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I framed it as if i were the prize and she fell into it You are the prize. Not "if i were". If you haven't experimented lately, I suggest not using "haha", as it isn't necessarily coming across as intended. Seek to replicate the mindframe you're in while sober. Notice the resistant thoughts that spring up while sober that you typically don't contend with while drunk. Notice them, then bat them down.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/17 11:40 PM
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Well if I had to be honest, I'd do nothing but pulling. Which doesn't work, does it? What? Anyway... I used to but this put me into a lower position in bargaining. That's what happens when you're the one wanting / needing yet haven't sparked that level of desire in her. "You are making me very excited" Ok, take that, and practice and get comfortable pushing it further / being more visceral. "You know... we are in a bubble right now, isolated from the world, just you and me" Shit like that. Shit …
/r/askTRP17/02/17 02:23 AM
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I'm trying ... for practice This mentality is the most valuable asset your have. Appreciate it. By realizing that it's all just practice, it is incredibly liberating. My intuition here would suggest that instead of trying to be outrageous with negs, be "outrageous" with honest expressions of interest and sexual intent. Your negs right now aren't in line with what you actually feel or would like to express -- they're incongruent and come off odd (as opposed to playful and unimportant). Right now,…
/r/askTRP17/02/17 01:46 AM
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No More Mr Nice Guy had a chapter on sex / sexual expression that hit deep. It really struck a chord. On a bit more superficial level, Sex God Method is worth the read. Not a book, and related more to pickup, but this concept: "Do What WORKS! But If You Struggle, OWN The Next Best Thing. 'Whatever You Resist, Persists...'" After seeing that almost 3yrs ago, I stopped trying to 'fake it til I make it' and wound up far more confident.
/r/askTRP24/01/17 09:10 AM
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OP should read the sidebar and work to internalize it. Trying to offer a solution to this one situation is the last thing someone with oneitis needs. They're not addressing the root issues, and trying to use TRP as a bandaid to fix the minutia.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 08:57 AM
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Realize that your relationship is built upon sexual attraction. You don't need her to agree with you and validate your ideas in order for her to want you. without getting into big fights Big fights tend to only occur when both sides lose their cool. With amused mastery, you can be cool, calm, and collected, and drive her crazy with frustration at you not validating what she's 'learning'. This is an emotional spike--and they love the roller coaster, and they love you if you hold your amused frame…
/r/askTRP18/01/17 08:49 AM
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Do you wanna plate her? Ltr? Ons? Never go in wanting a LTR. She should be the one wanting to lock you down. At a high level of understanding, you can know you eventually want a LTR (perhaps years down the line even) but don't need it right now, and can be very selective for a woman who continually works hard to get you and keep you around.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 08:34 AM
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Why are you here? You clearly have only the most superficial knowledge of TRP and have internalized nothing. When this trip inevitably ends poorly (you get friendzoned, no sex) I hope you hit rock bottom and realize how jaded you are.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 08:23 AM
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There's a balance to everything. $5 isn't worth your time and effort to sell it to someone else.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/17 04:46 PM
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She's showing interest, so it's not a lost cause. You don't know her full situation, and typically you never will. No need to over-analyze. Instead of trying to play a game where you drag this out, just push it and see what happens. Since you genuinely can do Saturday, instead of meeting up somewhere, push it further. Set better plans on your own terms and you'll be able to tell if she wants to see you. Tell her to bring the movies come over your place Saturday when you're free. Me, I'd keep it …
/r/askTRP11/01/17 01:33 AM
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Great attitude. After traveling around, I've encountered that language barrier many times and inadvertently developed the non-verbal side. It's a game/life changer.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 12:12 AM
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She doesn't sound like good LTR material just from that description either.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 12:02 AM
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This is a great opportunity to have fun with it and see what happens. With a language barrier, there should be a great emphasis on non-verbal communication. Your eyes and body language connecting with hers... she should want to fuck you well before you 'hopefully' (weak language) get back to her place. (Keep in mind too, she's willing to meet with you. She's on your side and wants you to be that guy that'll take her.) In those silences when there's a disconnect with languages, enjoy the silence …
/r/askTRP10/01/17 11:57 PM
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Since no one has said it, if you want to improve your social skills... Go out and rack up experiences, talking with and taking an interest in other people. Push yourself just beyond your threshold of discomfort, and enjoy that. Learn to love the bomb.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 11:38 PM
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just nothing sexual besides kissing For me, at 20, that's a red flag. It might be understandable if she has a conservative / religious background...but then she goes straight to sucking some tinder cock. I should just keep her as a plate Yes. Perhaps you should get on tinder--then thank her for introducing you to the idea when your matches start messaging you.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 11:28 PM
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She's hooked up only on tinder, at the age of 20 (which is on the older side for a girl). Yes, that's a red flag. Why could she not meet guys the old way? Why could she not have or want a relationship earlier? Why are you dating her instead of having her as a plate? A LTR should start as a plate and work hard to earn a relationship with you. That's not the case here. That's your fault.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 11:06 PM
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it diminishes your interpersonal communication skills over time. It doesn't diminish mine. Right now, I wouldn't be talking to anyone anyway. Rather, now this technology allows me more communication. Going about my day, I have the choice to talk to people, stay silent, or look at my phone. Choice. But people aren't being encouraged to have more public conversations and gain experiences, so society will swing toward less social one-on-one for now. To which I say...who cares? Weakness can be explo…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 10:20 AM
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Or, the most successful corporations will tap into it and build up loyal employees. He's saying millenials would give up high salaries for the intangibles like self-satisfaction and encouragement in their work--spikes of validation. Tell me, how many good women that work hard to please you would stick around if you didn't give them any validation or encourage/shape their behavior? He's even saying millenials respond more to that than money.... fucking brilliant. Pay them less at the start and sh…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 10:01 AM
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Exactly. I don't understand the hype of all this -- at least, in this sub. (I do get why your average facebookers have passed it around as so insightful though). It's largely been boomers and millennials passing this around, saying phones are the problem and today's youth aren't conforming nicely to the old system. Same shit, different generation. Phones are merely the visible symbol. When a couple is out at dinner, both on their phones, people lament how the phone has done this and how humanity…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 09:51 AM
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Well, it's the responsibility of a corporation that wants to be smart. Knowing the values of this labor force generation, they can connect the mentality of 'wanting to make an impact / contribute' to the company's goals/mission. That's not hard. Validate them and reward you employees well, and loyalty is built. (Similarly, if you give women just enough validation and appreciation for the good things they do, they stick around and continue to please). But, most companies are short-term, profit dr…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 09:40 AM
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Mark Manson was popular with his book Models. He refrained from going too RP in his language and appealed to a wider audience. Good for him -- lots of money for him and lots of people that may be helped / start down a better path. Being average has become the new standard of failure That's not necessarily a bad thing. But, people have not been taught to question themselves, take risks for the experience, and develop self-awareness as to when/where/how they find fulfillment and satisfaction. It c…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 09:28 AM
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Yes, it seems that peoples' take away is that the phone is the real problem. No, it's just the obvious symbol where the root issues manifest -- some are intrinsically human, some are societal.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 09:16 AM
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The flipside of this too is that people think writing the perfect thing is obtainable, yet are crippled with inaction and worry trying to make it so.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 09:10 AM
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Don't fuck around wasting time with dates; and, if you're all over each other, pull the trigger. There's a time and a place for sex, and in a club / out in public is not it. Practice pushing the interaction past that. Learn to recognize the opportunities by committing to get experience. You have incredible quantity to work with, so don't get frustrated after three times--this shows you're invested too much.
/r/askTRP15/12/16 02:50 PM
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Have fun with it. Again, rather than 'thinking about eye contact', think about fucking her. Let yourself feel and enjoy it. You seem more in your head and disconnected from the sexual side. Think less, say less, feel more... and that'll guide what you do next.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 08:45 AM
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got massive oneitis where I had physical pain from stress, got over it ... and yet wrote massive wall of text. I feel like I need to show that this doesn't phase me Trying to get that validation and still trying to play alpha. I can tear this apart, break it down and explain everything, which may be useful...except for the fact that you're likely not going to use the insight for anything except trying to look better in the eyes of her and your tiny temporary social circle. Overall, you need to a…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 04:08 AM
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You can still be a 'good guy' and be sexual. In my view, that's the greatest male ideal. I'm willing to bet that you're not comfortable letting a situation be out of your (perceived) control, not comfortable with silence, not comfortable with being able to just look a pretty girl in the eyes and let it linger. Actionable advice: Next time you're with one (preferably someone new), instead of trying to continue chatting as you typically would, hold your tongue and just look her in the eyes, and th…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 12:51 AM
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want try feared fiend tried wanted hoping tried Listen to yourself, this is a very weak, supplicating frame of mind. I feared that she might've thought I was a sex fiend when I tried kissing her with tongue on the first date This is the biggest statement to pick up on. You're going through the actions, you're "trying" but you haven't come to the realization that it's okay to be a sexual person. The incogruence of your actions compared to your subtle internalized fears no doubt showed throughout.…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 12:42 AM
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ps: /u/redbluepilling 's answer is essentially a response to a shit test. Good example, but read more on this. There is a reason it's on the sidebar. IT'S BASIC AS FUCK! Yep, intended it as 3 examples though. Edited for clarity. Indeed it is BASIC AS FUCK op, and in that regard, vital. Stoicism, tranquility, acceptance -- all ideas that aide this.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/16 09:57 AM
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Attention. Comfort. Validation. Shittest to see if you can live your own life. A lot has to do with you. Set the tone from the start. If a girl cares more about building a relationship than validating herself or whatever hangup, she'll conform to your standards. Make it clear by action. I expect girls to text quite a bit, but I'm not obliged to respond in detail or at all. I keep texting down to a minimum, for plans. I make that clear from the start. Mental? A lot of women just need a strong mas…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 09:42 AM
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She hasn't been overtly sexual. You're forcing the issue and worrying far too much about the details. Pussy shit.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 09:32 AM
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Cool Ok [Random shit like an emoji] Best of all... no response. Move on. So many women in the world and you're concerned about one.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 09:30 AM
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Yeah, it's entirely situation dependent. First time she plans to meet some guy she doesn't know well she invites her friends? OK. Charm them all. If you can't; well, you're shit. Go home and jerk off alone.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/16 09:21 AM
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her current bf whos beta You can label him if you want, but that's who she is fucking now. Actually, I dont agree with /u/Jibouti that she's trying to make you a beta-orbiter. In a way, you are the one trying to do that. Trying by inviting her to the movies? You're very inexperienced. You saw her for 2years right? Just focus on moving on and racking up life experience.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 09:11 AM
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But i suppose more so than i should have (hence this post? lol) yep I am really more trying to get a grasp on what happened, to learn from it and prevent it from happening again. (my brain has to UNDERSTAND shit for whatever reason) Sense of control. But part of having control is paradox of accepting that sometimes you can't have control or fully understand. While you may never fully understand what happened here, you can make a few educated assumptions, and learn from a collection of these sort…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 08:59 AM
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Smirk. Keep on keeping on. Be genuine, apologize, and/or acknowledge when you actually fuck up. Then concisely explain how you've thought to improve / rectify it. More importantly, take action and do so.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/16 08:40 AM
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You've probably only fucked up by thinking you fucked up. Maybe you made a few 'mistakes' here and there, we don't know for sure based upon what you said, but in this case particularly, it doesn't matter. Online + in a relationship isn't necessarily a high probability fuck. Is this a gigantic waste of my time? I was going to delete her number but decided I would ask what trp thinks. Maybe keep it and go no contact and see if she initiates again? It's a waste of your time if you're thinking about…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 08:29 AM
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Went to a university far away. Traveled to different countries and stayed for months in each. /u/PM_me_nicetits Starting from scratch largely becomes less 'daunting' when you just acknowledge your reality, your current station in life, and embrace what you're working toward. A fresh start is a great way to rapidly induce deep change.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 08:13 AM
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She'd just ram it in before we had a condom ready and then would say 'one time won't hurt.' But I always pulled out and put one on. /u/ClassicYoshbosh you're going to be a bluepill dad soon enough if you allow this to happen. Remove your penis and find a girl who wants to wait to have children.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 08:03 AM
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You just need to keep practicing (and don't overly concern yourself with 'being alpha'. You are you as you are now, and you're going to get better and better as you get more experience). The next day I go to a party and she's there but she brought another guy home and fucked him. You were overly concerned with the n-count question and couldn't roll with the punches. Move on and just get more comfortable with shittests. Seriously though, what is your n-count? Does it bother you? Just practice, wi…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 07:58 AM
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I live with her And now you can see why this is a bad idea.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 07:07 AM
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can someone kick my ass and put this into perspective for me? You dodged a bullet and you learned a life lesson. If I'm completely honest I was getting attached to her, it actually felt like breaking up with a girl friend. See how easily it is to get attached? Now you can ask and explore within yourself why you'd so easily fall for someone. Experience. Learn. Find better women. Require higher standards of behavior from women. That simple.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 06:54 AM
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This seems complex. You have your own deeper issues, which are apparent by your language. "This lieing bitch." First, *lying. Second, that's a horrible way to think of your LTR. If it's so adversarial, you're likely not ready for a good LTR. Third: why arent you letting me fuck then? letting me Your frame is far off from where it should be. Although we recognize that women 'control sex' as a tool, we compliment this thought with the fact that a good LTR woman isn't actively trying to manipulate …
/r/askTRP29/10/16 06:12 AM
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Lead. Lead the interaction. Even deeper, you should be aware of the emotions. One of the things you should try experimenting with is actually embracing the silence (by making it), stoicism, learn how to give them a look and watch it affect their thoughts and emotions. Make a little game to self-amuse yourself to see how quickly they can't handle the silence and fill the void. This'll typically result in a smirk by yourself, and that'll affect them even more. Then when they've had enough, you tea…
/r/askTRP29/10/16 01:27 AM
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This isn't the first time I've took her out on a date. Tick-tock. Stop fucking around and make the most of it.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 11:05 AM
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Go fucking read No More Mr Nice Guy. This is RP 101 for people like you. And, if you're going to say this: I dont do this because I want people to like me, I dont act like this because I want something from someone. You really need to reflect and identify if you're lying to yourself. If you were slaying pussy at the same time, I wouldn't question you, but it's common for people to convince themselves of something to feel secure. At the very least, it's very useful to stop and consider where this…
/r/askTRP21/10/16 10:52 AM
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ill let you know Been a week. Can't take a hint? You didn't pass the test in person. You didn't sweep her off her feet and fuck her like a gratuitous romance novel.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 10:44 AM
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"We" Shut the fuck up and take some pride in yourself. There is no "we" between the two of you. Move on.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 10:42 AM
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From experience, if you do nothing, this will drag on and drain on you. Take action. You already started this by asking her out, so at least finish what you start.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 10:33 AM
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By saying 'bravo', you were being sarcastic and dickish, when really, what you wanted to say was, 'I want to fuck you, don't bring your friends'. Your frustrations are a result of your own passivity. She's a good girl who looks after me well and I don't want to next her. Be more direct, have solid boundaries / sense of self, and you may not have to. However; regardless, if you don't like her friends, it's not going to last long.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 09:55 AM
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You clearly want to fuck her, since you've asked her out twice. Get conviction. Either do it because you want to or don't because it doesn't pass your own set of rules. Right now you're inbetween. But, at this point, you should go fuck her, since that baser part of you has already decided. You can learn and gain far more experience by going along that path than if you rationalize now that it 'doesn't fit your set of rules'.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 07:17 AM
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I lose a lot of frame when I drink that much. Drink less / or none at allm and talk to more people, to challenge yourself and enjoy the process of getting experience. I'm quite good at passing shit-tests. I have little experience when it comes to flirting/escalating What you think is 'passing shit-tests', isn't real. You're good at deflection to make yourself feel better. Passing shit-tests is typically part of flirting/escalating.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 07:12 AM
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Friends ex though? Maybe, depends. I used to think this way. Nip it in the bud. Even if your friends say they don't care about her anymore, they're full of shit. What's more important, a strong male social circle or one girl? If you're living in abundance, you'd never need to think about fucking your mate's ex. That's needy betrayal.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 07:04 AM
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both times we've gone out she's tried to make moves both times Why haven't you fucked her yet? You should work on being able to capitalize on opportunities you create before resorting to 'monk mode'. 'Monk mode', many hope, will get them into those opportunities. If you're not easily able to escalate those, that's what you should work on.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 06:48 AM
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Learning experience, right? Bing bing bing! After all that writing, you answered your own question.
/r/askTRP18/10/16 10:06 PM
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Enjoy it, and really reflect on the subtle differences. Unfortunately, with gradual change, the present seems normal, but try to put it in perspective and appreciate it.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/16 07:39 AM
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You know, you can still fuck hoes on gear while getting 'good grades'? Btw, good grades aren't the end-all-be-all of real lift life experience. Rather, one could argue the opposite.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/16 06:14 AM
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Not only 'self-love', but love (kindness/positivity) for others. Do good things for yourself and for others. Appreciate yourself in the world with those around you.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/16 06:13 AM
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You sound like you're approaching this from a very adversarial POV. You believe they have the power to fuck you over, (and maybe they do), but you need to change your mindframe right now. Instead of "maybe they can fuck me over" it should be, "maybe they can... but why would they!?". Bring positivity to their lives, be interested in them, work toward a common good. If you get something wrong, don't blame their policies and feel a competitive drive to research alone and get it right next time; in…
/r/askTRP18/10/16 05:51 AM
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a good LTR again again Really? You sound like you're in the bitter stage, and still glorifying the past. Move on. After TRP, that's when you can have some self-respect and filter out women that aren't willing to work with you. If you get into a LTR, it damn well should be a good LTR, because she'd have worked hard as hell to keep you and demonstrated that she'd continue to do so. And, above all, you're aware enough of your own behavior to maintain a healthy relationship.
/r/askTRP17/10/16 07:49 PM
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impress them with what you say and they will like you Ha, at face value, that's a terrible frame and terrible advice. Most succinctly, I'd say: Get to know them and be genuinely curious. Everyone has passions and interests that they can easily talk and flow. If you aren't genuinely curious, why are you there?
/r/TheRedPill21/09/16 03:45 AM
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You'd really value some random girl over me? /u/night-addict, she's saying "If you don't do this, you'll lose me." [She's framing it so she's the prize]. It should always be the other way around. You are the prize. Admit when you're genuinely wrong (and having a girlfriend who can insightfully point things out is healthy); but, for shit like this, I'd continually come from the frame/state: "I'm going to do what I do;" 1 "I care about you very much," 2 "..complimenting someone I know doesn't affe…
/r/askTRP21/09/16 03:15 AM
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I am looking for a LTR You're fucked right from the start! 4 other great plates nowhere [near] her So, they don't sound so great... Today I sent a snap asking how hungover she was Girl's out partying and having fun without you, meeting who knows who, and you message her like a bitch regarding your plans for the day Oh I am fine but I wont be able to see you today :( How are you? No explanation + topic deflection. Next. But, evaluate yourself before blaming her. Otherwise this shit will keep happ…
/r/askTRP07/08/16 09:24 PM
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Pathetic? More like nuanced. If it's having a detrimental effect on your life, remove it. If it can help you network, keep in touch with friends around the world, etc, then good for you. People are at different stages of their life, learning to find a balance and what works for them. A purely binary opinion on something is typically emotional rather than logical.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/16 07:19 AM
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I have had moderate success with things like 'doing' instead of 'negotiating', kino ahead of time, dirty talk, slowing down and then getting them extra hot for me, etc You're on the right track. A lot of it is just regularly putting it into practice with multiple girls (harder to change first impressions & long term habits otherwise). Reflecting & assess how it went later on (not in the moment). Enjoy the moment and don't try hard to fulfill some objective. Early on with a girl especially, you c…
/r/askTRP22/07/16 08:06 AM
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For a parent, applied more generally, I've found it's part crab mentality and part wanting you to stay in that box of safety and security. Recognizing that in their own way they care and want the best for you, in their own eyes, helps get over resentment.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/16 07:04 AM
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Geordie Shore. The UK's answer to Jersey Shore. Seriously. Once you're aware of TRP, you can see all the social dynamics at play.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 08:42 AM
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we decided "We" ... You are not a 'we'. Start framing this from an "I" perspective. "I decided". Clearly it wasn't you being in control and deciding this. It was either her or your external circumstances weighing upon you that lead you to this. If you want to fix things, stop explaining yourself to her and take ACTION. When you see her, you want to come from the frame that this is not her issue, and you have it handled now. (Acknowledging is the first step to handling it).
/r/askTRP17/04/16 04:03 AM
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Give it a listen. Any idea where?
/r/askTRP09/04/16 06:19 PM
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Everyone should apply an analytical eye toward cutting through the bullshit on both sides. I laugh when I hear the gender pay gap issue touted by democrats. It's a political tool used to rouse support from low-information, victim-complex'd women. I describe modern feminism as a sick caricature of itself; yet, I'm still a liberal (on real issues).
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 02:38 AM
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What does this have to do with sexual strategy? Somewhere the rules used to say avoid getting into politics / stay on topic. If you want to be paid more, work harder. Not always true. Work smarter. Make yourself more valuable. Actually true. Just because someone is ultra successful doesn't mean they are obligated to use their resources to pay all their employees a living wage. If you want shitty employees and don't value even the lowest level ones, then you'll have high turnover. That's not a si…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/16 08:28 PM
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imo, you should be very firm and direct with him, remove the excuse of alcohol ('It's your true, uninhibited nature. Acknowledge why and fix it.') and leave it at that. If he attempts to rectify it / come with a sincere apology and reflection, so be it; otherwise, leave em in the dust. If they're not willing to be humble / self-reflective, it's not going to happen any time soon.
/r/askTRP29/12/15 08:37 AM
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This is how we'll end up with the 28th ammendment: "Thou shalt respect womens' feelz."* * at any time, determined by the woman
/r/askTRP29/12/15 06:02 AM
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Your way of thinking in that statement is better, as it's at least exposing a raw self, which allows real change. Listening to other's advice without internalizing it/believing in it is like floating upon the surface of the ocean, being cast to and fro. Above all else, with exposure, you need experience here. (You'll likely find in the end that the goal shouldn't be the girl, but the experience). With that experience you'll learn to calibrate it. It's good to be vulnerable at the risk of being h…
/r/askTRP24/12/15 07:33 AM
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Finished it in one night. Sex God Method: "Finish quickly"
/r/askTRP24/12/15 05:05 AM
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Just make plans. Logistics. With only slight exception, I still do this with my girlfriend of nearly a year. Instill in them early on that you don't like to chit-chat text. If they want your attention it'll have to be in person where you can communicate properly (and bang).
/r/askTRP24/12/15 05:04 AM
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Oneitis. Basic shit. The fact that you want (need) commitment and want to lock a girl down is the real issue here. Following advice that you don't sit congruently with isn't going to help you. It may be better for you to fuck up and fail your own way to learn the hard lesson. Instead, you get to blame other people's advice for not getting what you wanted.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 04:43 AM
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if you tell a woman about this video Are you going around showing women TRP posts or explaining TRP concepts to them? You shouldn't be. I'm not defending that video specifically, but it seems the intent was to explain modern feminism, which may be useful in mentally dispelling its BP inducing effects.
/r/TheRedPill24/12/15 03:04 AM
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We were exchanging music through text You're over-texting, especially if you're getting hung up on things like this. Cut back on texting. Text to make plans...even with a girlfriend. It makes the time you spend together better. She's left wanting if she doesn't hear from you.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 12:02 AM
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It's not incredibly useful for sexual strategy, at least at face value. It does specifically say "friends", so expecting it to be easily applicable to seduction is a mistake. Building up a social circle and being able to connect well with people does reflect highly upon you though, and innately builds attraction. It also gets you thinking of how other people think, which can be useful in analyzation.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 11:56 PM
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First off - texting. 99% of texting is me initiating and carrying a conversation on after discovering TRP ... 18 months You should know by now to text only to make plans. By wanting to talk without seeing them, you're likely seeking the comforting feeling of holding their attention. Needy. Unattractive. Your biggest issue at this stage is 'not wanting to fuck this up'. As a man, you're still young. (In contrast, a number of women your age are going to be looking to find a LTR / find a beta bux--…
/r/askTRP14/12/15 07:55 PM
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Really? I overlook the 'necessary' Democratic pandering to women, and still support him on 98% of issues. The pc-police are going to sow their own ruin.
/r/askTRP14/12/15 07:18 PM
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Ignoring is largely you avoiding blowing up an issue -- avoid 'making a mountain out of a mole hill'. If there's something you don't like, you may be best served by rewarding the opposite behaviour / reinforcing that. For example, I'd ignore any of her complaints about having to cook for me all the time, and instead compliment / praise the fact she puts in effort for me when she cooks--and emphasize that I value that in her. (This was a real life example. I never heard complaints about me not he…
/r/askTRP14/12/15 06:55 PM
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Opening move? It's more important than most realize. It sets the tone for the rest of the interaction and can make escalation significantly easier (on you mentally and on her, receptively). The perfect balance: European style cheek kiss (just one side--don't be a tool, coupled with a one-armed hug). With this, it doesn't matter how interested she is. If she's slightly interested, she'll like how you're bold/different than most, yet don't over-do it. If she's very interested, she'll want more, an…
/r/askTRP17/11/15 10:19 PM
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Cocky smile, and look at her in the eyes, enjoying it. Then tease her on not being comfortable with awkward silences. (You can smile too because you'll recognize the opportunity to practice.) You're probably letting the silence break you because you don't realize that words aren't very important to an interaction. Lead with your body. Have an interaction ( / establish a bodied sub-communication early on) instead of a surface-level conversation.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 08:07 AM
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no text and let her confirm herself Where the fuck did you hear that? Texting is for logistics. Which means make the date, then before the date, ping her so you know it's still on (the night before or early the day of). Go in with the mental assumption that everything is good, but with an experienced knowledge that shit happens and girls can flake. You're a busy man. Waiting around for her playing a silence game is putting yourself in a shitty frame of mind.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:01 PM
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Pro-tip: Stop giving a fuck and just have fun with her / be open to experiences / experiment. You can analyze the right / wrong moves after you make them.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 07:44 AM
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'Past' Beta? You're worrying over a girl that's got you friendzoned / bb / emotampon'd. Listen, coming from that frame, girls aren't trying to see if you can suddenly jump from 'time-ho' (someone that validates her with attention and does things with / for her) to potential-fuck-buddy. They're more concerned with trying to keep you in that frame you were in. Otherwise, you're in that transitional stage of 'trying-to-be-alpha', like it or not. She's not going to sleep with you here. She's just tr…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 07:39 AM
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Everyone is unique in the things that affect them. Here though, I would suggest being more proactive / listening to your body. Your dick got hard, kissing and groping... You want to fuck. So fuck. There's a time and a place for foreplay, but this sounds like you need to be more in tune with your body, harness your rod and fuck her when it wants to fuck. Slap some spit on that dick and shove it in there. Care about yourself first. The fact that you value your pleasure above hers is a turn on, and…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 07:22 AM
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Sex should solely be for your enjoyment and you should know that her enjoyment stems from you enjoying her. This was a big take away from reading the chapter regarding sex in No More Mr. Nice Guy. In the past I was overly concerned like OP, thinking I had to make them squirt. In hindsight, this was a selfish need for validation. Invariably, I wouldn't be fully in the moment with that underlying concern in my head. you pride yourself as a "sex god" The fault here can be more generalized as having…
/r/askTRP30/09/15 04:10 PM
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I have yet to see any indication he's got manufactured "game", as in what most would define as pickup, in the 7 or 8 years I've known of his existence. All I've seen suggests he's simply a natural who's good at screening for women who are into him. That's largely the point of RSD, especially post-blueprint. It's "inner-game" as opposed to outer. He's in The Game by Neil Strauss where it's all about routines and very formulaic. What seems 'natural' now is developed from relentless experience and …
/r/askTRP24/09/15 01:36 AM
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And, if you do the above as I said for practice/amusement, you won't try hard, chase too much, or try and fail, as I fear you may have been doing. Instead, you'll practice getting your mind into the proper frame to viscerally feel sex (as opposed to surface thinking, logically, and verbally). And, as described, it presents her with an opportunity to react--an opportunity for her to pursue you. If you can do that what's step 2? Hold frame, don't be a bitch, and escalate. But don't fret over this,…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:31 AM
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I suck at initiating sex with the wife So, it sounds like you have been trying, but failing. What have you been doing? Finally, I'll add, that by thinking of "flirting", "texting", and "hitting on"... you're overly concerned with WORDS--verbal expression. Sex isn't an act of words. You can't simply talk your way into it and certainly not through it. You need to tap into physical expression. Practice this when you're in the mood: Simply... look at her, stare at her, and think viscerally, "I want …
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:11 AM
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consider yourself a lucky man That's a poor frame to come from. It has nothing to do with luck. You control these things by who you are and what you do. (I realize it's 'just an expression', but it still can be indicative of underlying attitudes that aren't useful. You see it come up in interactions often. My girl said the other day 'you're a lucky man to have me'. I laughed and said the same as above--that it has nothing to do with luck. Well, she conceded that she 'was a lucky girl', and all w…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 04:54 AM
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If she's cheating, you don't confront her and want her to love you... you leave her.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 07:45 PM
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Women truly are more faithful than we believe, and they are more faithful when it's not asked, but required. This is a pleasant concept to remember amidst numerous BP examples. More or less, I've said to my LTR: "You're free to do what you like, but I won't be sticking around if I get the sense you've strayed." If she wants the relationship, it's required. There are consequences... As opposed to: "I want to be exclusive" / "I hope you're faithful" / any other way of 'asking' that can more easily…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 07:24 PM
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Thanks, hadn't heard of that book before. It will be good for a guidepost.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 03:40 AM
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That knowledge is not commonly taught for an obvious reason. Any books / resources you've come across that are good for this?
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 02:53 AM
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so long as you have a decent portfolio to spread Do you have any tips for generating a porfolio from nil to sufficiently enough to get hired?
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 02:36 AM
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12 days? Good luck with that. (Unless of course she's a big ol' slut that just likes to sit down at her calendar and coolly plan when she'll hoe it up.) Big time gaps rarely work out. 0-3 days are best. Anyway, text her the day before to confirm. A one off text somewhere in between likely wouldn't hurt, to stoke the fire. Something that doesn't need a reply from her and doesn't require much effort from you, like an emoji. But, ymmv.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 04:42 PM
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It's not the text message. You're chasing, you didn't have fun shit going on where you were so you went to 'her party' instead of inviting her to yours. "??!" and "Bite me"... great responses to you showing up /s. a more 'romantic setting' to move things up a notch Keep enjoying your disney movie fantasies about how things should be, you're not going to fuck her. Your giggling was highly amusing.. borderline cute I thought it was pure gold. You're investing too much in a text instead of having s…
/r/askTRP23/06/15 07:09 PM
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secure a girl for the weekend Extending on my initial advice, the general rule is, do not make plans for the weekend. The weekend is the time you go out. It communicates that you don't have events going on in your life and thus place an over-importance on her. Also, it'll compete directly with the fun plans her friends have in store.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:46 PM
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You tried to plan too far in advance and talked about how free you are instead of just stating a time/date/activity. General rule is 0-2days in advance, 3 if she suggests it as an alternative.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 08:59 PM
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I'm trying my best to keep my mind state independent from the outcome of the date, but I still want to make sure my game will be the best it can possibly be. Don't think of pink elephant. That's no good. Instead, stop, and focus on the moment--the moment being you getting ready to meet this girl because you're sexually interested in her (and she wants to fuck you too). Instead of worrying about your game, don't loose sight of your masculine intent, and what you both are meeting each other for. L…
/r/askTRP17/06/15 04:40 AM
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One thing that's not mentioned is that this mentality is an attractive frame of mind (for quite a while if you play it right / give just enough). You have options. She has to work very hard in being good to you and trying to lock you down. She has to slowly break you, as you give up just a little bit more and more. Right now, it's been ~4 months with just this one girl, multiple times a week. Still, not classified as my girlfriend--it drives her nuts, surely. But, right from the start, I talked …
/r/askTRP17/06/15 04:30 AM
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Save a little money, consider if you can / want to work in some places (usually under the table), and then you go to hostels. For flights and things, you can sign up for a no foreign exchange fee credit card that gives heaps of introductory points (usually after an initial purchase amount within 1-3 months). There are tons of blogs about this shit because that's what a lot of people try to do to make some easy money while away. It's always going to be more expensive than you plan for, but don't …
/r/askTRP10/06/15 01:36 AM
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Coupled with what /u/hashback said... stop caring about their orgasms or their pleasure. Stealing a page from No More Mr. Nice Guy, you're classified as a 'giver'. Instead: Focus on yourself and your enjoyment. You've been worrying about their feelings and trying hard to put them into a state of enjoyment, as evidenced by: lots of foreplay treating them like princesses [who the fuck in TRP said this was good? oh, right...no one, ever] worrying that they don't enjoy sex / can't orgasm It's counte…
/r/askTRP07/06/15 07:56 AM
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...how do you think it goes?
/r/askTRP07/06/15 06:58 AM
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Clickbaity titles, good content. Sometimes really good. Quite deep at times. Nothing contradicting TRP. Careful not to get caught into consumption mode or using them for motivation. But, there's some great insight and useful advice. For example, this one significantly altered my game. And, most vids go far beyond pickup. rsdfreetour is good as well.
/r/askTRP07/06/15 04:03 AM
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Tyler's 5 Secrets For Talking Forever - Never Run Out Of Things To Say Again! (+Infield short convo) That'll probably be a good video for you. My own note... Fear of not knowing what to say causes you to freeze. I don't fear it because I don't think about it. It's not on my mind. What is on my mind is sexual intent, holding eyecontact during long silent pauses. That's all I need to consider. By being comfortable with that, enjoying expressing the sexual intent, 'things to say' flow out in time. …
/r/askTRP07/06/15 03:43 AM
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Well, don't consider it 'asking', you should make statements such as "Lets go [to place / activity] on [weekday], 2pm" but yes. We invariably fuck up at times, and it's good to practice salvaging these situations.
/r/askTRP03/06/15 07:40 PM
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"We" plan? No, YOU PLAN. YOU'RE THE MAN WITH A PLAN. Give a time/date (within 0-2 days) and if she can't, she will tell you, perhaps with a reason, and, hopefully she'll suggest an alternative time. It's that simple. Concise. Anyway, your language is so supplicative from the start, 'we' and then you worrying about her schedule and putting the decision making onto her. Also, I generally don't give a shit about smiley use, but in combination of all the horrible shit you're writing, it does make it…
/r/askTRP03/06/15 06:25 AM
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No. It was actually framed as a positive, for me at least (but really, by virtue of this strong frame, her as well). Losing myself in the moment, hyper-sensitive, hyper-aroused by her, and fully enjoying it. A dominating, intense, staccato moment. Sex doesn't have some mandatory time frame or set routines that must be followed. /u/draftedcondor should embrace his attraction and tear that pussy up. Give her an intense, dominant blast of passion.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 10:24 PM
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It is. Do you really think that ? Seriously ? It's only negative if you treat it as such. The other night, I came within seconds. There was no shred of me feeling insecure or bad about it. And, in fact, she was turned on that I was so into it. She was happy she made me cum so quickly. 5min later, round 2. Not a fucking big deal. This negative mentality of yours, and inability to roll with the punches / just enjoy it, limits you. if he gets a minute man reputation with his first girls he's not go…
/r/askTRP02/06/15 10:06 PM
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No one has mentioned it... Stop caring. Reframe it. It's not necessarily a negative thing. You find her really fucking attractive. Laugh with her about your attraction. Once you stop caring and gain experience, you may even counter-intuitively develop greater control. Either way, it doesn't matter. You cum, lay with her, and then get ready for round 2, some foreplay and more. If you idea of sex atm is 'cum and done', good lord that's boring.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 09:57 PM
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Set aside what society told you to do, what your parents told you to do, and the guilt you feel. Look at this situation objectively. No matter what, you have options. Weigh the pros and cons. At the moment, you need to consider how, if you lost everything and had to claw your way upward toward your goals, how would you do it? With only 2 years of mediocre study and limited useful experience, you're going to struggle to build up a foundation of capital. Entrepreneurs fail. For financial independe…
/r/askTRP02/06/15 10:26 AM
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The more man sacrifices for a woman, the more likely he is to fall in love with his investment. The more a woman sacrifices for man while absent of lust, the more repulsion she feels for him, interpreting her need for investment as a shortcoming on his part. This is a succinct, vital observation. Anyway, this is a great follow up to the sidebar's Women In Love.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 07:13 AM
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They dont believe him / it's him not taking tinder seriously. That works well regardless. It doesnt last though, as he starts beating a dead horse and the tone changes or stops.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 08:54 PM
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I would like a script aka, "I'm scared of presenting my own thoughts and actions because they might be rejected. That'd mean I'm rejected. If there's rejection using a script, it's the script's fault. Or, at worst, the way I read the script has to be better. It's not me." Personally, I'm against the advice of fake it til you make it. It's far too easy to be strung out, trying to 'act' and failing to make deep level change. Accept where you are now. Then take steps to build from there. This is a …
/r/askTRP28/05/15 07:09 PM
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Move the fuck on and never write a girl paragraphs ever again. "we" left it at that I've been dating a few other girls since "we" stopped seeing each other she left it. she stopped seeing you. there is no we, that's a male defensive word when the woman actually makes the decisions. I 'randomly' texted her aka you've thought about this a lot not sure if there's something I should be interpreting here. yes, yourself: this is super awkward I'm sorry I'm sorry Where the fuck did you see any of this …
/r/askTRP28/05/15 01:10 AM
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You misunderstand. Orgasms happen as I describe, and often. But, you speak of walking down a road of pitfalls by trying to one-up yourself, inflating your ego. It only lasts so long before it morphs into a toxic mindset. Focusing on yourself doesn't prevent you from leading or fingerblasting her to squirtgasm if you wanted--it just maintains the prioritization of your needs so that you don't lose well rounded sexual enjoyment. Anyway, the book Sex God Method for those not familiar.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 12:01 AM
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Make a statement, calmly, and matter of factly. Then stfu. Guys forget to stfu and get drawn into emotionally debating their statement. State it and, if necessary, say 'end of' or 'that's all I'll say on that'. Then silence/stare or withdraw attention if she won't drop it. Commence female emotional roller-coaster. Let it be, let her ride it, and enjoy the results later.
/r/askTRP27/05/15 09:37 PM
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WHEN IN REALITY YOU ARE TERRIFIED OF HER LEAVING YOU. Your foundation is built on a lie. Going through the motions, "fake it til you make it", doesn't work well. The facade finally breaks and you're faced with all this unacknowledged and unresolved neediness.
/r/AlreadyRed27/05/15 11:49 AM
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Condensed down: "It is what it is" Losing the ego with respect to a woman and being able to detach emotions from her is facilitated by actually having your own life to lead, with or without her. Also, from the get-go, having the mentality "I don't want or need a LTR" keeps you on a straight line. One may come along and work hard to be your LTR, and that's great, and you may finally relent and have her as a LTR. But, should things go a bit south, you still have the original mentality of never nee…
/r/AlreadyRed27/05/15 11:39 AM
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too constipated to do much more than fuck and lounge around. When not feeling great, it's best to focus on yourself. Don't give her attention just because part of you wants to. It's better to know and establish your limits. Half-assing it communicates too much of a need or desire to be with her. You value her more than your health or physical comfort. You're satiated just being around her. While that may seem comfortable, it's not increasing attraction. And, inaction / deteriorated health would,…
/r/askTRP27/05/15 11:26 AM
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Game doesn't stop in a relationship. It felt like I was begging for it So, notice this shit and stop. You're chasing to the point of low attraction. She should be chasing you. Don't get butthurt and/or talk about meeting your needs. Just withdraw your attention and focus on you. It's usually a pretty minor shift in mentality. This is why others said "very soft dread". Don't try to talk her into behaving into the way you want her to (that's standard bluepill shit). Instead, have her do so through…
/r/askTRP27/05/15 10:19 AM
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aim to give her multiple orgasms every session and work up to a new personal best Heh, this sounds like teenage advice. There's a great section in No More Mr. Nice Guy regarding this mentality. The 'giver', trying to maintain control through sexual accolades. I had started to become like this, constructing an ego. But, after reading, the sex game got a whole lot better for me when I took the simple advice to, instead, focus on myself / my pleasure. She can focus on hers. And, what we see, is tha…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 09:35 AM
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Why did you hate SS / 5x5? Consider this time a great opportunity to practice reframing useless, hindering, negative thoughts. SS/5x5 should be simple. Lift heavier and then heavier each time, feel like a beast, and see the numbers rise. When you stall and reset, you accept it as part of the process, review if you have areas to improve, and continue to focus. Lifting is a metaphor of a man's life.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 09:08 AM
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Well, "good". But funny enough, this is exactly why I started doing it. [In the real world though, I've found if you treat them well enough, you won't have false-rape issues. It's a bit of an echo chamber here. ...and yes, I've witnessed firsthand a false-rape accusation. She had a fiance; I turned her down; it was almost me; but, it was in another country and nothing came of it.]
/r/askTRP21/05/15 09:46 AM
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Good man. Wish I did too / had this advice back then ;)
/r/askTRP21/05/15 09:07 AM
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Both. But, ymmv. Just something OP could try differently, that wouldn't be fucking up badly.
/r/askTRP21/05/15 09:06 AM
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Going to throw in an tangential piece of advice, that'll be good for the resume, regardless of you getting this or not: Get specific, employable skills under your belt. Mathematicians are useful at the doctorate level, but until then, it's going to be more of a struggle when competing with people with specified degrees. (Internships do help greatly if you do well, where you can 'follow the path', but if shit goes awry along that path and you're too narrow in skill and experience, you're going to…
/r/askTRP21/05/15 05:33 AM
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Superhero? Stunt double? Donkey rider?
/r/askTRP21/05/15 05:00 AM
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Send a text the morning / day after: 'I had a good time'. It's non-needy. It's non-expectant. It's simply appreciative of a good thing. They'll usually reply back in agreement, and you leave it at that. They're still women, and even most slutty ones still don't want to feel totally used and dumped. You leave them with a tiny bit of comfort, and they'll text you again if they want more. And, you're still able to text them a few days later to test the waters if they don't.
/r/askTRP21/05/15 04:54 AM
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You have little control in this relationship. She lost respect for you, broke things off when she wanted to, and then got you back when she wanted to. It's tough to pinpoint, but from the tone of this, it's clear she's 'wearing the pants'. Sex is her control over you, and you're happy getting it and think things are great. But, you're living in reaction to her actions and whims. For example, your consistent use of the word "we" gives the sense that she was leading throughout, and you followed al…
/r/askTRP19/05/15 09:21 AM
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But another party of me also says you should simply be blunt with the girl and tell her that she will not be forgiven and she has to work for that shit. And then evaluate her performance. Yeah, there's two options here. Listen to Patrice O'Neal / Black Phillip. Either cut her out of your life or use this as an opportunity to have great control over the relationship. Set the boundaries, and if she can't agree or follow with them, then you leave her.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 08:38 AM
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Never living with a LTR is quite a different story. Many guys get fucked over by sharing an apartment lease/house when it ends. Mini-divorce rape. Or they feel more greatly trapped if things arent going well.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 06:27 PM
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Sex education. Condoms. Other contraceptives. Blow jobs. Seriously?
/r/askTRP18/05/15 03:29 PM
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It can be eye opening. Idk wtf /u/Philhelm is on about. Also, if they're hot, they can be good company to go out with, and get into exclusive clubs. If you do it right, these are your girls, and you're the man of the house. They all want a man of the house.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 10:38 AM
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It's a form of acceptance and solidifying a strong foundation/frame to build upon. By accepting your current state, you can more readily move on and take action to improve. Knowing where you're at and being comfortable with that, brings confidence even when experience lacks. 'Know thyself.' In contrast, statements like, 'fake it til you make it', can leave a constant, incongruent state. You try hard to be something that you're not, confounding incremental improvement. This is why I find 'fake it…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 10:13 AM
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RSDTyler & rsdfreetour Careful not to get caught into consumption mode or using them for motivation. But, there's some great insight and useful advice. For example, this one significantly altered my game. And, many vids go far beyond pickup.
/r/askTRP18/05/15 08:27 AM
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As another comment mentioned she thought she was the prize...and the way you played it, she was. She pulled away and then you chased her more because of it. Escalation isn't continually moving forward. Two steps forward, one step back, repeat. You want her to be chasing you and you want to be the selective person deciding if you like them, from the start and throughout, and you need to be willing to walk away. Also, walking away when they're on the floor-level drunk is the best option. pick her …
/r/askTRP14/05/15 08:23 PM
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Rules like this are bad. If you're doing things right, it's a non-issue. The girl I see frequently now has never been to my place, and it's been months. But, OP was not doing things right. He was pushing for it yet lacked the willingness to walk away.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 08:16 PM
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It's basic ASD, not weird. Two things: You'll want to cater to her not-a-slut-hamstering but also create an atmosphere where she's comfortable expressing her sexuality for you. Basically, 'I like that you're not slutty.' and 'I like it when you're sexy/dirty/slutty just for me.' [It may be safer to avoid the word slutty in that last one, but ymmv.] You let her be your dirty girl, but dispel the qualms of being labeled a slut. And hell, it's possible she'll be more loyal because you're essentiall…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 06:58 PM
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and live together hehhehh, well at least that'll suck, when this relationship comes, to a head.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/15 06:33 PM
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So with the 1st point, it shows you lack good self-reflection. Then with the 2nd point, you spend time building yourself up and justifying yourself, and then 'decide' on a LTR. That's a common thing. "I've got experience but now I just want to settle down and have a LTR." rriiighhhtt. You're seeking a LTR from the start, and that's a terrible frame. A girl should be trying to lock you down, not the other way around. Always. after two more dates she never thought she'd fall in love. Love? The fuc…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 06:22 PM
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It's common for there to be a placebo week in birth control which may allow for a period. Ask her what she's on / if she's had her period while on it.
/r/askTRP13/05/15 11:55 PM
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Then she would have said it. Not necessarily. Some girls are very weird about it. By offering up a bj and him accepting, she still didn't have to explain herself. the real problem here is op who's crazy But yeah, this is true.
/r/askTRP13/05/15 06:15 PM
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Did you consider that she was on her period and didn't want to be embarrassed? Many girls have danced around the issue and not been forthright. Obviously, regardless, you over-reacted. Put it out of your mind. Don't apologize. Just move on. Because women are emotional and in the moment. One off events can be forgotten / hamstered. So, if you step your game up in the future, her respect for you won't be gone, as you thought in another comment.
/r/askTRP13/05/15 04:37 PM
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make no expectation of the 3-date rule. If it happens before or after, then great. ... or after See, you'd be happy (or at least think so) with eventually getting sex. But, even though you're in a sexual deficit right now, don't settle. Set some rules for yourself. Have it in your head that if you see someone three times, and don't have sex, it's time to move on. Either you didn't execute well and/or she's stringing you along--either way, you need a fresh start. Having firm boundaries and guidin…
/r/askTRP09/05/15 12:14 AM
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The "3 date" concept is part of the fantasy world that TRP seeks to dispel. There's plenty of little things you're doing to fuck up, but it'd be a waste to focus on them when you're operating within this shitty framework of understanding that'll lead to failure. Destroy the concept of a 'date'. Casually meet them, they're there for you, not the activity. Destroy false notions and self limitations--3 'dates' required to escalate to sex? No. Look around. Sex on the first night is an expected possi…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 09:45 PM
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should I still contact on Saturday to check on our plans Yes. Confirm a time to meet. Otherwise, you're putting yourself in a bad position.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 10:09 PM
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Where should I go with this? Why do you feel the need to post this? You already know where you went wrong. You're kicking yourself for not escalating despite wanting to. So... you learn, and next time, escalate. This 'date' isn't anything special to write about. Start off confident. Touch her right away when you see her. A hug and euro cheek kiss. Guide her with your hand to her back to a chair. Get engaged in the interaction and take moments to recognize your sexual attraction to her. That will…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 09:23 PM
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start putting some of the stuff I've been reading Well, clearly you haven't read: "don't shit where you eat" This means, neighbors, housemates, classmates, colleagues should be off limits. Because they're not, in your mind, it clearly shows you don't have abundance and you do what every BP guy does, trying to scrounge up what life leads their way instead of actively improving and putting themselves in various situations to meet new people. Besides that important warning, for the general escalati…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 08:08 AM
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I'm concerned about your "!", seems too excited. So, relax. You're a man. This is about her wanting to fuck you, not some schoolyard bashful nonsense. She's busy during the day? You probably should have done this from the start: Get drinks. Make your intent clear and have a good time. So, at some point you'll see her? Just pull her aside for a sec. (yeah buddy, that's right, you're singling her out because you want to fuck her.) Just tell her what you want your new plans to be. EX: "Idea." pause…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 08:01 AM
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I will try my best to think long and hard not about her and her issues but me and mine. Bingo. That's what you actually have control over, the ability to change your behavior and reframe you thinking. I don't want to quote/repeat your negativity, so I'll just say... clearly she sees strong attributes within you, and to some degree you know you have them. But, you also have accumulation of your life, bad experiences, and negative memories that other people can't see, which can taint your self-ima…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 07:35 AM
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Well, try to figure out where it stems from within you. I listed a few options, perhaps some having more weight than others for you. Do you lack confidence in your value and actions? If you confidence was high you wouldn't worry because you would have little to fear. She'd be so into you that shit going seriously awry is essentially not an option. Are you struggling to let yourself be happy? Do you feel like you deserve happiness in your relationship? Has the past had unhappy experiences and thi…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 06:57 AM
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Right, well, that's an experience. But it doesn't show you in a good light. You trying to make out with all the girls is quite different than getting all the girls to want to make out with you. See the difference?
/r/askTRP07/05/15 06:38 AM
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Should have escalated things at the party if you were interested. This was a long shot. If she had added you on FB, that'd be another story. Her friends don't like you? You may need to work on socializing. You were too target fixated, disregarding the importance of her friends, and failed to generate enough attraction from the get-go and didn't close. I'm free this Friday want I go to the movies You show you don't have shit going on in your life on one of the days most people are able to be soci…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 06:24 AM
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You're preventing yourself from letting go and simply enjoying the relationship. You're afraid to let something slip by you. You want to catch it. You want to make sure you're on top of the relationship at all times, trying to weed out your own fallibility.... It's unsustainable. Find the balance. Allow yourself the ability to indulge in mutual enjoyment and bliss. Realize that if there actually was any serious issue that would compromise your relationship, it would stand out. You don't need to …
/r/askTRP07/05/15 06:14 AM
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You need to drastically reassess your goals and expectations. Expectation is the mother of disappointment.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 05:42 AM
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theres so many finals I have to prep for "I'll have to take a break from studying. Join me for a drink tonight." Do you really want to play out this long game bullshit? Just take the shot now and be done with it. Once you're in, you're in, and you don't have to worry about next semester one bit. Have one drink, then 'I don't want to get drunk, lets get out of here', and kiss her if you hadn't already. Intention set. Go back and fuck. Tell her you really enjoyed it. Then kick her out so you can s…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 05:10 AM
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Delusion can override cynicism, allowing you to do great things. It's important to recognize when one is out of control though. In this case, feelz-over-realz can be good if they keep on the process. If they take that made-up ego boost and apply it to the next girl, guess what, they think they're a sex god, and they act like it. They get experience acting at a high level. I'm very much again the phrase 'fake it til you make it', but if you genuinely can convince yourself of greatness, it transla…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 11:16 PM
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And even stepping back further, you can develop the ability to choose how you think... knowing when a semi-delusional narrative is more powerful and useful than bleak cynicism, balancing the extremes for optimal success.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 09:36 PM
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You know you are the best but you also know you are nothing and that it doesn't matter. O, the human brain. Such a gymnast.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 09:18 PM
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I haven't been to Ibiza, but I've done some island party life. You say you want to not party like a madman, but you'll see this is a great opportunity to enhance your game rapidly. Save the basking for when you retire, further your skills now. Don't destroy your health, but take advantage of the real, eccentric opportunities. You'll constantly meet new people and can practice presenting yourself, and engaging other people. Practice picking up different ways. Set fun challenges that push yourself…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 09:10 PM
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Well, sure, be wary, as in, don't saddle up with the first girl to tell you you're a god. But, when I hear that, it's not 'generally bullshit'. It's confirmation of my own improvement through experience. Exaggerated or not, for a novice, it can only help.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 09:00 PM
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What's the point of this post? How is ego-checking / knocking confidence about sex helpful? You seem to imply that it's unlikely you're the best. But this is TRP, and if you're doing it right, it's quite possible. With experience, assertiveness, dominance, and value, it's quite easy, especially if she's young. She may comment on your average size cock as being so big, but that's one way of hamstering why she enjoyed it so much. Either way, she wants to fuel your masculinity so you keep fucking h…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 08:25 PM
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"It is what it is." This is the verbal form of Acceptance, and you can move on from there. It applies to larger paradigms (such as TRP) down to individual situations that would have otherwise caused an emotional blindness.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:26 AM
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Start searching for a career right now, and see what's actually required. Practical, employable skills to have under your belt are often underemphasized in college. Realize that these are University professors that are generally not in touch with the 'real world' and the bullshit you have to go through. Be wary of paths that seem to lead directly to a career. Fields are getting narrower, requiring more specific experience and time spent learning one thing. Nothing is guaranteed--including you ac…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/15 07:17 AM
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Often, if the amenities include a bar and the reviews include noise complaints from people that didn't go there with the right expectations, you're looking at a party hostel.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 10:11 PM
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That's a useless question. Anyway, now you know. Now you can start. That's control you didn't have before. Peace of mind... if you were a 35yr old woman, you'd be screwed. But, luckily you're a man, and you have many years of good sex ahead if you take care of your body and game.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 02:58 PM
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Wear a condom. In all seriousness, here are some party hostel tips: You can fuck in toilets and showers. Generally no one cares if you go at it in a big shared room as long as you get it over with. Find out their policy about guests/hours (so if you pickup outside the hostel, you know your options). Talk to everyone early on in the day before little cliques form. Easier to make friends this way. (Also, look for girls that are left out of the groups because of that, and they'll be glad someone op…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 02:46 PM
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A BP guy willingly gives away so much time / money / appetizers freely, hoping to entice, but devalues himself in the process. All Johnny had to do was... Exactly. BP guy is so jaded and doesn't see where he's going wrong. But, post-TRP, what they should do is pretty damn simple.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 05:53 AM
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So many posts about trying to save others. Lead by example. You can say crumbs like 'If my girl were to do that, I'd...' but don't argue with him, over-explain, or justify. Simply hold your own frame and conviction. It's up to him to want and make a change. Nothing more you can do.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 05:40 AM
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Generally, spending too much time and money on a girl early on is bad. It conveys excessive interest and neediness. She should earn it first. Spending isn't an 'outright blue-pill act', as others have said, but for most BPers who've always paid/invested too much, it's necessary to stop paying. This type of 'date' (really, you shouldn't date / make it such an event) is way over the top. The event shouldn't be the focus. You're not confident about yourself if you can't present the opportunity to s…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 05:07 AM
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A) Ignore or Agree and Amplify. If you ignore it she looks bad to the group because she had to low blow/resort to emotion because her argument sucked. For agree and amplify, she implies you've have few... so, go with it. "Girlfriends? Zero. I like penis" or "I touched a boob once. It felt like sand." My reaction would be "ugh. Girlfriend? Gross." (because unlike OP, I don't need/want one.) B) Ignore / Amused Mastery / Self-amusement. You said that trying to rile her up, not to actually get your …
/r/askTRP30/04/15 05:21 AM
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If she was pissing me off i'd probably say something like you did. Yet, to the group, you look bad and it's a bad response if you would like to get better at controlling your emotions.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 05:13 AM
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If she's actually into you ...you will have met and fucked. /end. The rest of your post was good.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 03:48 AM
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What /u/AFPJ said. In addition to that, the larger issue is, you're making things difficult for yourself by walking the safe/comfortable path. You're letting your youth and inexperience be limiting. Kissing isn't closing. You're texting too much if she thinks you're willing to have a conversation over text. Conversations are done in person. You establish this dynamic at the start with a girl. Much of your issues can be sorted if you start it out right, so next time just push yourself to follow t…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:55 AM
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Geordie Shore, the UK version, is much better. You can see the full spectrum of behaviours better, and the results. The social hierarchy that forms, how guys interact with each other, what happens when an alpha type guy acts more beta...you see it unfold and it's all in line with how you'd expect, post-TRP.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 12:27 AM
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Models is great for this stage, but as others have said, it's good to space out reading of this material so that as you gather experience and encounter some new situation / reflection, you may have a moment of clarity when it is needed, as opposed to trying to be a complete sponge now. Since you're fresh to TRP, make sure you read everything in the main sub's sidebar and top posts from the past. Keep reading though, but on diverse topics, related to your goals and interests. Search for 'books' i…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:54 AM
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3 weeks my current strategy is trying for a LTR Wrong mentality for success. She needs to be chasing you. 3 weeks is bullshit to know someone well enough to commit. What that communicates is that you're like every other guy who doesn't have options and/or you value her way too much, especially at so early on. No girl wants a 'lion' so easily caged. See, she shouldn't be a GF, she should be a plate and you can see these red flags for what they are clearly and not be in this situation. She's plate…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:47 AM
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Don't stick your dick in crazy. TRP is an echochamber, the real world isn't so common to be accused of rape, especially through proper channels/court of law. Don't give women a reason to want to cry rape. If you're a man of value, women generally won't regret fucking you. Be clear in your intent and don't be duplicitous. Leave them better than how you found them. Positivity. Avoid having women cheat with you, where they'd cry rape to save/hamster their relationship/meal ticket.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 03:01 AM
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I really don't mind listening to their stories, but when it is my turn to speak I feel like nobody listens, nobody cares. Stop going to pussy smashing story-time circles to shoehorn talk about vikings. Surround yourself with different people. But seriously, do you know how to converse? You shouldn't randomly start talking about shit you've read. It should be relevant to the conversation. TLDR; Learn how Romans and Vikings smashed gash. Have a downvote. This is shitpost.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:30 AM
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my new girlfriend I've only been [with] this girl for a little over a week. Uh...what? You're doing it wrong. for obvious reasons, I argued with her Again, you're doing it wrong. Having an argument like this is idiotic. Talk about this with male friends, otherwise be dismissive / self-amused to purposely fuel her emotions for fun and excitement as long as you can channel that into something positive (such as feisty sex). To answer your question, and extending on what I just said, it's called the…
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:23 AM
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Good stuff. Don't forget it. Savor the milestones (now you see approaching an attractive girl is possible and you get a positive response. You can build on that reference experience the next time you do it again.) Most importantly, have fun. Have fun with her. Have fun with yourself/be self amused. If it goes well or poorly, there are lessons to learn toward your real goal that'll help in the future.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:10 AM
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She's no longer your responsibility. You're fucking with your own process of moving forward by convincing yourself you're so benevolent. She's a big girl, she needs to find her own way now without you. Why will it blow up in my face? See, you already know it's a bad/unhealthy idea.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 01:23 AM
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So you're asking how to have a conversation... They're just people. Expect some busting of the balls from the father. This is a male shittest. Ask them questions. Be a bro to the brother ('hey big guy'), make an effort with super genius, and be friendly back with the other one. The parents will ask you about you, surely, so just answer honestly / confidently, and use those conversational threads to turn it back around and ask them questions. Finally, realize it's not a big deal, because at the e…
/r/askTRP25/04/15 12:42 AM
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But isn't that like a girl telling you that she'll call you back soon, but never intending to call back? No dumbass. This is how a conversation works when you don't overthink it: Are you free on Tuesday? Yeah meet me there at 12:30 on Tues.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 12:21 AM
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Step 1. Admit that you give a fuck too much and laugh about it because you're inexperienced and will get better with...experience. Step 2. Realize that she's not the goal, the goal is getting experience, getting better, and enjoying the ride. You're young, you lucky cunt. I didn't have TRP back then. Step 3. You're a redflag neediness machine. Let's quote: Now I lost all hope in her and us Slow down there, you're going to scare her off. You clearly are disregarding abundance mentality. (Abundanc…
