring the wine" Then take it from there. If you don't get results, hard-next. You should be spinning several plates anyway.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 03:21 AM
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It's an awful feeling. It's taken me almost all my life to work towards trying to find a way to deal with this. You would not know it at all if you met me. I now find myself becoming more cool and aloof in a bid to avoid that contact that sparks it. The irony is that it's actually something quite attractive to women who see me as strong and a zero fucks given type. But dealing with that insecurity just takes conscious effort and a strategy of letting the feelings pass like a storm.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 02:12 AM
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It's co-dependence. The reasons for it are many. The way to stop it is to read more about co-dependence and to dial down on the people-pleasing. Sadly, I find this was a pattern in my life. I've dealt with it through trial and error, mind over matter, working on my own inner self-esteem that eliminates the need for this kind of external validation. What your feeling is real. Dealing with it requires a conscious effort to divert or stop the thinking when it creeps up.
/r/askTRP14/10/17 09:01 AM
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By ghosting them you display higher value...then biology kicks in and their hypergamous nature takes control. When you make yourself available...they remember why they weren't attracted to you and they walk away. Biology is your friend...use it well.
/r/askTRP12/10/17 02:11 PM
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Great response. It's about setting the frame early and often.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 10:48 PM
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If they're hot and I can't remember them...I usually play up some memory I may have. Then...I make up a nick name on the spot and start calling her that. Sometimes they'll say "My name is xxx"
/r/askTRP11/10/17 03:25 PM
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The more you chase, the more you lower your value.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 11:45 AM
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I was in this situation twice in the last 4 years. The first time it was devastating. I discovered the works of Shari Schreiber who has an amazing website and is very Red Pill in her approach to dealing with BPD. http://gettinbetter.com/index.html The gaslighting is the idea that they make you believe you're the problem. They find a weakness and prey on it. It's all explained. But the hardest part of dealing with the BPD break up is the realization that you too are somehow damaged to have allowe…
/r/askTRP08/10/17 10:07 AM
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What does it feel like to stand of for yourself and tell others, even close friends, to step off when they do something you don't like? It feels really weird---at first. Their reaction is very often strong---like they can't believe it and they're fighting back. You have to keep your frame in these situations. A good example was when I warned a plate repeatedly that if she didn't stop her disrespectful behaviours I would leave. She pushed it. I left---just disappeared. Of course she blew up--sent…
/r/askTRP07/10/17 05:41 PM
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You don't "define" anything...you just stop spending so much time with her by making yourself busy. Believe me, girls will figure this out. With my plates when I spend less time with them suddenly they're dressing up, sending hot photos and doing nicer things. If they don't, hard next.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 02:17 AM
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Me: You're kinda adorable. Have you ever gone out with a guy more attractive than yourself? I shall be your first. Try hard. Dial it down. Her: Don't get fooled by my pics. I'm not as adorable as you think. She's disqualifying herself seeking validation...it's a shit-test Me: Hey, it's okay. Don't sell yourself short You fail it: better response: "We'll see..." Her: Sorry, I'm not interested. Thank you. Geez...didn't see THAT coming. Summary: Be more playful not try hard. The scarcity oozes from…
/r/askTRP04/10/17 01:01 PM
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Her : If you dont have any feelings for me i should walk away Her: One sided love sucks , you dont know that Her : Lets finish it I got this type of set of texts and in fact got the last one except it was phrased; "I'm out". I never replied to her ever again. That was 9 months ago. Dude grow some balls. She's a plate and she's dictating terms to you? Don't respond to that and delete her. Find someone who will be 1) comfortable with this arrangement 2) not so weird and needy
/r/askTRP04/10/17 09:24 AM
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me seeming needy and jealous. Whether this is true or not, it should be seen as an immediate soft next---which you executed. Then when she didn't reply...you became "needy and jealous". You did the right thing, got the right result. Learn from this and in future avoid girls who are so shitty...calling you needy and jealous is shitty.
/r/askTRP04/10/17 08:44 AM
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Do NOT give your ex-girlfriend the satisfaction of "being in your head." Solid advice. The problem becomes one of what's your intention? If you're well and truly over her...fine. But your post suggests you have "oneitis" so any contact has a different motive. This clearly illustrates the differences in mating strategies between men and women...men want to fuck...women are quite content being provided for...fucking is only one part of that provisioning.
/r/askTRP03/10/17 03:35 AM
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You banged her once. Good. Here's a breakdown or rather post-mortem I ended up texting her "Let's link up tonight" Great...you made a girl you banged feel like a slut. "link up" = fuck. Be smarter. "hey if you promise to behave let's broil some steaks..." anything that brings her over with plausible deniability. and she responded that she was staying in. Of course. I then responded with "I could meet up at your place if you'd like" try-hard, needy, leaves no room for discussion, this is a Hail M…
/r/askTRP02/10/17 04:25 AM
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after a friend agreed I was just used for sex First world problem here girls, but I think me paying for a couple things (dinner & an event, after we had sex of course) Big deal...it's a way of building comfort and ensuring she doesn't feel like a slut... and getting pissed when she talking to another guy while wasted during the trip may have made her think I cared too much. No...it made her think you just don't "get it"... You basically did everything right except that you put your feelings on f…
/r/askTRP02/10/17 02:44 AM
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You have a Blue Pill notion that girls don't enjoy fucking. They do. You need to take it a lot less seriously and enjoy the time for what it was. That's why it's critical to have a few plates.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 07:49 PM
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So much has been written about flaking it's worth searching and reading through it. If a girl flakes on me, I leave it to her to make it up to me.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 07:47 PM
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This is all based on a fear of rejection. It seems to "trigger" something deeper in you that holds you back. Set goals for yourself: I will talk to 5 new girls today--can be any 5 girls you meet.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 02:29 AM
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You must work on containing your co-dependence. I've been co-dependent all my life. It's a horrible feeling. On the one hand it's helped me to be tremendously successful and the drive for external acceptance has lead to an unbelievable life. On the other hand, each success feels like it's only the beginning and I need more more more. Dealing with Co-dependence can start with reading "Codependent No More" and No More Mr. Nice Guy. Ultimately you need to decide what makes you happy. Speaking from …
/r/askTRP01/10/17 02:24 AM
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A few things. You have plates....means you have options so it's ok to get angry but you should recover by going out with another plate. The fact you're worried suggests scarcity mentality---work on that. Since she's a plate and she ghosted leave it. Chances are when you don't chase she'll wonder what's up and start reaching out to you. Leave it for a few days/weeks. Then pick up like nothing happened.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 02:20 AM
10

Simply shrug and say "I didn't know..." look at her, smile and say 'youre a lucky girl' and walk away.
/r/askTRP30/09/17 01:50 PM
2

The only reason why it's unsettling me is because my gf is beginning to spend days off with him, where as in my opinion she should be spending them with me. When a similar situation happened to me, I flipped out. I was ready to walk. She begged me to stay. But it really was the end. She was doing this for attention, to provoke me and was part of a bigger set of inappropriate and even crazy BPD behaviours. I don't know your full situation but I would start think of an exit strategy. Your feelings…
/r/askTRP28/09/17 08:39 AM
1

this one girl had been on two dates with me, Oneitis tell. I used to be like this. I'd bang a hot girl...then when she went cold for whatever reason I'd wonder 'wtf????!!!!' my game was awesome and she does THIS!??? You have to realize it's about a lot of things: hypergamy, she feels like a slut, she was into the moment. It's not about "this one girl"...it's about an abundance mentality. I find myself having to stop that obsessive thinking if it starts to creep into my mind---which is less and l…
/r/askTRP27/09/17 11:56 PM
2

