So I am a textbook beta. Huge nerd, mediocre looks, got beat up in high school, little to no muscle mass, non-profit job that doesn't pay a lot, read poetry, white knight who thinks gender is arbitrary etc., yet I have done pretty well with women. How?

If I had to evaluate why I do well with women, it is because I am somewhat intelligent, confident in my opinions and have a good sense of humor. None of these things make me "alpha" (which btw isn't a real thing in nature). So what am I missing?