/r/askTRP25/04/15 12:16 AM
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This is the most useful comment here. I'll add to your last bit that genuinely confident people don't get shittested as much after they pass a few. Those that come are usually soft-balls too. If you're faking it or too over the top and start failing, they smell blood and keep them coming trying to break you. Also, this is why I really dislike the concept of 'fake it til you make it' taken at face value.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 11:48 PM
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what does she need from me here - punishment or support Neither. If this is rare, just let it go and don't worry about it. The frame you need to have is that your time is valuable, but your world doesn't crumble if plans change. You can roll with the punches. "Should I feel sad?" No, you should feel indifferent. Your gut feeling to 'punish' her is overblown because she fucked up your plans and you weren't able to cope, so you want to sublimate your frustration. If you say anything, keep it simpl…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 09:16 PM
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I'll just add, it's less forgetting about her and more about getting engaged in your present situation. Forgetting has a bit of a negative connotation to it. Simply, you're best off with a shifting of focus, so that she's not a priority. You can still like things that aren't a priority, but they don't need tending. With that comes a dropping of expectation; what will be will be. Travel is fun, and transient.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:42 AM
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in a few months And in a few months, her situation may change, and there's very little you can do to influence that, especially from far away. Don't try to maintain this or worry about the future. Just keep your conversation positive and it's okay to let it fade as you get carried away with your own side of life. When the time comes that you're close to going back, you can reconnect. Little pressure on her, nonchalance by you. If she's single and you left a good tone already from before, she'd b…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:24 AM
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I am a nice fucking guy ... these ungrateful bitches Classic! Go read No More Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:10 AM
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The key in understanding this is to understand the motivation behind the action. PUA advice that you're citing is only surface level. That advice is meant for guys that have gone out of their way to be chivalrous in hopes of receiving validation for their efforts. They've done these 'nice' things in expectation of a reward / to be liked better. It's trying to curry favor. So, when advice is given to not do these things, it's meant to break this frame of trying to seek validation. But, this advic…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:51 PM
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Lunch reservations 2 weeks in advance. That's fucked. And importantly, you don't mention talking to her the day before or a little beforehand, for confirmation. very strict Pretty much sums up the whole thing. Built it up way too much, made it a big deal. There's a difference between valuing your time and having a stick up your ass. This screams of the latter, based on the overformality, grandiosity, and then bitchy reaction 'ok you're right. i'm wrong. have a nice day'. Consider that women can …
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:00 PM
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Yeah, that's clearly the important, take home message /s
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 11:58 AM
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You waited too long and this gave her time to reflect on her actions as her attraction toward you cooled off. She didn't want to be seen like a slut. Let me get an explanation though. And...you failed. She wanted you, but she just didn't want to be seen as a slut. Otherwise, she may have been upset you could walk away so easily / probably would have chased you had you not said that. And, this all may have been avoided had you gotten in there sooner. too RP? Well, you certainly are arrogant. That…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 11:56 AM
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when I go alone, which is often more times than not. You're already ahead of many people by doing this. When you're out at a bar alone, I imagine you're putting too much pressure on yourself to act in a way that isn't in line with how you feel at that moment. You've probably heard the phrase 'fake it til you make it', which I hate for its lack of nuance. If you're not in that state of mind, not comfortable with 'high energy', it'll show. First, it's okay to be the 'weird guy that hasn't talked t…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 05:57 AM
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100% agree, delivery is the most important thing. But I wouldn't get too caught up in trying to logically make sure stories are presented nicely. Rather, the passion and emotion behind them is the driving force. I wouldn't want that to be limited trying to make a good story. Regarding refinement, when you meet many people, you'll inevitably tell the same stories. That's a great way for delivery to get refined, because it's unlikely you'll say the exact same thing the same way, and when you get a…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 05:18 AM
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You accumulate experiences and read about others' as well. Reflect on when/why things went well and when/why things went downhill. Compare your behaviors to the core, basic concepts of attraction and see if you matched or deviated from that. Where you went wrong, think of how you could have done things differently, and then when you find yourself in a similar situation in the future, you implement such a change and see the result. Rinse, wash, repeat. While you can boil it down to 'not all women…
/r/askTRP13/04/15 06:46 AM
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If she can't see how awesome you are, that's tough shit, her loss. While this is an alright mentality to hold while with her, it's borderline useless in learning about yourself and improving after the fact.
/r/askTRP13/04/15 06:39 AM
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Shouldn't have tried to logic battle her. Just state your points. MMF is for a girl you don't give a shit about. Men and women are not the same, there is no equal standard. If she wants to be some girl you just use and be done with, sure, she can have that MMF. Otherwise, with MFF, you're still into her, and you can together find a girl you both like. But yeah, you fucked that up.
/r/askTRP11/04/15 05:20 AM
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To extend on that, if I was already in an upbeat mood, I'd probably say something self-amusing that comes to mind. But to my main point, it doesn't matter what. It sets a tone to the conversation. If I'm not in an upbeat mood / not thinking on my feat / caught off guard, it's unnecessary to try to force humor when you're not in that state of mind. Better to just be true to your state of mind at the time, and then as you converse, the witticisms begin to pop up as you further engage in the conver…
/r/askTRP11/04/15 03:51 AM
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Love your 'what's going to change later?' retort. It was a bit of an instinctual, logical retort, but then I caught myself. Didn't want to go down that road. It leads either to whining or fruitless back and forth. Nice use of orgasm denial/control, which is a thing in BDSMland. Ha, reminds me of a time in the BPish days when a girl didn't want to give me a bj (denial of sex). So, I got her oh so close to orgasm. Stopped. & slapped her vag. She wasn't amused. I sure was though. Now I would have j…
/r/TheRedPill11/04/15 03:06 AM
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"Hi." If they want to have a conversation, you converse. They already opened you. It's not difficult. If you're interested, take a genuine curiosity in them. Worrying about frame or the right thing to say is a great way to lose it. You maintain frame by acting on your own terms, steering the conversation, and not reacting/needing some ideal response. Do you really think some witty line is the key to attraction? No. It's far more basic. Words don't matter. It's actually not a conversation, it's a…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 10:53 PM
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Alternatively, a lion/tiger/bear. Having them trying to tame a ferocious beast is better imagery.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 03:10 AM
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Take everything I said and make it more general. It comes down to addressing insecurities and uncomfortability that limits an ability to freely express yourself. Also, focus on getting what you desire. It's good and it's okay to be your own champion for what you want. Extending from that, realize other people can do the same. You focus on your desire. Other people focus on theirs. No More Mr Nice Guy is a great resource when your mind is open to it.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 02:46 AM
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I've got a feeling you're projecting. You can't imagine yourself saying that in a non-creepy way, right? The reality is, it wasn't creepy, it wasn't rapey, and we had great sex. Women don't want to be raped, they want to be 'ravished' and that includes being comfortably cavalier while craving each other.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 02:38 AM
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For me, regarding sex, there was a significant mental shift after reading Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy. The whole book, culminating with a chapter on sex toward the end, made me realize that I needed to address an underlying uncomfortably with sexual expression. I didn't want to be judged on the most intimate stage, coupled with past experiences and insecurities. Also, importantly, it addressed the issue of focusing on yourself during sex and it being okay and good to make sure that you g…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 02:22 AM
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False rape accusations are a real thing, I've seen them go down first hand. In one instance, I could have been the guy falsely accused, but I knew she had a fiance and turned her down. You are living in a fantasy / lacking experience / uncalibrated if you don't know when you can simply plow through resistance vs them actually not being comfortable. This was a plate whose couch I turned into a puddle. She tells me she likes it when I hold her down. I've pushed her limits. I've "corrupted her, and…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/15 02:01 AM
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I asked her to move in with me and told her that I could see us getting married but she wasn't having anything of it. ..and look how far you've come. New guys, take note.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/15 10:59 PM
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Ex-bf didn't like it because she's terrible, surely. Sounds more like she's sucked dick before, but just avoids it or gives such bad bjs that guys are happy that she doesn't.
/r/askTRP08/04/15 08:47 AM
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That was handled perfectly imo. How would you do it differently? You shouldn't say 'just no' and not elaborate.
/r/askTRP08/04/15 08:45 AM
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Having different points of view is generally a non-issue if you have high enough value. Conflicting points of view can get their emotions heightened. Learn when/in what capacity to use that to your advantage. I regularly exaggerate misogyny for a laugh. If you need to talk to your girls about politics, you need more male friends. It should be a non-issue. All the girls here do not want serious relationships like I do or just want one night stands. Looking for a serious relationship right from th…
/r/askTRP08/04/15 07:57 AM
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is this good from a TRP standpoint? You handled that well. It's odd that a 23yr old hasn't sucked a dick before (or at least hasn't much, she probably hasn't in a long time and has avoided it with most guys). Congrats on being a guy valuable enough in her eyes that she was willing to do it. It could be a rare hang up or it could be a genuine red flag that she doesn't go out of her way to please a guy she's with. Personally, I hate bad bjs, and if I were you, I'd have a serious instructional sess…
/r/askTRP08/04/15 07:38 AM
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Also from the conversation it sounds like you're kind of a dick to her. Maybe be a little more playful? lol... I'm curious how your fantasy conversation would have gone down. OP was direct / dominant. Being 'kind of a dick' is good.
/r/askTRP08/04/15 07:25 AM
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I have no idea what you're talking about OP. You're clearly not clear in your communication, and this seems excessively difficult. It feels like you're overgaming / caught up in your own narrative of events. You're too concerned with trying to not seem beta that you let communication breakdown unnecessarily (going NC instead of just sorting out your plans). Also, don't suggest watching a specific movie if you have no intention of actually watching the movie. Clarity of intent and all that. You c…
/r/askTRP07/04/15 06:53 AM
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And thus the hamster was born.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 06:26 AM
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tried to ask out 100s of girls Just by the way you phrased it, it doesn't sound like you've fostered interactions. Practice doesn't help if you keep doing the wrong thing and don't learn and change from error. Your mindset doesn't seem right. I can't tell you the last time I've asked a girl out. The escalation is smooth. If you meet a girl, you hit it off then and there and escalate. If you can't because of constraints, you tell her what you want to do 'lets get drinks', not asking and hoping. T…
/r/askTRP03/04/15 05:17 AM
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Proper agree & amplify: "You know it. German midget fisting." Regardless, it seems you care too much about this. You jerking off should be a non-issue for you. What's done is done talking to her about it, but stop feeling like you have to justify yourself. You keep wanting to use words to explain and fix, but that's not what women respond to. I also plan on telling her that I've given up Shut your whore mouth. Climb a mountain, tell no one. Speak with action.
/r/askTRP02/04/15 10:36 AM
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In a bar/club, abundance mentality is more easily reinforced, you have other options to approach all around. But, proper abundance mentality should translate into day game as well. You have the confidence of having other girls in your phone and/or the ability to get others and are abundant in areas that fill out the rest of your life (goals/passions/hobbies). With that internalized, that greatly minimizes the importance of a random girl on the street.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 09:42 AM
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I hope someone will read this without drawing parallels and be utterly confused as to why we're now discussing small animals.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 09:29 AM
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About 10-15 minutes after I whacked it I got slight symptoms of high estrogen/gyno (the puffy/itchy nipples). And you're questioning bro-science? Hahah Estrogen is difficult to control on cycle. Dosing an AI is difficult to find the sweet spot. Are you even on an AI?
/r/askTRP02/04/15 09:06 AM
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I disliked the use of the word vulnerable. I found it confusing given its many connotations. Words like genuine, honest, and unguarded better convey the idea. As I mentioned in another comment, I disliked the use of the word vulnerable. I found it confusing given its many connotations. Words like genuine, honest, and unguarded better convey the idea. I think he did a decent job however explaining the nuance of this not meaning you should overly express yourself / unload your burdens. You still n…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 09:01 AM
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I don't remember him suggesting that you should pay for girls as opposed to not. Really, it's situation dependent. For most guys that are shit at this, they're best off breaking from the norm of buying for girls, which ensures the prevention of the supplicative, 'trying to buy her affection' mentality. If you can buy without that mentality, it's fine if you want to, but understand why you want to. Second, I disliked the use of the word vulnerable. I found it confusing given its many connotations…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 08:57 AM
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Many people try and use humor to shield true feelings and intentions Yes, guys swallowing TRP should notice when they are using humor for deflection. It's a great way to identify underlying issues you're trying to avoid yet need tending.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 08:41 AM
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You make good and valid points here, this should have been your first comment.
/r/askTRP02/04/15 08:33 AM
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First red flag is she keeps in contact with her exes. When I brought it up... Asking her about such things tends to come off less like 'screening' and more like 'potentially jealous, controlling, or afraid of the competition' and implies you're already thinking of the possibility of a relationship--which is the wrong frame to be in. You should have options and/or at least not be so eager to jump in or even consider a relationship with her at this stage. Also, by her saying "You are in charge of …
/r/askTRP02/04/15 07:43 AM
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It's fine. He remembered it because he knew something 'wasn't quite right' in how he handled it. Now he has TRP and has a bit of an epiphany all this time later. It makes sense finally, and there's a good way to handle them in the future. That said, yes, he should be on a path that encounters shittests with greater frequency.
/r/askTRP01/04/15 07:42 AM
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Agree and amplify... or, ignore. I didn't shut her down or stand up for myself. You may not have said anything, but you didn't ignore it. You were affected by it, to the point where you still are able to remember it years later. You'd probably be best served with agree and amplify as it can be amusing and satiates the unfortunate latent desire to respond. Ex: With excessive pride say, "Yes, I'm the best wife ever!" This agrees and takes it to another level (best). You're comfortable with yoursel…
/r/askTRP01/04/15 06:55 AM
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"Wife? Get the fuck out of here." That sounds butthurt as fuck. It's hardly optimal. But, it at least reframes things so that she's either apologizing or taking off. Overreacting / being highly emotional in response to a shittest is failing it.
/r/askTRP01/04/15 06:45 AM
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I will just say, I notice you take on advice and criticism well, unlike many that rationalize their behaviour and don't want to change. That open mindset is really important to improvement. But, you do seem to be limiting yourself, understandably but unnecessarily by negative self-image and lacking self-belief. Ask yourself...is it useful? Accept where you are now but realize with much effort and experience you can make immensely positive changes. For example, your saying of 'I'm a three' can be…
/r/askTRP01/04/15 06:39 AM
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I asked her for her number so we can work together and she gave it. So I texted her about school stuff and she responded Nowhere were you clear in your actual intent. You seem to think she was 'really diggin you', but I question your perception. You lack experience. You believe in/care too much about 'leagues' and will be limited by that mentality. Even if she was into you, you're setting yourself up for failure. The common idea of 'leagues' are joke and it shows a lack of understanding for what…
/r/askTRP01/04/15 04:09 AM
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You keep trying to justify yourself and explain how you're actually not that invested and in a good position; yet, we don't believe you. Don't be afraid to admit that you're not that great at this right now and think deeply on how you rationalize things to feel that everything's okay.
/r/askTRP01/04/15 03:21 AM
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Yes, but one should have that always and the ability to walk away doesn't mean you care less. Your statement essentially covers what I said here: Being less invested / caring less is an underlying mentality to hold, not necessarily something you do. What you said is what I was touching upon. Yes, but one should have that always and the ability to walk away doesn't mean you care less. You can care more and be perfectly willing to walk away. Finally, it doesn't necessarily mean one will give off a…
/r/askTRP01/04/15 03:15 AM
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Well of course I care. Even if I struggle to interact with you, I still care. You've only been kind to me, you've never done me wrong. I define care as wishing well for someone, being able to be deeply grieved if something happened to them. You're someone I know, even then I'd care Really, you think this sounds like a shittest? You have no idea what a shittest is. That said, you didn't write about anything sexual. You're very likely an orbiter that she cares about (as a human). Your response was…
/r/askTRP31/03/15 08:42 AM
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If a fool told you the sky was green, would you waste time arguing with him? As you move toward mastery of understanding the desire to unnecessarily assert yourself diminishes. What we find, for example, is that new guys try to shoehorn TRP concepts into conversation with friends/women. This self-assertion tends more toward validation seeking and/or attempts to solidify their beliefs further. They want their friends to agree and they'd be satisfied as well if feminists were to reject the ideas t…
/r/askTRP31/03/15 08:24 AM
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Being less invested / caring less is an underlying mentality to hold, not necessarily something you do. Also, this doesn't mean there is a lack of interest on your part. Ideally, you'll both be into each other, but, as a RP man, you grant yourself the freedom to walk away if necessary because you have ability and options. If you're mixing the concept of 'push-pull' action with the action of escalation, realize that the 'push' works because she's able to sense the discrepancy in investment. This …
/r/askTRP31/03/15 07:59 AM
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Hell no. Instead of being consistently frustrated, blind to imposed false concepts, TRP was a revelation. Standing back, seeing and accepting truth for a change, and having the freedom in letting myself question the perceived norms. That's wonderful. It sounds like you can't let go of past standards, and that's the frame you're still judging the world / social relationships from. "Beauty is truth, truth beauty,"--that is all Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know
/r/askTRP31/03/15 04:23 AM
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Doesn't sound like you've read the sidebar in TRP, or more specifically, Women in Love. Secondly, it's clear to see that you're so nice and great. It's good to see that you realize that everyone else is at fault: the 'whores', the 'douchebag' guys, and the media. Your lack of personal responsibility is refreshing and all guys new to TRP should adopt such an effective mentality that's no doubt been useful in your self-development all these years. Thirdly, that's sarcasm. Jesus, take some responsi…
/r/askTRP27/03/15 04:00 AM
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Most important little tip I can give is to set the tone from the start. We don't know each other and it starts off slightly weird That's your problem. The start. And then both of you spend the whole date trying to dig out of the hole you put yourself in. Simple actionable advice: give her a half-hug/euro-style cheek kiss right from the start when you meet her. It shows confidence, breaks down that touch barrier, and instantly reminds you both what you're there for. From there, just remember to l…
/r/askTRP17/03/15 10:14 PM
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all of this is very public knowledge as I usually talk about to to make it seem like I actually have a fucking life. I question how much you talk about this. There's a decent phrase that has stuck with me: "Climb a mountain, then, tell no one." You 'have a life' by having a life, not by telling people about it. It's better to let people wonder sometimes. Little bits will naturally slip out here and there, and that makes you far more interesting. my last hoo-ra to smash some young pussy You're a …
/r/askTRP13/03/15 06:26 AM
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I don't wanna put on too much muscle because after a while too much muscle looks bad and not all girls like muscleheads. I don't like muscle meat heads. I still have a huge stigma against giant 6'2 frat douchebags, mostly insane jealousy. Hahahahah, hilarious. I don't want to be like them yet I'm jealous. For one, you should drop your jealousy. It's not healthy and is simply an expression of your own weakness and feelings of inferiority. TRP emphasizes learning how to connect with other men. The…
/r/askTRP13/03/15 05:42 AM
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Yes, that there was my own detailed expansion of what rptastic said. Don't awkwardly avoid her, but don't chase her. Be calm and realize your station. You understand now what happened, so you needn't worry about it. A calm confidence and being at peace with what went down. If she begins to show interest, let her come to you, strong eye contact then, and a smoothness in your persona. You expected this. At that point, if you've got flirty eye contact and you're non-verbally communicating, there's …
/r/askTRP13/03/15 05:16 AM
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Paradoxically, you took it too far / not far enough. Then it sounds like you went silent on her for 3 days instead of keeping her wanting it / failing to do anything with the mutual intensity and your own desire. Your two options were to take it all the way or know when to walk away with her wanting more. By going too far / not far enough, it shows a lack of comfort with sexual expression in that situation, and also an inability to control the situation skillfully. By letting what you had built …
/r/askTRP13/03/15 04:51 AM
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Something only feels like work when you're bad at it / don't enjoy it. With practice, it gets easier. It becomes second nature, a part of who you are, and requires significantly less conscious effort. Leadership/attractiveness becomes a state of being, where you don't have to try. That said, women do take up time. How much time you want to devote to getting better with women and how much time you want to spend with women along the way is dependent upon your goals/aspirations. The nice thing is, …
/r/askTRP13/03/15 03:30 AM
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a girl who I've became closer friends with and she always wants to hang out with me when she's in town from college What is this, a "how to talk to acquaintances" forum? You should've been able to convey your interest from the start (assuming you were sexually attracted to her) and now you're in limbo. Push it or drop her. Another "side ho"? Bitch please. Check your language. She's "a friend you got closer to". Bravado doesn't mean shit here. Much better to face the realities of you situation, a…
/r/askTRP13/03/15 03:19 AM
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I see women saying shaved men are like women Relax. If you encounter this in person, it's a shit-test. Your facial hair doesn't make you less of a man--your insecurity does. TL;DR: Glue pubes to face.
/r/askTRP13/03/15 01:59 AM
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one of the things that TRP stresses not to discuss We stress not to discuss politics here because it's divisive and offtopic. Between men and women though... TRP stresses making them feel a range of emotion. Even if you make them angry, they like it in a way, assuming you can control your frame smoothly. For example, I'll gladly shit on feminism and call myself a misogynist when talking with a self-proclaimed (physically attractive) feminist. This isn't BP me talking, I'm just being realistic he…
/r/askTRP13/03/15 01:18 AM
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Here's a secret... drop your preconceived stereotypes and limiting beliefs. You're blaming the girl instead of placing the onus on yourself.
/r/askTRP12/03/15 11:35 PM
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I knew all along that she wasn't going to be a quick lay. Not really what I'm going for here. But can someone maybe share advice on what the fuck it takes to get these prude babes a little wet? Ha, you spent the majority of the post putting her up on a pedestal and then you wonder why things aren't getting sexually charged. You rationalize that you don't want a quick lay but then you want her to get wet. You've got BP mentalities clinging on for dear life so you end up contradicting yourself rep…
/r/askTRP12/03/15 11:30 PM
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I can tell that you could really benefit by learning to say no, confidently. There's 'witty', but then there's beta-deflection with humor trying to avoid uncomfortable situations. You don't seem comfortable saying no and being firm. It's frame. Want more than just "No"? Okay, easy. "No. I want Nandos." Want a firm no but with a little humor? "No. I want portuguese chicken." (having a very specific desire, where if she continued to say something different, she'd be seen as unaccommodating to your…
/r/askTRP12/03/15 10:49 PM
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Great post. A lot of guys trying to be alpha go cold and shut themselves down to the point of stifling that emotional intimacy that may come along with great sex. There can be intimacy with a plate, and it's more enjoyable when uninhibited.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/15 09:45 PM
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Learning to catch yourself fucking up is part of the process. It would be strange if you didn't regress when you idle in complacency. They key is to recognize it and know yourself / how to fix it.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/15 03:27 AM
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This is painful to read. I hope in the future you'll look back at how obsessive and naïve you were. But, take solace in the fact that lots of guys have gone through this stage, myself included. You want that perfect solution to make everything better on a micro-scale, trying to get TRP to work for one girl. Appreciate this time and be cognizant of your own behaviour and extract lessons from this. This is part of the journey and you can learn a lot about your jaded self. Finally, stop typing and …
/r/askTRP11/03/15 10:20 PM
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Congrats, you've built up a fantasy about her, convincing yourself how wonderful she is. Why do you do this?
/r/askTRP11/03/15 10:15 PM
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Your verbosity is quite telling. You're so into this girl and can't move on. You really should learn to let go and make yourself the priority. Currently, this girl is the goal. The girl should never be the goal. The goal should be improvement, independent of outcome. If you really want to give this a go, be prepared to burn the boat. Be clear in your intent. I know it can be done. I just know it. This mentality is so common. I've been there. You're clinging so hard to a fantasy. NEVER EVER again…
/r/askTRP11/03/15 10:10 PM
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If you don't want to eat with a girl, don't invite her over so early. At the very least, say you've already eaten or had a big lunch and don't want to eat, and she can sort her self out before hand. Make it clear you don't want to eat. You can even tell her you want her for dessert. If you don't want to eat out, offer something besides fucking stuffed cabbage. In your situation, I'd tell her to pick up takeout and I'd have a bottle of wine ready at home. Or vice-verse. It's a frame battle, but r…
/r/askTRP11/03/15 08:00 PM
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or... op should learn how he's fucking up. He'll have the same problem with another girl. Responding like she did is perfectly reasonable for a girl dealing with a guy that has mushy, unenforced boundaries.
/r/askTRP11/03/15 07:51 PM
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How's this so highly upvoted? OP was shit at escalation and was boring as hell. He wasn't close to being 'the prize'. You can't just say it and make it so. He did plenty wrong. And she gave OP a dose of TRP without being rude, something to actually learn from, and she's 'a bitch'? Ok. 'I'm the best and bitches ain't shit!' - That's not something you can just say, you have to embody it, and OP was far from that.
/r/askTRP11/03/15 12:29 PM
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nope, fuck you, you got to deal with it yourself, and fix it yourself!! If that's all you got out of it, it just shows how inexperienced you are, and that you're viewing things far too negatively. I'm promoting action over reading more/searching for some magic book, because you've already read two good books (at least). That's how you make progress and solidify it, taking action, reflecting, making changes. That's how you stop feeling 'that shit'. It's a process. It's living life, making goals, …
/r/RedPillBooks10/03/15 06:26 AM
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There's not a book that can fix this...you fix this. That requires introspection, and above all else, gaining life experience. It's baby steps in the beginning. Continue to reframe things far more positively and enjoy life and the journey more. Take solace in the fact that there's successful sexual strategy exists.
/r/RedPillBooks10/03/15 06:00 AM
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Not calling you out, just helping you out. Fear/anxiety are feelings with tangible biological processes associated with them, so I understand what you mean by 'I just fear', where you can't really logic way out of that state, it seemingly just happens. But that's good, everything else you said before that is part of where it stems from. With TRP, the aim for you should be dropping the jealousy / coming to terms with the way things are, but also, reframing your side of things more positively. As …
/r/RedPillBooks10/03/15 12:08 AM
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Relax, I was elaborating for anyone else that read your comment as well. Also, I don't get paralyzed by fear anymore, so perhaps you shouldn't so strongly reject these ideas, or at least try to understand the depth of where we're coming from. On the other hand too, you're just running from fear and caving to anxiety. A lot of that fear and anxiety has to deal with self-worth and needing to feel like you're allowed to talk to attractive women. Clearly, you don't feel worthy/valuable enough, so yo…
/r/RedPillBooks09/03/15 07:04 AM
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In bed, my phone goes off a few times. I say, "Again? Must be another match on tinder." (It was). She gets all displeased. "Yeah, but I'm here with you right now. You win." /sex I've probably said some variation of that last line so many times. They all light up. Oh that emotional roller-coaster.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/15 12:24 AM
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i hated the comment when he mentions i shouldn't talk to women i don't find attractive His reason is quite simple...if you're not attracted to them, you're not being genuine. The point is to tap into what you really feel and express that. For example, if I'm not that into a girl, I don't have the drive to take it so far. Whereas, I have better success with hotter girls, because it's easy to express my masculine and sexual side (at least now it is). You want to practice talking to people? Talk to…
/r/RedPillBooks09/03/15 12:18 AM
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See this. Things don't work out like pick up videos in real life Not for you if you're bad at it. And probably not right away. You don't see the time, effort, failures, and successes they use as experience to draw upon to be at that level. Also, I think your concept of attraction is flawed, since you're only drawing on experience that took a long time. Back to the entire point of this post... by being clear and direct, you can convey an attractive personality, extremely rapidly. She won't know t…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 11:39 PM
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So sure, that worked to get a girlfriend. It just took shitloads of time. (Also, your status level on the alpha-beta spectrum likely leaned strongly toward the beta-provider role). That's a horrible way to get to passionate sex. You don't value your time and were unable to be confident and comfortable in expressing your interest. She would have refused a date because you didn't excite her sexually from the start, as we say, 'give her the tingles'. So yeah, if you fail to do that, then of course …
/r/askTRP08/03/15 12:51 PM
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the same impact as trp. ha, but thankfully, the rest of the internet exists.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/15 09:27 AM
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eBooks are great for this type of thing, even if you have the real copy. Just search for the words. (also, page numbers differ)
/r/TheRedPill08/03/15 09:25 AM
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Tons of people have gone through this. Congrats on finding TRP, wish I had this framework when I was your age. To continue the fellating, good shit for going out alone. The only problem is, you had too high expectations. You're allowed to be shit at this buddy, it's part of the process. Your heart pounding difficulties with intimacy are simply due to inexperience. How do you fix this? ... ... ... experience. Go out, set low expectations and have fun. Analyze past mistakes as you go, and make lit…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 07:26 AM
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Been there*. First, stop saying you've moved on 100%, because you're bullshitting. Just accept that you're in the process, and laugh about it. Stupid brain. Then, it's simple...rack up experiences with new girls. Expect this time period to be suck. Embrace the suck. That's how you grow and move forward. *Years back, had an AIM notification sound when a girl signed in so I could talk to her. Unrequited "love". It sounded a lot like a cash register, so I couldn't hear the song Money by Pink Floyd …
/r/askTRP08/03/15 06:57 AM
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I posted this the other day: If I'm trying to go directly to their place, I like to talk about food / cooking / wine at some point [not suggesting a next date, it's called planting a seed], and then [when making plans later] use that as a callback reference to say 'Make me x meal tomorrow evening. I'll bring the wine.' or leading with a question "What do you prefer, red or white wine?" then, short and to the point: "Tomorrow evening, I'll bring a bottle over." Personally, I love getting them to …
/r/askTRP08/03/15 06:39 AM
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It's all part of living an active and budding life. Take up hobbies, explore your interests, go to new places and explore/chat. Bring positivity and cultivate genuine curiosity in them. One of my favorites is travel. You meet tons of interesting, diverse people [but, typically end up apart due to geography]. This is good though, I've learned to accept people coming and going from my life. And, just talking to guys at the bar. The latter is often under appreciated in game as well. From there, it'…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/15 04:05 AM
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This is it right here. Self-analysis and self-improvement. Why is OP needy? A lack of plates is actually a surface issue. It'll help, but the core issue is deeper. Where do those insecurities stem from? Then go further. Why does OP only want one girl? For inexperienced guys, it's because they're caught up in the fantasy still and/or bending to societal standards. Any other answer is essentially just bs/rationalization, and an inability to embrace their masculinity.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 03:22 AM
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I've hopped around from books, because one book (or some life events / posts) will inspire an area of interest, and I knew of another book that went into depth further on that subject. When you've got an itch for knowledge, scratch it. You can always go back to the other book later. You'll absorb the information better when it resonates with what you're thinking/feeling at the time. Use that excitement. Think of it like research. One thing leads to another. The path is meandering. The objective …
/r/RedPillBooks08/03/15 03:05 AM
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You should be able to tell if she's into you vs if she's using you. If she's into you (where age/alcohol/weed may fuel your status slightly/set you apart for the crowd), smoking with her alone is great isolation. Running booze errands and being an orbiter obviously won't work. Having girls vie for your attention trying to sweet talk you into getting them shit can be used to your advantage. Above all else, you need to be respected (through what you do, not words). Know and live by firm boundaries…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 03:01 AM
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more than 4 other people What do you mean by this? Regardless, I have a strong feeling this will help you a lot: How to Hold Conversation Like a Man | Nick Sparks
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:54 AM
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It's a complicated question. Also, causation / correlation issues. Guys that are inexperienced and settle too quickly are typically unaware of what they want or require for a relationship. Therefore, failure. Guys that aren't very self-aware that have natural game / lots of sexual partners may be in that situation, unaware of what they want or require for a relationship. Therefore, failure. But, wait. Women can more easily forgive men for cheating. It's generally seen that if high status men che…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:35 AM
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Sounds like you handled those situations fine. (Mostly) short and to the point. Don't overly justify yourself. Good that you didn't carry on. Regarding sex: Married Man Sex Life. I've seen that book recommended often for LTRs here. Your reply to another comment about 'making it seem like you're fishing for someone else' goes too far. It's just a subtle increase in your attractiveness. Don't overdo it, trying to get a response. But, yes, that book should be exactly what you need. It doesn't sound…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:23 AM
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Define 'fail'. I'm sure there are plenty of inexperienced guys who settled quickly who'll suffer bad marriages out.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:16 AM
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there's no chance of escalating, and you don't get shit at the end, can't even kiss her properly most likely It depends on what their history is / how into him she is / how well he can handle groups & new people. Best not to set limiting beliefs imo, and better to get the experience, even if it turns 'badly'.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:08 AM
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You've 'dated' her a couple times? Jesus christ, can we please just be straight and to the point when asking questions? I do not know what this means. If you've fucked her before, she might want you to get drunk with her at her party and fuck her again before she leaves. If you haven't, why the hell are you still talking to her. Also, why the hell are there so many questions about guys being intimidated by people they don't know and not being in an ideal 1:1 scenario. That's good experience. Mak…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 02:04 AM
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Literally, a PITY PARTY.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/15 11:50 PM
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You're overgaming / overthinking. Your response seems projecting. I bet you had nothing better to do than text her. If a girl is into you, goodbye is simply 'I want to talk to you but can't for now'. If a girl is on the fence, it's an unintentional shit-test (very loosely defined here) where you stand to fail easily if you continue to message her / be needy / can't let the conversation go. If she isn't into you, well...goodbye.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/15 06:57 AM
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Pro-tip: "Come with me", grab her, lead her into toilet + locked door + risk to heighten the mood. Just have fun and see what you can get away with next time.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/15 05:48 AM
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If I'm trying to go directly to their place, I like to talk about food / cooking / wine at some point, and then use that as a callback reference to say 'Make me x meal tomorrow evening. I'll bring the wine.' or leading with a question "What do you prefer, red or white wine?" then, short and to the point: "Tomorrow evening, I'll bring a bottle over." Personally, I love getting them to cook for me, it sets the perfect dynamic. I've even done this with tinder chicks. It's better than a show up, fuc…
/r/askTRP07/03/15 01:09 AM
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See comment in reply to another. Also, to extend on that, here's a specific example: It's your job to escalate. You make the situation, she'll follow along. I can tell my latest girl wants to go rougher, as I've dropped hints of things I've done in the past. So I'll take her on the journey. Since she's inexperienced, I'll stare into her eyes, taunt her to slap me in the face, she'll be too soft / I won't flinch, again..harder, no, again harder, catch her wrist, don't let go, tell her again, hard…
/r/askTRP07/03/15 12:55 AM
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Highly suggest this book. Even if you know this shit, I gave it a little read before going to a girl's place the other day. She literally used the words "sex god" to describe me. I only realized the hilarious 'coincidence' later, because in the moment I owned that title. Also, I'll add that Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy sparked a lot of self-analysis that helped me accept and get comfortable expressing my sexuality and masculinity, especially the rougher side. Those resources should help O…
/r/askTRP07/03/15 12:29 AM
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You're bad at this, uncalibrated, and she's going to test the shit out of you to see if you're putting on an act. Also, right from the start, you're referring to the "relationship's" happiness, not your own. Do you understand how women derive 1. happiness and 2. excitement in a relationship? Right now she's giving me the worst treatment ever. I ignore it and give her my affection anyway because unconditional man love and bullcrap. I even asked her, "does getting me to apologise mean more to you …
/r/askTRP06/03/15 11:41 PM
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Not to mention that OP has consistently been operating with oneitis / without options, thus liking her more than she likes him. Otherwise, this issue wouldn't have come up in the first place.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 08:52 AM
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"Bring the movies"
/r/askTRP18/02/15 07:44 AM
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I've traveled a fair bit, and I have to say, your mindset's off. I know for a fact there are plenty of bang-able women I will meet living on the road. This needs to be number one in your mind regarding women. Right now it reads that you're chasing. You need to realize that you've set yourself up for an epic adventure and you should gather new experiences. The girls from the past should be an afterthough. When thinking about this trip, imagine for a moment they don't exist, and then think of the …
/r/askTRP18/02/15 07:34 AM
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It's internet marketing and gimmicky, but that's for its mass target audience. The content is fine, nothing revolutionary in the slightest though, especially if you're coming from TRP. Basically, commit to bettering yourself for 30 days, through specific, repeatable action that you can do even if you lack motivation. That's discipline, all the way down to cold showers. The small things like that are largely to prove you can do it. And again, everything is specific. It's not simply 'eat better', …
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 05:17 AM
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once I am ready to date ? Instead of bemoaning and being overly aware that you're not in 'social mode', just embrace the mood you are in. On a night out, for example, I'm not high energy or super social all time time. Honestly, I'd feel too strung out if that were the case. So, if I'm just spaced out, I embrace that and enjoy it. I'll hang out at the bar, have a drink, and do my own thing. I don't worry about talking to people and things are at my own pace. Well, guess what this does? Instead of…
/r/askTRP11/02/15 08:20 AM
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Most people asking are unable/unwilling to get to the root question that they need to ask themselves. The wall of text is just a snapshot of the mental fog. OP's touched on an important ability to foster, and that way, if they concretely know what the real question is, they have something that they themselves can answer. (If I've got an issue now, I'll mentally vomit out that stream of consciousness, but then start to break it down and answer it as if someone else had written it. Strip it down, …
/r/askTRP11/02/15 08:07 AM
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Eh, this wasn't a typical 'entitled teen/20s' rant. (And I'm not a huge CK fan). The first part touches on how being so negative, you make the experience negative for yourself (and in this case, the customer). The unstated idea is, if you immerse yourself in work that you have to do, at least do the damn thing well, and you'll enjoy the process (little victories feel good). I realize this may seem at odds with 'The Gervais Principle' if you wish to be the sociopath, but it's really just nuanced.…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/15 06:50 AM
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Hardly. I've thrown out counterpoints and disagreed with top posters, but substantiated my POV. And it became a worthwhile discussion. Your title doesn't connect with what you're saying. Things that are deleted / banned are generally blue-pill shit. Downvoted things are likely not well substantiated or explained disagreements.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 10:55 PM
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This is sidebar material. Recursion /rɪˈkɜːʃən/ (n): See Recursion.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/15 06:23 PM
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It doesn't work for him because I doubt he ever had the actual mindset of having the goal of being rejected. He's just complaining about getting rejected a lot. If you set rejection as a goal (which means actually being proactive in trying to get rejected, not just attempting a pickup like normal and expecting a rejection because you suck), you're much more immune to disappointment and negative feelings. You set it as your expectation and then it's satisfied. It's step 1 of 'not giving any fucks…
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:17 AM
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Get less nervous. (That's the root problem.)
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:08 AM
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Yep, exactly. Others are saying 'get a new girl'....ha, while it's great to be able to when necessary, it's usually not so necessary. There's a balance between trying hard to hold onto them and cutting them off for minor shit. If the latter is always the 'go to' answer, you're choosing the easy way out (yes it's better than the other extreme [but you're also...]) avoiding being able to handle complex situations...such as the OP.
/r/askTRP06/02/15 04:05 AM
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Like others are saying, TRP is amoral, it's theory. Some guys here (bitter guys) draw conclusions about morality. The attitude they should be looking for though is simply acceptance. 'It is what it is.' And, regarding 'slut shaming', in TRP we'd look at this and make the observation that women slut shame each other, and would seek to understand why. It's objective. The negativity permeates from the 'less enlightened', because as you describe, many of these guys are coming from a negative station…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 10:54 AM
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An all powerful god, tasked with a paradox, created a stone so heavy that even he could not hoist it. There, he destroyed the planet it rested upon, and left the stone in its stead.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 10:08 AM
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Sometimes you have obligations to other people or tasks to complete that are seemingly distant from your larger goals, but...they're all connected. If it has to be done, it must be done to continue onward. It's all part of the larger picture. Regarding your bottle, if you can, do shit to help others if it doesn't cause you great expense, even if it's unrelated to your goals. Thinking outward, providing/giving, and engaging the outside and people are valuable qualities. You begin to abandon the w…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 09:55 AM
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"You are what you eat" -Gautama Buddha But seriously, this does tag along. If all you eat are donuts, you become the donut.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 09:44 AM
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Most of the nuance and disagreements can be found in the practical interpretation of TRP. For example: TRP is amoral, and men then decide what is moral/immoral and choose how to act regarding that, if virgins/low partner counts are 'best', if marriage is a good option, how to lead in a relationship, and more. So yes, there are variations in application based on personal preferences and boundaries, and those merits can be discussed to find what's good for you. Refutation of the core concepts isn'…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 09:35 AM
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it's hard for me getting more than one girl. and that's where scarcity mentality is derived from, which leads to your anxious thoughts. You can't lose this one because then you'll be down to zero, and hell, it's hard enough getting one! So, lessen the importance of even having one (have purpose besides women / do your own thing) and increase your belief that it's not that difficult to get some more. You know the principles and you have some reference experience of what works and doesn't.* If you…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 01:26 PM
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I feel like this a moderately perverted interpretation you've wound up with, which is too negative for my liking: wondering...if I'm good enough I will never be good enough Well, we see what root frame of mind you're coming from. I will never be good enough to hold any attractive girl forever Seems to me that by phrasing it this way, you still have a desire to, and that you're too concerned with relationships. Women are transient beings Yes there are simply better people out there in the world a…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 12:53 PM
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I don't see it in the current rules, but we had it somewhere that political topics were to be avoided, as too divisive and off topic. Better to focus on one subject, sexual strategy. That said, it's good to take a red pill regarding other matters, and actually question your notions and determine where those beliefs stem from. But see, I disagree with you regarding taxes, yet any dialogue regarding that isn't quite right for this sub.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 12:20 PM
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Childhood scars running deep I see.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 12:05 PM
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I'm investing in bitcoin and pussy.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 12:00 PM
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I'll just add my opinion onto your point... there's certainly a significant difference. It's drastically easier for the good looking man. But, the take home message for the average guys should be...you can compete. You might never make it to the NFL, but you still may play some top tier, d1 college ball, even if it's just special teams. Occasionally you'll get out there and play at a high level.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 11:57 AM
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like this? try to end the talk fast, but I'm not going to shit all over herhim. External politeness is different from the internal monologue. AWALT.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/15 11:49 AM
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I meant E3D, typing without thinking. Had been writing EOD regarding something else before. Thanks, getting bloods done before to make sure we're good to go.
/r/askTRP21/01/15 07:49 AM
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Ha, no worries, that was me writing without thinking. ~600mg/wk, 300mg E3D*. 300 because UGL. Thanks for looking out though. That'd be a horrible way to start.
/r/askTRP21/01/15 07:48 AM
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TRP is amoral (no concern about whether behavior is morally right or wrong). You decide which actions you'll allow yourself to take regarding morality / immorality based on your own or a general sense of "society's" code of ethics.
/r/askTRP20/01/15 09:44 AM
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From what I recall of that, it's likely that the guy isn't significantly older than her. A 35+yr old going to marry a 18-21yr old virgin can't possibly be so likely, at least if they're products of modern western culture.
/r/askTRP20/01/15 09:09 AM
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350 to 900 on just 100mg E8D? Interesting, thanks. About to start first Test E cycle soon, 250-300mg/EO3D, should be interesting to see how those attributes are affected with a higher dose. Never really had acne and don't have baldness in the family, let's see what happens. /cardiacarrest
/r/askTRP20/01/15 09:03 AM
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Dose / frequency?
/r/askTRP20/01/15 05:46 AM
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Besides that I imagine it would feel lonely to just go from one girl to another including one night stands. I'd bet you're not investing enough in male friendships.
/r/askTRP18/01/15 09:54 AM
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In a perfect world, i would love to settle down Why? I don't mean it sarcastically. It's a serious question that you need to ask yourself. Never before TRP did I ever ask that question of myself. When I kept asking this question toward any response I'd think up, all the externally imposed ideals came crumbling down, and I had a better sense of self.
/r/askTRP17/01/15 09:02 AM
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Well, on the sidebar of the main sub, right under the welcome message, the first thing written is: The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. We're looking at a modern society that's largely moved past cultural and religious norms regarding family, marriage, and gender roles...and trying to find the best way to operate within that. But, there are a number of other posters here that come from more strict religious backgrounds and cul…
/r/askTRP17/01/15 08:49 AM
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sex isn't going to happen Well, TRP is for sexual strategy. Women are women are women, but add in some extra mental gymnastics and cultural shaming and you've got yourself a more complicated playing field. edit: Anyway, one of the most important things in this is developing yourself in gaining experience, and operating in a cultural framework that limits that, yet is also present within modern society, may be a bit problematic. Idk what your personal stance or goals are, but operating within the…
/r/askTRP17/01/15 06:58 AM
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fourth date 4? You let is go that far without sex? Also, she's not your semi-ex. That's a fantasy. By that notion, I have a feeling you want to get into a LTR, yet lack experience. TRP should beat that out of you. (Read the sidebar...) hung up on another guy and didn't want to talk to me about it. Wtf? Talk to you about it? Why do you even want to hear about her and the guy she prefers to fuck. put my headphones in and study on my laptop, completely ignoring everyone Wow, I can't believe she was…
/r/askTRP17/01/15 06:35 AM
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I succeeded a few times in getting her to come out and nothing of note happened... I've definitely backed off this one and she's a lot more interested She wants her time-ho back. As you noticed, she wants your validation, and this cycle keeps you where she's happy to have you. You're not going to trick her into going out, so just give it one final shot and be clear in your intentions or just move the fuck on and realize she's not worth your time to text. It is what it is, you live and learn goin…
/r/askTRP16/01/15 08:23 AM
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...and it's best not to be aloof for the sake of being aloof, but rather, because you have shit to do / boundaries (like helping the friend). Otherwise, enjoy the mind torment (redbluepilling).
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 07:36 AM
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Maturity: Development to a point where substantial growth no longer takes place. The cessation of growth and development. By this definition, surrendering to modern marriage and the narrative of 'this is how it's supposed to be', never questioning it, is indeed maturity. In that sense, men are best served to be perpetually immature, continually gaining experience and wisdom. We find maturity in death.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 06:53 AM
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It seems like you're not able to walk away. You say she knows you have options, but it doesn't mean anything if she's not actually afraid you'll use them. You're managing your behaviours on a micro-scale, as opposed to macro. She doesn't respect you, so you whinge and cave. Then you think you finally do something 'alpha' (but in a retaliatory, grudge-holdy way). You hold it over her head and make a big deal out of it. You keep going out of your way and she doesn't appreciate it. For one, it's pr…
/r/askTRP16/01/15 06:27 AM
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That can easily come across as making a big deal out of this--BP trying hard to be alpha. Better to just operate from the assumption she's going to pay, and be incredulous if anything otherwise.
/r/askTRP16/01/15 06:03 AM
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The BP reality you're coming from is that it's normal for the guy to pay. That's why you knew exactly what she wanted without her saying anything. Alter the reality you live in. In your new reality, you expect her to pay for her half. So instead, when you looked at her, you should have been giving her the look of, "Why aren't your coughing up your money?" I always operate from this frame when out to eat at a restaurant or ordering food as you were. It tends not to matter if you discuss it before…
/r/askTRP16/01/15 05:55 AM
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For people that you haven't spoken with in ages, but now you see could add value in your life, it's easy to come across as 'value-seeking'. You just want to take and use them now because they're valuable. 'Hey, Bob, long time. Let's meet up for coffee.' later on: "Btw Bob, your father works at Company X right?, Think he can get me a position?" It's easy to come across as 'fake', only caring for them when they're useful. How others handle this, I'd like to know. That's what the OP question should…
/r/askTRP13/01/15 10:04 AM
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Go watch "Gender Studies Is Nonsense" on the sidebar. I can tell you haven't.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/15 03:53 AM
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The most important thing to consider was the first comment. Note the difference of mindset between the two. One is actually having fun and enjoying the night out, while gaining experience on the side. Casually, he 'is the prize' and flirtatious for self-amusement. The other is you, worrying about approaching five. Both waited to approach. Yet, #1 embodies RP principles and succeeds. You're concerned about how to implement TRP in your game, and I've drawn out the difference for you given the same…
/r/askTRP09/01/15 12:56 PM
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Finally, one last bit of advice that I want you to read after you've thought about the above. If you're going out to bars, give yourself specific little missions to experiment and learn. This in itself is fun and moderately ridiculous*. So, you could emulate guy #1 repeatedly, all night. You get feedback from the experience, and can make adjustments / make a new little mission next time. For example, after that night, you think, why didn't things go well with girl x y and z? Let's reflect upon w…
/r/askTRP09/01/15 11:36 AM
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It does take me a while to "make the approach" and I wonder if this turns women off. Here's two scenarios of a guy not making an approach right away: A guy is talking with someone else at the bar, telling an amusing story. He makes eyecontact with a pretty girl. He's still busy conversing and having a laugh. Then a lull. He makes eye contact again, and gives her a fun / coy look as if to say 'what do you want from me?', and walks over to her. A guy is talking with someone else, and scoping out g…
/r/askTRP09/01/15 11:08 AM
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Yes, exactly. It's easy to say 'don't be needy' and 'be free from outcome', but you can't internalize these ideas without action and experience. It's good to understand these ideas on the surface as waypoints, but you'll never reach them without a multitude of 'failures' and occasional successes to help solidify the mentality.
/r/askTRP09/01/15 09:40 AM
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I'll just say that /fitness is a bit coddling. /bodybuilding or /weightroom depending on what you're into (or both, both is good) will be quite a bit different, particularly the latter.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 09:19 AM
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With a lot of material that's out there (books, TRP, etc), getting the exposure is the first step. When the time comes that it's 'right', that's when the teeth really sink into it.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 09:15 AM
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Yes, I'll just add that for anyone interested, Gender Studies Is Nonsense (now on the sidebar), is what really altered and clarified my view.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 11:53 PM
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I can't think of single innovation or new concept that a woman's devised. That's not really relevant to what he's saying in terms of requiring a strong vessel (man / government) to vicariously exercise power. And, your inability to think of one is your own failing. There have been many intelligent, logical women, innovators and inventors throughout history--fewer than men of course. Feminists blame 'the patriarchy' for not letting women excel, but this patriarchy is largely derived from natural …
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 10:50 PM
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Casually show it off...as in, throwing a ball around on the beach with friends, or on a boat with friends, find yourself in situations where girls take photos with you and tag you.
/r/askTRP04/01/15 10:39 PM
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I didn't return her message. I didn't try to escalate. ...this was a hilariously anti-climactic story. I say it with love, Cool story bro.
/r/askTRP04/01/15 10:36 PM
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You can't make this shit up! Except you can, and this very likely is.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 10:08 PM
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Thought of some more to include: Unicorns - 2 posts from around the same time with some good comments as well that new guys need to read: Think you (or your friends) captured a unicorn? Think again. and Stop looking for the fucking unicorn.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 08:10 PM
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One of the nice features of TRP is that it helps aggregate information on specific topics from numerous sources. Perhaps you could add some to the already extensive Further Reading section. (It'd be nice to have offline versions of this content for the future if/when external sites go down). For example: TRP and Learning Game by Wolfwoodd, Oct 21, 2013. Entrepreneurship in AlreadyRed Additionally, I looked through quickly and didn't see this post, Frame: Defining yourself as a "sexual being" (se…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 07:29 PM
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Really? http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/search?q=buy+drink&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/search?q=buy+drink&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all
/r/askTRP04/01/15 06:54 PM
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Read the sidebar of TRP. Read books. Learn game, and most importantly, coupled with that, get experience. Get experience. Get experience. That means make yourself uncomfortable. Otherwise, you won't really understand the majority of shit said because you have no reference. It's all hypothetical bs to you. Make improving yourself a mission and take pride in the path you're on. That's how you feel better about yourself. There's more to life than women and if you're not happy/proud/improving yourse…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 06:04 PM
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Observational statements, overhearing part of the conversation and commenting (loud and confident/interjecting, only if you actually give a shit about the topic though, don't want to seem like the loser kid in high school trying to jump into any conversation to be included), and while 'home' at 'your bar' (a good ol' relaxed lean) you welcome them to your bar with a simple 'hey, how's it going/howya going' and break some ice. I like to hand guys the beer menu (its your home after all) or ask em'…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 08:14 AM
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Yeah it's not rocket science. Obviously, venue/night matters on what sort of crowd you get. It's just a matter of exploring and...asking people. Don't be afraid to talk to people you're not interested in. Bar scene can vary where I'm at now, and I've found myself chatting with women in their 60s. As always, people see that you're social this way and it's no big deal when you start chatting with them too. That means, they're more receptive and it's no big deal for you mentally because you're alre…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 07:23 AM
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I've made a few edits to this comment from a NYE post about going out alone: How to start going out alone and build that confidence (wall of text): I've traveled a fair amount on my own and this is how it was done... Short and sweet advice on how to get started (stop striving for perfection, embrace the fact that you suck at this for now and are working on getting better). Showing up early before it gets busy is a nice option. People (men and women) and groups are very easy to talk to as everyon…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 06:42 AM
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This reaction that I am describing can happen after the first sentence. Non-verbal communication. That's what most people in here are getting at, and I believe you have a difficult time understanding what you're non-verbally communicating. I don't mean that sarcastically but in a genuine thing that you need to improve upon. We're all blind to it to some degree, but with experience our bodies tend towards certain actions that result in favorable responses. Largely it has to do with mindset as wel…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 06:35 AM
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I'd highly suggest not 'playing' it at all with her. Hard next, that was nice, there were some good times, she popped your cherry, on to greener pastures. And they are greener ahead, you know about TRP. You can improve your game. You can improve yourself. There's nothing RP that'd help you out here with her, you've dug too deep. There's not going to be any point in time in the near future that she'd really and repeatedly want to fuck you. There's no point in the near future that she'd need you t…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 04:10 AM
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Well, I had one but she bailed. Sucks because she was cool and the sex was great. I find myself thinking about her a lot and constantly checking her social media accounts. Obvious scarcity/beta behavior but I have no other women to help me get over this one. This is why you broke frame. You're needy as hell. Focus on yourself, have a goal you're working towards and side goals that improve you. The degree to which you go out and/or practice your game is up to you. Finally, for future reference, s…
/r/askTRP04/01/15 03:33 AM
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strong, active breed It's better to be this yourself than the dog. A yippy lap dog is great contrast. I love cute things.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 02:06 AM
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hence the combativeness and/or lack of understanding perhaps I should have said defensiveness, but the latter part covers what you just wrote. ...and welcome to TRP, you can either dislike it an be bitter or choose to accept it and begin to navigate your way around toward success.
/r/askTRP03/01/15 03:58 AM
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and mentally it's just not natural to me Welcome to feminized culture where you're encouraged to be feminine. I'm all for self-responsibility, but in your formative years without proper male role models or learning how to learn & get proper exposure for yourself, it's largely not your fault. You're going to have to start tapping into to your masculine traits that you've been repressing. It's okay to be competitive, it's okay to want to fuck attractive women, it's okay to be strong, it's okay to …
/r/askTRP02/01/15 11:46 PM
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Glue pubes, maintain eye-contact, assert dominance.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 11:35 PM
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I'll just add that you may wish to re-adjust what you want and expect from a woman in a LTR. Most of the attributes guys claim to want can be found in male friendships. Trying to pin all of these things onto a woman to fit into this perfect box never works. Usually you just make yourself blind to the things that don't fit what you want to see. For me, this was a major thing that TRP revealed that PUA didn't. I'm better able to appreciate relationships for what they are instead of waging an inter…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 11:23 PM
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You're way too in your head over this, and far too adamant in combating /u/xvaier's points. You're trying to make what he said fit into your world view and how you think things should be and struggling, hence the combativeness and/or lack of understanding. You'll find in time that all of this is not so black and white.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 10:11 PM
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Both are male IOI's. Too interested too early = neediness = not a man of value. You'd likely benefit by starting at the beginning and learn basic game and the typical progression of an interaction. With TRP I bet you're getting a whole bunch of information but not knowing when or how to properly apply it. This shit is nuanced (and developed with experience). Be very careful with rationalization and try to notice when you do it. Because, you're doing it hard in this post. You make it seem as if y…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 10:06 PM
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ah k, cheers. you're good op.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 04:39 PM
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All the more reason to say, get out of my house! or rather, get off my lawn private beach!
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 11:31 AM
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There's a lot of content on that, more-so when you simply go off and read books and things you'll need to learn and develop to pursue specific goals. Here's one, probably not the one you were looking for, but it's highly upvoted: http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/977969
/r/askTRP02/01/15 11:26 AM
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Ignore your first question like it never happened. It's pretty much a question that you used to set the tone of conversation anyway (you wouldn't expect her to dictate where and when she's free just from that, right?). She's already expressed interest in meeting up with you, she's been flirty, so set a place/date to meet up with her. Instead of being so open ended and putting the pressure on her, you can get specific and if she can do it she can, if not she'll likely suggest another time or day.…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 11:11 AM
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Making a girl your unicorn (something that doesn't exist), especially so soon, is a surefire way to unwittingly push them away. Think over the attributes that women find attractive. Notice if you start to connect these things into ways to support what you already want to do, which is rationalization. It's hard to maintain objectivity but this is a great way to start recognizing it in yourself. Finally, stay an attractive if not more attractive person. If you pop back into her life 18 months from…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 10:45 AM
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Make money and learn vital skills as stepping stones toward you dreams/goal. Don't lose sight of your end goal or surrender to coping and minor comfort. It's a long process. ...unless your dreams are shit.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 10:33 AM
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RP ideology as applied to its 'use on men' is essentially navigating social hierarchies and tends to tie into the more general types of information/books on power and social-ability. It's almost as if this is its own pill, and it's more politically correct to swallow, because even women swallow it to succeed in business. Instead of living in a false reality of 'I'm stuck where I am and can't advance because of external forces', people swallow this pill and see that they can learn to be better, m…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 10:24 AM
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instead of just now in 12th. Hahahahaha Boo-fucking-hoo, you lucky bastard. Said with love <3 You're entering the prime learning time of your life and simultaneously leaving the grade school bubble / confronting the real world. Appreciate and use your opportunity wisely. hahah...wth? who downvotes this? y'all don't like jokingly harsh yet motivating messages? get out of my house
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 10:02 AM
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Women want someone difficult to get, and then want to try to cage that and get a relationship with that. Well, some don't care about that last part so much, willfully riding the cock carousel with abandon. You're a man. You're attracted to her physically, and that's perfectly normal. The narrative of 'you must both be in love and really feel a connection on a deep level' is a social construct. (Hopefully though, as you get more experience, you'll discover how to appreciate and enjoy sex with som…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 09:51 AM
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I posted the other day about how to start going out alone and build that confidence, so I figure I'll post it here as well (wall of text): //This is tried and true stuff. Composites of an old comment and a recent note to myself (the quote being something to succinctly remember while out). I've traveled a fair amount on my own and this is how it was done: Short and sweet advice on how to get started (stop striving for perfection, embrace the fact that you suck at this for now and are working on g…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 08:12 AM
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I love it. Were you under general anesthesia? When I came to, I was groggy, but cracking jokes and flirting with the nurses and they were absolutely loving it. Then it wore off and fuck, I was in pain.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 03:58 AM
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No doubt. Trying to explain is trying to cover weakness...which simply exposes it. In the context of this post, not saying anything leaves some doubt in her mind about why he didn't take action. Therefore it's more difficult for her to draw a definitive negative conclusion. Assuming she had some level of interest, it leaves a potential opening with her if you sort your shit out going forward.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 03:51 AM
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General rule of thumb is never physically sleep next to a girl and not do anything. But, you've got a great opportunity to learn first hand. Go ahead and do what you said. From my own personal experience, don't try to make excuses for your inaction. Best to just plow through and be bold. Timidity isn't going to help you here. You've already shown that.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 02:44 AM
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If I go out alone and I want to bring a girl home, I know that enjoying myself comes first. Unfortunately if you're out with a group of typical guys, the concept of having fun first doesn't quite sink in and they become low-energy sad-hungry wolves. When I'm alone, I can find other guys and girls in the club that want to just have fun and I get everyone going. I have my own new, transient group of friends for the night. Girls notice this, and I win. Ah yes, and your new guy friends are your chee…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 01:54 AM
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I've been dating this girl for about 3 months and I just barely had sex with her. ... I didn't really care as she was my only girl at the time. idk what to tell you man, only you are aware of the details.
/r/askTRP01/01/15 01:07 AM
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Agree and amplify or completely ignore it. That's pretty basic. Wtf did you do? A simple hearty laugh and agreeing that you're terrible would have sufficed.
/r/askTRP01/01/15 01:01 AM
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She was dying for my commitment. and she got it, which means a lot of everything you just described liking wasn't necessary anymore to keep you around. Make it necessary. (Have you listened to patrice with the black phillip show? You stand to benefit from the relationship mentality he instills.)
/r/askTRP01/01/15 12:44 AM
1