A month of no contact and she reached out saying she misses me a lot and still cares. Means that after she broke up, she didn't have another guy to go to immediately and is now at loose ends with a hole in her schedule that needs attention filling----you'll do for now. She also said she does not feel like she made the right decision because as time goes on she really misses me. See? No Contact Works! Now that you've broken it you can see first hand her hamster spinning out of control rationalizi…
/r/askTRP27/09/17 12:56 PM
3

Tell it's a "user's manual" and she's still on warranty... Watch her hamster spin.
/r/askTRP23/09/17 01:01 PM
2

What's interesting is everyone here thinks they're the only one this shit is happening to. It just feels out of the ordinary if you don't recognize it. It's happened to me so often I kind of accept it and move on. I'm trying to get out of "scarcity" mode in everything I do. It's hard because you're trained to treat everyone "nice". But sadly as you become immersed in the Red Pill you realize how superficial a lot of that "niceness" is. Everyone is trading up somehow.
/r/askTRP23/09/17 01:52 AM
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"Let me know when you change your mind", Never tell a girl to 'let you know'. Should be "Don't make me regret inviting you out..." a line I use a lot. It sorts things out fast.
/r/askTRP21/09/17 11:51 PM
2

You sound like you're over-reacting. People don't care and their memories are short. Also with university there's always a new crop of students coming through. Join new clubs and start fresh. You're not defined by the past. You have to redefine yourself. I have this situation all the time. i'm very direct. It upsets people who tend to be more politically correct. I now keep my mouth shut and keep a lower profile until I trust people.
/r/askTRP21/09/17 12:06 PM
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A few months back I banged a girl who came out to my salsa event while I dj'd. She chased me...then I banged her on two separate occasions, she even cooked dinner for me. After that I treated her casually, was friendly, danced with her gamed her etc. Suddenly I see her talking to another girl who'd banged. Also she kept insisting I give her a copy of all my music which I firmly but politely refused to do. After that she went cold. At first I naively thought it was a misunderstanding. But nope, s…
/r/askTRP21/09/17 01:09 AM
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I've tried this several different ways to test the effectiveness. When I've explained why I ghosted the girl became defensive, aggressive and then I ended up arguing with her lowering my value. I've stopped doing that now. The last girl I ghosted, I just disappeared after she went off the rails and sent me an aggressive text. I never spoke to her again. In another case, it was a girl who broke up with me. I tried to get it going again and it was a beta move. One day I texted her: "Hey let's meet…
/r/askTRP20/09/17 02:30 PM
3

You were a pussy beta, now you're standing up for yourself and she's confused. She shit-tests, you pass. She starts freaking out. You shrug and walk out the door. I think now that you've flipped the roles in this relationship get out, find a girl without this level of drama.
/r/askTRP19/09/17 03:37 PM
3

Your post is delusional. You're on "good terms" but never see each other? She talks crap about you. That's all you need to know. Ghost her and don't engage. She's toxic.
/r/askTRP18/09/17 11:01 PM
2

I was in a similar situation and have shared it before here but since you brought it up I'll give you the short version. Girl I was banging was trying to manipulate me with a variety of tactics; False std scare, false pregnancy scare, false heart operation scare---basically lots of malingering. When that didn't work she shifted to hanging out with 2 of my friends. At first I let is pass. Then I started getting angry. Finally I threatened to leave. She begged me to stay. One final time I told her…
/r/askTRP18/09/17 03:10 PM
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"Don't make me regret swiping right..."
/r/askTRP18/09/17 11:19 AM
1

"behave"
/r/askTRP18/09/17 11:19 AM
1

Yes, I do. But I keep my private life totally separate from my work-life. I don't hang with my colleagues. I stay out of their shit. Be discrete.
/r/askTRP18/09/17 11:17 AM
1

Men have been feminized to the point that our greatest strength - male camaraderie - is a source of ridicule and derision I had this experience last year when 2 guys who were 'friends' were chasing after the girl I was banging. I couldn't put my finger on why this bothered me so much. She was creating drama=yes. She was trying to piss me off=yes. But I felt these two guys should have known better and exercised self-control instead of sneaking around behind my back on little dates with her hoping…
/r/askTRP17/09/17 05:03 PM
1

