Toxic Family Member "Sister", what do I do if anything.

pickledpeas · 2015-06-21T21:52:51+00:00

Do some activity with Sally once a week if possible. Without other toxic family members.

Be the 'cool older brother' that she will go to with any problems. You will be able to deal with issues as they arise.

[deleted] · 2015-06-21T21:44:56+00:00

The obvious answer is to convince your baby sister to split and move with your father, you can also offer your place as a temporary refuge by giving her a key. Obviously don't try to redpill your sister, but convince her to follow your lead, but sadly women usually stick to their own.

fnordsnord · 2015-06-22T02:02:37+00:00

Convince her to move with her father.

imgonnabethegreatest · 2015-06-21T21:47:48+00:00

After any instance of disrespect from your sister towards your youngest sister, go to your house and tell Janet to fuck off. If you don't care about your relationship with Janet(which you shouldn't if she's as much of a bitch as you made her out to be) tell her she's a loser and has no place speaking to Sally like that. Basically make her feel as bad about it as possible but don't argue with her. Treat her like a child, this will only work, however, if you're successful yourself a man that commands respect. If your mom tries to intervene, tell her she's also wrong especially for allowing her daughters to disrespect each other like that.

Talk to Sally and tell her not to take any mind to what Janet says and to only focus on her own opinion of herself. Basically try to give her a watered down red pill(focus on yourself, dgaf what others think) and spend some time with her. If you're successful yourself she will listen to you.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2015-06-23T01:22:32+00:00

and my concern is how she treats my other sister Sally

Your younger sister probably knows which side of crazy the bread is buttered on.

Likely your sister Janet has some kind of personality disorder. Possibly either Narcissistic P.D. or Histrionic P.D. Either way, know that people with PD's desire chaos/drama for themselves and everyone around them. They are basically toddlers in their terrible twos, trapped inside an adult's body and intellect. This condition is irreversible. The only thing that changes is they get better at lying and appearing to be mentally competent to people who don't know them.

You deal with people with toxic PD's by having as little interaction with them as humanly possible. If that involves excusing yourself from family get-togethers where they're present, do not hesitate. No contact with them is always the best option.

Develop a good rapport with sally and let her know you're willing to talk to her any time if she has a serious problem. Hang pout with her alone, away from the rest of your family on a regular basis. Treat her like your partner in crime. Do some kind of activities that require productive teamwork, for example something simple like throwing a frisbee.

I feel that Janet will work to create a suspicious and adversarial atmosphere at home, and try to "triangulate" with your mother against her. People with P.D.'s believe that other people think like they do and are as toxic as them.

Steve_Wiener · 2015-06-21T22:53:21+00:00

Slap her in the face. Like your dad should have done way before.

Title	Toxic Family Member "Sister", what do I do if anything.
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Date	June 21, 2015 9:27 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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