I'm the same dude I was in the beginning. That might not be enough. It's not exciting. There's a chance that you're a bit jaded in your own evaluation. This orbiter post isn't simply derived from the recent lack of sex, right? Surely it must include other smaller things combined with feeling not quite right.
/r/askTRP01/01/15 12:19 AM
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Get in the habit of, as I describe it, flinging yourself into these situations. Think over and get yourself excited about all the positive reasons and use that motivation to leap. Say fuck it, realize that you're going to get abused, it's going to suck, it won't be fun and it'll be a horrible experience. Come to terms with that. You're going to be miserable and you're a sucker for punishment. Funny enough, when you actually do it, it's never that bad. Even if it was though, you're mentally prepa…
/r/askTRP01/01/15 12:11 AM
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You're not an orbiter. You're her boyfriend in a relationship where the power dynamics are skewed. You're not leading it. You should be the captain, her the first mate. You're not giving her the vagina tingles anymore because your initial attractive characteristics aren't cutting it anymore. You should be the king, she should be your queen. Regardless of what happens going forward, this is good experience for you since you're lacking.
/r/askTRP31/12/14 11:59 PM
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//This is tried and true stuff. Composites of an old comment and a recent note to myself (the quote being something to succinctly remember while out). I've traveled a fair amount on my own and this is how it was done: Short and sweet advice on how to get started (stop striving for perfection, embrace the fact that you suck at this for now and are working on getting better). Showing up early before it gets busy is a nice option. People and groups are very easy to talk to as everyone is inclined t…
/r/askTRP31/12/14 11:44 PM
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Good luck with her debt. It's not uncommon to hear 'I helped her get her degree and then she left me'. All the support and memories from the past don't mean much for women relative to how things will be in the present. Essentially, this is a word of caution to not be BetaBux ($$$). The fact that you made this post and even go on to say that "I already have to work hard to maintain her respect" is pretty telling. But, aside from the stupidity risk of being married to a woman with such baggage...a…
/r/askTRP31/12/14 11:17 PM
1

