How do you live with the thought you won't be able to get the kind of girls you want because of factors out of your control?

secret_barber · 2015-08-05T19:25:34+00:00

Can we ban this asshole? Everyday, he posts this shit.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-08-05T19:20:52+00:00

You need to change this mindset. It is your undoing. You can't control everything. You can't have everything your way. You can't control what isn't yours to control.

I am of an ethnic minority and my SO is a hot athletic blonde/blue eyed former virgin. Yes it can be done. The first thing you do is change yourself, because this lack of self esteem and lack of confidence is a weakness that women can smell from a mile away.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-08-05T19:53:13+00:00

This is just like the whiny "I'm bad with women because I'm Indian and it's out of my control" posts that litter TRP on a daily basis. I will tell you (and the Indian guys who blame their ethnicity for their troubles) to man the fuck up and realize that as a man, you will sink or swim on your own merit and nobody will care if you drown. That's it. Nobody fucking cares - especially women. Women prefer successful men. They rescue animals in trouble - not men who are struggling.

I suggest you read and internalize the Serenity Prayer. Even if you're atheist or non-Christian, it is still a good piece of practical wisdom. The prayer says:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

That's some powerful shit. It means "don't waste time and energy worrying about that which is out of your control. Instead, focus your energy on improving yourself and your situation however you can."

Can you do anything about your race? No. Have there ever been successful men of your race who built themselves up from nothing? Sure - there have been successful men of every race. So what makes you different? Why can you not work hard and get what you want? Who is holding you down, besides yourself and your unwillingness to put forth the work and effort it takes to achieve your goals?

You're not wanting to be a doctor - you're wanting women. Half of the people in the world are women. Any man who can't connect with but a few of the several billion people on the planet has bigger issues.

Even if you could magically become a typical tall, handsome white guy, your problems with women would not magically go away because inside you'd still be you and still have the same defeatist attitude that's holding you back now. You'd just find something else to blame.

Instead of using your race as an excuse for your failures, you should disregard it altogether or even better - EMBRACE IT. Be proud of who you are. If nothing else, you'd be different and novel - and people like novelty. "Oooh! I've never met a _____ man before!"

I'm not trying to beat you up. I'm just trying to point out how much of a pussy move it is to blame your height, your race, your penis size, your hair or anything else that you think makes you "less of a man". Anything less than an actual physical or mental disability is just an excuse - and there are plenty of guys with disabilities that can still slay pussy. They just choose to swim instead of sink. It is what you make it, and there is always room to improve yourself.

Title	How do you live with the thought you won't be able to get the kind of girls you want because of factors out of your control?
Author	coolcaptain2
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	August 5, 2015 7:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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