What aspects of the RP do you disagree with? The Red Pill is Truth, it's an acceptance of the way the male/female sexual dynamic truly is. I think a better question would be: "What parts of the Red Pill did you most find hard to accept?" Hypergamy. I didn't want to believe that despite having awesome game and banging girls senseless that they would actually want to find another guy. Often it was a "provider" type, but still...that aspect took me some time to internalize. The turning point was wh…
/r/askTRP16/09/17 12:21 AM
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It takes discipline It also takes a belief in yourself. I'm now killing it with girls, more confident, doing all the things I wanted to do, new projects etc. I think...was the first part of my pre-Red Pill who I really am....or is this hugely successful guy I am now who I really am? It's an existential dilemma. The Red Pill is truth. When you start seeing things for what they are instead of what you hoped they'd be it's a shock. But acceptance isn't weakness it's strength. Wallowing in self-pity…
/r/askTRP10/09/17 02:04 PM
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So my gf of 4 years just returned from 5 weeks away. 5 weeks away... uh oh Turns out she had planned to meet her college friends who still live in my home town. She's clearly stopped giving a shit and didn't bother to tell you she had plans. You assumed she was coming to hang with you. Am I overreacting by just cutting off all communication? This is worthy of a soft-next This has pissed me off greatly and I see it as an insult to my parents especially Whoever needs the relationship more holds th…
/r/askTRP10/09/17 01:59 PM
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My question is how do I let her know I'm not interested in meeting again, should I just ignore her and hope she isn't crazy? It's tinder and she's fat...she has zero expectations. You both needed something and that's the end of it. Similar thing happened to me. She blew me. She understood that was all it was about. You're over-thinking this. Which leads me to offer you some advice. You seem to have a guilt complex aka co-dependence: you had some bad things happen, you satisfy a need and you feel…
/r/askTRP10/09/17 01:51 PM
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So after ignoring this hot girl at work for a week Don't shit where you eat.. Yes she's in an LTR. Yes I'm technically married. Face-palm... What is my next move? Stop fantasizing about something that's never going to happen... Get out of the oneitis mindset. Divorce your wife/break up with your whatever and learn game properly so you adopt a more wholistic Red Pill lifestyle and mindset.
/r/askTRP09/09/17 09:56 AM
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Then I replied, "I only fight for the love of the girls who wants me in their lifes, not the ones who want to break up with me" Then after I said that, she said she "isnt sure" about breaking up You're learning. Now... you break up with her. Ghost her for a minimum of 2 months: ignore all calls, texts etc. IF after that time you still want to be with her, meet up, bang her and demote to plate. The minute a girl starts with the "I want to break up" I say "k" and disappear. It's never the same aft…
/r/askTRP07/09/17 03:18 PM
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No, don't text a stranger. That text was a needy attempt at validation.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 11:53 PM
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You look at the friend and smile, say "We'll see..." Turn and walk away. When she texts you (she will text you) you make it clear you see her as a woman not a friend and if she wants to bring a friend, then perhaps you'll pass on this for now. It always surfaces the bullshit. This was a shit-test of the highest order.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 10:51 AM
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No, you held frame. That is just the mark of a crazed woman scorned and unable to be accountable for her fuck-up so needs the validation...or your disappearance to make you out to be the bad guy. Mine immediately tree-branched to different guys like I would react. Then she blocked and deleted me---probably her way of ensuring in her mind that I couldn't contact her---even though I never tried. After a 7 month absence she suddenly came out to my club where I was djing---parading orbiter. I ignore…
/r/askTRP04/09/17 02:06 PM
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The second I heard this, she got blocked off everything and all the passwords to things we share (such as Netflix, Spotify etc) were changed. This right here is the perfect Red Pill response.
/r/askTRP04/09/17 11:38 AM
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Exact same thing happened to me---mine was that she had a text meltdown because I didn't use the flyer she made. I thanked her. She kept pushing and pushing. I told her to chill. Then called her butthurt. She flipped out (over text) got aggressive, called me a bunch of names, said I was worthless. I never spoke to her again. Then a month later she showed up at that event with a box of the Christmas present I had given her and left it there was a crazy note inside--again telling me how worthless …
/r/askTRP04/09/17 11:26 AM
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In the two situations I ghosted girls I had been with but who broke up with me or I ended things with...the feeling is liberating. It is like ending an addiction. You feel clean and clear. In one case it's been 2.5 years. The first 18 months were hardest because she would come out to where I was, parade guys around, hit on my friends. I just ignored. Now I see she's just like every other girl. The other one...was just plain destructive to be with. The ghosting drives them crazy--especially if yo…
/r/askTRP02/09/17 02:14 AM
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Common situation for me. It's a lingering "fear" that she thinks I wasn't alpha enough or that somehow she thinks I still care. The fact that I care that she thinks I still care is reason enough to pause and do a deeper dive into the co-dependence I've been dealing with my entire life. At least now I recognize the triggers and the episodes you're feeling don't last. Also, I ghosted two of mine even though I see them out regularly. The act of ghosting them drove them mental. They couldn't handle …
/r/askTRP01/09/17 05:07 PM
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I get this once in a while or some variation. It's the nuclear shit-test. You've been dominant in the way you texted her and snowflake is triggered. I usually say "Let's meet up" instead of "Come meet me" but the bigger picture is more important. She's shit-testing...hard. I've turned this around simply by agreeing and amplifying. I would have responded: "Just for that you're buying the first round..." Assume the sale. If this is a shit-test she'll laugh, call you an asshole and come out. if it'…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 11:06 PM
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I'm 50+. I only bang girls in their 20's now. The youngest was 21. Rarely I'll make an exception and bang a girl in her 30's...it's rare. I'm in great shape, dress well, look younger because I'm slim and wear cool clothes that give me a classic look. Girls tease me about being "old". But if you're in shape and can bang them hard, most guys in their 20's..even 30's don't have that experience a certain type of girl wants in an older guy. I spin plates, I love it. I'm divorced and child-free, debt-…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 03:07 PM
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Nearly identical situation...I'll give you the summary of how I handled it. I was banging a girl in my social circle. We kept things on the down-low so I didn't tell people about "us"...she kept pushing for some sort of exclusivity all the while displaying a variety of BPD traits: false STD scare, false pregnancy scare, false heart-operation scare etc. She then starts hitting on two of my thirsty, orbiter friends. I react...strongly. At one point orbiter is hanging around waiting for her while s…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 02:28 PM
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I run into girls who I had to hard-next. They come out when I dj and do stupid things--like hit on my friends. It pisses me off. But apart from telling the friends to back off, the only thing I can do is pretend seeing them doesn't bother me and completely, 100% ignore them. One constantly tries to get my attention by parading guys in front of me. In the off-chance I do catch her in my line of sight she tries to make a show out of what a great time she's having. I moved on. I'm smashing new girl…
/r/askTRP27/08/17 09:43 PM
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In the rare cases this happens, I just ignore if I see them again. Usually I just say hi if I'm absolutely caught in a situation where I'm face-to-face with the girl again. Otherwise I act as though I don't know them.
/r/askTRP27/08/17 09:36 PM
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I had a similar situation like this. The plate was going out on "dates" with two "friends" of mine. We had kept our thing low key so it's possible these guys didn't know or knew and didn't care. I would lose my cool and then set boundaries by ending it. She would beg me not to leave. But: she was insecure, she had a variety of Cluster B tendencies and over the 9 months we were fucking: fake STD scare, fake preganancy scare, fake imminent heart surgery required but then somehow stopped being an i…
/r/askTRP27/08/17 09:34 PM
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Red Flag. Story time: Girl I was banging last year: tons of red flags but this was one of them. She chased after two "friends" of mine as "friends"...but clearly it was a manipulative way to piss me off. I would end it...she would BEG me not to "dump" her. But it was a constant source of problems and tension. Finally had to ghost her after one particularly crazy episode. I learned a short time later one of the "Friends" took her out for an expensive dinner where she got sloppy drunk, then went t…
/r/askTRP27/08/17 01:44 AM
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I'm about to go out tonight and the thought of myself seeing another woman and potentially hooking up with her and therefore destroying my ex is guilting me to no end. Read and understand hypergamy. A woman's nature is to destroy you in her bid to trade up. Nothing demonstrates higher-value more than breaking up, ghosting, walking away. It is what defines you and for her will define the relationship. She'll always be pining away because you are higher value. Your guilt---is the result of co-depe…
/r/askTRP26/08/17 06:00 PM
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Start reading The Rational Male and the website from the beginning. Your question is to broad and too abstract to respond to within the confines of a simple answer. Women shit-test the way men look at a woman's tits...it's natural. The rest you'll need to discover on your own dude.
/r/askTRP26/08/17 05:58 PM
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First, it sucks. But crying won't help you. It's been 3 months and anti-depressants and therapy have you deadlocked. The Red Pill is a way of thinking. It is TRUTH. It requires acceptance. You're still stuck in the denial/anger phases of grief. A few things: start something: working out, join a dance class, study a foreign language, take tai chi---something, anything to get out and meet people on a regular basis in a positive setting. Get discipline back into your life through development of a s…
/r/askTRP26/08/17 05:53 PM
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the sadness will pass but I'm glad for the first time I was able to man up and let something go. The past me would have happily agreed to an LDR thinking things would go well. I finally did this, just this January---normally when I'm involved with someone who acts out or breaks up and acts crazy---I reach out or tell her off or whatever. When this girl did this to me...I just walked away and haven't spoken to her since. She's tried to provoke me a few times: nasty note, parading orbiter in front…
/r/askTRP23/08/17 07:33 AM