This is why you shouldn't mix TRP and acid.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/14 02:24 AM
0

He'll spend ten minutes building up to these common sense truths as if they were grand revelations then spend another twenty minutes rattling off really dumbed down, unnecessary examples. ADHD They may be common sense to you, but other people are waiting for the ideas to click. TRP is common sense at its core, but you have to strip through the bullshit and have many examples pointed out to you until it sinks in or clicks. Extending on that, pretty sure he's even addressed why he uses so many exa…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/14 10:31 PM
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I watched the blueprint, didn’t get it at all, but Tyler promised that you should get more and more out of it every time you watched. Well, under a period of time I watched the shit like 3-4 times and ALL I got out of it was self consciousness Ha, this is one idiotic diatribe. He resorts to the age old 'I did better when I didn't try' mentality, which has been common criticism of any pickup teaching. In reality, this is just 'getting out of your head' and 'being present', so of course he did bet…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/14 10:19 PM
6

This is TRP. Any guy here buying a tinder girl a free meal without her earning it fucking sucks at understanding. Also, she's not only going for free meals... it's entertainment... until she actually finds a guy she likes. It's all the same. If you're really worried about being 'a sucker', your priorities are screwed up.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/14 06:48 AM
3

Trouble with the initial physical escalation, especially with girls I meet through Tinder. Well, when / how do you start? You should right off the bat be giving them a hug & cheek kiss when you meet which sets the tone, then you just sit next to each other and talk with your hands, as you both get more engrossed in the interaction/conversation your legs touch and stay there. Then, lead her by the hand somewhere better to get down to it if you're not in a good isolated place, and then kiss her...…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/14 02:59 PM
1

You clearly don't understand LMR and ASD.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/14 02:49 PM
5

The majority of people here will be new, and the majority of new guys here will be in that bitter stage or not fully grasp the big picture. One of these guys will make a comment/post with shades of RP, yet foundationally flawed. On the surface though, it sounds pretty good. Then, the like minded-masses upvote it and quickly the more harsh or obscure, yet important concepts fade away. This sort of thing is becoming more common. Look at seddit with its increase in feel good advice. A lot of RP is …
/r/TheRedPill11/11/14 01:31 AM
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Dear OP, don't have a conversation...have an interaction. Interaction > Conversation. Any time you meet a girl, have an interaction, not a conversation.
/r/askTRP02/11/14 07:49 AM
2

Understand your medium of communication. Adjust your humor as necessary. Adjust how much you talk as necessary. (So, avoid ambiguity. Try to see how they may interpret what you say.) Also, what you said here isn't that special even in person, in fact the words are shit. So clearly your body language / tonal intonations are doing the work here. Basically, your humor is shit.
/r/askTRP01/11/14 05:43 AM
2

Well... you should try to hook up instead then instead of your shitty 'self-entertainment' that, if not an attempt to hook up, must therefore be an attempt to not hook up. But seriously, tame it a bit. When you get better your self-entertainment gets more calibrated. (yes, you're rationalizing and you need to learn how to swallow your pride and look deeper at what he's saying instead of a stupid semantic debate)
/r/askTRP01/11/14 05:41 AM
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Ah yeah that was a horrible softball panderfest. Just listen to the audience. Add to it the wonderwoman interview after that. Everything they say sounds fine and good on the surface. That's the problem. But, "watch what they do not what they say."
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 11:48 PM
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Particularly Jessica Williams' segments. I enjoy TDS but have to cringe as the feminist shit goes through unchallenged. Too bad Che isn't back on TDS.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 02:40 AM
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Instead of trying to stop smiling--trying to remove it, express genuine emotion instead. In the context of women, allow yourself to feel sexual intent and be comfortable with it. OP mentions how that's been repressed. Let it out, and that's how your friendly smile turns into the charming, smug grin.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 10:05 PM
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I wrote a long post on this but deleted it to review & make sure it wasn't just something I wrote on a whim after having some new success... My advice: If you're encountering lots of LMR, consider if you're overcomplicating your pickup with 'too much game'* and/or losing sight of / not expressing your sexual desire for her. For me, I wasn't fully comfortable with the latter, and it was eye-opening when I was able to bypass all of the 'game' toward the end by allowing myself to be comfortable wit…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 07:31 AM
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You 'managed' to get her number? Sounds weak. Also, sounds like you've already been texting her for a few back and forths. The idea of setting up plans is to not uselessly spend time (which seems so precious to you) texting her, without actually progressing with her. 2-3 weeks you have exams? Damn, what sort of grand dates do you have planned that prevent you from taking a little time for a break/relaxation? (This is supposed to be fun). Why not study at a coffee shop and invite her to hang out …
/r/trpGAME28/10/14 07:16 AM
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The posts in TRP have become worse with the influx of new users. Everything you describe as negative is largely a result of the bitter / cynical phase many guys go through early on swallowing the pill. I agree to some extent that the tone is negative as opposed to how it should be, neutral and objective. Here on the other hand, the tone is positive.
/r/becomeaman27/10/14 11:09 PM
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You're hyper-analyzing. Okay, she's into you. Do something about it before your reserved nature turns negative. So, start talking to her and enjoy it. You're going to have to get to know her. Asking her questions and being genuinely interested isn't bluepill... be curious and let the conversation flow. Have fun, amused mastery, you're coming from the frame that you're the prize and she's into you. She'll be happy to tell you these things. It seems like you may be limiting yourself sexually aroun…
/r/askTRP21/10/14 07:11 AM
3

Possibly this.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/14 05:06 AM
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Because I was curious.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/14 03:11 AM
2

I'd say it's the opposite. They are more protective of girls. Be home before 9, who's the boy you're talking to?, Don't do this/that you might get hurt... ect. No, that sort of protective behaviour is the result of male influence. You see fathers saying this to their daughters or mothers saying this to their daughters if that strong male is around in the household (or the mother had that type of father for a good influence). Otherwise, you usually see the 'cool mom' type that drinks with their d…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/14 03:05 AM
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What? No! Where's the nuanced thinking? While these things are important, they aren't what really matter. It's the intangibles, the very things you're disregarding. Confidence, ambition, social prowess, and ease of sexual expression. This is TRP, where we understand that you can have a fancy car, be well endowed, or have aesthetic features, but that means little if your game is shit / not pursuing your own goals / have low social value. Read this tale that was highly upvoted (but now deleted for…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/14 12:34 AM
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Here's an important lesson for people reading this... women, unlike men, are far more fluid and the past means very little relative to the emotions that they feel in the present. Also, be open to possibilities. Expectation is the mother of all disappointment.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 11:39 PM
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Spot on, & a bit more eloquently put than I wrote it. I was in disbelief that something like this made its way into asktrp.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 10:46 PM
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You should have swallowed your pride, humbled yourself, and realized that this was your series of mistakes. I hope you're able to learn and change your ways of thinking and actions in accordance with RP instead of trying to use it to justify what you do.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 10:31 PM
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I'm upvoting this as an example of bad behaviour. I suggest others do the same. It shows how you can be so jaded, trying to use TRP to explain your actions and way of thinking instead of trying to change those for the better. This is a train wreck. It can't be serious. There's zero redpill behaviour in here. Step 1. I'm scared to go alone to some place I really want to go to :( Step 2. Let's go with a girl and pay for her so she'll have sex with me. Step 3. I'm pursuing her, why isn't she having…
/r/askTRP19/10/14 10:13 PM
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Youre not in the wrong, next her Except for the fact that he did so many things wrong and then had a temper tantrum when he didn't get his sex that in his mind he was entitled to.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 09:53 PM
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i want to pursue The ultimate goal is to achieve a sexual thing with her And this right here is the evidence that you have not firmly incorporated TRP thinking. You made the girl your goal instead of your goal being to get better with women in general.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 08:46 PM
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Did you even bother to read the other comments? I wrote one as well in reply to that OP.
/r/trpGAME19/10/14 07:38 PM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/trpgame/comments/2jjgz5/difference_between_rtrpgame_and_rseduction/
/r/trpGAME19/10/14 07:15 PM
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They're only seen as "manipulative" "tactics" because they're being attempted by inexperienced guys and it comes across as unnatural. Outer game is just specific examples of alpha behaviour.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/14 12:34 AM
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Divorce rate for first marriages is 44.2% by age of 46. That's not much of an elephant. You can't fault someone for saying 'nearly half' end in divorce....because it's true. http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2013/article/marriage-and-divorce-patterns-by-gender-race-and-educational-attainment.htm
/r/TheRedPill19/10/14 12:24 AM
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Ah yes, I remember this bestof'd turd. I feel like the top comment on redditlog is interesting: Good summary. I've spent a bit of time lurking TRP recently – I read all of the sidebar and most of the top content. It's an interesting beast. It combines legitimate advice (don't get obsessed with one girl, don't put women on a pedestal, don't make sex the sole goal of your life, be confident, funny and direct, get in shape) with some truly horrible ideology. So, they succinctly provide examples of …
/r/TheRedPill19/10/14 12:10 AM
1

Did search break? You're getting shit because you didn't write anything and also, you clearly don't value the information enough to seek it out on your own. It has been written about in so many places here on asktrp, trp, seduction, and the internet in general. Your lack of personal desire to expend effort also makes me believe that you haven't read the trp sidebar.
/r/askTRP18/10/14 11:42 PM
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Hey man, I've got this girl that doesn't seem interested in sex. I'd like to lock her down for a while. Dear OP, realize you're needy. Realize you're trying to fill a certain void and trying to make life simple for yourself so you don't have get other girls and work for it. (Hilariously, relationships aren't a simple paradise with guaranteed great sex whenever you want).
/r/askTRP17/10/14 11:32 PM
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seddit is watered down, and has more of a blue pill influence. It's a mass of people, which means more people stuck in old ways of thinking. Advice in trpgame should come from those who've had the paradigm shift and can connect their advice back to larger trp principles. I wish that the posters that ask the questions as well were better influenced by TRP (aka bother to read the sidebar), because we get plenty of people asking for quick fixes and no idea of the big picture. In that sense you shou…
/r/trpGAME17/10/14 11:15 PM
1

And this should be the top comment. Once again the novice fails to read before posting.
/r/askTRP17/10/14 10:27 PM
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Well you may need to remind him to engage the others as well. If you're the one that got them all together, then go off and start talking to the other girls not caring about the first one so much, guess what, now you're showing social prowess and generally more attractive. This post reminds me how I'm a terrible wing. At least he has the 'in' that they're in the same class. Hopefully he can transition from that well enough and actually get to know her.
/r/askTRP17/10/14 05:36 PM
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He's got a self-fulfilling defeated mindset. But, he's right too, you're in a better position to hook up with her simply because you showed balls. If he wants a chance, he has to step up to the plate and do his own thing. Talk each other up, never bring the other person down. This applies to both sides. Leave them some time alone together. But, chances are he fucks up yet blames you for her not being interested. In one of these situations, the general advice is 'play it cool' and be outcome inde…
/r/askTRP17/10/14 05:17 PM
2

You missed the point. You get them comfortable and then people open up and talk more. It's largely what you do that makes them comfortable. It could be a multitude of things, but when you think to yourself that you've got a "shy/boring" girl, you likely end up in a negative loop where you just make things worse. It's tough to tell you exactly what you're doing because only you know from experience. Take notice of what you do differently once you begin to think you're facing resistance from this …
/r/trpGAME17/10/14 04:27 PM
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*tough
/r/askTRP17/10/14 08:38 AM
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You need to learn for yourself how to improve yourself. What do you want us to tell you? You identified problem areas, so address them. You're indeed right this post turned narcissistic. Head-up ass nerd prose. So, stop that. Get back in touch with reality. How about you try embracing intelligence but scrap nerd-core escapism like NPC references and the narrow scope comedy you've reduced yourself to. (Want some comedy? Patrice O'Neal / Black Phillip Show). I have a STEM degree, I can be nerdy, b…
/r/askTRP17/10/14 02:12 AM
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Those who can't seem to decide what movies, bands, food, hobbies they like Any tips on lines to break these womens ice would be appreciated. Wait, are you asking these questions? Are you interviewing her? I'm more concerned about what you're talking about. You're asking for a simple fix, literally a 'line' to solve your problems. No. You may need to study the art of conversation, or at least reflect back on the good and enjoyable conversations you've had. How were they different? It goes beyond …
/r/trpGAME17/10/14 01:05 AM
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No, this one was clearly thinking of something else. She was trying to use sex as a manipulative tool. She shut her mouth after his reply of 'how is sex one sided?', because, she realized she enjoys it too and would be upset if it was taken away from her. Finally, sex has been better for me since I started caring about their pleasure less. There's a balance though, and it really depends on each person.
/r/askTRP16/10/14 11:30 PM
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"hi" / "who are you", escalate, random chit-chat with confident demeanor, push pull, escalate, isolate, escalate. What you say is of little importance. This is trpgame, not /r/seduction.
/r/trpGAME16/10/14 05:48 AM
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Towards the end I got fidgety due to me wanting to fuck her, right then and there, and she got weirded out when we kissed So...you weren't confident / failed to be comfortable expressing sexual intent. Move on and learn. Want something fun to try? Try the opposite end of the spectrum next time, and be sexually comfortable with yourself. Escalate and tell her you want to fuck her. See how that works out for you.
/r/askTRP16/10/14 03:58 AM
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Exactly, this is level headed, big picture thinking.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/14 03:40 AM
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Huh? Like a woman sidestepping with tangential nonsense to distract from the core issue. Charity is infeasible, and you probably want to make some point about that...but that's irrelevant. The point is collective betterment, collective meaning all, to have less pregnant single mothers draining on society.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/14 10:58 PM
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But yes, OP is right in general. Between lowering women's premiums (thereby increasing men's premiums), mandating free birth control, mandatory pediatric dental and vision, and a slew of other parts of Obamacare, this new law is really all about transferring wealth to women (poor women, specifically, who ta-da! also happen to usually be single mothers) at the expense of men. The concept is designed for the betterment of society at whole. Free birth control is going to cost less than the burden o…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/14 09:43 PM
2

Thanks, I'm glad you appreciate it and more importantly, I'm glad you're receptive which is very important for growth. I know you might say that I should work on my game during this process but I don't feel like chasing pussy right now... Like I said, know thyself, so you do what's best for you. Revist those books again while you 'work on your game'. We have a tendency to think of game as surface level actions you take, but largely, it's actually an expression of how you are on the inside. The m…
/r/becomeaman15/10/14 09:19 PM
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I want to readdress #4, since I don't think you understood the gravity of it (or understand how what you said sounds insanely dumb from an objective perspective). But, let me go through them all again quickly... Just keep it in mind for the future. It's difficult to understand how small your world view is when you're living in it. In fact you have the tendency to think it larger than it is and have more experience than it is, which ironically lends itself to steadfastness and "confidence" in you…
/r/becomeaman14/10/14 09:39 PM
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/r/asktrp is the correct sub for this she was a loving girlfriend and probably wife material You have no idea what this means because you are so fucking inexperienced and you're deluding yourself. As everyone says, you have no view of the big picture. Your world is tiny and your experiences are small. You're far too concerned with subjective attractiveness. I can guarantee that your HB9 is much lower on my scale (that I don't use), simply because I value myself more than you do and have more exp…
/r/becomeaman14/10/14 08:03 AM
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You don't live life as a 2D picture. Women aren't as concerned with physical features as much as men--while you may seem to think this supports you, you're disregarding TRP concepts regarding actual attraction: Improved confidence, increased test, satisfaction in life / working towards ones goals, elevated mental state, energy, and finally, physically being able to have better sex.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 05:53 AM
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This is spot on useful advice and exactly how I saw it. Pussyfooting happens, overreacting happens, it is part of the process of learning and calibrating. OP and top commenters/upvoters need to swallow their pride and be self-critical for the sake of improvement. Otherwise you'll just repeat the same shit and never learn.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 05:36 AM
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I was back in town and asked to hang out. I was not making any progress with her on my couch after a couple of drinks and netflix on.... then I asked... "what happened you were all about it a few weeks ago". Here's my issue: his game got worse while he was getting frustrated, and he reached a breaking point. He confronted her logically and then finally she said she had a boyfriend (most likely would have never told him otherwise if what he says about his escalation attempts was true--otherwise, …
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 05:18 AM
3

