LTR wants LDR, I wonder if she'd rather I not tell her I fuck other girls

[deleted] · 2017-05-23T06:36:21+00:00

My vote is to tell her you don't do exclusive LDR's and let the chips fall.

You keep your dignity, you lose the moral conflict you seem to have about cheating, and it lays out the situation.

She'll either tell you to fuck off - i.e. you know it's over and can now go fuck whatever you want, or

She'll agree to you fucking chicks on the side.

Grow some balls. You want to have your cake and eat it too. Tell her as much.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2017-05-23T04:55:00+00:00

What is causing you to be long distance? And why not just make her a long distance plate

hobo_teacher · 2017-05-23T14:41:57+00:00

The problem is if I found out she fucked other guys, I'd be done. Not hurt, just done.
At the same time I will fuck other girls in the new place.
When bringing up this issue she said she wants to be 'just mine' but said I didn't need to chat with her every day and I could 'spare her the details that might hurt her.'
I've never cheated before.

You have been upfront, told her the parameters of this relationship surviving your deployment and she has agreed to them. You will not be cheating because you have made it part of your rules (cheating is a terrible and cowardly tactic, regardless of the form of the relationship). If you come back and found out she cheated, you are justified in ending it because she had the choice to leave you, even up until she cheated.

When you communicate/interact during that time, make sure you don't rub her face in it or make it obvious you are trying to not show it off, interact like it never happened. Its like the girlfriend who knows you are cheating, but doesn't leave you until someone else if her circle finds out.

but I shouldn't be making her expressly give me permission

Yes you should, because you are in an LTR. This would not be an issue if she were a plate

It's a shame that if she agrees to it, she would have been better off just not knowing, but c'est la vie

She also has to option of going with you and this no longer becomes a problem. Don't act like this is a situation with a black and white answer.

Also, congratulations for having the SMV to alpha widow a girl so well

Title	LTR wants LDR, I wonder if she'd rather I not tell her I fuck other girls
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Date	May 23, 2017 4:49 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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