Did I maintain my frame?

redpillshadow · 2014-07-28T13:31:51+00:00

Me:- Wear something nice for me to the class ?

First fuck up. Making it a question ruins it. You are telling her what you like. You do not ask her to do you a favor.

Her:- I hope you are in your senses when you are texting to [sic] me

She picks up on the weakness and pushs back with a shit test/ reframe.

Me:- Haha, Chill, looks like you can’t take a compliment, it’s not going to work out between us, goodbye (or something along these lines)

a weird mix between back tracing and trying to regain frame

Her:- It’s not a compliment..

selecting to answer on the back trace and forcing you further back

Me:- that’s the way I talk, but looking at ur reaction I am guessing you had a conservative upbringing, anyways all the best in for your exam, won’t bother you.

nice comeback. Like the prude shaming.

Her:- We have never spoken before, how do you expect that i understand you..

[no reply from me]

Her:- Ok I am sorry, I don’t want us to fight over this

[no reply from me]

no reply best reply. Looking good now.

Her:- I said I am sorry right?, talk to me...I will make it up by taking you out for dinner. We can be good friends?

Sorry but not sorry. An order. A peace offering. Will you be my orbiter. Weird.

Me:- [A fairly long text which indicated that this is how things will be with me and that she better get used to it]

can't comment on that. As long "we can't be just friends" is in there it should be fine.

Her:- Ok, I was just shocked because I did not expect it from you. But anyway leave it. Thursday afternoon lunch, my treat ?

Me:- Ok [thanking TRP in my mind for lessons in holding frame]

You need to escalate on the date else you are in the friendzone. It seems like she is prone to leading herself. Be careful that she doesn't dictate the terms of the friendship/ relationship.

UrsusG · 2014-07-28T13:25:50+00:00

Looks pretty good except this

[A fairly long text which indicated that this is how things will be with me and that she better get used to it]

Preferably, you should have skipped the explanation and gone straight to setting up the date.

Getting long over text is bad for your frame, it makes you look like you're explaining yourself. And, as you know, only the guilty and the weak explain themselves.

last_to_know · 2014-07-28T14:08:03+00:00

/u/redpillshadow is right on with his assessment, let her know what your intentions are, that you have no desire to be her beta orbiter or "friend". Just wanted to add for a "greenhorn" you did pretty well. The more you practice, the more you learn. Don't be upset if you make a mistake, crash and burn. As long as you learn a lesson from it then it wasn't the worst thing that could happen. You will make mistakes along the way, everyone does. Just try to realize what went wrong and how to appraoch is differently next time.

witzzzer · 2014-07-28T14:36:55+00:00

Is she your student? Or do you both study at your competitive exam coaching school?

DankPanties · 2014-07-28T14:45:24+00:00

You only barely maintained your frame. When you are texting with a girl and your texts are consistently longer than hers, you're already doing it wrong. Say what you want to the point, don't dance around it. Be blunt.

"Thursday afternoon lunch, my treat ?"

You should have said, "I'm busy Thursday, let's do it Friday." And if she brings up that "can we be good friends" bullshit again tell her you already have enough friends, and next her ass.

ArkhamGTR · 2014-07-28T17:42:08+00:00

2/3 rule. follow it. The ignoring for a bit was great, but then you added "Fairly long text". That's no, keep it short.

Title	Did I maintain my frame?
Author	princenotsocharming
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	July 28, 2014 1:17 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2bxwqr/did_i_maintain_my_frame/
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