I actually just wrote some notes on why 'fake it til you make it' isn't the best way to go about things. There are too many caveats for it to work as intended and efficiently. The novice doesn't have a full grasp of these caveats as they lack experience, so it's easy to lose your way or not understand things that happen / where to go from there. It's partly why asktrp and trpgame are filled with trivial shit. I wrote it at 3am when I couldn't sleep, so it's kind of a mess. I'll polish it and pos…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 01:43 AM
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Yeah it's an interesting phenomenon. I should think about this more and write about it. As you describe, if you're more or less indifferent to these girls yet then decide you want sex from them and pursue, their attraction to you gets killed (an exception being through fast/confident escalation). Logical pursuit isn't well grounded (and fast/confident escalation becomes more difficult/unnatural). You don't convey your sexual intent the same way as if you were very attracted to them. Your actions…
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 09:18 PM
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You weren't supposed to answer those questions so simply. The point was to think a bit more deeply about it. Your answers didn't address how you actually feel, even the sentence starting with 'I just feel...' doesnt go deep. It's not so simple as 'dry spell, want to fuck'. Did you feel lonely? Did you feel low value and you felt having sex would in your head prove you had some worth? Because, now youre left with them not having slept with you, and the logical part of your brain is saying they're…
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 04:18 PM
3

Good stuff, that's the right attitude.
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 07:54 AM
3

This was probably bad from the start, in person, which is where the majority of game is played. She doesn't want to talk to you. She's not giving you any conversation items to talk about. Her responses are super low effort. Advice: You could have made reference to something you talked about in person. You did, kind of, the fact that she gave you her facebook (followed by an act trying to prove you're high status). I say an act because she doesn't respect you enough to actually feel a bit special…
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 06:56 AM
1

There's clearly something wrong with you. As others said, these could have been missed opportunities. But then you say they're not attractive and have 'low SMV'. What the hell are your real feelings here? There's no introspection. Do you want to have sex with them? Did you pursue them? It seems like you did since you can't be friend-zoned without first trying for more. So, they have more relative SMV than you, in your head at least, yet you tell us otherwise. You're a fucking mess. Break it down…
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 05:12 AM
1

Or it could be a simple shit-test depending on the situation. She wasn't even talking to the guy. It's common for girls to flirt with other guys to see how you'll react.
/r/trpGAME13/10/14 05:02 AM
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relationships and dating is just this huge fucking game of manipulation and untruthfulness and control, and if that's what it all comes down to, fuck that. RP guys that are successful with picking up / relationships are happy. The women are happy as well. That's the point. Right now, you don't think this is possible. Clearly the problem is in your thinking (yes, consider that, shock, in your inexperience and battered morale, you may be wrong)... But that's okay. That's why we're here. To say, "d…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/14 04:08 AM
1

You clearly have a shit attitude about this. Depression is treatable. Get your head out of your own ass. Might work for some, but that only means what they had wasn't depression, but laziness. Pretty much want to say as someone that had struggled with depression, go fuck yourself, you clearly don't understand it. You're too set in your self-defeating mindset with your head up your ass and subjective mindset. TRP encourages introspection and objectivity, but you're failing at this hard. Finally, …
/r/askTRP12/10/14 07:28 PM
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You'd be best off making a new account. Establish your goals and realize that failure is necessary. If you're not failing, you're not trying. Come up with action plans to gradually make changes, exposing yourself to the fear. Read redpillbooks. No More Mr. Nice Guy sounds like a good option for you right now.
/r/askTRP12/10/14 01:21 AM
1

One, sort out your depression. Exercise, diet, medication, talking to people. You're in TRP to expand your social circle and better yourself. Ask yourself how you want to live and have the job bend to that, not the other way around (see my recent post in /r/becomeaman). It takes time, dedication, and an acceptance of hitting bottom in an escape from mediocrity. A lot of what you said is self-defeating before you can even begin.
/r/askTRP11/10/14 11:49 PM
1

This is how business parallels women. You need to establish your boundaries, be willing to walk away (you're operating from a scarcity mentality), and then he'll either respect you more as a professional or you'll lose him. As we see with TRP, if you do it right, the former tends to be more likely (just don't bank on it). If you lose a contact and work over this, be prepared to use that time on gaining more (which is seems like you should be doing regardless). So, don't be a winy bitch about it,…
/r/askTRP11/10/14 09:35 PM
1

I want to tell you some feelings that you may expect when you do this, but I'd want you think about what you uniquely feel. Regardless, you may begin to casually engage people out of the frustration of not talking (you may find this to be the case if you keep going out and make it your goal to not talk to people--thats right, overemphasize the 'bad' behaviour and see how benign or even silly it can be). Don't expect that nagging feeling to come right away, though. Remember, you still suck at thi…
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 06:56 AM
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You're not comfortable. Why? You lack experience. Gain experience. You're still looking at TRP with a very narrow scope. I doubt you've read the sidebar in the main sub. You're only talking about one girl. That's a red flag. Regarding her specifically, it's a learning experience for you. Start reading TRP sidebar material. Start reading redpill books. Get your head on board. Put yourself in social situations. Improve your life as a man. No mention of this by you. Goals, hobbies...what are they? …
/r/askTRP10/10/14 03:45 AM
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Ego and defense mechanisms. These people need a paradigm shift. By puttering about in mediocrity, they fail to really hit bottom, or reach a crossroads, and fail to open themselves up to questioning the choices they've made and beliefs they hold. They'll just keep floating on. And that's okay, we can't change everyone. If we did, society wouldn't function. Humans have evolved great mind tricks to remain comfortable living in mediocrity supporting social hierarchy.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 03:32 AM
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One of the top comments is how Tyrese has already made it and it's easy for him to say while the commenter's still struggling. Wooooshhhhhh.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 03:13 AM
2

Short and sweet advice on how to get started (stop striving for perfection, embrace the fact that you suck at this for now and are working on getting better). Showing up early before it gets busy is a nice option. People and groups are very easy to talk to as everyone is inclined to make some friends without the stimuli overload. Common advice says don't be the weird guy alone along the wall / bar not talking to anyone, but that's the end goal. It doesn't matter when you're starting out. It's be…
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 02:50 AM
1