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You did the right thing. Now read everything you can about hypergamy so you don't get caught off-guard by what she does next. You handled this with class. Now that she thinks you're dumping her, her ego wants to convince herself that you weren't that great She was devastated and accused me of all sorts of things. Right... Is this guilt just bluepill mentality where I feel the need to protect a girl that's hurting? There's an element of co-dependence to this thinking. Stop it. You're not happy wi…
/r/askTRP23/08/17 05:58 AM
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You're trying to make logical sense out of an illogical emotional situation. The reasons are two-fold: hypergamy: she perceives the other guy as higher value and she lost attraction for you somehow. The best thing you can do is ghost her and move on. Never speak to her again, don't take her calls and disappear. The irony--she'll want to fuck you again after you do this.
/r/askTRP20/08/17 11:58 PM
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Self-discipline: stop obsessing. It's an addiction and until I started to just say "no" when I felt the urge to call or to react or respond I was always second-guessing myself. There is no magical solution or person...women are motivated by biology. The sooner you understand that, the sooner you understand hypergamy, Sexual Market Value, the faster you'll start doing better with women. I still get burned but I walk away. I ghosted the girl I was banging solid for 9 months. I was so proud of myse…
/r/askTRP20/08/17 04:09 PM
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Maybe you missed this part: Just don't ask us "how can I make things work with this one girl that I really want to get with". That's one-itis, it's trying to get control over one particular situation rather than having an abundance of options, it's putting too much effort and emphasis on one girl, and it's the perpetuation of the blue pill media story of the guy who makes a gigantic gesture to win the heart of his one super-special-snowflake-unicorn rather than fixing himself. Your post: This mi…
/r/askTRP20/08/17 02:00 AM
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sidebar. your post has nothing unusual or new in it.
/r/askTRP19/08/17 05:44 PM
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The Red Pill is about abundance and also understanding female sexual strategies. Your question is so basic but the motivation behind it is truly Blue Pill. Mistakes you made: Gaming a girl you work with... who has a BF she communicates with in full view of you and other thirsty guys. Chasing the hot girl who "flirted" = showed the new guy a flash of attention Nexting is about instilling dread in a girl you fucked by denying her attention. How is denying attention to a girl who has no interest in…
/r/askTRP19/08/17 03:52 AM
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Work with this chick, Stop. Don't game girls you work with you thirsty fuck. She has basically most males in this place as her orbiters and it's obvious. Because it's a workplace and she knows how to play thirsty guys...like you who chase her from the second you start your new job. I eventually ask for her number and get brushed off so I soft next her. You can't "next" a girl you haven't fucked yet. Your game is uncalibrated and you're heading for a huge drama if you don't dial down your thirst.…
/r/askTRP19/08/17 02:14 AM
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You: "Oh a rebel....just for that you're also making dessert." Leave it there.
/r/askTRP19/08/17 02:10 AM
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Similar situation: hot girl comes over, we make out, she won't let it go further. Texts me later about meeting up for drinks. I suggest a time and place. She ignores it for a month. I don't speak to her again. She came out to my Latin dance night...was shadowing me so I danced with her on two separate nights---but made no further overtures, didn't talk to her about anything serious beyond kino and teasing. I felt like dancing at that moment and she was there so figured why not. Have not otherwis…
/r/askTRP18/08/17 01:05 PM
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"oh you thought you could just take me out and you get what you want" with a smirk and satisfaction. She even pinches my cheeks. Smoking hot girl did this to me a year ago (minus the pinching of my cheeks) I just laughed. She did the same thing---was supposed to come out to my New Year's Eve party and didn't. I never spoke to her again. I saw her all the time. It was weird but I just ghosted her. She never made any additional attempts to talk to me. Other guys were throwing themselves at her. Sh…
/r/askTRP18/08/17 01:02 PM
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Honestly, I had no guidance until I discovered the Red Pill. It was always hit and miss for me. The Red Pill and game provided me with the structure and the rationale for that structure that made up for what had previously been lacking. Yes, I don't have that many guy friends. Honestly, the guys I know as white knights, betas or otherwise douche bags whom I don't really trust. But by setting small positive goals and reaching them I slowly made that progress to where I think i'm where I want to b…
/r/askTRP18/08/17 12:58 PM
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Yes, this is me. There's no substitute for doing the hard work. I read everything I could about dealing with Co-dependency. I started to say "no".... I discovered Game 8 years ago. Started practicing the routines and getting good with women. Then I realized what was missing was the inner-game. Started reading and practicing all I could to understand and swallow the Red Pill. I'm still not totally there but each day I move closer. A lot of this was also getting in shape, changing the way I dresse…
/r/askTRP18/08/17 10:35 AM
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came into the pharmacy with a prescription for mood stabilizers which I dispensed for her. So youre crazy girl's pharmacist...I don't see any potential threats, risks or drama arising from that.. She took my number and said she would text me so we can hangout. From our little interaction I could tell she was keen to have a little fun. Two words: thirsty loser. You work in a drug dispensary and know this girl's personal situation...back wayyyyyyyyy off before this turns into something you can't c…
/r/askTRP17/08/17 11:42 AM
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I usually tell them to text when they're home: "Text me when you get home so I know you weren't kidnapped." They usually do and often thank me. Last year, the one crazy one texted me with some crazy shit about how intolerant I am about some political situation and I didn't know how hard she had it. From that point I knew she was going to be problematic. I didn't reply to that and she would text me incessantly with neutral ping texts until I did reply. So that way I knew she was nuts.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 11:57 PM
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The flipside of this is when she starts to want more--and they ALWAYS want more---she'll start using her orbiters as leverage to try to manipulate you into some jealousy plotline. I had this. I reacted. She loved the drama. It got too much and I finally ghosted her. She took it...badly, stalking me, writing nasty notes, parading orbiters around when she knew I'd be at some location... So be mindful of getting too emotionally involved.
/r/askTRP15/08/17 11:58 PM
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I was in a similar situation. I simply cut the guy loose. He was sucking up to me trying to both be my friend and trying to bang the girl who'd been causing all sorts of drama... "Fuck off you duplicitous piece of shit"--- I texted him after he was trying to suck up to me. I guess I was right. He ran off telling people how terrible I was. Then he cut the girl loose as well. So I won. I cut loose a troublesome plate. I cut loose a fake friend.
/r/askTRP14/08/17 03:06 PM
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don't know how to act considering i have to see her every day I've started to examine this question a lot too. I've often thought...am I supposed to "act" angry, hurt, slighted? It's a real existential dilemma. It's fueled by poor role-models and a feminized media environment that plays up the sad tortured soul over the confident cad. I think in my experience, it's better to vent in private--away from anyone else. In public just appear normal. Ignore her. I ignore girls now who have in some way …
/r/askTRP14/08/17 01:42 PM
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What he is trying to say is being jealous is the problem, not what you do if you are. This...I have this notion that I SHOULD be upset at these provocations to demonstrate my unhappiness. I think that amused mastery and ignoring it is "passive". I can't seem to shake this notion.
/r/askTRP14/08/17 12:09 AM
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I talked to her about this Never negotiate desire. and she said she is not ready to have romantic things going because she is not over her ex she first wants to develop a "friendship" (fuck this, i said i dont want a friendship). You've been friendzoned. She wants you as an orbiter. Thank her, tell her you're a man and she's a woman, you see her as a woman not a friend. Leave it there. I dont now how to respond to this the "red pill" way. You don't respond to this. You say what I suggest above o…
/r/askTRP13/08/17 02:31 AM
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Right. it's trolling or trying to rationalize some sort of desperate act by comparing it to whatever dudes here would post.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 02:25 AM
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Honestly, there's no point in digging up this stuff, there's nothing to be gained.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 05:57 PM
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I've got about 6 plates You peaked my interest... and a oneitis. Then lost it. You've to find a way to stop obsessing over this "one" girl. I've written here many times from experience. The only time I stumbled last year was when I over-invested and expected more from what was by and large...a fuck buddy. She could never be more because of her own fucked up personality--the manipulations, the malingering. Then I read your post and it has the same ingredients: Manipulative girl...with gay friend …
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:17 AM
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Reminds me of the old joke which I would text back to this girl: You: yup...that's the problem with legs, they're fine on their own but when they meet up they become an asshole
/r/askTRP12/08/17 03:29 AM
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I heard a similar story from a "friend" of mine about a girl I had been banging for 9 months. I was shocked. I couldn't believe she would throw herself a "him"--beta loser. I later had to tell him to fuck off. He was not happy and hasn't come out to any of the events I attend since then. Things between us were intense. yah yah yah "it was just your turn blah blah blah" But I was upset that it was a "Friend". That just made it harder to trust "friends". Honestly dude, you have to feel what you fe…
/r/askTRP11/08/17 05:29 PM
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Response: "Glad to see you're finally opening up. Good luck."
/r/askTRP11/08/17 10:38 AM
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Had a similar feeling when a girl who was really just a Fuck Buddy but had manipulated me into thinking there was more there had a sudden text melt-down calling me every name in the book because I didn't use the flyer she made for my event. My response: "k". I later found out she went out with a "friend"of mine, got sloppy drunk and tried to fuck him. She also stalked me, wrote angry notes and now parades a new orbiter around when I dj. But...I left 7 months ago and have ghosted her ever since. …
/r/askTRP11/08/17 12:14 AM
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Ok, the OP came here for advice and stories we can't just mock him (cough cough...sidebar) But I'll share a story to make sure you understand why the answer is "NO"...you can't get back together. I was going out with an HB8 for 9 months who displayed a variety of the key BPD traits (including tattoo of another guy's name on her ass which she refused to get removed). Prior to this when she would break up as BPD's tend to do...I would disappear, she would chase. But true to form, the last time she…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 12:08 PM
1

