Serious: Need to let go of my ex

seattleron · 2015-06-03T19:37:41+00:00

Have you really dealt with it? Sounds like you've just held out hope that you'll get back together? That's unhealthy. If you have to cry, then cry. Cry it out. Go into your room and stay there all day and cry (by yourself). If you need someon to talk to, go find a trusted male and talk to him. Let it out.

You also have to remember she wasn't a special snowflake. She wasn't perfect, and I guarantee your relationship wasn't either.

And for fuck's sake, stop looking at pictures of her. Block her from all social media, and lock away any pictures in teh attic. Burn anything that reminds you of her from your presence. If you lived together, then move. You will never move on with reminders of her all around you.

Also, date someone hotter than her. Never been anything to cure oneitis quicker.

crixusin · 2015-06-03T18:04:41+00:00

Can't be said better than this:

http://i.imgur.com/KSibgHY.jpg

Get over it. I dated a girl for 4 years and we broke up a year ago. I 100% bet the way she dumped me was way worse than what happened to you, and I was way more devastated. I loved her unconditionally, which is a probably in and of itself with me/you.

You know what I did? I got jacked, I dated new women, I improved.

And I still felt the way you did. So what did I do?

I got more jacked, I dated more women, and I improved more.

And guess what, I realized its her loss. Do I miss her? Of course, since I'm not a sociopath. Does she miss me? Of course not, since she is a sociopath. Its easy as that. You're thinking about her right now, and she's not thinking about you at all. What's more sad and sadistic than that?

Welcome to the new generation, our generation, where attention spans are easily in the microseconds and everything is turning into waste. It was your turn, that's it.

In the future, realize that dating women will end like this probably every time, so don't get too attached. Realize that as you get more jacked, date more women, and improve more, she isn't doing any of that and one day she will regret not doing that and you will be miles ahead of her. Be patient with yourself, and give yourself more time.

It also doesn't sound like you're ready to date at all, and I can tell since you're posting about your oneitis problems in this sub. This sub is about masculinity, not about dating. Until you realize that, you're not ready to date in my opinion. I'm putting you in timeout.

Super-Saiyajin · 2015-06-03T20:25:17+00:00

It's not going to get any better. You may think you've gotten over her. One day, years later, you will see her again. She will talk to you, and you will come to the realization that you may NEVER get over her.

This is life.

Improve your SMV. Improve your Wealth. Improve your Physique. Internalize TRP.

Use her as the motivation to accomplish these things.

Then maybe, perhaps years later, she will realize that YOU were the prize.

flatox · 2015-06-03T22:51:25+00:00

By dating new women, we really mean go fuck new women. Not just going out.

3rt41 · 2015-06-04T07:36:06+00:00

My top advice is to completely cut contact. No social media, no pictures to go back to memory lane. You have to force yourself to let go.

Eventually you will.

pahispua · 2015-06-04T14:21:50+00:00

Oh my god. I've read your OP and frankly, fucking pathetic responses in this thread and it's laughable. We're not a lovely dovey circle jerk group we are a selfimprovement and sexual strategy group. You want to cry about the past take it somewhere else. If you want to grow actually READ and UNDERSTAND the comments that have been given to you. Read the sidebar. Lift. Burn/block/remove all traces of her from your life. Go monk mode if you need it. Read the sidebar. After monk mode go find other women. I don't give a FUCK how much of a magic unicorn this bitch was and how you'll never find another like her because I, and we at TRP know AWALT. Read the sidebar. Focua on yourself and increase your SMV. Not to replace this chick. But to BETTER yourself FOR YOURSELF. Read the sidebar.

fnordsnord · 2015-06-03T20:19:25+00:00

Okay - first: it's okay to mourn. You thought you had a good thing, and then you didn't. Either it died or it wasn't what you thought it was. And people mourn at different rates. In GENERAL, healthy mourning runs about 20% the time of the relationship, more or less. So if you were together 5 years, a year of mourning isn't too far off.

If you start getting much past that, you might want to take some steps.

Here are some hints to make it easier: you shouldn't see her at all. As in pack all of her pictures away. You may want them later, but for now, they need to be in the darkest corner of your basement (that's dry) or attic. Seriously. All of them.

Delete her from all social media. Stop facebook stalking her. Unfriend her. Delete her contact information.

Pack up or give away all keepsakes or presents she gave you. Remove EVERYTHING that reminds you of her.

Become more physically active, ideally in natural light. Guys will tell you to lift heavy weight, and it's a good idea. Endorphins and a higher T-level are a good thing. The confidence that comes from being stronger is also a good idea. But even if ou just go for a 30 minute walk once a day, do SOMETHING.

Find a group activity, even if it's all guys. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it gets you out of the house and around other human beings. Join a bowling league. A role-play gaming group. An indie band. But you need to be around other people where there's positive energy.

n3demonic · 2015-06-03T23:00:55+00:00

Britain's most violent prisoner gives Tom Hardy the best advice ever nsfw

Begins with Tom talking about Bronson struggling to get Tom on the phone. Eventually, he gets him on the phone. Bronson asks how Tom is. Tom had just split up with his girlfriend and decided to be honest with Charlie and confided in him with his problems.

B: Tom, do you remember the floods?

T: ...in Oxford?

B: Yeah, the floods. Do you remember the floods?

T: Yeah

B: Do you remember that boy who got his foot stuck in a grate and the river kept rising, and it kept rising, and it kept rising and eventually they tried to get him out, but he drowned?

T: Yeah?

B: Well that wouldn't have happened to me. Do you wanna know why?

T: Yeah, yeah, yeah, sure.

B: Cause I'd have said, 'Cut it off, now'. Tom, what I'm trying to say is right, what I'm trying to say is, um, sometimes, yeah? You've got to cut a little piece of yourself off, yeah? No matter how much it hurts, in order to grow, yeah? In order to move on - you know what I mean? What you havin' for your tea?

T: I'm havin' a steak.

B: Ohoh, you cunt! I fuckin' love a steak, me. What's goin' on outside your window?

aguy01 · 2015-06-03T19:03:50+00:00

Eat more food.

RemyPrice · 2015-06-03T21:25:35+00:00

There's a self-actualization seminar that takes 3 days and costs ~$545. If you have the money to burn, you can start on Friday and be "over" her by Monday.

True story.

Title	Serious: Need to let go of my ex
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Date	June 3, 2015 5:50 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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