Consider this, she's being encouraged to flirt for the sake of money. It's not naturally conducive for attraction, you should know this. Take a more extreme example of pay-'flirting'. Strippers don't fall for men that gush all over them and are easy to get money out of. Also, realize and accept the heaps of insecurity you vomited out into this post. Why was your first reaction to this coming from such a weak place? Reframe it like I mentioned. Women are pretty good at maintaining an ideal distan…
/r/askTRP06/10/14 10:47 PM
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Step 1. Understand why you have oneitis. You are pedestalizing her and enjoying the feeling of oneitis and the fantasy of what 'might be'. Given your past, why are you so inclined to do this? What void are you trying to fill? Step 2. Appreciate this as a learning experience first and foremost. What happens now will be a useful reflection in the future with other girls that come along later in your life. (That means, actually do something and don't just ignore her. Even crashing and burning is an…
/r/askTRP05/10/14 01:33 AM
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I want to add that if/when you do meet them again, be wary. It can be easy to fall back into old roles with people from the past (see stanford prison experiment: guards vs prisoners convening years later, prisoners show the more submissive body language). For me, I hooked up with a girl I was only friends with 5 years ago the other day. But, then we woke up sober, her naked in my bed, I found myself stifled and not being direct, not wanting to rock the boat / push the envelope anymore. It brough…
/r/TheRedPill04/10/14 07:45 PM
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It's a bit of a mental change but when you finally realize these women do get the tingles, do seek men, do want lays, and you improve yourself enough you internalize the concept that you are the prize. At some point you actually must realize this to value the women because their value is both absolute (redflags) and relative (to your value) and you can't do that relative-value calculation mentally if you don't value yourself. A lot of concepts very well put / succinctly in that last paragraph.
/r/askTRP04/10/14 09:44 AM
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It's pretty easy to find women that want to play the victim regarding this. No need to hire. There's a reason why this gets airtime and that's because it sells.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/14 12:02 AM
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and the Jewish community is very much a tight-knit in-group. The statement about having connections shouldn't be understated. (Just fyi, since I know racism pops up on the net easily, this isn't saying anything negative about Jewish people, it just is what it is.)
/r/TheRedPill03/10/14 11:58 PM
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Tagging on to share my two cents on this 'when to kiss' idea since OP makes a point about it. Personally, getting it done early/earlier on is best. It sets a tone as you point out, yet it doesn't have to be a big deal since it's so commonplace to kiss someone. Obviously, throatfucking them with your tongue isn't what I'm referring to. I find there to be a stronger barrier if you don't kiss before bringing them back. I say this right now, awake, after a girl just left my apartment in the pouring …
/r/TheRedPill27/09/14 12:37 PM
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Lets be serious though, the good fraternities that'll attract the hottest girls will have drinking as a priority. So you better have a high gpa and be bro-enough to fit in socially but also boost their academic rankings.
/r/askTRP14/07/14 08:49 AM
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If you're in the midwest, just do shots of ranch dressing. You'll be the king of the party, all without drinking. Although, in my case, shots of ranch dressing were actually chasers for vodka when we ran out of all beverages.
/r/askTRP14/07/14 08:44 AM
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We should encourage everyone to embrace science. It's equality and actually fucking contributes to the advancement of society. How about science scholarships for just being from Mississippi or Kansas. Literally, take this money and learn yerself some that there evolooshun and moon-tides.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 08:03 AM
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and no sane girls just going to go to someones house off tinder and fuck them the first time..... Well, sane's a questionable term, but it's done. I won't lie, I'm surprised at how often my mate's pulled it off. Moderate ho-fo-so-thos
/r/trpGAME14/07/14 07:54 AM
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Why is the exception to the rule being upvoted the most? (no offense) You even say that you might not even be remembering this exception correctly. girls who are looking for a relationship and don't have a very low partner count it's a turn on. So, they're looking for a beta-comfort blanket that they will eventually sleep with to keep them around. That's not the kind of turn on we're going for. Look, if a girl finds you attractive and you've done enough comfort building before literally sleeping…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 06:27 AM
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I need to blow her away and start turning her into a LTR. I need a new approach that's like "alpha bux" to a degree...Is she too much of a unicorn for there to be any precedent for this? I need I need Unicorn here's some tough love. <3 all the best mate First, there's no such thing as a unicorn. This has been said many times. It's an ideal, that you try to foster and find in women, and you do this through vast experience with numerous women, evaluating them critically for LTR material (which, ma…
/r/askTRP06/07/14 05:26 AM
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Read The Millionaire Fastlane. Ignore the cheap, catchy title, even the author bemoans it in the book. You'd be a good fit given what you said about travel combined especially with the fact that you're starting out already with business experience and funds. I just wrote a comment the other day thanking puaSenator for recommending it. It was the final piece that's led me to move to a different country in a few days from now and begin a new project, drastically altering my career & life path. Oth…
/r/askTRP04/07/14 06:11 AM
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Well, this certainly turned into one of the stranger posts I've read. In your case, there's plenty of girls that have done anal or are willing to try if they're really into you. This seems like is a waste of time. Lube. Anyway, with girls abroad, attention usually comes in waves (that's assuming they're into you at all) and it helps if you're doing interesting things with your life. She's got a lot going on, so don't try to force it. And by that I mean, it's not uncommon for months to go by with…
/r/askTRP02/07/14 09:26 AM
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"The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness." -Warren Farrell This is the most succinct way I've found to express this thought. It explains quite a bit about the biases in society and how they're used as tools.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 09:04 AM
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it isn't something you gather around to discuss in exclusive clubs Ah, so we're disregarding salons of the renaissance period, or really, any academic institution--a place to discuss ideas that may go against the grain without having to combat hostility and emotional rhetoric any time a point is made. I have confidence, I know what I want out of a relationship, and I don't feel the need to make a club about that fact Guys coming in don't have that confidence and have a poorly ingrained idea of w…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 07:06 PM
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Do you want to go forward? Go forward. If she flakes / is too difficult, then you can wash your hands of her. You're over-thinking. Over-thinking/over-gaming leads to over-investing. And in the future, you'd be better off making random statements if you want to send out a feeler text rather than what you did. You implicitly are put in a position of caring less if she replies. 'Damn, I just saw your doppleganger at suchandsuchcoolplace. I said hello.' or 'Some guy is snoring in the library and I'…
/r/trpGAME01/07/14 08:10 AM
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Go read my edit. Remove the stick from your vagina. Seriously, all you have to do is look at my other comment I made in here: Emotional abuse is a real thing, it's just not in any way how people here are trying to have a happy, healthy relationship. It's a false narrative. You can constantly tear someone down, berate them verbally, and they'll still cling to you...but that's not what we're going for. Think of it this way, if a person has low status, the only way they know how to keep in control …
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 06:32 AM
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http://support.onelouder.com/entries/22951333-Can-I-view-sidebar-info- Soz mate, but I just got back from the gym and want to destroy villages and shit.
/r/askTRP01/07/14 03:52 AM
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Emotional abuse is a real thing, it's just not in any way how people here are trying to have a happy, healthy relationship. It's a false narrative. You can constantly tear someone down, berate them verbally, and they'll still cling to you...but that's not what we're going for. Think of it this way, if a person has low status, the only way they know how to keep in control of their relationship is to force the other people below them. We aim to better ourselves so they're always looking up, just e…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 03:49 AM
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Well, no. It goes without saying that we still rape one night stands, but when we want to settle down and have a relationship to cure our foreveraloneliness, we emotionally abuse a woman we've coerced until she submits. I think you still need to swallow the pill. Edit...Really? Okay. Read my comment history if you need to. It's pretty blatant sarcasm if you're familiar with TRP. No admin in their right mind would ban me because we (used to?) not give a shit about what outside subs think. We're n…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 03:37 AM
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Of course not. That'd require a bit of personal enterprise. Literally listed under "New Here": "Glossary of Terms and Acronyms" We're off to a good start m0ntyy!
/r/askTRP01/07/14 03:31 AM
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Have sex, your parents come home, DM;HS. Worried that I might scare her off That's your biggest problem right there. Control what you can control. If she's on the extreme side of things, has an instant-turn-off gut reaction to you not owning your own homes in two different cities, it's not going to work out anyway. TL;DR: It'll be an issue if you make it an issue.
/r/trpGAME30/06/14 11:04 PM
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To me, this violence thing is being blown out of proportion. OP even said it, she was acting like a child. This is something children do when they don't know better. She has to learn to control herself. OP did a decent job with some soft next action, cutting her off, and she'll think twice in the future. It doesn't sound like she's a lost cause.
/r/askTRP30/06/14 03:38 AM
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The world doesn't owe you anything. When you say you don't get the respect you now deserve (and making a post about it), you're seeking their respect. There are different levels of motivation, and this is a base form of it. Wanting to show off how great and different you are now is good for a spark, but will become toxic. Transition away from that and solidify in your mind why you're making positive changes for yourself. Stop caring about their opinions because you should have a lot bigger fish …
/r/askTRP27/06/14 09:02 AM
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This is it right here. So then the question is, what's more attractive, a confident physically beautiful girl or a timid and outwardly insecure one? For me, confidence remains attractive. I can't deal with constantly trying to ego boost anyone else (male or female) or tend to their excessive insecurities. Big_En hits it too. Like you say, the confident ones still have their own insecurities, but they don't always come to a head. A confident ugly duck? Yeah, still not attracted.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/14 08:01 PM
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So far, I seem to be the only one here with a first hand account (as opposed to a lot of conjecture) of exactly what you're talking about--an anastrozole/arimidex cycle. I'm doing this right now actually. It's an estrogen suppression cycle (not your typical on-cycle gyno maintenance). 1mg EOD. No, I didn't get bloodwork done, as you can't discreetly do it in this state. (I wish I could have--not necessarily because of side effects [which I describe as, at least for me, mild, below] but for the s…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/14 09:10 AM
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This reminds me of the highly controversial Stanford Prison Experiment by Zimbardo. Students were assigned roles as prison guards and prisoners, and they didn't get to choose their role based on traits they may already hold (dominant vs submissive). The situation moulded them. Things got out of hand and over time the 'guards' became abusive and the 'prisoners' wanted to stay in prison. The experiment was called off. Years later the prisoners and guards got together and were interviewed, and the …
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 07:50 PM
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He's Chris Rock. He could do BP shit and get away with it because he's got social value. But, let's be serious, he doesn't do BP shit. Just listen to him. bobby__peru made a nonsense comment, plenty of guys here are married / in long term relationships.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 07:23 PM
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So much advice. Since you suck, I'm going to assume you're reading all of this. Also, imho, being slightly buzzed is fine if you want to be. I get into it / enjoy it more with a bit of alcohol. I actually feel more present and in the moment. But, don't get trashed. Keep in mind, some girls (especially in your age range) may be absolute shit at kissing. So don't feel bad for a lack of experience. My first (19) attacked me with a wide open mouth. Not long after, I had the opposite end of the spect…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 07:28 AM
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My issue is calling someone a unicorn doesn't help the jaded new guys, because they just pin that title upon their oneitis and convince themselves of these qualities. The point of a unicorn is that it doesn't exist. It's an ideal to get as close as possible to, which it sounds like you've met.
/r/askTRP13/06/14 07:03 PM
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DNE
/r/askTRP13/06/14 06:08 PM
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I actually just remembered a time a few years ago (before TRP) that after returning home from abroad, I went to dinner with a girl similar to yours that used to be hooked (that word 'love' had floated around on her lips), but iirc she avoided my mentions of sex then as she had just started seeing some other guy. Failed to escalate well enough in person. Could I have now? I imagine so. Would I have been better served back then to just make it clear that if there wasn't sex, I wouldn't waste my ti…
/r/askTRP13/06/14 11:09 AM
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Yeah, I've had these types where you really can push things and they'll have to agree to your terms, even begrudgingly, because they need you (until that finally breaks). Given this, I'd say the other poster has solid logic, and I've done the same. When things are in your favour and it's 'easy', you've got her on a string, you can beat that horse and she'll have to accept it if she wants to keep you around. Seems like that's been the case (though your forehead kiss and 'what are you wearing' com…
/r/askTRP13/06/14 10:48 AM
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You've got some valid points that I didn't consider, it would help if she essentially agreed to sex in advance. The way I saw it though was that regardless, he should be able to turn it sexual in person and there would be less risk of 'beating the dead horse' in an immature way (as opposed to being 'unapologetic'). It'd come down to frame, and given the fact that they have had a sexual relationship, perhaps it wouldn't be too immature of a frame. Regarding going sexual via text, I went the safer…
/r/askTRP13/06/14 10:32 AM
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Also, read this viewpoint for a counterpoint. It's RP. Good ol' fashion nuance and complexity.
/r/askTRP13/06/14 10:25 AM
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(made a few edits/additions just before you replied, hope you saw them, concluding with fisting) Anyway, you just need to calibrate a bit better. You've got principles down (for example, showing SMV/abundance) but it's the execution that needs to be fine-tuned (showing not telling). Luckily women can put up with some asshole-ish behaviour. The trick is to know when to pull back, when to push forward, and how much. Lines are going to be crossed in the process. It's to be expected--better to cross…
/r/askTRP13/06/14 09:57 AM
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Avoid going sexual from here on out--you're pushing it where it doesn't belong. Don't beat a dead horse. You realize that you don't have to make texting sexual, right? This is especially true if you have a tendency to push it too far--which you do. You laid out bait and she didn't want to bite. That's fine, pull back. You can escalate to sex in person, no? (Well maybe not, maybe you can kiss her on the cheek next? Maybe her nose? or shoulder?) You're doing the 'horny 7th grader' mentality. You'v…
/r/askTRP13/06/14 09:13 AM
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NAWALT ....hahah blaming them for all their troubles in life. You understand nothing. We seek not to blame women but rather take personal responsibility. You're describing the exact opposite of what TRP is. You're describing the bitter guys that haven't yet or are just starting toward understanding this. You're looking at a hospital and only seeing it as a place to house the sick and injured. You only see the glaring malignancy that enters. You're blind to the function of the hospital and everyo…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 08:49 AM
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24-27 I've always heard this classified as "approaching the wall". But then yes, the wall itself is as you described.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 08:40 AM
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Oh I'm sure he cares. It's a BP relationship.
/r/askTRP13/06/14 08:34 AM
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One thing I've gotten better at with TRP is to judge the content on its own merit.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 06:02 AM
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"UNI"? What is this?
/r/askTRP13/06/14 05:32 AM
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Everything you said about porn is simply going to lead to more and more unhappiness and frustration for everyone, a collective blight on society.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 05:28 AM
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Btw, what the fuck is a "secret relationship"? A relationship she doesn't want public so she appears open (and is) to better guys that'll come along. [In contrast, a woman that finally locks down a quality man into a relationship shouts it from the rooftops to flaunt it in front of her friends.]
/r/askTRP13/06/14 03:45 AM
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So after all this reading of TRP you decided to work on your oneitis. Okay. Hurry up, ask her out however you want, get rejected, learn, and move the fuck on. If you stick around in her life, she'll get enough of what she needs out of you being a beta orbiter. So, be clear in your intentions, don't pussyfoot, and if she rejects them, walk away hard. You can go cry alone at home, but around her you're cool, calm, and collected. Don't blow up. Don't pussy around it. Don't try to be friends. If she…
/r/askTRP12/06/14 05:20 AM
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Let's learn something deeper about this, since as it's written, it isn't quite useful. It connects back to the post the other day about 'should I pay?' And truth be told, it's not inherently right or wrong to do so, rather, the motivation behind the action is far more important. So, the question is, why did you pay?
/r/trpGAME11/06/14 07:33 PM
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This girl remains my unicorn Oh god, shut up. You clearly haven't read the sidebar and top posts well enough. You just have oneitis. Your 'unicorn' is fucking someone else. This attention situation is similar to when a guy leaves a relationship, or at least a soft next. Many guys should just leave and not turn back, but for those that do, a dangerous trap is to go back to her after she's affectionate and resume the blue pill role. Instead, the only way back in such a case is on your terms and yo…
/r/askTRP11/06/14 04:59 AM
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You're benching 275 and coming here for advice? That's pretty much at an advanced level. Also, you should already know that you can make the gains back up quickly due to muscle memory.
/r/askTRP10/06/14 08:45 PM
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without giving a shit what she thinks. People need to ask themselves why they want to pay. Often the answer is that they're concerned she won't like them or think he's cheap--which goes against what you want to convey.
/r/askTRP10/06/14 07:57 PM
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Nice, it's good to see that you're really receptive and introspective about this in reply. That's a big part of 'fixing' this in and of itself. To get an abundance mentality...you need abundance of women, but also, in things to do ('your mission'). Try to reflect on and dissect the negative attitudes I quoted from you about 'club sluts' and girls being 'annoying'. I'm not saying you have to pick up girls in a club, no, but rather ask yourself if holding this mentality is helpful at all and if it…
/r/askTRP10/06/14 06:34 PM
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This is an interesting perspective, but it depends largely on your own personality and what you're looking for. As you mention, this is advice geared toward guys looking to settle down, and with girls with impulses to travel, it can lead to incompatibility. Personally, I love to travel and love to live in other countries. I know many girls that travel/backpack and they're undoubtedly more cultured than those back 'home' that have never left or those that simply vacation/holiday for a little bit.…
/r/askTRP10/06/14 06:01 PM
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No. When you 'get rejected' work on holding the mentality that she's doing something really weird. You're simply being a fun, cool guy and talking to lots of people. Say nice meeting you, but eject from this oblivious girl. Further, translate the mentality to your body language as you eject. Now, if you do get really down on yourself after getting rejected, and you're spiraling, there's lots of game ideas on what to do, probably under the keywords 'being out of state' and shit like that.
/r/trpGAME10/06/14 05:07 AM
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Being natural and lacking self awareness, guys largely tend to be beta but have their alpha sweet spots. In places where they're most comfortable, they will own that shit. This could be amongst friends, or even only among certain friends, in certain environments (like the workplace), in clubs but not on the sidewalk, or online--masters of the keyboard or controller, etc... And regarding being scared of being sexual--largely, yes. Welcome to third wave feminist society.
/r/askTRP10/06/14 04:51 AM
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See, your original post makes this sound like you're having this 'problem' with tons of girls, but then we get to the heart of the matter and you're largely talking only about one chick (or at the very least, a select few). So, what you really are asking is simply "Why do I develop oneitis?"... I have literally no interest in banging club sluts, and girls annoy me most of the time - however when I care about a girl So yeah, there are some issues here. Where are you meeting women? How often? Does…
/r/askTRP10/06/14 04:36 AM
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A great show (well, a personal guilty pleasure) is the UK spinoff, Geordie Shore, and it really shows off RP at work. Better than Jersey Shores imho in this regard. The whole Gaz and Charlotte thing goes on and on, where he keeps hooking up and she keeps coming back to him, like she can't help it. Ah and, I believe it was last season, this one guy that was always on the pull and doing well got oneitis for a new chick that moved in. Spoiler, they had some cuddles, but they never banged. The entir…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/14 11:06 PM
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/r/weightroom, the /r/weightroom faq, and the /r/bodybuilding faq. /r/steroids (don't even think about using any time soon, but it's good to have knowledge of reality / what's going on with most ridiculously jacked and vascular guys). And most importantly, get a novice program (SS--book is great for details or SL) and do it. Don't think you know better and deviate. That's a great way to stall. But, you'll know all this if you read those faqs. (And for the most basic shit, /r/fitness faq isn't aw…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 06:25 AM
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Interestingly, on the extreme side, Stockholm Syndrome follows this.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/14 03:57 AM
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You can't do either program without the proper equipment, but yes I would recommend them. The actual SS book is great to immerse yourself in lifting and understand a lot of the little details. Do more research into getting a gym membership. I got into Gold's for $11/mo without a cancellation fee. This'll vary geographically, but I'm not in bumfuck Arkansas. Just hunt for a gym that takes real lifting seriously and isn't out to rape you. Also, if you can't afford a gym membership...fix that shit.…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 01:45 AM
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I dont agree with the idea she told the OP because she trusts him. Undoubtedly it's difficult to say exactly what her motivation was, but consider the opposite case: She doesn't tell him these things at all and covers for her friend's shitty behaviour. There's a level of trust there, and if he makes a big deal about it, she'll think twice about telling him these things in the future.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 03:43 AM
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One side states the male leadership in the relationship will keep the relationship on course, which can be further reinforced by sharing the information with the eaffected husband. They're saying that if the man stays true to his 'moral code' and acts in accordance to that, she'll respect him and know that he doesn't condone cheating. My counter is that there's more beneath the surface here. 1. The moral code stems from empathy/insecurity which may be interpreted negatively. 2. Acknowledging som…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/14 07:21 PM
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Good luck with that attitude. You're not going to internalize anything meaningful out of this sub.
/r/askTRP04/06/14 06:00 PM
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It's only negative if you make it negative or think it decreases your SMV. This applies to all of your hobbies. Own it. Confidence. Like all things, it's not something you dangle to try to be attractive. So, don't force it where it doesn't belong. But, if you enjoy it, be true to that. Drop your insecurities regarding this. As I said, this applies to all things. Even not hobbies, simply being true to the things you do. Here's an example off the top of my head: Chapstick / lip balm. I use it. Som…
/r/askTRP04/06/14 05:58 PM
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Welcome to TRP, and being a man, where we don't give a fuck.
/r/askTRP04/06/14 05:47 PM
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Seriously, you made this post, so listen and learn. Don't be a dumbass putting up sarcastic walls to some legitimate advice. yes I have learned that I probably shouldn't be so quick to add the wives of my friends to my fb friend list That's not quite the lesson to be learned. What you need to take on board is what Wolfwoodd wrote.
/r/askTRP04/06/14 05:40 PM
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she will know that he approves of the act of cheating. And then she will cheat. It's that simple. It's not that simple. I just wrote a whole bunch as to why. You just reiterated what you originally said. You're operating on a male code of honour and logic. Women logically know cheating is bad. Having you also logically disapprove isn't going to change her. It's not going to stop her from cheating on your ass. Look, it seems to me that you're coming from a poor mindset. This topic has been discus…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/14 05:18 PM
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(Preface: If you downvote this...fucking say why. We're here to challenge our preconceptions, no? I'm writing this for your benefit. You can't simply downvote something and make it go away because you don't want it to be true or it makes you uncomfortable.) Let me counter this with some harsher TRP: You can acknowledge and accept the reality of other people's cheating (cough--TRP) and still have your own girl know that you'll leave her ass if she does the same. Any guy can voice their disapprova…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/14 04:30 PM
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Useless stereotype. Some people buy into stoner 'culture' and just float through life, but that doesn't make it so for everyone. You tend not to openly see successful people smoking because they have their shit together. It doesn't mean it's not done.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 04:16 AM
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You should check out /r/altTRP
/r/TheRedPill03/06/14 04:11 AM
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teached her how to think for herself instead of what she was feeded in university /cring
/r/askTRP01/06/14 09:53 PM
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how do I gear myself up to be the baddest motherfucker that any employer would bust a nut to hire? You're already limiting yourself by fitting nicely into a hierarchy. Give The Millionaire Fastlane a read. It nicely redressed a lot of amorphous frustrations I had, where there was a disconnect between the path that I was on and my desire to have freedom--freedom to spend a paycheck but, most importantly, have the time to get real fulfillment out of it. I'm with you, I have a pretty specific scien…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 07:12 AM
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No doubt. Just happened to my mate the past few weeks. Hell, he gets more than I do, but he told me he found this one that he really liked, and that he could see himself with. When he told me I asked him if he fucked her yet...nope. She made him wait, and he went along with it (highly atypical for him). Eventually they did it, but it was long, drawn out, and not spicy. She was a deadfish. I'm willing to bet it's less her typical state and more the result of her not getting the tingles that the o…
/r/askTRP27/05/14 04:27 AM
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All in all I've found my accent is helping a lot with approaching during the day should I be going out earlier then this? It can help a lot at night too. When I'd go out alone, I'd go to places early before everything got busy. I'd go around and make friends guys, girls, guy and girl groups. They'd pick up on my accent and it was cake. They'd be friends for the night. While I usually get a O_O or o_O look when I do and they move elsewhere occasionally the girl gets into it (usually the younger o…
/r/askTRP26/05/14 09:36 AM
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Yeah, that's pretty much the beginners checklist. All of those would likely be done the very first time she had sex. If you asked, it's a reasonable reply. If she offered up that info unnecessarily, it could well be a shit test. For example...asked a girl about the craziest thing she's done sexually. She tells me straight up that with her ex she put a lollipop up her ass (so of course I prod further and ask if she ate it [yes]). But then, I had another girl ask me about my prom in America (in an…
/r/trpGAME26/05/14 08:25 AM
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Woman here. And that's when you should stop listening. As we say, the fish doesn't teach the fisherman how to catch em. They learn from other fishermen. TL;DR: Rabble rabble, getting a girl to be sexually attracted to you quickly without her friends getting in the way is rape. Check your privilege.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/14 08:06 AM
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Read Models by Mark Manson. /tipsfedora Basically, don't be a dick unnecessarily. You can be a nice guy [read:genuine] without being a Nice Guy™ if you want to be. Don't supplicate. With your girl, reward good behaviour only when it's deserved. Be kind to people if that's what you wish. If that's so, don't expect anything back. Finally, know your boundaries and be firm in them.
/r/askTRP26/05/14 07:59 AM
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It depends where you draw your own moral line and take note of potential red flags. I'm not sure what everything in this context is btw, I mean, she hasn't even done anal. I had a discussion on public transport with a girl asking her if she's done anal. You may have a very kosher view of sex. If you're not fucking virgins, you're going to have to come to terms with the fact that girls have a sexual history. Then it just depends on where you draw the line. We usually see people have different sta…
/r/trpGAME26/05/14 07:45 AM
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Probably, but own it and wear it with fucking pride now. You're going to have to bet on honesty and conviction being more important than how many holes you've stuck your dick in. fucking up spectacularly in the bedroom Stop caring and, again, own your actions. I remember the very first time I fingered a chick, I eventually jammed four fingers in her. I don't have small hands and she was a small girl. I believed 100% in what I was doing at the time (I'm laughing as I write this, but it's true). S…
/r/trpGAME26/05/14 07:24 AM
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To be fair, he's a sales associate at best buy. They... charge people money. Pretty much anything can be said if the context is right and if the body language is right, which seemed to be the case. Words aren't that important.
/r/askTRP26/05/14 06:10 AM
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Looking for a relationship from the start is setting yourself up for trouble. Just speaking from experience. That was one of my biggest issues while swallowing TRP. TRP truths don't change just because you want them to. It still holds true that women don't want a tiger that can so easily be caged. You've done well, acted in accordance with TRP, but then you want to let go of that so freely? You're already treating her as special but you don't even know how good the sex is going to be. Treat her …
/r/askTRP26/05/14 05:19 AM
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Had I not actually read SS, I wouldn't be as dedicated as I am. There's more to it than mimicking form in a video and hoping for the best. If you're serious about lifting, but lacking confidence, knowledge is power. As with TRP, it breaks down the details and gives in depth answers to Why?. Like the rest of the books, taking the time to read and immerse yourself in a subject helps mold your understanding, something that a cursory viewing tends not to do. And like you say, practice. This applies …
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 07:21 PM
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So you don't have to keep making posts in the future, do you understand the overarching idea here? You need to be able to answer this on your own in the future. Ask yourself the question: Is this a lack of interest? You should know that 1. It doesn't matter either way, you roll with it 2. She didn't give the common lack of interest response of, 'I'm busy' + no explanation or offer for other plans.) You should have just assumed shittest either way. Also, /r/trpgame
/r/askTRP21/05/14 07:08 AM
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19 year old pre-med major I think you left out an important point, are you living at home? Are you actually in college yet?
/r/askTRP18/05/14 05:12 AM
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Well, he should be able to get down to his goal of 170lbs in ~1.5months. I'd say hit that goal while practicing form and getting into the habit of lifting, then go ham. It's best not to fuck with aux lifts when you're first starting out. Those can be added once you get the basics down.
/r/askTRP17/05/14 08:05 PM
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Yes. It pretty much connected together a lot of my thoughts and frustrations. Elucidating. Most people aren't cut out for it imho. We'll see how this works out for me. ;)
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 05:57 AM
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You're hoping for an event to make everything better and fix your problems, ignoring the process. It's all about the process. Angels/mentors don't just appear from doing nothing. Anyone who's had a mentor embarked on their road, and by 'coincidence' or 'luck' someone they could learn from came into their life. But that coincidence or luck wouldn't exist without process.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 12:19 AM
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You need to up your game. Blaming external things is a rationalization and doesn't offer any information for improvement. So, congratulations, you're using beta game and you don't even know! otherwise you wouldn't be having issues If you're breaking your 'game' up into types like this, you're acting and not having it be an intrinsic, core way you communicate. Also, different situations call for different ways to be. If it was all compounded, your 'game' would be well rounded. When you try to be …
/r/askTRP14/05/14 08:42 AM
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Man you're probably going about it wrong if this is an issue. I have my degree in applied physics (and saying the specialization is a fucking mouthful), but it's just such a non-issue. Might lie/make a joke about what I do first for fun, but either way I just say it, and my frame doesnt change in the slightest. I couldn't care less about talking about it in detail since it could sound like bragging or bore the conversation with dry science-talk. Regardless, I keep on doing what I'm doing and kee…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 08:24 AM
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What Patrice O'Neal did was 'hoe the bitch down' iirc. Promiscuous past? RP man keeps that shit in check. But, Patrice was a next level motherfucker (and they had an openish relationship which focused on her winging and getting threesomes).
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 08:11 AM
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I realized, that being "1st me" is better than being "2nd him" - duplicating his way of life will not be better for me than going my own way. That's a really great way of putting it.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 06:29 AM
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Starting strength. It's about establishing a solid foundation which will greatly aid doing solely (swolely) aesthetic lifts in the future if that's what their goals are. We don't need more mindless gym-bros out there. 'Good nutrition' is a given, I mentioned that. All you suggested doing differently was isolations, exercises, machines, and curls. Those can come after the foundation is built and they'll be able to maximize what they can do because of the functional strength gained with all muscle…
/r/askTRP14/05/14 02:38 AM
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Most people should start off with a novice strength training program (you can't beat the actual Starting Strength book and level of detail on form and mechanics). Knowing exactly what the fuck you're going to do is key imho. People say, "just do it! just get in there!" Fuck that. I hate people floundering in the gym, and they hate it too, getting all discouraged. Study up first until you're ready, bring a small notebook, track your lifts, know what you're going to lift and how. Diet? IIFYM. Anyt…
/r/askTRP13/05/14 08:14 PM
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I have no idea what his interests are, but if he likes what he's doing and can get set up with their daughters, fair play. Mums love to try to hook their daughters up with hot guys they meet. Sublimation and vicarious living at its finest.
/r/askTRP13/05/14 08:05 PM
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Do they have daughters?
/r/askTRP13/05/14 08:52 AM
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It's on the sidebar, so, at least we get people in there who (likely), you know, actually read the thing.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/14 08:48 AM
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But but but....I want instant gratification!
/r/askTRP12/05/14 09:47 PM
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back-sliding This has been the biggest one I've dealt with. It's one thing to understand everything on a logical level (particularly, easy to tear apart others' situations), but it's another to rewrite your own gut reactions and emotions. Also, it's difficult to analyze objectively when you're in the moment, particularly if you don't have many points of reference (which is why grinding it out and getting experience is key). It's easy to be jaded or convince yourself that you're 'following TRP' w…
/r/askTRP12/05/14 09:45 PM
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but I strongly believe that the bar crowd is full of losers It's largely in your head and you're rationalizing the emotions you feel in the bar scene. Many intelligent people go to bars and drink (raises hand/glass). You're just not meeting them. Of course, some bars are better than others, but you're in a college town. You're getting college girls. These aren't high school dropouts on meth baking a baby in their vag-oven. Bars are about meeting many people and having sex with attractive women. …
/r/askTRP09/05/14 09:58 PM
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Wtf is this shit? Why are you people giving this the time of day? This is stupid. Bitch stop taking selfies. Or don't. End of.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 09:47 PM
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Avoid speaking to her in person. Never text her, ever. Masturbate with your tears for lube.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 09:43 PM
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Shut up pussy. All I hear is bullshit and excuses. 71 Year Old 275 Deadlift Audrey Donellan
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 09:40 PM
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Who the fuck cares about living longer? It's about living better now.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 09:35 PM
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So, consider the extreme non-alpha version: Freak out and apologize profusely. Tears preferred. Promise to never let it happen again. Text her hourly and sub-hourly at random intervals. How do I react? Don't. That's the point. Being unreactive to stupid bs and emotional whims. Children are grumpy, going to coddle her? Be her emotional compass. Don't swing whichever way her wind blows.
/r/trpGAME09/05/14 10:22 AM
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As one of the other posts said, establishing some boundaries and backing them up could be something that needs a change. Because, even with moving, the lack of that may be visible in other relationships. With clear boundaries and sticking to them, it should help eliminate 'losing my shit' as well, as they're supported by a firm, unreactive frame.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 10:17 AM
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vulnerable == genuine, when you choose to be. It's a power and treated with more weight and reverence if unexpected from someone so outwardly stoic. TRP's "not showing weakness" --- think of it more physically/mentally than verbally. You can talk about your past or present struggles, but if you present them as sorted out or by having a plan, and are now strong and unaffected (stoic) regarding the problems, then you're fine. You're unshaken. You're able to be genuine, show he a deeper side to you…
/r/askTRP09/05/14 09:57 AM
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It's her brother :'(
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 09:48 AM
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2 metal chicks The Japanese have finally finished those androids, eh?
/r/askTRP08/05/14 03:27 AM
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I've always found it amusing and laugh in an 'are you serious? got something to prove?' kind of way and recognize that they're trying to be dominant. I've met few who pull it off naturally and have a genuine warm or magnetic personality to back it up. So, keep that in mind when you go for it. For example, imagine the handshake of an oft frustrated mid-level manager vs a wealthy philanthropist.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 03:23 AM
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I've done it, it works. Another guy mentioned the other day how he did the same thing with his gf. If she doesn't want to play your game and is more interested in the other guy, well okay then. On to the next one.
/r/askTRP07/05/14 10:43 PM
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It's a process of integrating trp core principles, really knowing them beyond a tertiary understanding, and then...practice. You'll encounter shit tests for example, that may shake your frame, but you'll have the tools to reflect on it and be more prepared / unshaken in a similar future scenario. Eventually your attitude and understanding will be so ingrained that you can handle / maintain frame well in new, unique situations, on the fly.
/r/askTRP07/05/14 06:12 PM
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/r/becomeaman Also, you don't repress, you sublimate / channel. Take all of the frustrations for motivation.
/r/askTRP07/05/14 09:46 AM
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Since I haven't seen it mentioned, a nice option is to instill in her the idea to get free drinks/food for the both of you from guys. Give her a mission/challenge and she'll be thinking about you. It can be a fun game. I like this a lot better than walking the fine line of being overly passive or overly aggressive, especially if you're rooting out BP mentality. It shows you don't give a shit about other guys talking to her (aka not over-protective) / trust her on her own without worry; but also,…
/r/askTRP07/05/14 09:28 AM
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The fanciful and decadent language is self-fellating. Been there. It's part of being stuck in ones own head and over-thinking. Welcome to redpill, where OP needs to boil down the self-aggrandizement, keep shit simple, get over his fucking ex already by doing shit for himself and moving on to other girls. Quit the prose, there's nothing to prove. Woe is OP.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 03:42 AM
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Do you avoid uncomfortability by being funny? (Nervously funny). You may not be grounded, in a sense, and not know when to get serious and express your true intentions.
/r/trpGAME03/05/14 12:04 AM
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Well, there's nothing you can learn here that you wouldn't learn better in mfa, that's the point. We're probably not going to tell you to peacock like Mystery in The Game, so besides that, it's about finding your own style and learning about colour and fit. There's plenty of information about that in mfa, you just need to look. Read sidebar materials. Search. I lost heaps of weight and it was a great resource. Not everything works for me there, but I find what does. A lot of guys are skinny and …
/r/trpGAME02/05/14 11:45 PM
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Oh I know, it's a fantasy that breaks in reality, but it's easier to swallow the concept this way in the beginning than having them confront 'gender roles' and un-romanticized hierarchy. Most girls dream of being a princess instead of an old queen or first mate, and that's where the relevant connection can be made. Purely useful only in discussing the topic with someone that would identify more strongly with the princess idea.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 11:33 PM
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Yeah, not sure why the attitude keeps popping up lately. Physically attractive guys may get more opportunities simply handed to them, but you're going to fuck up with bad game. Let's focus more on the lock and locksmith analogy.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 06:50 PM
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You're thinking of these examples like a guy, which is fine, they make sense that way. But, this isn't Daddy / Princess. It's Disney Prince / Princess. That doesn't conjure the image of her becoming a leech. No, the idea stays in honeymoon mode. "Trying to run the relationship and not understanding why she is no longer attracted to her prince and why she is unhappy" doesn't pop up, that's why it's a fantasy. The prince / princess dynamic preserves the ideal girls dream of. Shit-testing her princ…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 06:29 PM
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Quoted for Emphasis Quoted for Truth I had no idea wtf those meant.
/r/askTRP02/05/14 09:43 AM
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Everyone on here pretty much preaches it's all about looks No. It's about looking your best. Dress stylishly and tailor your clothes, groom, burn fat, lift. If you want to get critiqued, Hot or Not or /r/amiugly. That sub is sad and so is this post.
/r/trpGAME02/05/14 05:59 AM
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nodding and seethe If you find yourself doing this ever with a girl, you're doing something wrong.
/r/askTRP02/05/14 04:18 AM
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I see a lot of anti-medication talk on here, but look at research and useful anecdotes. People are concerned that you'll indefinately be on anti-depressants, but if you're doing it right and talking to any competent psychiatrist, you will see that this is not the aim. I know people that are constantly depressed and have forever been taking medication. They've abandoned the rational desire to get out of that hole and would rather wallow in the attention. (The fact that you say you've had depressi…
/r/askTRP02/05/14 03:26 AM
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Starting Strength. This is talked about quite a lot, and as a formerly fat guy, stfu and eat. If you're skinny, drink milk. Good protein and a good amount of calories. It sounds like you don't have a proper beginner lifting routine. SS. Read the actual book and get to it. You're probably hesitant to go to the gym because you don't want to flounder either. Well, this way you know exactly what you are going to do, and you get it done. P.S. EAT. Make yourself uncomfortable.
/r/askTRP01/05/14 07:15 AM
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Also, you get over gym anxiety by having a plan and knowing exactly what you're going to do ahead of time. You'll see that you're more focused than the majority of people there. You're on a path better than they are and you've only just begun. I wouldn't necessarily trust a gym-going friend, they have to really know their shit. Starting Strength to start, there's great information on form in there, the MyFitnessPal app also is very useful for calorie tracking and calculations.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 08:33 PM
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Except, at a minimum you do want to be tolerated, as opposed to chemically castrated or murdered in a hate crime. The problem with feminism is the extremes that it has since gone to, the 'third wave', after largely achieving what was wanted. When I say tolerance, I mean it as the next stage of understanding for other guys who were raised to hate homosexuals or people of other races. I don't expect a grand paradigm shift, but at the very least abandonment of hate and the treatment of other people…
/r/altTRP29/04/14 04:25 PM
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After a while, it would be good to see some top posts make their way over to TRP, xposted. There used to be more back in the day, but they've been drowned out. I like my women, but find it's a really interesting perspective that adds to the intellectual conversation. Not to mention there are more racists and homophobes that have subscribed with the increased number mindlessly following TRP instead of taking some time for rational thought. They should be confronted with tolerance and question the…
/r/altTRP29/04/14 07:05 AM
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Once again, everybody has a fucking opinion in the comments, and they're all...black and white. "He's alpha", "He's beta" Listen bitches, it's a spectrum of behaviour. This was a beta move. Of course he has alpha traits. He didn't get that wealth by supplicating to everyone. This is an example of how even when you get money, you're still vulnerable to this sort of shit. Also, fuck all of you trying to defend his racism. Keep that shit out of here. Read the damn rules motherfuckers.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 06:49 AM
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Considering he has to deal with finals, yeah. Embrace this OP. Rome wasn't built in a day, or 'a couple of weeks'. Plenty of time. Build yourself up, independent of women.
/r/askTRP29/04/14 06:37 AM
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Ah right, because Arnold never did heavy squats and deads. http://startingstrength.com/articles/abs_rippetoe.pdf I'm assuming you haven't read this.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 06:32 AM
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It's about value. How much value does the man offer the relationship. Money can be a large part of it, and it's certainly the easiest to recognize, but there are plenty of wealthy men with failed marriages. All of the other stuff: leadership, charisma, social standing, confidence, goals & personal focus/respect ; can make a difference to overcome an income deficit relative to her. It's likely a self-fulfilling prophecy that a man who earns less is doomed to failure if he thinks it is so. He does…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/14 12:26 AM
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Well, while we may not do it to the same degree, men are certainly capable of acting in a similar way in any argument. So, this is where my understanding stems from. Reframe it, twist words to ridicule opponent, and add some emotion. The last bit being more powerful if it taps into a personal insecurity. I imagine that the numerous books about argument and debate get into the mechanics of it. The reframing, twisting, and emotional drive become quite natural through the reward of victory in debat…
/r/AlreadyRed26/04/14 12:09 AM
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No it isn't. As an evil america hating liberal-atheist I'm quite pleased with the lack of political and religious mentionings outside of sexual strategy. It's nice to be able to think about and even agree with right-wing nutjobs that'd I typically consider to be idiots. At the end of the day here, it comes down to being a man, which doesn't requite being a physicist or economist to understand the interactions between men and women.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/14 10:52 PM
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Social (but they do pretty much go hand in hand).
/r/TheRedPill25/04/14 10:45 PM
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Think about it as amplifying your emotions. If you don't give in to social anxiety to begin with, it won't exacerbate it to such a degree. Rather, embrace the outgoing attributes and set your body in motion. Standing around doing nothing on while on a stimulant is only going to mess you up.
/r/askTRP25/04/14 10:32 PM
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What's the deal with unpleasant irrelevant topics. Have you read the rules? First rule: New submissions must be related to sexual strategy, events that affect sexual strategy, theories about sexual strategy, or stories confirming (or challenging) current theories of sexual strategy. If it's actually relevant, it'll be talked about. This isn't a forum to debate any 'politically correct' issue. If it was, it'd be far too divisive and distract from what we should be talking about. That's why it's g…
/r/askTRP25/04/14 10:11 PM
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Since this one you "had a fling with while still being a beta", of course you're going to be more affected. The old wounds are cut deep. Pat yourself on the back for having hooked up with her the times that you did and move on. Give it a 'mission accomplished' label. It's got to click in your head that you're wasting time with this one and you're not bettering yourself being involved with her. She's an anchor holding you back. Drill it into your head and think it whenever you see her: 'Been ther…
/r/askTRP25/04/14 09:21 PM
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Yeah, it's a heavy burden to bear, but you gotta go all fucking Chumbawamba Tubthumping on life. Easy to great crushed and depressed about personal failures if you do take on the self-blame, but at the same time, take on the self-empowerment. That duality is far more effective for success than being at the mercy of everything that comes at you.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/14 12:15 AM
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Thanks man. Kind of shitty your post didn't get better reception. Perhaps better to call it tinder / online dating text game. Regardless, there are applications to regular texting, including after fucking the first time and keeping the plate spinning--something that gets overlooked quite a bit. People are forgetting 'game' has evolved quite a bit, not to mention the evolution of how these 90s children are communicating. You consolidated a lot of advice that was out there and got the idea of sext…
/r/TheRedPill25/04/14 12:06 AM
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This is similar to my friend's game, and he's doing very well with it, but is horrible at explaining, so I really thank you for connecting a lot of the dots. Always regarded sexting as a bit of a joke, but shit, I see it working right in front of me now. So, I'm going to ask potentially retarded questions because I realize my game here is erratic and lacking: Can you describe the timeframe / timeline around these texts & sexts? (Time of day, gaps between messages, etc...) Do you have any guideli…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 01:15 PM
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It's all about balance. I get the impression that the guys who are seemingly speaking in absolutes have actually struck this balance and just aren't realizing it, relative to how bad texting can be for hours and days, getting nowhere.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:35 PM
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If you're amusing yourself, setting up sex, sexting...it's not beta. This post, no doubt though, is good for online dating / tinder, something I've been playing with lately. It's very similar to my friend's game, and he's fucked quite a few from tinder already. Puts a lot of y'all fuckers to shame regarding that app. He's just terrible at explaining what he does, despite knowing PUA and TRP books, without referring to TRP.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:18 PM
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Sadly not. No you're not responsible because of equality and independence! But then, yes of course you're responsible, man, son of the patriarchy, victimizing women.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:07 PM
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No & yes, simultaneously. Welcome to third wave feminism, home of the hamster. Enjoy your stay.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 12:02 PM
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Lora the explora. I propagated the idea recently about telling them to spell it. (Did I invent this? Regardless, it was an original thought to me a few years back, since I have a horrible memory for names). Always works. Even with common names. If they press you, tell them something like, "Idk, I travel a lot", implying you've encountered some odd spellings. If they're still being difficult, that's when you force your phone to them and tell them to just enter it and act as if they're pushing a n…
/r/askTRP24/04/14 11:23 AM
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Why would it not? AWALT. It might require some calibration, but beyond that, there are universally appealing qualities.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 11:05 AM
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Yes, so now we move on to acceptance and learn how best not to get stung, why people get stung, and then we stick our dicks in the wasp's nest. Helpful? I'm liking this analogy.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 10:54 AM
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humble I think that's the key to all of this. I've never tended to lash out and misplace my anger and frustrations, or vented by placing the blame on external factors. With all the negativity directed outward, it removes the ability to analyze and take control. You're giving up your power by rationalizing to make yourself feel better. You're not perfect. You've fucked up. Own it. Fix it. Humility is fuel to change your life for the better. "listen and do as they are told"--I'll just add... quest…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 10:49 AM
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There are plenty of women who aren't boring, have hobbies, and solitary pursuits. Where? Travel more, go to Uni and avoid lib arts, take up hobbies... BUT: As a *sexual strategy*, do not place expectations on women to satisfy these attributes. You set yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. You are best off deriving these attributes from male friends. These friendships last. You don't want to fuck them--an otherwise significantly complicating factor. Not to mention, even with these attribute…
/r/AlreadyRed24/04/14 10:35 AM
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There are plenty of women who aren't boring, have hobbies, and solitary pursuits. Where? Travel more, go to Uni and avoid lib arts, take up hobbies... BUT: As a sexual strategy, do not place expectations on women to satisfy these attributes. You set yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. You are best off deriving these attributes from male friends. These friendships last. You don't want to fuck them--an otherwise significantly complicating factor. Not to mention, even with these attributes,…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 10:30 AM
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One of the simplest things to fix is teeth, which is important if they're really bad. Most people could stand to simply whiten what they've got, others need serious dental work and/or veneers. Like it or not but it speaks to hygiene and caring about yourself. Plus, women are going to be licking them. As others have said, only if something is seriously fucked should it potentially be addressed--otherwise you should have the capacity of doing well. My fear is you will blame the external instead of…
/r/askTRP24/04/14 09:59 AM
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Context. I was teasing her about things she does that are likely simple peculiarities or not very weird at all. Your case... a bit different.
/r/askTRP24/04/14 04:21 AM
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Could be that you tried talking to her afterward instead of holding that amused frame and ignoring her where eventually she'd need the attention since you actually stayed aloof.
/r/askTRP22/04/14 10:49 PM
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This is the impression I got, and OP was oblivious to the signs, which also explains why he left out how he responded to her. In his head, it was her acting crazy--which a lot of other people seem to be saying in here. Blaming the external. Seriously guys. This is TRP. We're supposed to have better understanding than 'Damn, bitches be cray', something any guy can tell you.
/r/askTRP22/04/14 10:25 PM
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Just joking and teasing a girl once, said 'you're weird', and she got far too serious about it. RED FLAG ABORT. Confirmed, actually weird.
/r/askTRP22/04/14 10:22 PM
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Note how OP and her were friends before their 'relationship': we were only friends when [her & her ex] were together He's completely in the provider role, bumped up from orbiter, and their relationship is 'on the DL' so that she's easily approachable to other guys. It's beautiful.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/14 10:16 PM
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"Yup. So you better keep me entertained."
/r/TheRedPill22/04/14 04:20 AM
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Sex, fortitude, accomplishment of goals, and happiness...
/r/TheRedPill19/04/14 09:30 AM
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So when does it end? This catharsis isn't helping you move on. It's bitterness, something many need to get over when digesting TRP. It's a bitter pill. Reflect and extract lessons from the past, but move forward. There are a plethora of better days ahead if you push to make it so. I will say though, it's good to see the introspection and realization about it being your ego. The next step is dropping that shit. Otherwise, she still has a hold on you, even if in the moment you feel it's the other …
/r/askTRP18/04/14 06:49 AM
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I just made a comment about this the other day. One common thing all guys encounter is other guys hitting on her. Instead of over-protecting or just watching in a typical beta fashion, get her on your team. Give her missions and get free shit. She'll be thinking about you and the fun game you gave her more than the guy chatting her up. It works in a lot of scenarios. Do it for the Cosmos.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 03:37 AM
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any woman who is actually raped suffers, but then the rest get together and talk about how they are somehow hurt by it too thus ignoring the woman actually raped. This is why I get pissed off about the concept of 'rape culture'. How many of these women have met and seen the damaging psychological effects of ACTUAL rape? I have. Add to it, I've been a 3rd party to a girl making false accusations to cover her ass and when I've been told by other girls they were raped, I can tell they were full of …
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 03:21 AM
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What he said was terrible. Women want to be taken not raped. /s
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 03:12 AM
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They're going to rape the 110-pound skank who got too drunk at the club last weekend. And they're going to rape her again, and again... I think you mean "rape".
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 03:11 AM
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eventually Beautiful validation of TRP.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/14 02:44 AM
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Not the only one to say it but, read Mark Manson's Models. What you're calling beta are traits expressed as what he calls 'vulnerability', which can be an asset. You may just need a better handle on when and how to channel it.
/r/askTRP17/04/14 02:42 AM
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It's turned into an echochamber of bitterness and mensrights more than sexual strategy. There's a post in asktrp by a new guy who is desperately trying to avoid false rape allegations, when, he did nothing of the sort. She gave him a drunken bj, and now he's way too serious to the point of it fucking up his game. She joked that she was really drunk and he went into panic mode. If I had a dollar for every time the alcohol was blamed... People aren't connecting to reality anymore.
/r/AlreadyRed15/04/14 05:53 PM
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...that's way too serious, uncomfortable, and you're making a mountain out of a molehill. 'It's cool, me too' 'that was quite an adventure' 'I feel like I have a hangover part 4' Yeah, none of these are great but they took 2 seconds to write and it doesnt much matter. Words aren't as important as action. Saying you accept her slutty bj giving side vs showing it...you want the latter. You get the latter by playing it cool and not making a big deal out of it. That's comfort. Here...want to know ho…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 05:42 PM
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And after that you can interpret the others slightly differently. I first thought "I <3 him" was bad LTR type ("I love him, but I don't want to have sex with him")... but, it actually means she's enamored with him. He makes her feel "safe" which I also first thought meant, beta-ish safe(tynet), but then asshole/family dislikes him flipped it. He's strong and she gets the tingles for him whereas the other guy she simply 'likes', they're great friends, and have fun like one of the girls.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 10:10 AM
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We were both looking for a friend at first, with something possible in the future. There's just so much wrong with this right here. What is with this vaginal thought process? This is something girls say to lock down their orbiters / providers and test potential guys to see if they'll get pigeonholed like you did. She clearly is looking. And you were too. If you asked her out finally now, you clearly wanted to fuck her from the start. You really need to understand yourself as a man and separate w…
/r/askTRP15/04/14 09:45 AM
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Okay. Wow. I see you used my morning reply that I mentioned in the other thread, but you're taking things over the top. It was meant as a minor off-hand message that takes minimal effort, and is a 'just in the extremely rare event' thing. Unfortunately, that's not an ideal reply from her when you're (overly-)paranoid and first going about these things, but it's really nothing to get too worked up over. Don't be needy and just joke with her back. Don't come from the expectation that she's going t…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 08:59 AM
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Book: Married Man Sex Life Not married myself, but highly and often recommended in these parts
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 08:41 AM
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I'm guessing his house.
/r/askTRP15/04/14 08:36 AM
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or less true....
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 08:32 AM
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Tells me I can't understand his struggles because I'm a woman, and that he'd rather trade places You said this?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 05:30 AM
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At least the feminists I've dealt with have always wanted to split bills / pay for their share / treat me. Yay equality...
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 05:24 AM
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You don't think I've encountered that?! 'I've traveled a lot, I have no idea how it's supposed to be spelled' ...and you can always hand it to her, disappointed in her being difficult, and tell her to type in in.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 04:50 AM
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Just to tack on a little tip, if you forget her name, get her phone number and ask her how to spell it. Even the most common names that seemingly only have one spelling can be used, just be on your toes. ('Seriously?' 'Yeah, I know some people that spell it differently'). If she makes me try to guess, I'd sigh, disappointed in her, give her the phone, and tell her to just type it in. Mission accomplished. I have no shame admitting I've done this.. many times....
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 03:54 AM
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Always question, even TRP. I think this is overlooked, but thankfully I have seen others say the same. Above all else we need to pride ourselves on being critical of all the concepts and of ourselves. The use of logic over emotion and repeated questioning is largely what separates us from SRS/TBP/etc.. And to do that, experience is necessary, as you say, redrawing your map. Putting blind faith into TRP isn't quite getting it. With more and more users, new guys and all, you're going to have to us…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 11:01 PM
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Right? Even before my trp days I had a girl that'd shit test me a ton and try to get me jealous (second time I met her she tried hitting on the bartender. well, I had already made friends with him and he told her how great I was instead. beautiful--it pays to be social). Back to the point... At a bar outside, I spark up a conversation with a guy next to us who was reading a book about american politics (I'm american in a foreign land), and she starts talking to this group of guys who're into her…
/r/askTRP14/04/14 10:43 PM
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the first night I met her there was definitely sexual attraction on her part, lust/passionately making out. So I don't know, I could have done something between now and then. So what youre saying is, that doesnt exist now...within two weeks. Also, why the hell are you in a relationship after two weeks? There was your first mistake. You're in college? Plate spin. Get some experience and be picky so you don't settle on the first hot girl you try to lock down.
/r/askTRP14/04/14 05:14 PM
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The Outreach Program for Women (OPW) helps women (cis and trans) and genderqueer get involved in free and open source software. Seriously. What the fuck? I had to laugh. These people can't get involved on their own? It's open source, open to everyone. There are no barriers here. Societal stigma? Please... I think trans & genderqueer folk have dealt with enough stigma to be able to mitigate any semblance of bias against involvement in open source software.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 07:49 AM
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I wrote this to another comment, but I'll reply again to you directly: The next morning if I don't get a text first, I'll just make a statement like, 'I had a good time' to which it'll usually be a 'me too' 'thanks' or <3's and shit. If some chicks think that comes off as needy and don't want to see me after because of that (the other guy was worrying along these lines--doubtful if it's phrased that way imho), so be it. But, that probably means the sex was shit too.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 07:35 AM
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The next morning if I don't get a text first, I'll just make a statement like, 'I had a good time' to which it'll usually be a 'me too' 'thanks' or <3's and shit.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 07:32 AM
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I don't want to see this being used to justify hermit-like behaviour. If your goal is self-improvement, and you have a long way to go, you have to exert yourself and jump at opportunities. You hate the club? What's the real reason you hate clubbing, find it difficult to pickup and you feel bad about it? Quelling this fear of missing out should be used to strike a balance in your life after you've made progress. It should be used if you're currently over-exerting yourself and not centering on you…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 06:50 AM
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If it helps, chalk it up to having an off day. If it hasn't been a issue, don't develop a silly neuroticism about it. Not everyone can operate at 100% ideal-self, every day, every hour. Also, you can take this as a simple, little reminder to push yourself even more.
/r/becomeaman10/04/14 07:53 AM
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'Happy man, happy life'
/r/TheRedPill08/04/14 05:09 AM
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She'll come back when she's off her period It's funny, I think he was leaving that out of the equation.
/r/askTRP04/04/14 04:00 AM
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Good. Baby steps. Although, you very likely have a warped view of your relationship with this girl. Yes, she said she was a virgin, but, it's college. Should have sealed it, and somewhere around here things get weird: "But the fling pretty much officially died out about a month ago." And you spent plenty of semi-awakward time with her since. At the very least though, you're carrying yourself better and not getting too deep into your head and reacting to everything she does trying to gain favor w…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 06:17 AM
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Here's an important post. (Also, I just searched the main sub for 'unicorn', granted I knew it was there) http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1w7x0z/stop_looking_for_the_fucking_unicorn/
/r/askTRP02/04/14 05:08 AM
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That's the burden of trying to maintain logic and reason on your side. Like here with this post, we have to question ourselves to make sure we're not once again mindlessly spouting ideas (even if they happen to be rooted in truth) or mindlessly receiving them. This is a key attribute that separates trp from tbp of simply being a countering ideology. We get to the root of the issue by asking questions, toning down the emotional gut-response, and thinking critically. If we fail to do that, we're s…
/r/AlreadyRed01/04/14 08:37 PM
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For one, the concept of 'nice guy' is a bit screwed up, since usually that's all surface level. If a guy is supplicating and getting walked on, he feels an unease and frustration, but tries to bury it. You'll see nice guys finally blow up and spew immense vitriol and bitterness. They're lying to themselves, you've been lying to yourself saying it's okay and how it's supposed to be. But, it's dishonest, and the idealism you may have in your head is the blue pill fantasy. Your positives are good. …
/r/askTRP01/04/14 09:12 AM
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get a spotlight on stage, you can get some poon.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/14 09:01 PM
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Tinder is a numbers game. You should expect hundreds of matches. If you're looking for practice, throw in some of those girls that are 'okay' despite you 'being picky'.
/r/askTRP29/03/14 08:56 PM
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I see posts like these all the time, and it's more along the lines of telling us what to aesthetically like. There's nothing RP about this. Any blue pill guy could say this. Hell, I've heard it before. These chicks don't fit in their white picket fantasy. Good lord, heaven forbid, there are chicks we just want to fuck out there. What is more useful is making generalizations about their character and mindset. Red flags and such. But most are already aware. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 08:41 AM
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Counseling doesn't work. I went 5 times and said "fuck this shit" and never went again. Biggest waste of time/money ever. It was basically saying how you felt/why you felt and then he'd sit there and listen and sometimes try to get your emotions out of you. IDK try it if you want but I know others who also said it wasn't worth it. I was reading a book about how some CEOs and entrepreneur types had gone, for this was their outlet and they had few they could be deeply candid with in their position…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 08:32 AM
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Heh, I had a conversation with my mother the other day where she was telling me that I wanted a very intelligent girl to marry and blah blah blah. I said, "Eh, that's what friends are for." She didn't have a response. TRP has really helped filter through the bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 08:14 AM
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Don't be an asshole either. I mean, you can be, but, you can also be virtuous and be RP. Be an asshole is what kids in highschool think they have to do to get girls. And then they overcompensate and can't calibrate it, and come off as major douchebags, in the worst way. To actually go along with the advice that followed, it should say: Do what you enjoy.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 08:09 AM
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Good stuff. I think you're in for a great deal of self-reflection and realizations now that you're out of that and also in here.
/r/askTRP11/03/14 07:26 AM
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Man, while doing that test linked in OP, I actually thought back to when I was a kid in elementary school and compared it to now. I was fucking ruthless (mind you, top student, and I largely stayed in good graces--all part of being able to get away with it). I loved to be the center of attention, led groups and knew I was great at it, manipulated and schemed my way into getting as much as I could from other kids, from snacks to toys. If you bartered with me, I'd always have one over on ya. I fel…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 06:58 AM
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Everything is for the self. Indeed, people are treated well because alliances are beneficial to oneself. Even 'selfless' philanthropy is done to grant that person the feeling that they have done something good.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 06:48 AM
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The basic formula is, if you leave the relationship and you're unaffected, even if she ends it, suddenly she begins to like you again. Magic. The trap is going back to how things were. If you wanted to salvage a relationship, you could come back to the relationship as the one in control of it. You set the rules for how things are going to be from now on, and if that's not okay, there's no relationship. But....it sounds like that's not what you really want to do, considering you were going to end…
/r/askTRP11/03/14 06:21 AM
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Well, in our society you can't blatantly be for abortions, even when you're thoughtful and well reasoned. Public opinion shames you.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 01:38 AM
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Of all the lies in that, of which there were many, the PP thing was simply sugarcoating it since most people know about the abortions but not so much anything else. Meh. Embrace the abortions and sex ed. Own it.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 06:19 AM
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The fat one counts as two, so who's the 3rd?
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 06:11 AM
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Only a sophomore and acts like his GPA will forever be low. Well, with that kind of attitude... But yeah, if you're not actually prepared and focused, the GPA is likely only to get worse from here. We don't know your skills or your actual interests. Go look at a list of careers. Ask advisors and/or professors in fields you're interested in about niche careers that you may not be familiar with. Ask what some of their past students have done after they graduate and what they've gone on to do. If y…
/r/askTRP10/03/14 01:14 AM
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You deleted your comment, buy you said: Avoid generalizing your own personal experiences onto everyone else's. I saw very little of my dad from ages 1 to 12, and I honestly didn't notice or much care about his absence during those years. :: Children of such an age are also more defiant of their parents, and a father is better suited than a mother to teaching and enforcing rules of discipline. This is why I recommend having your child come to live with you during their adolescent years, say ages …
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 09:32 AM
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You fucked up, you know you fucked up. Don't fuck up again. Bring a chick with you if you want to go.
/r/askTRP08/03/14 07:39 AM
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Its not as big of a deal to them.. Let me expand on this because I don't feel that statement alone is quite right. It's a significantly bigger issue for the guy/the relationship if his girl cheats than if a guy cheated on her. She's quite adept at rationalizing all of it. That's why its relative effects on the relationship can be downplayed, and why you may say that it's not as big of a deal to them (whereas, it's a major issue for the relationship as a whole). It comes down to respect of the le…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 08:46 PM
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A lot of us have been there buddy. Do you still have to work with her? This happened back in high school for me. This shit changed my life. It was miserable. I lost 100lbs trying to get fit so I'd be good enough, in all aspects since we got along so well otherwise and seemed perfect for each other. Well fuck, I was deluded. You're deluded too. We were the definition of beta-orbiters. Your foundation of understanding of the situation needs to be destroyed. Fuck, this is going to take time. Stay h…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 10:35 AM
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she likes 6,2 men with muscle and you don't fit that Most women do... That's not a be all end all, not to mention it doesn't help him constructively improve his numerous mistakes. He became the definition of a beta-orbiter. That's the real issue here.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 10:08 AM
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Judging from the title....
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 09:55 AM
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I've heard this thrown around but I don't buy it. As long as theyre still in contact with you and having good times with you then its not over in their head. Just because you prepare for the event doesn't mean it won't hurt. I was prepared to downvote you too, but yeah there's some truth to both sides. Not all separations go so smoothly and can bring forth a lot of emotion from them. It can get messy. Both instances can be true. Some are 100% done with you. Probably have cheated on you and/or ha…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 07:55 AM
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I'm sure you'll get the idea, but yeah.... don't apologize for shit like that. You just admitted you didn't say what you actually wanted and weren't being honest. That doesn't necessarily mean you should say something sarcastic and pissy and escalate a pissing contest, but rather, don't cater to that kind of behaviour. You don't have to make everything better and fix all her feelz. She's capable to sort her own shit out in time. Just ignore that shit and do what you want to do. You be the consta…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 06:36 AM
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/r/TrueAtheism is a bit better
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 06:29 AM
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...I figure the least I can do is at least attempt to make her happy but her go-to mood is angry and pissy and I can't stand it. She doesn't have any friends and she scares off all the ones I try and bring around...So that puts an immense amount of weight on me being her only outlet when I like to socialize. Well, here's the thing that takes some time to get your head around in a relationship. You're the captain, she's the first mate. You're the king, she's the queen. She should be happy when yo…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/14 06:26 AM
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I get what you're saying, but you're approaching it from the wrong frame of mind. There's a difference between focusing on trying to act disinterested by talking to other girls to get one to show how cool you are compared to having an abundance mentality / having other girls around you normally. The key thing is neediness and being genuine in your action. If you're needy you're going to seem to be pretending or out of place. You can try to flirt with other girls to attract one, but you'll keep c…
/r/askTRP07/03/14 06:12 AM
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She's basically as close as a man could get to a unicorn. Drop this idea. Also, we can't tell you what to do in regard to your own personal moral compass and how you want to manage a LTR. So, what do you want from us besides that.. Stats on how often high school sweetheart marriages end up going to shit? Let's just say, most. But on the other hand, I feel very confident that I could use TRP to live a pretty badass MGTOW lifestyle. I think you're a bit confused about the concept of MGTOW, and you…
/r/askTRP06/03/14 09:12 AM
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Hate keto, the cult and crash-diet nature of it (unsustainable), paleo's just too limiting, and it makes things far too complicated for myself. So: COUNT CALORIES. Burn more than consume every day. Plain and simple. No bullshit necessary. MyFitnessPal+the app. /80lbs of fat lost and sustained
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 08:48 AM
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The devil is in the semantics. This is how I find myself free to say anything RP to women and close-minded men. You dance around trigger words and actually tap into their core. With a misstep, all you get is an emotional wall, they stop listening, and can't wait to use their useless retort. It's very much a good practice in calibration and is useful for many different topics of conversation, particularly when the other person has beliefs feelings that go against what they should intrinsically kn…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 08:45 AM
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What? No. There is no 'classic RP' only about attracting women. Fuck, TRP goes above and beyond just women and at times has little to do with them at all. Handling LTRs may not be as common here, but there have always been plenty of posts regarding it. This isn't simply a better form of /r/seduction.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 07:17 PM
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Yet far as i know she was once with a guy 5 years older than her in hs, but other than that I don't know of any other bf that she has had. So, you don't know. Even then, women don't think omission is lying (when they do it---they obviously don't agree from the other side of it), so you'll probably never know. Just because she may not have had a 'boyfriend' besides this guy, it doesn't mean she hasn't had short things and flings that hurt her. It sounds like this is the case. Pump and dumped one …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 11:18 AM
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All of this is irrelevant unless you are thinking about marriage. Ding. I've said it before, and this really helps me put things in perspective. I ask, "Am I prepared to marry this girl? Have kids with her?" The answer is no. Even if the answer is 'well, maybe, in years and years from now...' the answer is still no, because I ask, do I see this actually lasting for that long? Everything is roses? NO. We get caught up in the present and fail to look at the future and our long term goals and expec…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 11:16 AM
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He took control of his wife in a manner conducive only for himself. His wife doesn't feel abused - in fact she thinks she loves him more -- all part of his twisted manipulation. /as_read_by_a_feminist
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 11:07 AM
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Tossing a hot dog down High Street
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 10:57 AM
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It's possible. It's shit for both parties even if all goes well. But it's possible. I've seen both sides of the coin. One girl cheated on her fiance and claimed she got raped, two others were faithful for over 4 months and one of them is getting married to him now. So yeah, there's that. But, there are so many women out there....just....why as a man would you do that to yourself unless you didn't have: options.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 10:50 AM
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Heh, I think a lot of people in here have forgotten or have never met the commonplace, incredibly socially retarded engineer. It doesn't help that there were hardly any girls in courses either. Maybe one attractive one at that. There is just no hope for some if they don't actively self-reflect, go out, and seize it.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 10:42 AM
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As much as I disagree with someone on one...okay, many issues, that does not invalidate everything they say. Mind you, I still cringe. /libprogressiveantigunprogayrightsatheistscientist
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 10:33 AM
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I haven't seen this before, but very well put. This is what I would have highlighted: The violence occurring on school campuses today does not come from playing with toy guns. It comes out of anger, frustration, and a sense of rejection. The issue isn't the gun, the issue is what goes on in the mind that uses it. Hell, living in different countries than the US, I'm largely 'anti-gun', but the real issue is not the tool itself. If guns weren't available, that same person would find a different wa…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 10:29 AM
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I make an effort to see her still because sometimes it turns into amazing sex, but the rest of the time I usually end up in tears when she won't let me stay over. First and foremost, stop making an effort. (For one, it's more likely to happen that way when you don't try). If it's easy and put on a platter, you take advantage of it, if not, keep on living the good life away from exes. Second, you're aware of a lot of your problems, which is great (but tend to become blind to them when you feel a …
/r/askTRP05/03/14 10:18 AM
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Exactly. Your father (my father? yeah, my father.) can be there, but not actually play an integral role in teaching you life lessons, even if he's fairly on the alpha side of the spectrum. Some father's just aren't very good at communicating any of this or want to remain very hands off.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 09:55 AM
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Eh, he's not doing this because it empowers her. No guy cares about that shit really. He believes it's okay to settle and blindly thinks this will lead him to indefinite sex & happiness.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 09:49 AM
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Well, I plan on going back and investigating further haha, perhaps it was just a weird surface impression and changes in time.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:35 AM
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However, I don't think it's really of much use for you career wise unless you are planning to stay in education. If you know how to spin it, any experience can be a great addition. Hell, my sales experience taught me how to sell myself in a resume or interview. ;) 'While abroad I worked with diverse people, and still retain great friendships. There I honed my communication skills, developed great patience, and an ease to bring people together and work constructively within a group. My exposure t…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:30 AM
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I only spent a short time there, but Osaka was vastly different in mentality than Tokyo. Tons of gorgeous women there with thigh-high socks as well. Jesus. I'd say that the significantly industrial framework that developed in Osaka after the war actually still leads to this 'developing country' mentality. Obviously this is not as extreme as most other parts of Asia, but there is certainly less decadence. It's weird, I found it a bit bleak and yet also, my mates and I loved it. Osaka's a bit para…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:17 AM
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Yeah, the people featured here have a personal agenda and have some terrible experiments/studies. It differs from the psychology/social psychology I've studied. Largely, people recognize the biopsychosocial model now, and they're open to interdisciplinary science.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:08 AM
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For future reference on this point, see Falling Down. Mild mannered office clone reaches that point and...well...yeah.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:00 AM
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And yet, she's still a woman. Same shit, different degree.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 09:44 AM
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I saw this posted the other day and the typical feminist replies were taking issue with the show saying they were making the women natural: "Be natural and look how we want you to look". Which, although there is a lot of makeup, the 'natural' state is to emphasize the feminine--which is the entire purpose of makeup. And indeed, women should look how we guys want them to look, if they ever want a decent guy.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 09:40 AM
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So now we're supposed to believe that this clown, who couldn't even talk straight to his own wife, somehow found the stones to pull this off? True or not, the thing about blue-pill guys is, they're still men. Push them to their breaking point and suddenly they regain testicles. This is extremely common. It may come from a bitter place, not RP in that regard, but still, a drastic shift in behaviour. They become bulls in a china shop, whereas we try to harness that.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 09:29 AM
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You're essentially asking what's wrong with being friendzoned...
/r/TheRedPill25/02/14 12:37 AM
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Quality girls are not the type to attract a player, a trp expert, a alpha. Why? Because a TRP expert will realize this girl is not DTF on the first date like some ordinary slut This seems derived from typical blue-pill / white knight arguments against sluts. It's along the lines of unicorn hunting. Listen, for one, it depends on what you as a man are looking for. If you just want to fuck, sure you're kind of right. But, for a longer-than-a-night girl, if you're a player/alpha/RPer you can pull a…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/14 09:39 AM
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That's part of the double standard that exists with cheating. If a guy cheats, generally he's still desirable, because it shows that he's able to pull a woman--social proof. If a woman cheats it's disgusting; all she had to do was spread her legs. But yeah, reflect on what TRPsubmitter said again after some time.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/14 09:32 AM
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I'll just add that these are also RP when looked at from a different angle. Too often guys hold back their genuine feelings when they may be perceived as negative. This brings a new lie: 'Never tell a woman she's wrong.' And they hold back their sexuality as well, which was another previously mentioned lie. The actual advice to take regarding those two is: 'Don't indulge in your own weakness'
/r/TheRedPill04/02/14 08:59 AM
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I'm not a fan of forcing yourself to completely cut off a chick. It can be tedious and stressful to the mind. Keep it more relaxed. If she wants something from you, she'll contact you. If she does, that's when you can act from your new frame. You're fed up, so I'm sure you don't want to reply or contact her for a while anyway. Start making your own ground rules. Make a resolution to never take her out to dinner or help her. If you've fucked before, I'm sure you can be sexual with her. If she wan…
/r/askTRP31/01/14 05:50 AM
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many are victims victims to be pitied at worst You're still looking at it wrong. Women are women. Bears are bears. You shouldn't be mad when a bear mauls you, because the bear is a bear. Coming to terms with that is the full state of acceptance. You might still have a personal chip on your shoulder from women of the past, but approach the new ones with this attitude and understanding. Also, saying they're uniformed pawns implies that you think there's much room for change. Even RPWomen act as wo…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/14 01:25 AM
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...right after she told me that she had fantasys of running away from me with her mom. Pack it up and move on to better things in your life than this. You don't owe her.
/r/askTRP31/01/14 01:10 AM
2