Come over...surprise me. You're over thinking this. One of my plates said the same thing. I finally replied with "Come over"
/r/askTRP07/08/17 11:45 PM
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Acting like you don't give a fuck... and actually not giving a fuck are two different things. I tried a variety of tactics and frankly what bothered me was the fact she had started these stupid jealousy plotlines involving my friends. When I finally decided...ok...you're now just a Fuck Buddy and began doing my own thing including banging other girls...she had a melt-down. I didn't even reply. I just left. That's not giving a fuck. After 7 months of ghosting her she came out the other weekend fo…
/r/askTRP07/08/17 09:38 PM
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When I get this question I reframe it; Her: Why should I?/ Convince me.../ some variation of this. Me: Pause...look straight into her eyes and with amused mastery say: "Don't make me regret asking you..."
/r/askTRP07/08/17 02:28 PM
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I went through this same thing. In fact I had to read your post a few times to realize I hadn't been the one writing it. I'll spare all the details but to save you some time, she constantly amped up the drama to the point I had to finally cut her off. That was 7 months ago. I realized that she was bringing out the worst in me somehow pushing all my insecurity buttons and prompting me to over-react. Then when I said I'm out of this...she'd say she doesn't want to give up on "us"---same kind of st…
/r/askTRP07/08/17 02:26 PM
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You handled it well. But eventually girls will expect something serious or they won't convince themselves to bang you. I usually handle this by responding in the form of a question: "I think it's important to take your time before committing and making that big step don't you?" Her: yes... You: "No girl wants a guy who's so insecure they're in a major rush to push a girl towards commitment right? " Her: yah.... You: "So I think it's important to take my time and enjoy moments like these instead …
/r/askTRP07/08/17 01:57 PM
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Now it's been 7 months and I've had zero contact. I can see how she may have turned a girl I banged against me. I saw them talking and then suddenly that girl starts ignoring me. She also stiffed me for a pair of hand-made shoes I had ordered for her from a friend of mine who does this sort of thing. Ghosting works best. Having any contact only creates further problems and lowers your value. A few years back a girl with similar traits did something similar and I tried to get back with her. Big m…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 11:55 PM
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Wow...I read parts of this and had to re-read thinking it was the girl I had been banging last year. Similar traits: chasing after my friends, begging me not to leave her, bombarding me with texts, then suddenly going quiet etc. But she was constantly malingering: faking being sick: fake std scare fake pregnancy scare fake heart condition and imminent operation scare sudden death of grandmother on same weekend she had already planned to be home, no interest in bereavement leave. fake ovarian can…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 03:05 PM
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What would be the smartest way to get him out? Don't. You can't force-feed guys the Red Pill they'll only resent you---or they'll cherry pick stuff that they want to save their Blue Pill relationship and then blame you when things start to heat up. Ghosting, nexting, soft-nexting---all provoke angry reactions from girls used to getting their own way. Guys cave in quickly not realizing the power they've suddenly derived. Best to let him find his own way.
/r/askTRP06/08/17 08:37 AM
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I'm in about 1 year and just starting to see real change. I focused on a few things each couple of months. The first was understanding game and the Mystery Method. The hardest was inner game: outcome independence. It's starting...but I still have a kind of co-dependence on what others---especially ex's think of me. I just had a situation the other night where I was djing--girl who was more Fuck Buddy than anything else, though she kept pushing for more showed up---after 7 months. I'd ghosted her…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 08:34 AM
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You see - I'm looking for LTR, normal sexual encounters are not a problem for me, I can easily get laid when I don't care about girls. Read the sidebar about plates and converting them. The thing about being Red Pilled and unplugged is that it forces you to see the world as it is rather than how you hope or wish it was. The idea of hoping, wishing, pining for an LTR is not incompatible with being Red Pilled. But the idea of finding "the one"...is Blue Pill. What I've learned is that women want t…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 02:37 AM
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I've been giving this a lot of thought lately. I discovered game and began swallowing the Red Pill 7.5 years ago. Back then it was like discovering I had a superpower: wow!! I can bang any girl I want!! Now I've been through a couple of disappointing situations with BPD girls that truly brought out the absolutely worst in me: anger, insecurity, paranoia, etc etc etc. But...now I'm totally chill. I am way more comfortable banging girls than before when it was more like a compulsion to prove to my…
/r/askTRP05/08/17 07:22 PM
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I was doing FWB with by far the hottest girl I have ever fucked Pedestalizing...and wait for it... and we were about to start dating. Blue Pill thinking...aaaaaaaaand: One month later I found out some mutual friends set her up with a guy at a party I specifically wasn't invited to. Hours after meeting him she fucks him on the kitchen floor I get this. You started developing feelings because your ego fooled you into thinking your game was amazing. You developed oneitis and then found out your spe…
/r/askTRP05/08/17 07:01 PM
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What do u guys think? Am I headed in the right direction? Any glaring red flags? Thoughts? Textbook. It's good to be vigilant when you're first swallowing the Red Pill. But soon you'll have to align that inner game with your outer game. That's the hardest.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 02:24 AM
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how you make me laugh, how I feel like I can open up around you, your body, how you fuck me, how my friends like you, I love you, I feel confident around you, I can let out my dorky side with you" You're misreading her words. All women WANT a guy who displays both alpha and beta qualities....they just don't want you to be beta. This paradox is one you have to manage. Women always say they want something and then push it away when they get it. Also context is important. After banging her she's go…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 11:53 PM
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Interesting to look back on a similar set of situations I faced. 4 years ago, I was going out with a girl who displayed a series of BPD traits. One day she texts she's having her first birthday dinner. I think nothing of it and text back: "more hand cream?" She doesn't reply. I later ask who she went to dinner with...it was a "friend"--a kind of orbiter who fancied himself as a player. They went to an Italian restaurant---the two of them. Something told me this was totally wrong. I broke up...bu…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 11:50 PM
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Is this chick even worth keeping around as a plate or should I just run like hell right now? Run like hell. What would you do in this situation. The weight thing is a deal breaker for me. But the problem with these types of girls is that until you've had a few experiences with them you are slowly seduced until you're suddenly hooked and then dumped. The key identifiable mark of a Cluster B/BPD girl is they initially come across as sweet and are all over you---they put you on a pedestal and you c…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 03:02 PM
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Yes. OP admits he's still Blue Pilled...but he is seeking Red Pill advice. Only one reaction: Next.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 01:47 PM
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Beta tendencies on full display Dude is on holiday traveling. Instead of having the time of his life...he's agonizing over an unanswered text over the last 8 hours by a girl he's been seeing for 3 months +. The clue to this post is "HB8". We've all been in this situation: hot girl, perhaps it's a first or a rarity and we think we've hit the jackpot "super sweet and affectionate"...and then it starts. It's taken me 7 years of solid work and constant inner-game calibration to get to a point where …
/r/askTRP02/08/17 01:46 PM
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Read everything you can about Borderline Personality Disorder. Then block all contact and don't respond. Each time you respond, you re-set the clock on your getting over her. Next time make smarter choices and read the red flags more seriously.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 11:45 PM
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Been sleeping with this plate and frankly this is getting annoying. I was in a very similar situation. I'd over-invested in a plate who was frankly...BPD/Cluster B: constant malingering: fake STD scare, fake pregnancy scare, fake imminent heart surgery scare, sudden death of grandmother--which was very odd... Then there was the dating of two of my "Friends"... When you're reading into these situations and something is clearly off...leave. I eventually did. She had a very suspiciously timed meltd…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 03:30 PM
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Yes, 15-20. I'm up to 14 so far this year. It's a combination of existing plates and new pussy I meet online, in person, at events, gaming etc. When you're at this level and girls blow me off...I don't really care. Once in a while I may feel bad if I've over-invested emotionally---in one---but for the most part having a small rotation and then gaming girls that I like is what I've always aspired to do.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 01:11 PM
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Should I tell her she needs to apologise for the lies and wasting my time before I speak to her? Or just act aloof? You don't "act aloof"....you broke up with her, move on. Cut all contact, learn from this and avoid repeating the things that made you act out in ways you shouldn't or normally wouldn't. Sounds like she brought out the worst in you. It happened to me. 6 months of a hard next i'm much better off.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 01:13 PM
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yes
/r/askTRP30/07/17 03:37 AM
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Clarity from a woman: if she wants to fuck you, she'll make it obvious. Disappearing...means you turned her off. I suspect you escalated too quickly. Next time calibrate.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 03:35 AM
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Avoid 4. Use 1 and 3 as social proof Turn 2 into a Fuck Buddy (notch below plate) Continue gaming. By recognizing what to avoid and how to manage the sluts, you'll be in a better position to attract better quality women. Never settle for an HB5.
