Those who were beta losers in school, would you do something different?

TheInkerman · 2016-11-08T22:27:30+00:00

Worked out more.

High school is kind of shitshow for 99% of people anyway, so trying to find one specific thing to change is difficult, but I can at least say "Hey it would have been better if I'd looked built".

Maybe would have stuck with French too, learning a language now is such a bitch.

Docbear64 · 2016-11-08T22:10:21+00:00

Just been more confident. I was so worried that everyone didn't like me I couldn't see that there were people who loved the shit out of me. I remember opening my yearbook and seeing a number from a chick I totally would have fucked but never talked to. At the time I didn't notice and if I had I still wouldn't have called / perceived it as an IOI. Looking back and it absolutely was.

savagedealer · 2016-11-08T21:35:27+00:00

If you don't have looks that's ok man . But you have to have something to negotiate with .... money ... status ... power ... knowledge ... a bad ass car ... something to barter with ... being filled with self pity isn't a bartering tool .

SexySmexxy · 2016-11-09T04:42:56+00:00

As someone who did highschool completely wrong but is having insane success at college let me talk you through winning high school.

Your weight. If you are overweight you need to lose weight and at the minimum become a neutral skinny. How? Cut out all the junk food, and just eat as healthy as possible. Chicken, Pasta etc etc, no foods bathed in sugar etc.
Lift. Its typically hard to get access to a gym in high schools in the UK, but maybe its different in the US. You need to try and get some heavy lifting into your life, if that's impossible you need to join some kind of sports team. Yes, you have to.
Dress appropriately. Listen I'm at a stage where I wear what ever the fuck I want. Anime t-shirts and pink hoodies, because I have the self-confidence and persona to pull it off. However, I'm not gonna wear some XL baggy jeans and a creased up baggy v neck to class, because it just looks disgusting. I'm not a huge fan of r/MFA, but if you're starting from the bottom it's a decent resource to get a sense of style.
Study. Chicks actually do dig guys who are smart. Everytime I tell a girl I study econ the first thing they always say to me is "wow you must be really smart". Your grades are the most important thing you're trying to achieve out of highschool.
Dont be creepy. Sounds stupid and overarching, but just trust me, if you're not sure if its creepy just ask a friend. Seriously don't be that creepy guy.
Have some self- esteem and self-confidence. As long as people aren't going to physically harm you for doing something, make sure you do it if you want to.
Don't be afraid to talk to girls. The girls, during highschool, thaT I ended up liking the most (as in had my heart in the palm of their hands) were the girls that at first I quite literally didn't even notice.
Don't be afraid of what you think other people are going to think about you. "Haha she rejected him, what a loser" ok cool. Most people don't have to guts to say it to your face. also you just have to trust me that as time goes by you'll be 10x more proud of the things you did do, compared to the things you didn't do. This is something that people can never understand in the moment, so you have to take it with pure blind faith and your common sense / logic.

High school is a great time for those who learn how to play the game, unfortunately people are just too young and inexperienced to learn how to play. Most people just get lucky or have amazing role models to learn from.

At the end of the day though, highschool ends and you have uni / college.

This is the ultimate venue to completely re-invent yourself.

Good luck agent.

[deleted] · 2016-11-09T15:36:19+00:00

Meh, not really.

I was in a really shitty school with a toxic environment. Teachers hated the students, students hated the teachers. It was an all male school. Many of my classmates were Neanderthals without a brain cell between them. They genuinely reminded me of monkeys. Most of them are unemployed now. They had their fun in their last two years of school. It's over for them now though.

weak, skinny

Yeah I would have lifted more. Not that it would have changed much. I was captain of the basketball team. I still believe I was excluded because I was intelligent and good looking, and people resented me for it. I was in a small town and there seemed to be some sort of hierarchy that didn't make a lot if sense to me.

poor

A high school kid can't control this

unsocial

Yeah I should have found more intelligent people to associate with, outside of school I suppose. I was top of my class in almost every subject (120 student in the year) and I still believe I was just too smart and mature for the situation I was in. I couldn't relate to the people around me at all.

All in all, I was a very late bloomer (only started puberty at 16, so up until then, tiny dick, high pitched voice, fairly short), I never drank alcohol or took drugs (omg he's so not cool!), I didn't like nightclubs or house parties (he's so weird!)

This put me in the loser bracket and to be quite honest I didn't care that much. I've always seen things for how they are, and adjusted accordingly. It was largely out of my control and I didn't think about it.

I would have started programming and going to the gym at a much younger age. Other than that, high school was a shithole full of retards and there really wasn't much I could do about it.

Title	Those who were beta losers in school, would you do something different?
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Date	November 8, 2016 8:58 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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