Is it unreasonable to expect my wife to be a stay at home mom as soon as we get married?

648262 · 2015-05-11T09:14:42+00:00

It's not unreasonable, but it's unlikely someone with an education would choose that path. Look elsewhere. It would just be poor decision making.

redistheonlycolor · 2015-05-12T14:08:38+00:00

I have talked to a lot of women about this ( I have some pretty smart friends) from their side of it, its about money and control. Whoever has the money has the control. If it is all your money, they feel powerless when it comes to spending. They have to ask the guy for everything they want and it makes them feel like beggers and bums. Not many women now will see it as anything other than having to negotiate with their husband for an allowance.

Women today are also scared by media portraying abusive men like an epidemic. An abusive man will force a woman to give up everything but him and make sure she has no way to leave by cutting off any funds. Don't give me a bunch of rp stuff here, it does not happen as often as people think but I have seen it happen with a friend of mine.

Women also don't want to be stuck at home with no one but a child to talk to. I babysat for my sister for two days and that was enough for me. Imagine doing that for a year or two, nothing but baby this, baby that, poo, pee, screaming, inane kids TV shows. Even when you do get out of the house you have to take them everywhere you go and you cart a ton of stuff with you at all times. I took my niece to a park and no one could talk about anything but the kids, my niece their kids, it was enough to drive you nuts. And kids seem like they are trying to hurt themselves all the time when they are small. A few days was a non stop heart attack of keeping a suicidal one year old from trying to eat every non food item she could get her hand s on and keep her from climbing and jumping off everything. Maybe when its my own, but nope. You only get peace when they sleep, and they don't sleep long enough. Its like you entered another dimension.

You might find a woman that wants to stay at home, but its not much of a chance unless you make tons and want to worry what she is up to all day long. I know my best bet is a woman that will stay home for a year or two, and have a part time job till the kid is old enough for school.just stay home till the kid can talk, and then the kid needs to be around other kids so they develop social skills.

You can be a rp family even if you both work. Just find a woman that wants to stay home the first year or so, or at the very least the first few months and only work part time.

slater2j · 2015-05-11T00:23:22+00:00

IF your "wife" is a stay at home mom, then divorce rape will hit you harder than usual when she eventually stops fucking you, treats you like trash, gains a lot of weight and then starts banging her physiotherapist.

Title	Is it unreasonable to expect my wife to be a stay at home mom as soon as we get married?
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Date	May 10, 2015 10:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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