/r/askTRP29/07/17 12:56 PM
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Basically when I am talking with women and the topic of other women comes up, I'm honest. Wrong...you tease them. "Are you writing for a tabloid?" Or agree and amplify: "Tons!! I stopped counting after 300" Or just reframe: "Behave" I tell them that I have girls I can just message for sex on most days. Why does this make you seem like a creep who is just after sex? Because mystery is your best game tool...being a puzzle. Pre-selection by other women is a key element of attraction. But no girl in…
/r/askTRP29/07/17 11:11 AM
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Dude...you're wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy too angry about this. Drop her. Focus on why you're so angry.
/r/askTRP29/07/17 02:31 AM
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Stop the negative cycle. I get it. Misery loves company. But it's a crutch. Stop yourself when you find that urge to feel sorry for yourself and are seeking validation. Stop second-guessing yourself. Her behavior is text-book. We can predict it. She'll keep coming back. Two things: 1) you'll stop caring eventually and it will become a non-event 2) you'll cave-in, bang her...and she'll get the validation but you will start the cycle of oneitis again. That's why we advise dudes not to turn exes in…
/r/askTRP29/07/17 02:26 AM
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Yes, there is a kind idea that game is a super-power and you go off over-gaming. Now I'm a bit more chill. I next a lot of girls. But I'm also more selective in the girls I do hang with. My New Year's resolution this year was "kill the fear"...It's working. I'm now more chill and getting better results.
/r/askTRP29/07/17 02:20 AM
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The other night, I went out to my Latin dance night. In walks one of the girls I nexted--with orbiter in tow. She comes running over to me--because I'm the only other person she knows in the place. Her: "What are you doing here?" Me: Trying to hide from you...Damn! It didn't work...you found me." I leave her be. Finally she eye codes me to dance. I tease her...but don't ask her for drinks or push for a meet up. Point of this is...Move on and if the girl starts to increase the IOI's make a strate…
/r/askTRP29/07/17 02:14 AM
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Dude...you handled this great. Yes, it's hard but what you did is consistent. Do not contact her or respond. I've been suffering depression like having hard time getting shit done, like the gym and my friends. But i go to the gym 5-6 times a week, sometimes 2x a day if i'm feeling very down, right now i'm not at work because summer vacation. Dude, you're feeling down but you're not suffering true "Depression"---going to the gym nearly every day---depressed people can barely get out of bed. Stop …
/r/askTRP29/07/17 02:10 AM
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Play it cool. Banter by text but if she friendzoned you, she's looking for attention and validation. Don't be so eager to please. I have had similar situations where girl blows me off, I ignore her and after a period of time she's suddenly friendly. I play it cool. I just banter but don't escalate. 1. I don't want to appear too eager 2. If I had previously escalated made out and she blew me off...I don't want to get sucked into a situation where suddenly i'm giving more than i'm getting back.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 05:15 PM
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"Wear a name tag so I can recognize you...." Then just escalate the way you normally would.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 05:05 PM
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The other posters have given you good advice about dumping her. I was in a similar situation. I moved the girl to FB and continued spinning other plates until she went too far and I hard nexted. You know what to do. But here's where I think there's some great learnings for you guys about the Red Pill and text game: She texts Chad any random chance she gets, "hey just drove past your old town! How are you?" or "Happy birthday!!" Read on, this is the good part: To which he replies with half assed …
/r/askTRP28/07/17 01:04 AM
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Im well aware of my dumbassery and oneitis at this point and simply respond hours later with something along the lines of yup things moved too fast Face palm... Girl says things are moving to fast. You respond and agree. Now you want to know how to proceed? Walk away. Drop her. Leave it for as long as you need to until she comes back and is only interested in what you're interested in. I just had a plate I was banging all last year but who fell off my radar in April. At that time she was texting…
/r/askTRP26/07/17 11:31 PM
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A girl I was banging a few years back had a tattoo of another guy's name on her ass...that she refused to get removed "Until I get married"...which was a kind of Catch 22--what decent guy would marry a girl with another guy's name tattooed on her ass. She would later go on to exhibit a litany of typical BPD behaviours: pedestalization of me/splitting to black of me, pushing for closer relationship, pushing me away, demanding one day by text we should move in together, breaking up a week later wh…
/r/askTRP26/07/17 03:08 PM
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A lot of times it would be things like: "you're a chauvinist..." "that macho stuff is old" It's that kind of white knighting...
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:54 PM
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Keep a little mystery about yourself. Women always demand a guy should open up...then when he does they lose attraction.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:53 PM
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Hard-next. You cannot trust someone who uses information, secrets, stories, vulnerabilities about you and throws them back at you. When this happened to me, the first time I got angry and she retreated. The second time...I hard nexted.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 04:26 PM
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I finally broke down and told her the stuff about my grandma and ended up crying. I know you're never supposed to show weakness but she meant a lot to me. Now my girl is saying stuff like "I'm here for you", etc. and I feel like I'm being a bitch. You're way over-thinking this. It's perfectly normal to show vulnerability and emotion in THIS situation. It's a death, it's someone very important in your life. She's responding appropriately. The problem with the Red Pill and PUA/Game is that when yo…
/r/askTRP25/07/17 04:25 PM
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I had this situation. It was all stress-related. It really does require some internal discipline and a variety of stress-relief activities which you'll need to develop and there are tons of online resources. Also as I became more successful at certain goals I set for myself, that "stress" decreased and I became more grounded. It's less of a problem now...but it could change easily: if I'm tired, a suffer a setback and then revert to all that fatalistic negative thinking. I had my T-levels checke…
/r/askTRP25/07/17 04:20 PM
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Had this for a while...your friends don't want to see you succeed. They hate that you're landing poon and looking good and suddenly you're advancing and they're not. I've done two things: 1) dial down the talk of success around these losers. 2) get new friends.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 04:17 PM
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Sidebar...
/r/askTRP24/07/17 11:39 PM
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Study game.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 03:24 PM
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Just name day, stop obsessing over this. Dude...you didn't follow my advice. This is field tested. Good luck.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 02:50 PM
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Make it chill and cool...
/r/askTRP24/07/17 01:38 PM
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Are you saying you would just drop her now unless she shows another IOI? Yes I haven't even responded to her last text from yesterday. Respond to THIS text with the routine I suggested. Get her out Asap or drop her. She seems interested but with dance teachers it could be she's looking for students. Sort it out quick.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 12:59 PM
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Wait for her to give an IOI...a solid one, anything: a ping text, a something... Banter once: "What up professor? Burning up the dance floor?" She'll respond with some blah blah blah... Then use my line: "Well if you promise not to step on my feet, let's go for drinks" Your attempts not to seem too eager have come off in your post as being weak and uninterested. A girl displays IOI's but rarely chases until after you've banged her.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 11:39 AM
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You're too nervous. She's given you a few openings and you've dropped the ball on this. You're now being placed in the "awww he's a cute student of mine" or "dance partner" role. Learn from this. "Fancy going out?" is weak. "If you promise not to step on my feet, let's meet up for margaritas...maybe some dancing".
/r/askTRP23/07/17 11:44 PM
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She texted me afterwards, and everything was good to go. That's where you should have left it. The next day I texted her and asked what's up with tonight. She said "I can't I'm going to x lol". Something about this follow up text seems needy. You should have left it and if she did in fact flake, you could have used this to get her to make it up to you. Now? Ignore her and drop this. When I set things up with girls, I banter but once I get the confirmation of a meet up, I leave it. Often they wil…
/r/askTRP23/07/17 03:01 AM
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Print and paste this post onto a wallet-sized card and pull out each time you have the urge to contact a girl like this.
/r/askTRP22/07/17 03:18 AM
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Do u have no dignity? This needs to be hammered into guys' heads. It's a kind of denial to keep ploughing ahead. "not interested" isn't a cue to try harder...
/r/askTRP22/07/17 03:17 AM
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Yes. Don't post questions that have yes or no answers.
/r/askTRP22/07/17 03:16 AM
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Does this actually happen much to you guys, Girls flake. Often it could be due to a lack of attraction, other times it could be they already have boyfriends and are just playing the field for their own amusement. and what do you do when it does? Abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP22/07/17 03:14 AM
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Talking about the Red Pill and BEING Red Pill are different. Red Pill is a mindset, game is the toolbox. When I've talked about some Red Pill concepts to "friends" of mine, they immediately default to White Knighting: "oh, you've got that chauvinistic attitude..." So I now keep my opinions to myself. You should too. If a guy said "You seem Red Pill..." My response would be: "What's that?" to test whether he was on the level. I wouldn't immediately let on because let's face it, dude, in this worl…
/r/askTRP22/07/17 03:12 AM
