Does your family guilt trip you? How do you deal with it?

[deleted] · 2017-06-09T19:19:33+00:00

All families try to guilt trip you into stuff. Like getting married, having kids, career choices. You just have to do what you want and be happy with your decision.

Ta9645 · 2017-06-09T19:39:21+00:00

Do what ever the fuck you want to do. Granted it does not polute you body, snd makes you a beter version of yourself.

But you will know when something is inherintly off, those events, family moments you might miss or not want to ingage will make you feel guilty. Thats when you know to do something out of your schedule for a greater purpose.

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-09T19:52:10+00:00

Are you fucking autistic?

When we say "guilt tripping" we talk about committing, settling, getting married, anything that implies you'll be giving up your freedom to use your cock and pursue the life you want to pursue because of some standard of because of their own egoistical interests. Basically, telling you you're supposed to undergo big changes because it'd fit them or because of no reason at all.
Your grandmother's birthday doesn't fit this.

Every time you say "no" two things take place. Emotional people get hurt because you said "no" and they dislike hearing it, they prefer if you string them along. Objective people assess on whether your reasons are valid and make a judgment call on you based on it.

You can't help with the emotional people on your family. They feel what they must to lead them where they want to go. They want drama? They'll feel hurt.
On the other hand the objective people think you're a piece of shit.

Now, before you argue "but it wasn't a good day for me and I could have been consulted":
First of all it's a birthday, it had its date set before you were born, it's not set to please someone.
Second, your opinion would have been taken if you were of importance. If your presence was important enough to them they'd check your schedule to make sure you'd come.

9game · 2017-06-09T19:46:38+00:00

First of all give yourself big congrats for noticing guilt trip manipulation.

Second if you have a reason not to do something, own it, in the end others don't give fuck about you, only you. Respect yourself.

Third: think they already don't have respect for you because they dare use manipulation against you. If you give up, they will smile, they will praise you but for wrong thing, they say: "You are such a good boy, they think You're such a naive boy.

Title	Does your family guilt trip you? How do you deal with it?
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Date	June 9, 2017 7:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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