Title is there just to get it out the way.

Here is the deal. Went on 3 dates with this girl, and she has tingles for me. She likes me more than I do. I'm just treating it casual.

On our last date we were talking about my cousin, who shes met before me & how hes a player etc... Then she goes into, how she doesn't understand how keeping several girls works. So I sort of explain how, you keep a couple of girls around and eventually if you like one she becomes your girl. That got her in feels and she started feeling jealous. She said she doesn't want to compete with other girls for me... (My mistake for talking about that).

At this point, I really know, I got her. She clearly likes me more than, I like her. So on the way back to the car, she refuses to kiss me, because she doesn't want me to think she is easy... I park by her house, & go in for a kiss again, & she gives me the same crap. She says she really likes me, but is afraid of being taken for a joke & that if I explain how it works with the others, she will be good with me. I don't respond to that, and tell her, I don't understand what she thinks she loses by kissing me. Next she asks if I am seeing her tomorrow, (we planned for this previously). So essentially she was asking are we done. I say yes, we are meeting tomorrow. Then she says ok then, I will give you one kiss and then I'm going. At this point, I felt like a bitch, negotiating for a kiss, as if she was bestowing me with the blessings of her lips. So, I said, you need to go and have a think. Bye.

The next day, we meet an hr before I have to head out to a party without her. Were in the car again & we are talking. She says she is scared to open up with me because I might hurt her, & that she has never been with someone where she is not in control. I said, you wouldn't like me if I wasn't in control. So shes scared of opening up & the talk of other girls from the previous day, got her apprehensive in regard to being with me. I told her straight, I like her but I can't give her anymore if she doesn't let herself become vulnerable.

At this point, I know i need to next her. But I can't let her go (cause i'm a bitch), anyway she cracks the car door open, I tell her close the door. We talk some more, eventually, its getting nowhere I tell her to leave but she wont. I have to get to this party, & we haven't officially called it off, eventually she leaves.

My goal with her has been an LTR but I have behaved with her as if a plate. I can't upgrade her straight away.

Its been 3 days since then. I went to radio silence. My problem is that now I am missing her, like a bitch. I've got a new girl since yesterday, but I can't get my mind off her now. Its unexpected because before this I wasn't really invested in her.

I want to get with her, but she needs to put out. If I continue to chase her, i'm walking over my boundaries & she wont respect me afterwards. So the waiting game is definitely not in my book.

I know the best course of action from TRP perspective. NEXT. But here is my bitch question, what is the best approach to get her? And finally for future reference: Have my actions been congruent with TRP? What could I have done differently