26/m

I have a couple questions on escalation with women in a unique type of scenario.

I have been saving money for a few years, recently bought a conversion van, and plan on taking it around the country this summer with the intention of moving to a city out West (living in New England now).

I have a bed in the van and will be living out of it essentially for 3+ months starting in June or July.

I have been with 32 women in my life, #20 was a 2-year LTR that ended in the fall (10 of the 12 after were hookers).

I used to have phenomenal game before that relationship especially with regards to kino, but lately it always feels off when I start to go for it.

Example: I met two different girls at concerts out of town this weekend, one I knew was attracted to me via her telling my friend (found out later through him she overtly expressed interest "had a crush"), but I did minimal kino because she showed up with a guy (found out later he was an orbiter). Anyways, I flirted and got her number (via facebook) once home and plan on showing up in her city without warning on the trip. I deleted my facebook after as I usually have it deactivated and sent her a quick text so she has my number. I plan on going NC until I am on the road. She is a solid 9.

The other girl at the show I could tell was attracted, but I was too exhausted at that point (3 AM) to really analyze the situation and give it a shot. She tried dancing with me and was giving IOIs/responding well to the moderate kino I gave her. I was a little nervous thinking she came with my friend on a date (found out later it wasn't one) so I let it be. I still think I could definitely fuck her if I had her number and was in her city.

Along with these examples, I have probably 10 or so women in various cities around the country where

  1. I've met them between 1-4 times (usually in passing at concerts or music festivals)
  2. I've established attraction at one point and
  3. I have her number or can get it but
  4. I have not really pushed the escalation to kissing etc.

On top of that I know for a fact there are plenty of bang-able women I will meet living on the road. Is being a caveman about it really just the way to go?

Logically I think more women will be DTF if they know I wont be around for long (assuming attraction and other things are done right of course).

My ultimate goals here are:

  1. to establish plates around the country that I can bang when I travel.
  2. to really get better at escalation when meeting someone new.

I don't know why escalation seemed so much more natural to me before this extended monogamous relationship, but I really need to do some exercises and adopt a better mindset to get back to where I was.

PS. I want to stop seeing hookers altogether because of herpes paranoia. Though they are so incredibly fun

Sorry if this was ranty, but any and all advice is appreciated