Adult-adult <=> Captain-1st Mate
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 08:09 PM
2

I hate the fact I have to be stuck between two parties. One that goes to the extreme of being anti-abortion, anti-contraception, anti-sexeducation and the other that distorts facts in the name of equality to appeal to womens' emotions (to garner votes). Like with all issues, reality is nuanced and somewhere in between.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 07:52 PM
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Because it's painful to destroy the fantasy.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/14 02:56 AM
2

I'll just add this, you're in a really common stage--sad and bitter--and it's how a lot of RPers get in here. Read the sidebar, absorb over time, and your whole mental framework will start to change and solidify for the better, as a man.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/14 07:52 AM
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It doesn't answer all his questions. It's great and he should watch it, but, don't think that'll cover it. He's in the bitter stage atm. That's the tough stage, it requires time, reading, insight, and introspection. Sidebar!
/r/TheRedPill27/01/14 07:49 AM
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You sound like a generic husband. None of what you said goes along with any sort of sexual strategy, which is what TRP leads to. If you want to be aware of how shit is (are you though?), and choose rationalize to go the route guys have been sold since we were young, go for it champ. It's really unlikely you're going to convince a woman that you have the power to leave her if you don't even have options. It's one thing to cheat, but it's another not to even favor the idea that you should have int…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/14 07:34 AM
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The death of men: 'I la-la-la-love the way you..you cut your cupcakes and hold them' and then goes on to mention how they cuddle. That's what we're churning out these days. Putting women on a pedestal, worshiping how they cut their pastry.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/14 03:34 AM
7

Ok, I see a lot of varying advice already. This has been discussed before many times and usually it ends up as this is: You establish boundaries and back them up with consequence. Don't turn into a needy bitch. Calmly make it known that there are repercussions for her actions. Sure, she can go, she's free to do so, but not without consequence. Most common, you'll leave her. If you say you're out of there, don't say 'for another girl' as if trying to prove something, she should already fear you g…
/r/askTRP26/01/14 03:09 AM
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It really varies with the situation. Dance floor game is tough because you probably haven't met her friends. They don't know or trust you. Generally though, it's good to meet them, have her introduce you, and you start asking questions and take a genuine interest in them. It's actually less about you and more about them. If you connect with them, they actually get the feeling of trust, unlike them interviewing you for the part. So, dancefloor... isolate, make out, talk a little since you probabl…
/r/askTRP26/01/14 12:48 AM
1

I don't mean that you walk away and then try again later. This happens within a second or two. You're still interacting with her. The broader idea is that you completely abandon the concept of rejection, because you don't get rejected, and if you did, it's by a really weird girl that must not be social. You treat the whole thing as playful. It's similar to the concept of her asking a stupid question or something you don't want to answer. You can play with it and/or ignore it completely and conti…
/r/askTRP26/01/14 12:38 AM
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Yeah, I lived in Australia and things were a bit different too. One of my highlights though was when I was 19 and I made it my mission to see how quickly I could escalate to American dancing (because, Australia's dancing eventually ends up there...so why the hell not). I told my mates I'd only say one phrase -- 'We don't dance like this in America'. First girl, blown out. Second girl, blown out. Third girl? Within seconds we were dancing like I normally do, even picked her up & spun her. Then dr…
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:57 PM
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With American dancing, there's not much actual dancing. It's essentially an escalation of genitalia rubbing. You control the overall scenario (front to back, bringing her into you, escalating) but in between, you let her do her thing on your dick.
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:46 PM
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Confidence. Directness. Body language. Physicality. Those things. In another comment I answered in shiteload more detail with some advice.
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:42 PM
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Re: dance with your buddies. If the party is dead, or it's early on and the floor is empty, everyone's on the wall...etc. Get out there and dance with your friends right in the center. See a chick you like too? See if you can get her to go along out there. If she refuses, you head out there with your friends and have fun. Robots and shit. Laughing. It's amazing how quickly people gravitate inward onto the dancefloor and you fucking started the party. Yeah, sometimes I miss college.
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:32 PM
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Maybe you just need to calm down and listen to what girls have to say n shit. On the dancefloor? No. Also, you can be big and not creep.
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:28 PM
3

So, quick question, have you ever tried just grinding? Everyone has something that works for them...because they're confident in it. Me? Music is loud--why bother talking with words? It's cheeky but under-appreciated--we communicate extremely well through other ways. So, look at her, eye contact, smirk, move to her, grab her by the hand/wrist/arm while looking at her and bring her into you, your leg positioned to be like a puzzle piece between hers. Put your hand on her side, I'd usually mouth t…
/r/askTRP25/01/14 12:06 PM
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And I don't know, I felt like if I slipped up and said something stupid all of them would remember it and talk about me afterwards. and then OP: I don't care what her friends think of me You need to fix this. Yeah, they'll talk about you, but you shouldn't be in that negative headspace to begin with. Unecessary. You go in being pre-approved, so maintain and improve that. Introduce yourself, or call your girl out for it playfully, yet unaffected, if she doesn't. Why? Because you're genuinely inte…
/r/askTRP25/01/14 11:31 AM
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All of this. It's spot on. Girl talk behind the scenes is extremely influential. They can make or break you in her eyes. So, enjoy hanging out with them, treating them like you would the girl you're with, excluding banging of course... unless, threesome.
/r/askTRP25/01/14 11:20 AM
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Here's a pretty good video, and he tells a great story from his past. I'll sum it up from memory (a few months ago). Our storyteller is with a foreign girl that's into him and had met earlier in the day. Later he's in the group talking, holding everyone's interest, and she gets a lot closer to him. Then a fucking foreign guy comes THROUGH THE WINDOW and joins in. All the attention stolen. Foreign guy starts talking, has energy, and the girl drifts away toward him. Instead of trying to out-alpha …
/r/TheRedPill25/01/14 07:57 AM
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Like Tway_the_Parley says, I too recommend the Black Phillip Show for you. It may just be the slap in the face you need.
/r/askTRP24/01/14 06:21 AM
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Look, I wanted to respond to you specifically because I've been in your shoes, I know that gnawing feeling, specifically for a LTR. I've moved around quite a bit, and had short term things, and really wanted to settle down, experience the happiness other people have in relationships, and just have a partner that's always there to support me, even at my worst.... But, that's all changed. That's the fantasy. You said that you've started to see that. As you come to terms with that, you can move on …
/r/askTRP24/01/14 06:14 AM
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Yes, do your homework and be extremely skeptical especially when you're literally being sold something. It's easy to sell to someone who needs something badly and is looking for a quick fix. /scientist /formersalesman There isn't a quick fix. It's a process of building yourself up. It's a mental process (and physical process in the gym). It's knocking out goals and becoming the best version of yourself. Having hit the bottom it's a great opportunity to spring back. Most people float somewhere be…
/r/askTRP24/01/14 03:50 AM
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No. No no no. Take a step back. Your thinking is getting far too narrow. Women aren't the issue, women aren't the quick fix cure. See my other post.
/r/askTRP24/01/14 03:33 AM
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It sounds like the blinders are coming off. But we need to emphasize something here that you left out: achieving satisfaction/success/happiness alone. By your self. As a man. Disregarding women. At the moment, you think you want to get rid of loneliness, fill that hole. You might not realize it, but you're still trying to fill it with a woman, or women. Step back from that. Women are only one facet of your life. A woman can't make you happy. You have have to make yourself happy. That's what they…
/r/askTRP24/01/14 03:30 AM
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Yeah but also you are denying cultural implications, some cultures and homes are more conservative, thus more likely to put shame to the acts of cheating. I didn't deny that, it's actually one of the many nuances I referred to. I'll have you note as well though that there are plenty of foreign women that come over to the US, for example, and their cultural influences break down. They become westernized. The magical foreign unicorns aren't so special in that context. They're still women. Humans i…
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 12:22 PM
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You need to find your own way on this one.## Luckily now, you have another option. You've finally given yourself the option to say no. In the scenario you described, you vocalized what you would have asked yourself before and kept quiet. I'm assuming in the past, you would have jumped to your own answer 'maybe she'll like me better' -- but now you've shattered that false understanding. You have options. So, exactly, what do you get from her? Is it worth your time? Remember, your time is precious…
/r/askTRP23/01/14 11:38 AM
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I like eating at fancy places some times Make it clear through your actions that it's a selfish thing, and it's because you enjoy it. It sounds like the enjoyment you take from going out has been stripped away quite a bit. Do it for you. Also, although it may sound brash, treat her to these nice places only when she deserves them. You don't always have to reward her, do so when you want to, and you'll start seeing a better side to her more often.
/r/askTRP23/01/14 11:09 AM
5

85% of Russian women. NAWALT!!!!!
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 10:19 AM
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I mean if you are talking about your or others practical life, do not generalize, as it is not warranted, just say "the women we are interested in are often slutty" etc. etc. Hahaha, seriously. How many times have we heard this. It's the same recycled argument. Everything is black and white to them. Slut or not slut. Well guess what, things are more complex. We're allowed to make generalizations because we understand the nuances. There's a reason why that ugly girl might be less inclined to act …
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 10:17 AM
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She still has a child after it's born... Which goes back to her willingness to be on birth-control (properly), get an abortion, or, shudder, adoption. If she goes against these, she likely wanted the child and the opinion of the man matters not. She got what she wanted. So, you're full of shit to think of this as being a grand burden on her when she wanted the child.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 01:08 AM
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Liberalism now is plagued by the feminine, reactionary/emotional bullshit. You bring up some good points. On your first note, exactly. Re: racism, if I tell you not to say some racist shit, I'll have a reason to back it up. I've torn into that typical racist uncle we all have, and spawned half-hour conversations about why he holds his views, and why he should change them. Women? Good luck finding an explanation, they'll just want you to stop because you should. (As Patrice would say, they don't …
/r/TheRedPill23/01/14 12:54 AM
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It would be nice to be able to use NAWALT sarcastically, but that would imply everyone's completely on-board with this post. NAWALT is used unironically in TRP, usually when new guys wander in. They either don't understand the broad concepts or accept the subtleties to the generalization made.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/14 08:39 AM
1

It's not like he didn't like her and he appreciated her more logical comedic nature, but then she went off the deep-end. I was actually surprised by how flustered she got, but I suppose I shouldn't be by now.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/14 08:05 AM
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...and be aware that in all likelihood, she will try to get you back as you pull away. (Finally, you started to act like the man/leader of the relationship that she wants). Don't be like most guys that started to move on with the rest of their life and get sucked back in. It will be more of the same before you know it. You need time and experience to work on yourself to prevent this sort of thing from happening again. There isn't an easy fix.
/r/askTRP22/01/14 07:56 AM
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Since this is the most thought out post so far, I'll tack on that, to prevent this situation from happening in the future, you need to establish boundaries (with consequences that you'd actually back up). Hold frame and be willing to walk away. You aren't willing to walk away right now (otherwise you would have already, and any of us would have a long time ago too). She's got you hooked. She knows she can do or say what she wants because you're not going to leave her. While some relationships ar…
/r/askTRP22/01/14 07:50 AM
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Don't let your Professors know you disagree with anything they say. Ever. Heh, this sounds like it applies only to liberal arts where your grade is subjective.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:29 PM
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I get what you're trying to say, but there's a difference between 'trying to compete' and actually competing. They come from two different places. One comes from insecurity, the other from a solid understanding of oneself. With the latter, you hold a confidence and compete for dominance in the sense that, you strive to be better for your own sake.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:26 PM
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Relax with the caps, and what most people don't get is, for a lot of guys that have been raked over the coals by the women in their life, misogyny and objectification is a pretty normal response, and part of unplugging. We don't praise it, we just see it for what it is. Now, I've seen us labeled sexist as well. And, yep, that's true, but mainly in the sense that we recognize the differences between men and women. Strip away the negative connotations and realize we're not trying to forcefully opp…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:08 PM
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I'll say what I say to everyone trying (and failing) to lose weight. If you love running, run. Set goals and do everything to achieve it. But, what's your real goal? Fat loss? Aerobic exercise is overrated. Too many people slave away, and associate pain and hardship with burning fat. The time spent required to burn heaps of calories is laughable in comparison to how quickly you can do the opposite and consume them. So, that leads us to the number one thing. What you eat and how much. The calorie…
/r/askTRP14/01/14 12:25 PM
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When she told me that I was the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful man she has ever known, it stabbed me in the heart because it showed me that those qualities in a man do not matter. Damn, that's a great quote, and I think a lot of guys that have dealt with that rejection can relate. You put into words that counter-intuitive feeling. I think more blue pill guys could hear that and get shaken. Regarding your idea of love, who knows. It's a personal thing. Determine what you've been told to want a…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 11:44 AM
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The thing is, men and women are held to different standards (and should be--despite society telling you otherwise). Women are the lock, and men are the locksmiths. It takes skill as a man to succeed with many women, even lower-teir ones. For a woman, excluding those few that filter her out, she only need expend the effort to open her legs and she can have a whole range of guys.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 11:30 AM
1

If you're extremely careful with your wording, you can convey the same sentiment and get women to agree quite easily. It's something that resonates intrinsically, so they understand. Then comes the hamstering where they, in their own terms, try to justify that with their own beliefs or simply ignore the incongruence. But, the whole 'having to be careful with your wording' thing is part of the feminized nature of society now. It sets off those 'politically correct' triggers. As a liberal myself, …
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 11:20 AM
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This is truly ones of the best thermometers of a relationship. More guys need to ask themselves this and face reality. It applies to everything in a relationship, not just the bedroom. They'll go out of their way to ensure you're happy (so that you like them).
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 11:01 AM
1

Because they commit suicide? No seriously, a lot of guys stay blue until they die. They keep repeating the same thing because it's easier than having years worth of ingrained beliefs destroyed.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:54 AM
1

I hold OP's sentiment here, the desire to eventually raise a child is one thing that has held true for me after TRP. Everyone's different, and I feel OP is a little too strongly trying to impress on you what they personally want for their life. What he says though isn't necessarily a 'societal trick' like the rest of it all. I like teaching, I like watching people grow, and I like myself. I want to instill in someone much of me. This isn't what I've been told to want and think, I've had a seriou…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:52 AM
1

Be careful, I see this mentality a lot here. You're claiming 'NAWALT'. It's the same as a guy trying to find his good-girl soulmate, the diamonds in the rough. Yeah, she might be better at the start, but as time goes on, you're still very susceptible to hypergamy. Classifying some girls as 'cheaters' disregards most of the concepts of TRP. It's not so black and white.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 10:13 AM
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Leave. (A long, long time ago.)
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 09:15 AM
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Kids need to take the red pill. You're not too early. The problem is that we're indoctrinated into one way of thinking at such a young age that it can be incredibly difficult to adopt a world view that goes against the grain (despite how real it seems). Personally, I'd avoid that 'lvl 3', but being here for awhile I've leaned toward 'lvl 2'. The beautiful thing is, you're still young, so your views toward marriage, kids, and all are malleable as you develop more experiences. Everyone getting mar…
/r/askTRP02/01/14 04:02 AM
0

SJW?
/r/TheRedPill02/01/14 03:47 AM
1

That's really quite interesting. Here's a unique connection: Nietzsche perceived the moral framework of Christian modern civilization to be oppressive:...life..a mere investment toward the hollow promise of an illustrious afterlife. The good job, white picket fence, loving wife and kids is the afterlife here. Do as society tells you, follow this path, and you'll be rewarded...eventually, or so they keep saying. But, it's even more interesting when you also consider the conservative call for a re…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/14 03:47 AM
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Since you're addressing new guys, I just want to tack on a reminder that when you say "modern liberal agenda", we usually leave 'politics' out of our discussion and keep it pointed toward the societal effects on men, women, and the relationships in between. Truthfully it can be a bit frustrating as a liberal/progressive person see 'liberalism' attacked here; but, it unfortunately has encompassed the extremes such as modern feminism. In a similar way, conservatives get lumped in with uneducated r…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/14 03:19 AM
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Hidden among the typos and bleeding political conservatism there's some very good insight here. It's necessary to focus more on the 'why' behind the current state of most young men. The feminist bashing that's become pretty prevalent here is great and accurate, but, perhaps too easy to finger point. TRP is less about bemoaning the current state of affairs and more about what we, as men, can do about it--what we, as men, can change about ourselves. The last bit about incentives is a bit of a bitt…
/r/TheRedPill01/01/14 12:32 PM
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You don't get to dictate my plans. We probably don't want to deal with your shit then.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/13 08:44 PM
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Here's the problem. This is perfectly fine to do in person...but leaves much to be desired via text. In person, you could gauge their reaction, and they could better understand you. With text, this could be interpreted in different ways and it does not present the certain impetus/kick in the ass some women need. The OPs response cuts the fucking ambiguity game that you're playing and still conveys much of the same damn thing -- "She knows I want to hang out with her. Now its her choice. There's …
/r/TheRedPill21/11/13 08:37 PM
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I've always been on the 'slut acceptance' side of things. When a feminist starts slutshaming, I get on them for hating women, liberated to express their sexuality.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 03:58 AM
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Seriously, TSilant shouldn't be downvoted, it provides discussion. This is a subjective question really, where you can either set an arbitrary number (we're consulting other people for this?) or not be so anal by taking the actions you describe. "Hoe the bitch down." Arbitrary numbers are ridiculous, it's theoretical fellatio, spoonfed from others' subjective desires. Truth: It's likely the most attractive girls are going to have fucked a lot of guys. The slightly less attractive, even more to v…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 06:08 AM
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Amused mastery. When she pulls some shit, smirk at how cute it is with her trying to play tough. You don't even need to say anything. I'd patronizingly pat her on the head as well. Right now you're taking her too seriously. Everyone's saying you need to next her, but instead, get more plates and take her as a learning lesson. Become immune to this shit, and be amused. You clearly see it happening, so instead of reacting like you are...laugh about how you can see it. Patronize her and hold your f…
/r/askTRP15/11/13 05:25 AM
2

Lots of people are indoctrinated into modern-feminism's bullshit--to the point that they don't even know to challenge it critically. I was. I ridiculed some of the more extreme shit (ex: rape stats), tolerated some else (ex: obnoxious 'girl power!'/reparations), but was blind to a lot of the fundamental biases. I didn't see how these fundamentals could be detrimental (ex: woman having a higher paying job than husband and being more likely to lose respect for him/have the relationship fail). I di…
/r/TheRedPill14/11/13 07:38 AM
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I messaged the poster and another commenter who replied with a similar awful experience. The latter guy got back to me and was actually thankful to hear about TRP; wished he had known this shit years ago. It's nice to see that people can get past the negative propaganda.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/13 06:18 AM
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Am I the only one with a father that was physically there, but pretty much aloof? Alphaish, skilled with mechanical aptitude, yet he was pretty hands off when it came to me--raised largely by my mother. There were no life lessons, and when he would try to 'teach' me some of his skills, it turned into me watching him swear at inanimate objects while he did everything himself and taught jack shit. He can be very much an immature asshole. Now as an adult I can separate the good behaviours to emulat…
/r/becomeaman14/11/13 03:19 AM
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...you're not thinking about marrying that girl I always see you with, are you?" Me: "No, SgtMaj." Him: "Good. Well, if you change your mind I want you to go visit some of your married friends in base housing on the weekend. One of the ways I battle oneitis is by asking myself, 'Am I going to marry her? Would I do it anytime soon?' The answers are obviously 'No' and I realize that whatever relationship we have, it will end. There's no point in trying to cling to her. They're replaceable. I'll ad…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 07:56 PM
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I don't necessarily like this 'made for each other' idea here, or the fitting puzzle pieces. It can be misinterpreted as a guy searching for that special one, the one that completes him, the diamond in the rough--which is bullshit. Many failed relationships would be happy if the guy was living out the RP ideal. ~~ This relationship ended not because of their 'incompatibility' but because of all the blue pill shit. Otherwise, with a red pill mindset, he would have seen incompatibility and dismiss…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 07:38 PM
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They're trying to change blame the world rather than change themselves. ..probably be more accurate. They'll blame the women for their nature. 'Woe is me, woe is society.' When it goes awry, 'she was slut', 'she was a bad egg', or it 'just wasn't meant to be'. Some guys will actually blame themselves in hindsight (kind of like the OP here), but are left to wallow in self-defeat without seeing things more clearly.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 07:25 PM
1

Indeed, I think some guys here are forgetting that you look better when you speak well of your friends and they can back it up. Sure, you may have more competition, but most men enjoy a friendly rivalry more than being a lone wolf. They make each other better. They can talk on the same level. And, well, there's plenty of women out there for the lot of ya. The RP shit carries over to other walks of life--you'll be surrounding yourself with successful people.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 10:39 AM
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She might resort to it next time. Clearly her hamster thought her guilt could be assuaged by getting people to tell her it's okay to not tell him. The next guy might not be so lucky.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 10:16 AM
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I didn't even read the replies, but I imagine it goes something like this: Better luck next time They'll keep hunting for a diamond in the rough--they want to find the right girl that just matches them perfectly. Trial and error. Unfortunately, the error is on them, and they're blind to it.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 09:12 AM
3

Well, don't be creepy about it. If you're in the gym, you're not going to fuck her there, so there's no point in over-escalating. Grab a shoulder, grab her hand, position them, be comfortable and have a good time. Are you familiar with the Vin DiCarlo escalation ladder? get her exhausted Please remember that this is a pretense for hanging out with her, not serious boxing lessons. Have some ideas of what to do afterward--aka, leading. What's your goal? I'm assuming you'd rather tire her out in a …
/r/askTRP13/11/13 05:58 AM
0

Seriously, those aren't the only two categories. Thinking there's such a strict dichotomy will be an unfortunate self-fulfilling prophecy. OP needs to meet more women. It's a spectrum of behaviour. There are plenty of attractive women that aren't slutting it up. Some are better trained than others, that's kind of the idea here. They all have these tendencies, but you need to find a woman that will be more controlled in her actions.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/13 05:38 AM
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From experience, I blocked and completely ignored a girl while I lived away for a year because of shit like this. It was a little bit too abrasive for her though, and it made game with her difficult. Had I done it over, I would have humored her slightly and just stayed distant, where she's working to keep the connection, longing for me, imagining there may be a chance when I return. If this is the first message like that, I'd agree and amplify (To steal/modify: "Yeah, and a white picket fence wi…
/r/askTRP13/11/13 04:33 AM
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Re: entitlement.. Women (aka, average women) rate the appearance of men far more harshly than men do of women. While it should be a normal distribution (how men rate women), women rate men skewed to the right. They have an inflated sense of attractiveness/entitlement. That data is from OkCupid--hence average. An ugly one will struggle with self-esteem and settle (or hoard cats). Settling, though, doesn't change the nature of the beast. But, logically her terrible looks and self-esteem issues may…
/r/askTRP13/11/13 04:18 AM
1

He set himself up for a maybe though. He gave her an easy, possible out.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 05:23 AM
3

Ellipsis, and then if her reply isn't to your liking, silence. It's that simple.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 05:17 AM
1

When their emotions get stirred, boom, logic goes out the window. It's amusing how they fail to see the connection. Seriously, the guy likes physically attractive women. That's all. Unattractive women try to sell the idea that men aren't and/or shouldn't be attracted to physical beauty--I wonder why?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 05:13 AM
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Your test is probably fine. I think people are looking for a biological excuse for what is mainly mental. You're stuck in your blue pill thinking, and you need to get more experience in life. You fail to really understand how replaceable women can be. You crave that feeling of love because it feels good. You want to be in love. I'm sure you've harped on the things that make her special even though she's average looking. You've sold her to yourself to feel that high, that rush. Just go and be nee…
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 04:59 AM
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See, I enjoy that minor sadism...but only when I'm in the moment. It's difficult to generate that sort of attitude when you're not already horny, so I've never had it help 'start the engine', if you will.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 04:07 AM
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I've told em, we'll go another round in the morning, and get them off. If she said I was gay, like in OPs case, it's just a shittest--agree and amplify. I had this happen last night just chatting up a girl. So, I told her I love dicks. The more dicks the better; 4 dicks are a good number. Two for the nostrils, two for the ears.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/13 04:03 AM
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I'm giving the author the benefit of the doubt here--this was sarcasm. Even in present society, she's not getting a free-pass here for being a woman.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/13 08:27 AM
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You're trying to play the game, they seem to accept at first, but then shit test to see if you're for real. It has to be backed up--by passing these shit tests. It requires more experience and recognition. Getting thrown off your game, back to blue is part of the damn process. It's okay. We have unrealistic expectations if we think we're going to simply change everything at the snap of a finger. Learn with each experience. See that this is a shit test. You failed. Now what will you do differentl…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 08:35 AM
1

I've always kept my relationship status blank.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/13 10:47 PM
3

FB is not real life FB has become one of the leading reasons cited for divorce. It's real. But as always, you don't have to play that game.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/13 10:44 PM
1

