Went Beta on a tinder girl. Is it too late to swing it around?

vandaalen · 2017-01-19T18:23:19+00:00

I've always had a natural RedPill behavior

Yeah.

There are so many things you fucked up, I don't even know where to start.

I meet up for coffee. Buy it for her.

No. 1 You never pay for them

We kiss a bit then I go home.

No. 2 Alone? WTF?

I show up at her work and smoke a cigarette and drink coffee with her.

No. 3 Don't orbit her at places where you cannot properly escalate and are just there to entertain her.

She even goes in for a kiss and I awkwardly rebuff it then kiss her and apologize.

No. 4 Never ever apologize unless you fuck up really really really really bad.

I don't text her for a day and she never texts me.

One day ... never... Dude seriously? How old are you? 12?

"it's fine. I guess we aren't going to hang out anymore"

No. 5 This is so fucking cringeworthy I lack the words to accurately describe how much. Are you 11 maybe?

I apologize

No. 6 See No. 4

say that tinder fizzles out sometimes and I wasn't sure

No. 7 Never explain yourself

I was confirming if she wasn't interested.

No. 8 Cringe again.

hit me up if you ever want to hang.

No. 9 You are the dude. Take the lead.

Did I fuck myself?

You fucked yourself in every degrading way possible and came in all your body cavaties.

That said, she seemed very much into you and you might still have a chance. Ping her with a simple "What's up" or smething similar. If she answers just set up a date at your place and this time don't only fucking kiss, but escalate and fuck for god's sake.

If she doesn't, take an L and move on.

Herdsengineers · 2017-01-19T18:11:31+00:00

Maybe she wanted the D when you were hanging out at midnight and she didn't get it.

askmrcia · 2017-01-19T18:24:37+00:00

You fucked up bad bro. But you can still recover. Next time you guys meet up, go for sex. That's what you should have done the last time you saw her in the car.

If I were you, I'd text her, "schedule is flexible, you should come over such and such date."

Send that or something like it. When you see her, small chat for like 2mins and start making out with her and takes it from there.

You still got a chance to be honest. But text her ASAP. But yea, next text should be you setting a time for you guys to meet up. Don't text "hi how you been, or anything like that."

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-01-19T18:32:31+00:00

Stop smoking, it lowers your SMV

And the answer is almost always yes, once you go beta with a woman, you are forever banished to being a beta in her mind. Find new women to game.

machimus · 2017-01-19T20:41:19+00:00

She snapchats me and I largely ignore her and do my own thing. I'm excited and come back home.

So far so good.

She even goes in for a kiss and I awkwardly rebuff it then kiss her and apologize.

Ugh, why? You should have escalated on the last date, and set up excitement for the lay, if not a time and place too.

We hang out at midnight, smoke, which makes me anxious, paranoid and insecure. We don't talk much and it was kind of awkward.

Not only not escalating but actively making it worse, despite her clear interest in you and willingness to at least make out.

I write "it's fine. I guess we aren't going to hang out anymore". She texts "wat lol. You're the one who didn't text me".

She has a damn good point. She's been nothing but down for anything. You're the one who's sinking this, not her. And I think you know it.

I apologize

Staaaaahp

I say it's cool, hit me up if you ever want to hang.

I'm just going to ask again, why? You're clearly not interested so why even ask her to hang out again? Of course she's not texting you anymore, nobody would after that.

Just let it go and do it right next time.

Title	Went Beta on a tinder girl. Is it too late to swing it around?
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Date	January 19, 2017 6:05 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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