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I game all women regardless of their age or looks often just for practice. It doesn't mean I want to fuck them. But practicing a tease, or a neg or asking them questions about themselves, it helps to get you in the mindset of confidence and abundance so when you talk to some HB7 or above, it's not a big deal and you can plough through.
/r/askTRP22/07/17 01:53 AM
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This situation is exactly why I now spin plates...and even then I still get pissed at the feeling of being disrespected. My last plate pulled this shit all the time. It created tension and drama until finally I had to leave. Now...I just spin plates. I don't want to know what else they do. If they tell me stuff like this....I soft next them for a few weeks. In this situation, it's a tough call and a lot depends on the state of the relationship right now. Is this truly just some innocent friendzo…
/r/askTRP21/07/17 12:04 PM
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It's weird. In work situations I'm fine. In high-stress business meetings I kill it. But get snubbed? Get a rejection? Get a socially awkward moment? I have a technique. I don't move, I react positively: smile, nod, shrug. Then I let out a silent grunt. It may sound like i'm clearing my throat or gurgling, but it's not obvious. I also grit my teeth without opening my mouth. That little release works. That little burst of steam helps me to get out of that "flight" mode you describe. Sounds stupid…
/r/askTRP21/07/17 11:57 AM
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He needs to hear both sides...
/r/askTRP21/07/17 11:53 AM
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True...the OP shit the bed. But his post is about letting go. I get this and had a similar situation to his earlier this year. How to let go of anger? It really had to do with looking at my life and looking at hers. I had to start re-building some of my lost self-esteem and do so without the intention of improving to get revenge on someone. Revenge is a useless emotion....you already banged her friend...she got revenge on you...what's the point of going further? Focus on yourself, find the posit…
/r/askTRP21/07/17 11:36 AM
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When you really internalize the Red Pill you'll be more observant and intuitive of the true female nature. Plugged in Blue Pill guys project their own ideas onto relationships and think that women are all clingy, needy, prone to avoiding sex and focusing on relationships and are otherwise delicate little snow flakes. When you unplug you are able to understand duality of women: they are extremely sexual because of a biological imperative to reproduce but they're also very much focus on bucketing …
/r/askTRP21/07/17 01:28 AM
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Ignore. Anxiety is a feeling not a fact. When I get this feeling it's usually connected to a feeling of fear or possibly "shame" of not being good enough. Getting over a oneitis is really about connecting to your own self-worth and not caring about the outcome. It takes a lot of reflection and internal discipline. I pause, commit to ignoring and just keep my exterior cool.
/r/askTRP21/07/17 12:15 AM
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After discovering game and the Red Pill 7 years ago it took me a few years to reach that point. I read it and internalized it but it was only when I actually started to practice it: having 2-3 girls in a rotation and not caring when one flakes or drops off that I could truly shrug and say "ok" and move on. One thing I now do consciously is when that feeling you get when you "feel" disrespected...I stop myself and pause. Then I ask myself: "Is this really such a big deal?" I have a few of these t…
/r/askTRP21/07/17 12:11 AM
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Exactly. Girls flake, it's a fact pf life. Yes it's disrespectful but on a scare of disrespect you've got to put the whole thing into perspective. Is this "plate" one you want to keep banging or not. if they don't respond to my texts I don't follow up with them until they do. So that means sometimes I lose contact with them because after a week or so it generally means they don't care. I had a girl I was gaming very recently not respond to an invite. I just left it and if I see her out I just ig…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 11:56 PM
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Yes, because most guys want to be liked. Being Red Pill means your views are seen as outside the "mainstream" and you face a lot of white-knighting (guys calling you chauvinist, macho, etc etc) and many groups and organizations not having a place for someone with those views. So I ended up internalizing a lot and keeping my views to myself. I'm more grounded and content 7 years after finding the Red Pill as I become more focused I don't care as much what others think of me as long as I'm happy a…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 04:31 PM
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Girls always say they want something then turn it down when they get it. Once the mystery is gone, the attraction fades. When a girl asks for "more" it's really about trying to get validation. You've got to balance and calibrate that between appearing to make yourself too available and still playing the field and spinning plates. One thing I say is: "I'm a man, you're a woman, I see you as a woman. I enjoy the time we spend together don't you? She'll answer yes... "Let's not spoil things by putt…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 12:54 PM
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It's a classic: "Whoaaaaa! You have a dirty mind! What makes you think I want to fuck you?" Say "Fuck you" to immediately sexualize it. Every time I've used that phrase, the girl has gone home with me... Saying "fuck" incepts the idea in her mind.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 11:45 AM
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Exactly. What did getting her to admit it do? She would only accuse you of being insecure, jealous, not able to handle it... Girls hate hate HATE being perceived in any way as the bad one so will find a way to reframe that.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 12:07 AM
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Here's something worth a closer look: Me: Sure nothing "serious" why then would you try to lie to me? She: Because i knew you would act like this This is exactly why ghosting is the most effective way of dealing with this kind of behavior. Talking this out will always backfire.
/r/askTRP19/07/17 11:48 AM
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The only thing I would add is that you're totally in denial. It's obvious to everyone here just from what you wrote.
/r/askTRP19/07/17 11:45 AM
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Potential plate=any female in the universe I haven't fucked but one day might...if I wanted.
/r/askTRP19/07/17 11:42 AM
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More a case of plate played stupid games, I backed wayyy off, now she wants to fuck me...i'm making sure I don't get played again.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 11:57 PM
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Do you know what this is? This is a girl who is using sex as a currency because she knows it works. This. Had this same thing happen: the "Prime-time" sexting...the actual banging. Then came the malingering, the constant shit-tests, the manipulative dating of my "friends"... Tread lightly, and if this seems to be too time-consuming or you're headed towards oneitis---bail. This is drama you don't need.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 11:02 PM
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All this does is lower her on the priority list to next to that household chore you keep meaning to do but never get around to it. Solid post. Thanks.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:58 PM
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Who gives a shit what anyone thinks, you've already started, might as well see it through. How about do it anyway and stop asking for permission. Good point, along with the other ones. I think I had been over-thinking it. I'll shoot a "Come over" text and see how it goes. If there's anything FR-worthy or a good learning, I'll update. Thanks to all.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:56 PM
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I've had oneitis, this isn't it. This is more a re-boot and trying to avoid the prospect of oneitis. I know what oneitis feels like and this is definitely not it.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:54 PM
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No I banged her 4 times---each time we met up over the last few weeks. I think guys need to develop more abundance instead of just going for the low-hanging fruit. I'd rate her an HB7...in her 20's fun, funny, cool to hang out with. Something about this just screams a need to be more mysterious and aloof, mainly to keep my value but also to differentiate myself from Beta Bucks guy who came crawling back.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 03:13 PM
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Report him. They'll eventually ban him.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 03:08 PM
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You're right. But I've been in this situation previously. Plate fucks up...plate begs to come back...we fuck... Then there's nothing more for her to aspire to and it goes downhill from there. Yes...she's a plate! But I don't want to create unnecessary drama for myself by being too available. Also, i'm more interested in making this a regular plate until she does what plates do.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 01:47 PM
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Leave it until she contacts you. Then leave it a few days and respond. My go-to response to these outbursts which are then met with a kind of "cat that shit the bed" look or a whiny apology is; "So...how will you make it up to me?" Read my post. The responses may be helpful. Usually the girl wants you to explicitly TELL them what to do. But it's much more fun to let them figure it out...or not. Then you have your answer.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 01:17 PM
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Usually a ping text mid-week or ahead of setting something up. They usually like to at the very least be pinged...
/r/askTRP18/07/17 01:14 PM
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It's more about calibration...you don't have to over-game insecure girls.
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:52 AM
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Update I had a think about this and did respond 4 days after her epic confession. I texted her around 11:45pm at night: "So...how will you make it up to me?" Clearly hamster was in over-drive. She replied the next day: "What can I do?" I thought...myeh, boring response... she could do better than that. I don't wanna just say "Dress hot, come over"...I want this to be her idea which I approve. So I replied with elipses: "..." Hamster again in overdrive...no response. She wants me to tell her to c…
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:45 AM
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I've been through variations of this. My ltr is on a 5 day trip with three girlfriends. Bad sign... Yesterday she sends me a message that this guy came up and started kissing her. When was the last time you were out and you just suddenly started doing this to a random girl in a bar? A guy without any social calibration and game would do this...it's called molestation. She's holding back some important details. Put yourself in this position...would you just suddenly escalate? No...you'd be talkin…
/r/askTRP17/07/17 03:44 PM
1

