I feel like I have no purpose in life and have completely lost frame. Could use some help.

SkorchZang · 2015-10-20T17:55:30+00:00

Don't cry any tears over what that girl said, it's all bullshit. They will never tell you the real reason, ever. It was just the most convenient excuse to drop on you at the time, and one which made her look good in her own eyes. That's all. What she was really thinking, that you'll never know. You need to be 100% cool with that.

Man, you need to learn how to properly meditate, discipline and control your MIND.

All your current "shameful activities" are quite obvious attempts to compensate for the lack of real goals & motivation by drowning yourself in booze and other temporary highs. This is at core a psychological problem, your personality type. It means that at some point you became absolutely overwhelmed with the pressure and fear, and instead of fighting, you shut down and chose escapism. There was a breaking point, it came and went, and you may never have thought about it that way. Now that your "fishing rod" is snapped, it isn't catching much, and it won't fix itself.

You have to aim to deal with it ASAP, because the longer you're in this state the longer it will take to get yourself out. Not an easy thing to work through bro, you may need to look for mentors, counselling, psychologists at your uni and keep trying until you find one that can help you in a real way. Not all of them are the same, many are completely useless, but there are others who may help you put your life together again in an unexpected way.

[deleted] · 2015-10-20T17:48:44+00:00

Sounds like you had oneitus for this chick and now you have closure about it. So, you are sad and crying while eating ice cream. Like a lil bitch.

If you are not motivated to go to school, then stop going. You are only free to do anything when you have lost everything.

Cut the booze because it is a depressant. Time to go back to square one. Take a semester off. Get your mind straight. Get a hobby. Find your MO. Men get depressed when we don't have a fucking mission. Happened all the time when I was in the military. Dudes would get so fucking bored in between missions and start getting all emo. Find your mission in life. This is something we can't help with. You have to figure out what the fuck you want to do in your short, pointless life. Wanna learn to skydive? Wanna learn how to scuba? Want to help fly covered kids in Africa? Figure out your MO.

Thecking · 2015-10-20T19:27:27+00:00

Is it possible OP is in the wrong place? I didn't read into the part about the girl or anything, I mean with school in general? Discipline is one thing, but it seems like his joy in life isn't found through schoolwork. I'm finding life tends to flow better when your actually doing something you want to do, rather than forcing yourself and slogging through each and every day.

That doesn't mean play videogames and drink all day. I think there are different levels of joy to be found, some hire than others.

Maybe you'd do better with a trade?

Title	I feel like I have no purpose in life and have completely lost frame. Could use some help.
Author	Thecking
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	October 20, 2015 5:00 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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