I think I'm her orbiter but I have questions

roseillus · 2017-01-13T21:29:15+00:00

Asking you how old you are and your race doesn't mean shit. She offered to give you your book, doesn't mean she wants to suck your dick.

It's been two weeks and you haven't escalated or anything? She's not sexually interested in you man. Last note, definitely do not say "I'd be interesting in taking her out if things don't work out between them?" that screams needy.

Move on and spin plates and get experience, don't try to date girls until you get better. Hit the sidebar too.

mushroommountains · Fri Jan 13 21:33:15 2017 UTC

acknowledge that she has a boyfriend but let her know I'd be interesting in taking her out if things don't work out between them?

ewwwww for the love of god don't do that

should I flat out ask her if she'd like to hang out some time

Yes. The best thing you can do is polarize and find out what she's thinking, there are two possible results here:

a) she says no and you can quit wasting your time b) she says yes and you can get on track to putting your penis inside her

Either result is better than sticking around in limbo not knowing if she sees you as an orbiter or if she would cheat on her boyfriend with you

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-01-13T21:41:17+00:00

Aren't those weird questions to ask someone you see as a friend?

No

Also, yesterday, I left my book in class and she offered to bring it to my house to get it back to me even though we don't live that close to each other.

Maybe she is just trying to be nice.

Here is the deal with women, you have a limited window to generate attraction. The longer you wait and dick around, the less attracted she will be, because she will view you as a pussy too afraid to escalate or ask her out. 2 weeks is a long time. Women know when a guy wants to fuck them - they have a general idea if men are into them or not. So the longer you wait, the more of a pussy she will view you as.

Only way to ever find out is to escalate, which is why I escalate early and often. The longer you wait the lower your chances will be, so why waste time, figure it out right away. The first time you talk to a woman should also be the first time you escalate. If you aren't ready to escalate then don't initiate your first ever contact with her until you are.

desno · 2017-01-13T22:31:40+00:00

Overthinking it like crazy. Escalate and see what happens. If you get LJBF then you say "no thanks" and move on. That's literally all there is to it.

brooklynisburnin · 2017-01-13T22:49:14+00:00

What's with all these assholes getting oneitis for women with boyfriends?

Wallace68LeMay · 2017-01-14T00:23:22+00:00

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Title	I think I'm her orbiter but I have questions
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Upvotes	1
Comments	23
Date	January 13, 2017 9:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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