It's taken a while to get it right. The last time this happened I pulled it off: I converted the girl to FB status and eventually just ghosted her when she made some crazy texting accusations to justify her tree-branching. But...I felt awful afterwards because i'd become attached to her. I still see her and ignore and can see she desperately wants my attention. But among other things she stiffed me for a pair of shoes I had made for her by a shoe-maker friend of mine so that is a capital offense…
/r/askTRP16/07/17 02:17 AM
3

Two points about going silent: 1) it's a default position...when in doubt go silent 2) Casually texting like I don't care would lower my value because it would take what she personally regards as bad behavior and signal that it's ok. She wants to believe Chad is higher value than "bf" who ghosted her and then begged her to get back together... She's tree-branching. I'm watching hypergamy in action and am the Chad instead of the guy coming back hoping to re-kindle something.
/r/askTRP16/07/17 02:14 AM
1

This is good: minus the "wyd now" part. I think "Come over" at some point soon would be the way to do this.
/r/askTRP16/07/17 02:11 AM
1

I thought about the correct response. Definitely a soft-next because she needs to know that this is "bad". If I make myself too available I will downgrade myself to "nice guy". it's interesting, she writes that she wants to see me again but understands if I don't want to see her. Caving in and saying "it's cool" or some variation would be validating that two-timing is ok. I had been thinking of just responding with: "Wait...that WAS you?" But again, it would make the whole self-criticism she's e…
/r/askTRP16/07/17 02:11 AM
2

I could make light of it...but from the stream of consciousness texts she clearly feels bad about this...so why interfere with that? This drama is something she's enjoying on some level because it's about the "feelz". The main message in her rationalization is basically: "yah it's bad to two-time guys, but with Chad the feelz were real". The key learning for me: don't get too emotionally involved, enjoy it...be the navigator of that roller coaster. It's stuff I have been getting better at but am…
/r/askTRP16/07/17 02:03 AM
15

Yes...there's a new guy somewhere in the scene.
/r/askTRP15/07/17 06:11 PM
2

Good catch...Read the update...it's some "ex" who's returned. What struck me was how shabbily dressed she was compared to when we meet last week and mid-week. She looked great then...so dudes...let that be a lesson...she's wearing sweat pants and flats...there's probably a guy like me banging her somewhere in the background.
/r/askTRP15/07/17 06:10 PM
5

Right...she got caught and doesn't like the feeling of thinking that I think badly of her... I may be a plate...but I'm not an "orbiter".
/r/askTRP15/07/17 06:08 PM
5

Indeed...it was an kind of "ex" who ghosted her and recently returned after she'd tree-branched and started doing all sorts of wild and freaky sexual stuff with me. Now that her "cover" is blown...she's scrambling to make sense of all this: the returning bf and the wild alpha Chad... I think what helped me was not getting emotionally involved and having a rotation... Also, constantly sexualizing ever single encounter was crucial. If she suddenly dumps me...it's for a beta orbiter not because her…
/r/askTRP15/07/17 06:07 PM
2

Yes, but read my update. I think right now she feels awful about being caught out...it's a "first" for her to be juggling two dudes----beta orbiter returning and Chad...so it kind of came as a shock when she saw me. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall and seen how she reacted around that Dude... One clear learning here for you newbies: game works. Be playful, neg, tease the shit out of her, sexualize early and quickly...and you'll be the guy she is freaking out over...
/r/askTRP15/07/17 06:04 PM
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