I'll add that from my pov, it doesn't mean she's not a good girl. If your game is on, (as admittedly it could be with another guy), it doesn't necessarily make her a slut. Sluts put out for lots of guys, easily and often. In reality, getting a chick home with you that night most likely should be a compliment to yourself. I had a realization: White knights slut shame, saying girls who have one night stands are sluts and not good for what they want. I told a WK, if he brings a girl home, it was be…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/13 09:37 AM
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I'll add that, it may be good to at least 'plant the seed' if you will, to those that are lacking--the LALALAers. Some don't know there's another way to look at and understand things, and that it's okay. They don't know to challenge themselves or where to begin. Plant a little seed, they'll seem beyond reproach, but as I said to one of these guys--the next time you have a relationship fail: remember this. Then I just went on and lived my life. As many guys here can attest, they have to hit a bre…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/13 09:26 AM
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We need to redefine 'rape culture' For one, the context that it's used in makes little sense--they're implying that victim blaming is the norm and rape stats are high...which is not the case. Actual rape culture is the opposite of that. It's the culture that they've enabled. It's the culture that is permissive of shaming men, blaming men, inducing significant bias, and removing reason/logic from conversation. Far too easily now, with this rape culture, people get hung up on words and stop listen…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/13 09:11 AM
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See my long ass reply to one of your other comments. If you want to talk to her about it, you'll run the risk of seeming too try-hard--you have to really mean it, yet be matter-of-fact about it. You have to be unaffected. This isn't easy to do. PLUS--you already played this card before and she knows she'll get some wiggle room from you. Finally, you still aren't really addressing the root cause--the lack of tingles, if you will--which I addressed in my other comment.
/r/askTRP07/11/13 08:45 AM
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Wow buddy. So you're really wrapped up in your head and can't see the big picture. Everything bluepill is being rationalized away. This is TRP, so it's going to be harsh, also, heads up, don't rationalize this and say we don't know enough about your situation...it's quite obvious. Okay: You don't want to admit to yourself that you've worked yourself into a shitty position (pretty-betablue). You don't see each other until every other weekend. So.... sex 2-3 times a day is actually sex 2-3 times p…
/r/askTRP07/11/13 08:32 AM
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During the pure blue pill days, I still called bullshit on this. I'm still quite liberal/progressive, but feminism now is off the charts. It's not progressive. The fringe are not moving forward in a positive way for society. I have no issue with fighting for womens' health issues, birth control, rejecting forced vaginal ultrasounds, abortion, etc. but then they go ahead and cite this 1 in 4 number!?!? Boom. Credibility lost. I'm dealing with more idiots who haven't bothered to think critically.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/13 12:55 PM
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Beautifully put, I'll have to remember this.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/13 06:14 AM
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Why are you going after/getting hung up on a 5? Reality check. Go up to her in person and talk about twitter. Apparently you need to practice basic social skills.
/r/askTRP06/11/13 01:18 AM
3

As CEO, make a papier-mâché fleshlight out of hundred dollar bills and K-Y.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 06:09 PM
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Become more self-amused. If you're too serious, you may get too into your head or just end up a bit incongruent with the personality you want. If you're firm yet amused, you'll get a playful, flirty sexual tension--as opposed to that 'lets fuck on the counter right now' sort of deal. I'm assuming this is what you're feeling. So yeah, cheeky sexual tension is nice for interacting with women you meet throughout your day.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 01:38 PM
1

Your understanding of the alpha/beta classification is weird. You seem too hung-up and/or confused about this. Everyone acknowledges that alpha/beta isn't black and white, but a spectrum of behaviour, which varies from action to action, person to person, place to place, relationship to relationship. There can be a balance right in the middle as well, which may be what you mean. (Re: The balance, with male friends--it's easy to have a balance where one takes the lead, then the other does, and vic…
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 03:49 AM
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You'll find women can agree on this concept and they'll argue that there's equality since the power shifts back and forth from one side to the other and balances out in a beautiful way.... ...which is generally not the best relationship (if it does exist). When women start gaining power in the relationship, it tends to grow for them, and their opinion of the man changes negatively. The beautiful balance that women crave in a relationship is more like 60/40, male leading. This is what actually fe…
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 03:44 AM
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A secretary is obviously just as valuable as the CEO of the company. You didn't know this?
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 03:34 AM
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People refuse to challenge their understanding and refuse to be open minded because, being wrong hurts. It's a defense mechanism. They dig into their own beliefs further and ridicule others to feel right and safe.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/13 03:20 AM
3

I can't imagine living like that forever, it seems like something to do in spurts. That's where the problem lies, people aren't used to eating 'normal food' once they (read: many) stop doing keto and end up eating too much like they used to.
/r/askTRP05/11/13 03:13 AM
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But I really want to be as "purple pill" as I can. Red pill to attract, blue pill to attach, the combination to maintain a relationship without falling into either extreme. Thats my goal and ideal at least. Since you're new into understanding TRP, this purple pill thing is a faulty concept, there's some confusion. TRP is simply understanding how things work, how you act is up to you. If you have a relationship and purposely keep supplicating for her affection, and recognize that this is why it's…
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 10:17 AM
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They made you break up with them to remove guilt/blame from themselves. You look like the asshole & it gives them free reign within their social circle to have the next guy without being seen as slutty in the least.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 10:04 AM
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After tossing around a few ideas here and there, I just recently introduced a friend via The Black Phillip Show. I left all terminology and reddit out. It's the ideas that matter.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 09:46 AM
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Common advice/actions, not implicit instructions, which is a key distinction. As I said, you can then ask if that common advice derived from TRP is ethical. Being presented with such advice, newly understanding what may be beneficial, does often challenge one's moral code.
/r/askTRP04/11/13 09:37 AM
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Substitute the work 'framework' with 'understanding' and you'll see that it doesn't make sense. "Is TRP an ethical understanding [of the world/relationships]" Compare this to: "I've swallowed TRP. I see it may be beneficial; but, is it ethical to sleep around while dating?"
/r/askTRP04/11/13 09:18 AM
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No, your -isms there are encouraging a certain course of action. MGTOW is one example that is similar which you could analyze the ethics of. TRP is an interpretation of social dynamics. How you see something isn't a question of ethical or unethical. It's the actions undertaken with a new understanding (such as MGTOW) which can be questioned in addition to the objective actions happening in the world. I think what you're trying to get at is: "Are the common, resulting actions from taking the TRP …
/r/askTRP04/11/13 09:10 AM
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That last bit is pretty much key to answering this. We see it advocated a lot here for guys to sleep around because it's an easy way to stay valuable in the eyes of women (whereas guys take a much more negative view of a woman). As you say, the consequences of such are much different for a guy. And finally, OP acknowledges some biological understanding but disregards this in relation to LTRs.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 09:00 AM
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Even before TRP, I'd say no, take it if they persisted, set it down and start to walk away or start to rifle though it. That shit stopped.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 08:51 AM
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Hahah! So she gave herself a free-pass (guiltless foreign fucking!) & kept his credit card. Brilliant.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 08:49 AM
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You're wrong here, which is somewhat expected given your username. You don't compete with women on an emotional level. You be emotionless/nonchalant/indifferent and that will trigger emotions that work in your favor. You're not giving her what she wants so she'll have to change.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 08:44 AM
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don't forget being pro-rape.
/r/askTRP04/11/13 08:39 AM
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(It's ineffective to see reality from a blue pill framework) There's no such thing as an 'ethical framework'. A framework here is an interpretation of what's going on in the world. You can't sensibly ask whether the framework is ethical--only, if what is going on is ethical. For example: It doesn't matter how you interpret a woman cheating on her husband after a few years of marriage (ie. she was a whore vs he lost his value in the relationship). All you can ask is whether her objective actions …
/r/askTRP04/11/13 08:35 AM
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it hurts my frame a bit. Right, so, it's confidence. Stop giving a shit in the bedroom. You can care outside of it and get your diet in order, but not in the damn bedroom. You're already at the point in which she'll sleep with you and it's not because of how you look physically. You wouldn't be in that situation if it was just looks. So, stop fucking it up for her. She doesn't need a dude that gets self-conscious right before sex.
/r/askTRP04/11/13 08:24 AM
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ex: Take a piece of chicken breast, measure its weight, determine how many calories are in that many oz or g of chicken breast. MyFitnessPal, automatically calculate your caloric goal, log you food, scan barcodes with your phone, Jesus it's easy.
/r/askTRP04/11/13 08:20 AM
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You just don't eat carbs, and can't, because if you do, you've fucked it up. It's 'healthy' in that it can be prescribed by doctors for patients with diabetes. (Personally, I'd hate my life while eating that shit). keto has its uses, some claim they're less hungry as well, but it's so overrated and cultish. A simple caloric deficit is fine for the majority of people and it's sustainable. I remember seeing a followup study where 80% were not able to maintain keto in the long run. The problem? You…
/r/askTRP04/11/13 08:15 AM
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Ah yes, I saw this on facebook. It's absolutely incredible how much this guy is putting into the relationship--the selflessness and sacrifice as he even says. But what of her? There's no mention or expectation of her sacrifice. Read it. It's all about her. She's the only important one in this marriage, and she should be showered with grand gifts and supplicated affection. ...but remember, marriage is a 50/50 partnership. Ha!
/r/TheRedPill04/11/13 07:17 AM
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Yes, as men we need to take responsibility for these things. Blaming the girl might make you feel better, but it's not helpful. You don't learn anything. You just bounce like a pinball to the next one and pray that she'll be different. They search for the diamond in the rough without addressing their own issues. While it may be true that this may not have happened with a different girl (NAWALT), guys get too hung up on this thought as a defense mechanism. They shift all culpability. That's usele…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/13 08:14 AM
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I used to cringe at the simple loss of freedom when these kids married young; now I realize it's generally much worse in the long term than I thought.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/13 08:02 AM
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I'm absolutely going to have children. I really want children of my own, just not now, and not for a very long time. Hell, someone mentioned getting a surrogate so that custody can only be with you. That's an idea. Single fathers are far more attractive than single mothers anyway, so that's no issue.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/13 07:59 AM
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You're acting like your life is concluding. Which is hilarious. Do you have any idea how big the world is? You were in a tiny high school. I suggest traveling/living abroad soon. The only problem is, it happened too late, after the prime opportunity to experiment with sex and relationships A tiny high school is not a 'prime opportunity'. In the timeline of life, you're just out of puberty as a guy. still at Community College because I applied only to MIT and got rejected like a dumbass Congrats,…
/r/askTRP31/10/13 04:49 AM
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voting booths ...because men are always super logical when it comes to politics and are the only ones even capable of logic. /s Man, fuck that. Women are capable of being logical and making informed decisions (just as men are capable of having surface level, emotional opinions). We generally throw their capabilities of logic out the window when it comes to sex/relationships though, because that's tapping into some primal shit. You're blaming women for things like the rise of modern feminism, but…
/r/askTRP31/10/13 04:32 AM
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You seem to be putting her on a pedestal, and even if she was the most objectively attractive girl on campus, this isn't helpful. As I said, you need to be willing to take the loss. Here, I found this for you. It should be useful in your situation.
/r/askTRP30/10/13 11:08 PM
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Seriously. Women are people, but they're different people. Instead of just accepting 'women are crazy' we form useful generalization consistent with female behaviour. This is not reducing their humanity. We don't hate women. Some guys are bitter and still blame women; this is just a sublimation of their own anger from being jaded. The advice and opinions on average aren't ridiculous. OP has never heard them spoken so sharply. The 'language' comes from making it easy to discuss concepts. That's a…
/r/askTRP30/10/13 06:22 AM
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Stop and review your past actions. Actually take on board the ideas that you read. Do you really think that spending hours together with a girl and play wrestling is RP? (then she chuckles away any and all tension). You're not even close. You sound friendzoned, so fix that in a RP way. You toss the chess board in the air. You need to be willing to take the loss. You need to tell her, not angrily, instead, firmly and matter-of-factly that you want some pussy and that if that's not going to happen…
/r/askTRP30/10/13 04:46 AM
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I didn't see this directly cited, but here's the actual bit about wikistorming: http://femtechnet.newschool.edu/wikistorming/ I didn't see much about students actually getting credit for this 'DOOC' or how 'wikistorming' would contribute to their grade.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/13 04:32 AM
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In addition to all the other advice, re: oneitis... I'm guessing you do not travel much. If you did, you'd actually know the world is a big place. Yes, we all can quote population numbers, sure, but you don't really understand on a deep level until you travel. I came from a fairly small town, small high school...these were the only people I knew really. Then I left 1000mi for college and then lived in another country. It changes you and puts things in better perspective. I didn't truly understan…
/r/askTRP28/10/13 07:10 AM
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Keep yourself so busy you dont have time to deal with girls until you're about 20-25 Eh, keep yourself busy, but seriously, start on your game and socializing skills sooner. The key is, never let them seriously interfere. That means...no girlfriends and blue pill shit.
/r/askTRP28/10/13 07:06 AM
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It's amusing that post-high school, I noticed that some girls in my class were very hot, but they were never even on my radar until the testis dropped in college. They were outside my reality.
/r/askTRP28/10/13 07:04 AM
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To stop it, though, keep increasing your value relative to other guys around you. I'd say though, avoid comparing yourself to others. If you want to borrow ideas from people (ie. notice guys who have game) that's fine, but if you feel inferior, that may weigh down on you. Instead, commit to improving yourself and be confident in the value of the process. It's better to be where you are now and growing than the cool guys who'll never leave town and stagnate.
/r/askTRP28/10/13 07:00 AM
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which isn't always easy to find. As a young man, mid-twenties, you have years upon years to find someone like this, younger than you. She doesn't. She's bracing for impact.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 05:25 AM
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Well... Me: Make it up to me now. Her: But I'm so tired. Look, I'm sorry (finally!). We need to properly arrange something soon. Xoxo, good night. What would have been the next move here? (instead of him saying good night and then continuing to bitch out) edit: ah, I missed the fact that she said she wanted to see him right at the start, and then he started whinging to show how important his time is. If that wasn't the case though, what's the best move there?
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 05:15 AM
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Yes, there's a way to tone down the appearance of makeup but still get the 'everyday' look. When it's visibly caked on, it's just a shite makeup job.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 05:06 AM
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'Amused mastery' re: the smirk. Imagine patting her on the head, because you have her shit figured out and know why she's acting the way she is (purely emotional as a woman + entitlement to act up based on society's general frowning upon popping her in the face). If you're unreactive, a sort of 'look at her silly hamstering' attitude with a smug laugh, everyone else will see how ridiculous she looks. You'll probably want to slip into your old way right when you see them, be aware of that. You mi…
/r/askTRP26/10/13 03:15 AM
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At the same time I feel like I'm "just pretending to care and act jealous" I'm not sure why because I don't care to the extent that I'm showing her but I felt like I had to because I've been so aloof and distant with her. This is ego. You feel a sense of possession, even if it's rationally not that important to you. As Patrice O'Neal described, imagine you have tons of expensive watches, but you really only have one that you always wear. Then someone comes up to you and says, 'hey man, give me o…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 11:03 PM
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As always, the party trying to hinder discourse is the party with faulty logic.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:45 AM
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You're doing exactly what feminists do: remove all responsibility from your gender. Hey now, don't do me that way. In my first reply I clearly said: I can't fault her. Guys need to wake up. Also, I'd buy that bitch some water. -- The water's free, she aint getting shit from me. People can say no to a scam, and guys should be able to see such a blatant scam if the first thing she asks of him is a drink. You are right when I do what feminists do and remove responsibility from women. They aren't re…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:40 AM
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A scam is a trade initiated with the intent of a significant unfair advantage. If she's actively going up to guys and asking for a drink, it's a scam. If guys approach her and offer, it's more of a trade like you describe. Regardless, I have no issue with either. I'd buy that bitch some water.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:27 AM
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Wife banned from SRSFeminism for asking for their participation. Such childish nonsense. This is beautiful. We just won this 'peaceful discussion' in one fell swoop.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:15 AM
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I'm pretty sure he just implied that those sites are fine, but he takes issue with what she's doing. Which, frankly, she's gaming men to her advantage. I don't fault her and would rather have this malicious honesty out there in the world. Guys need to learn. But instead, they'll see her as a terrible person as opposed to seeing the real issue...the failed attempts at wooing her. It's not like it's impossible to show up with game and have her fall for you. Hell, one guy did when he was going to s…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:08 AM
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Taking your drink issue, it's the same as any woman scamming drinks from guys, just on a bigger, blogged about scale. I can't fault her. Guys need to wake up. Plus I'd be a hypocrite. I've scammed girls out of drinks, and it's devilish fun.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 10:02 AM
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There's okcupid blog data showing that womens' ratings of guys is nothing like ours of them. Women fall on a bell curve for us, the most being in the middle. For them, what should be the average falls more towards a 3. So, yeah. What we'd consider a 2 to 3 for a guy, she'd consider -2. These guys that took her to dinner were normal average dudes, just stuck in fantasy world dating.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 09:57 AM
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The one guy that was going to leave her with the bill is the only guy she actually liked. He stuck around though, so I doubt it ended that well for him. Half the bill and wank.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 09:52 AM
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If those 'Never's stay status quo, then yeah it's blue pill. So, the idea is to apply the mindset you just described to avoid that. The advice by Rose is pretty weak without your added part.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 08:34 AM
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Based on what I have read here, most seem to believe it is a much more conscious choice. We see more extreme examples posted here where there is undoubtedly an ulterior motive in lying about rape. However, I was under the opposite impression that, at least the guys with a better understanding, knew that women act with their emotions and can explain away their resulting actions, after the fact, with genuine conviction. Essentially, we already know what you just said. TPTA12's commenting that this…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 07:14 AM
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Quite probable. They're into you enough to dance with you, then it's body language--the most honest type too. I remember the first time I noticed this happen to me. Russian girl in tight-ass clothes, she stopped and looked back at me with surprise. I found a couch and we were making out right after. Then her friend came and cockblocked. :\
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 07:06 AM
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Same here, different words, same sentiment. Hilarious, and sad.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/13 08:04 PM
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You're going to stand out either way, as you do in any foreign country. Perhaps not physically, but as you open mouth. I've only spent 10 days in Japan, but can see it being more difficult than an American in Australia, especially with a language issue. Younger girls tend not to have met internationals before, so that's the instant in.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/13 08:08 AM
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Ah, I found my first white knights of people I know via fb because of this post. I tore up this article and turned it around to make the author look pretty bad. Then I went back and fourth with a girl I know of, but don't know personally. I summed up a lot of RP stuff applied to this story. Two guys were just liking everything she said, called me out for being totally wrong, and even wrote to support the 'nice guy dinner date' idea. Funny enough, I actually got her to budge a bit right away and …
/r/TheRedPill23/10/13 07:12 AM
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Gender roles. That's why. They want equality in the relationship (read: they want control of it). In reality the balance should be more like 60/40 for men. They lose respect of their man otherwise--it's setting their own relationships up for failure. This is also largely in part a reflection of men as well, influenced by modern feminism. The leadership in the relationship is usually lacking, so it's hard to fault just women.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/13 06:58 AM
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Regarding game, she's full of shit and hamstering... But the rest of it? How she has control in the relationship? It sounds more like she has things well figured out and is supporting her man, while still getting what she wants out of it via standard persuasion techniques (a la How to Win Friends...). It didn't sound like she was faulting her guy and thinking less of him for taking on board her sly manipulations. She'd more likely fault him if she often got her way explicitly, and he knew about …
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 11:11 AM
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Yeah, this is true for any culture and societal upbringing. It has nothing to do with HBD and/or racism. There was a post a week ago or so by a black guy that saw a fine black girl getting off at his train stop. He went in with his 'normal' game but, based on how she talked, switched it up to his 'ghetto style'. There was more blatant expression used after that. Booties were mentioned. Every culture has its differences, but still, they're very similar on a fundamental level.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 11:04 AM
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There are a few broken links?
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 10:07 AM
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It's true as well that you take something different from it when you watch it, let time pass, and then watch again. I've gone through it twice, and about 3 yrs apart, it really was foundation building. I should watch again perhaps, now with TRP....that should be interesting. A note of caution, at least for me, back in 2011, the 2nd time, when I took on some older, normal tactics/advice after watching it, my game got kind of fucked up. In a metaphor, blueprint stripped down the old walls and need…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 10:05 AM
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The screening is indeed quite a good section, and concise. It's amusing now to see my past brutally failed relationships match up perfectly with the red flags. Ah, and this is a gem of wisdom from another: Before you enter into an LTR, you have to have experienced MLTRs. Before you enter into an MLTR, you have to have experienced FBs. Before you have FBs, you have to have a complete life that fulfills you and makes you happy. Most men do this exactly in reverse and suffer at every single step of…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 09:42 AM
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For example: "How would a guy spinning 10 plates handle this?" But, I'm curious if anyone has some other checks on oneself that have proved to be useful. We can't always consult rp/asktrp and perhaps it's best not to.
/r/askTRP22/10/13 09:18 AM
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I'll be she planned on leaving him all along, BUT she wanted to show that HE was the bad guy, and she was the innocent girl. I doubt it was planned. That would require far too much self-analysis and logical thinking. If that was possible, she'd have been able to control her whims. It's all about her feelings in the moment. Subconsciously she didn't like him as a man, but he was providing a wedding. She wanted that. Then without thinking of the future (she didn't have to, she was provided for) sh…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 04:58 AM
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This is also why you never push for a relationship as a guy, should spin plates, and thus make her try to cage you.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 04:53 AM
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The likelihood of someone planning to go that far to shoot you themselves isn't very high, it's mostly going to be an escalating altercation.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 12:43 AM
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No no, I mean that men are fed that notion of innocent women and guilty men. Women, on the other hand, can use that idea subtly as a tool to parade around. In such a situation, they go after the other woman because for one, duplicity is quite common amongst women. There's the saying that women will compliment a woman, then turn around and trash her behind her back for a reason. I think this plays into what you were saying. Also, hell, you can add in to the mix that her bf/husband just showed val…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 11:49 PM
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Seriously, most classwork lacks a clear objective. "Do this." "Why?" "It might come in handy later...." Well how about instead, dangle a little teaser first, show what the goal is, and then work toward it. Suddenly trivial work becomes work that needs to be done and gotten out of the way. Thinking about this makes me want to go back and teach.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 11:12 PM
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For what it's worth, women have more orthogonal foreheads, which would signify a more developed frontal lobe, the area of the brain involved with planning things and putting off gratification. Yeah, pretty much all insight based on external features of the head shape/size are old, widely discredited schools of thought, based in psudo-science. You'll likely find more purely psychological studies about the OP topic as still, with the brain, our understanding is in its infancy. I doubt there's too …
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 11:07 PM
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Contemporary cultural bias: Women are innocent, the victims, and men are likely to blame. Add to it that anger is easily sublimated. Honestly, it's always been a concern with me when hooking up with a chick in a relationship. I could see this being the main reason to get an LTC.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 10:45 PM
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Congrats on getting defensive and being blinded to some actual insight. Stop and think about your actions more. Stop and fucking reflect a bit. Antagonizing out of spite to make yourself temporarily feel better is classic angsty blue pill shit. It's not a healthy sort of happiness. It's done from negativity. You might not see it that way now, but you will later on when you've actually got yourself out of this situation that you're festering in. Your ex is fucking another guy on the reg next to y…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 10:26 PM
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Weird, why would they do that? Well, I just edited and added it to my comment.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 10:11 PM
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My buddy has hooked up with a number of chicks. After a good convo, he's invited them over his place, getting right to it or going out for drinks after meeting him at his place. Myself? Sure, tons of matches, but I haven't found my groove in text form, especially with someone I haven't met. The only thoughts that pop into my head are, Hi, you look fuckable. It's a weird situation. Two people agree they physically like each other, then have mundane conversation in txt form. Or, go straight to sex…
/r/askTRP21/10/13 10:07 PM
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EDIT: Since the above post deleted it, there was an important follow up by the same guy. He tracked the guy down, and got his assed kicked. And got arrested for assault. Did 3 months, during which time she visits him in jail constantly....convinces him to give her another chance. They get married on the 1 year anniversary of their first attempt to get married. My brother refused to attend. 6 months in she leaves him because she feels like he is still "holding her mistake against him". He spends …
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 09:44 PM
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Hahah that's brilliant. I'm actually saving this--balancing the fantasy wedding and materialism with womens' freedom from the patriarchy. All the while, with amused mastery.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:14 AM
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Yeah, you can't convince anyone with firm beliefs by flat out arguing. You're either going to get overwhelmed or, if you're adroit, manage to piss them off as they battle cognitive dissonance...in which case, you're just fellating yourself while making enemies in a graded course.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:10 AM
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Well honestly, this is better than arguing. Dale Carnegie right when he says it. It's best to throw them for a loop, build rapport in the conversation, and slowly lead them toward what you know is right. If you can escalate toward absurdity in a way they have to temper themselves, it'd certainly ruffle feathers without placing harm on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:07 AM
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That's all well and good, except it's the nature of the course...if you take a course like that, it's graded via written work. When you make waves with a professor who isn't open minded, they're going to have a bias against you, subconscious or not. People can be dickheads. Stick to math.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:02 AM
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Alpha and beta is a spectrum, and it always varies in reality. You can do dumb beta shit and get away with it if you've been good otherwise. Life's more complicated than four words. But...let's be honest, if you were 100% on top of your game and didn't do any beta shit, you would have fucked her by now. The longer time goes with you hanging out and not fucking, the more you play her game, she'll have less and less respect for you sexually. That's part of the brutal irony we get w/ RP.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 01:11 AM
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Any guy can be blindly aggressive, it doesn't mean it always works...you just need to better your LMR game, avoid playing her waiting game (she's trying to snag you and put you in a box--remember, you should put her in the box if anything), and think about getting her to want you sexually, no matter what. Oh, and from experience in a similar scenario...get the idea of a LTR out of your head, especially at this stage. Women don't want a tiger so easily caged.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 01:06 AM
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This doesn't matter. That's why game and overcoming LMR exists. Regardless, she's into him...so he just needs to play it right. Focus more on getting her to want him, sexually, no matter what her 'rational' side is thinking.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 12:56 AM
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Seriously, in sales, when a customer says "I'm not going to buy anything" they're very likely to buy something, but only if you sell it well. They say that to convince themselves. Sales/women 101.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 12:54 AM
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This is actually good advice. The other highly upvoted posts sound more like /r/relationships. OP is only spinning one plate and is now thinking about a LTR with this girl--what. She likes him, but needs his game to be better. It doesn't matter if in her head she wants to slow things down...game breaks that kind of resistance. That's the point. By playing along, it's her game, not his.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 12:51 AM
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Essentially he agreed with a lot while expanding on some things. From my POV, regarding: Men will opt out of monogamy and reproduction if there are no incentives to engage in them. is, yes, a bit too extreme, particularly the reproduction aspect. As the post argues...there's this thing called biological imperative at the very least. I want my own child, to raise them and see them prosper. Being here, I've had to have a heart to heart with myself and think about custody issues, and how I'd want c…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/13 01:09 AM
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Yeah, this is key. It's not binary like we're led to believe. There's no diamond in the rough. If you aren't very alpha at all, you're playing with fire with any woman. In such a case, when you find the one that will stay, the one will be of similar low value, filled with insecurities. There are plenty of "faithful, loving, uplifting and understanding women" but if they stop liking you...well, that's it. ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS. If they stop liking you, you're in for a bad time. You will never m…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/13 12:40 AM
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a woman’s sexual freedom is an essential component to her liberation. So come here. This is simply getting rid of the notion that she'd be seen as a slut. I suppose this is why I've hooked up with too many self-proclaimed feminists in the past. I make sex easy to talk about and encourage her to be liberal re: sex. And yeah, that post...that logic...all men are misogynists.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/13 12:26 AM
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Just wait for the male in the scene to start making moves, and be a bit snarky about how much of an amateur he is (without getting too obnoxious). Immediately demonstrate the correct technique, and progress from there. Ah, that's pretty clever. Mind you, if we're watching a movie I usually get right to it, regardless of content. But, I think this might be useful say, if you're out and your mate just pulled her friend and they're making out in the corner while you haven't escalated up to that poi…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/13 12:21 AM
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Yeah, this is bad...especially in text form where expressiveness dies. Let's translate: Hey you need... is more like Hey I need... which conveys Hey I'm needy
/r/askTRP17/10/13 10:55 PM
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Do you fuck your bro in the ass while he's severely intoxicated and then leave him outside in the snow? No. Because, guess what...that's rape.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 10:48 PM
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If you're stating your sexual intent from a frame of neediness/high investment ('fear of rejection and the perception that all I want is sex'), then yeah...it's creepy and not going to get you anywhere. I don't know if you've seen it or not, but check out the book Models by Mark Manson regarding this.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 09:50 PM
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Young, dumb, slutty girls without a father figure in their life get taken advantage of by older high school seniors, then were left out in the snow to avoid being caught. Yeah, it's true, the girls hold some responsibility here. I'm sure they wanted to have sex (seriously, not sarcasm...they knew what they were doing), BUT they didn't want to drink to oblivion and be left out in the snow afterward. The senior guys deserve a significant amount of blame for their actions. Seriously, there's 'cryin…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 09:30 PM
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Maybe, like the Dark Triad, sadism signals alpha male mating value. That CH post was pretty short, of course I read it. It backs up what I said. Anyway, all the desire for those with 'dark triad' (or 'tetrad') traits can be explained more generally. Explain how it's useful to view women as evil? Ah, right... it's not, and it's a childlike simplification of complex traits and behaviour. You're just bitter still.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 09:11 PM
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a girl I made out with in the club I was suffering with flu What? Also, people are telling you that you didn't want to fuck her, yet here you are sober, questioning your actions... You failed to escalate. You made excuses for yourself to avoid taking a 'risk' / rejection / being judged by them hearing. Plain and simple. Learn from your mistakes. That's it. If the flu was really an issue, you would have been home sucking down chicken soup through a bendy-straw, not out at a club.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 08:42 AM
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Don't add a girl on facebook. Let her add you. Yeah, you don't need her facebook if you can talk to her another way/have her number. Anecdote: When I get fb adds from girls that I've spent some time with, I pretend not to know them. It can be a lighthearted start to the conversation. Anecdote 2: I was fading in and out of being blacked out and met a gorgeous model with dual degrees in law and biochemistry. Somehow I was charming and we got on well, I got her number, but also added her on faceboo…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 08:15 AM
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see: /r/weightroom's faq also, the fit of clothes is one of the most important things. Tailor your clothes. Fit tends to get easier as your body looks better.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 08:00 AM
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A lot of the advice on improving yourself and expanding your horizons really needs to come from the frame of mind that you're doing this to become the best version of yourself. Think about how you define success. Exclude women. Troubles with women obscured my focus on genuine life goals. Improving interactions with women should become more general--improving interactions with anyone.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 07:57 AM
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There are a few threads from earlier on when users discussed their backgrounds. There are a number of 'successful', well educated, wealthy, and older individuals like we have here. Others are on their way. There were lots of STEM degrees, myself included, and business owners.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 07:43 AM
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You probably got downvoted because your logic is flawed and overly simple. If indeed it were true that women liked guys that were sadistic, this likely is an expression of more general alpha qualities--confidence, strength, etc. So, you failed to make a connection from what they like to how they act. Also, everyone can be 'evil', depending on the circumstances. See: The Lucifer Effect by Philip Zimbardo (of the Standford Prison Experiment fame) if you actually want to delve into any depth about …
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 07:31 AM
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also see: the exchange student who tried to sleep with me, I refused since she had a fiancé, and then within an hour she fucked another exchange student. Then after she returned home, she told her fiancé (a 'nice' pastor's son) that she was raped. Contrast this with a girl I dated who actually was raped as a child by a family friend and could only stand to sleep alone at night... The cheapening of rape sickens me.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/13 07:08 AM
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A few years back, I randomly happened to message a girl on fb that I met/kissed once a year before. It turns out she was moving the next day across the country. We set up plans for lunch. We had a good time, but I failed to escalate things (even sitting on the couch watching tv for an hour...so bad). I left and went to my friend's place close by. After a few hours, I messaged her something to the effect of: RBP: What do you prefer? Apples or Oranges Her: Apples why? RBP: What do you prefer? Sex …
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 09:52 AM
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It seems like a simple, small thing, but it speaks volumes. I'm sure you're familiar with a 'slippery slope' as well-if you compromise on this, where does it end? 'Being more efficient and avoiding headache' is a rationalization for an inability to deal with even the most minor confrontation. Rationalization and avoidance behaviour in its most trivial form. Get some damn resolve. ask you a million annoying questions that you have no desire to answer. You should be able to control the conversatio…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 09:28 AM
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Don't lie to appease others. Do your thing. If you don't drink alcohol, you don't drink alcohol. Don't bother justifying it to other people either, still trying to get them to approve. Hold your frame. Also, if it's shittesty, you can agree and amplify. Easy enough. Also, this should be a question for /r/asktrp
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 04:14 AM
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Bad attitude. Push it to the back of your mind. You clearly have yet to make yourself valuable enough or haven't put yourself out there enough. So work on both. Put yourself in situations that can get your laid. Work on improving yourself, becoming the best version of you. What are your weaknesses? What do you want to improve? What's something new that you can do to expand your horizon? Abandon the neediness and expectations, and take things as they come as you go forward doing these things. Als…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 03:48 AM
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Regarding love, this is in the sidebar: Men In Love Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved ... As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to. Read the whole thing though. In the end, it's probably difficult to understand the male perspective--which is pretty much the core issue here. So, as it stands, men can love, …
/r/TheRedPill13/10/13 03:23 AM
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There's an age filter.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/13 09:22 PM
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and it's slang in England for humans fucking. I was confused too at first. Let's change it to 'beta buck$'
/r/TheRedPill03/10/13 04:50 AM
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A nice read is by Mark Manson - Models. It bypasses a lot of the old pickup concepts, and delves into getting your shit together in a multitude of ways. It's pretty kosher, in that, you could probably recommend it to friends without it being criticized for being PUA or as 'extreme' as TRP (which, TRP really isn't as bad as my first gut reaction and everything I had heard). That's part of red pill, but not the whole thing. There's two parts: Understanding how things really are and then...how to g…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 06:45 AM
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I think I turned a lighter shade of white when I read that.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 06:18 AM
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I edited and added a few things, so you may want to reread at some point. So what you are saying is that the attention that you give a certain girl that you want to fuck should not be out of a source of validation, but just out of your own self amusement and interest? Pretty much, although, for conversations where she's sharing, self-amusement perhaps isn't the best way to think of it. Being interested, listening, and picking up on things should be genuine. Self-amusement itself is pretty genuin…
/r/askTRP02/10/13 05:53 AM
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Yeah, that seems to be the conclusion I've been coming to and why I think there's a lack of information on this specifically. I think that makes this idea itself pretty important when swimming through such a sea of info. Cheers.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 05:38 AM
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There really isn't a dissonance if you think about it in the right way. (I was just thinking about this exact topic yesterday! Reconciling Carnegie with TRP. I feel like this is important, as so many have read it, so bear with me). a lot of Beta behaviors when it comes to talking with females, such as giving them plenty of attention, taking a guanine interests in them, and always remembering their birthdays and names and such. This is where you're thinking about it poorly. The keyword (which you…
/r/askTRP02/10/13 05:07 AM
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Time to run dat ghetto girl game up in these burbs.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 04:50 AM
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I won't go into the details of texting/hanging out/etc. because it will take up a lot of space and the popular manosphere bloggers describe it better. Can you think of any off-hand that have this? Over what I've stumbled across, info past the initial hookup and first few times later seems to be scarce.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 04:23 AM
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This is pretty solid. One of the emails he read really struck a few chords from the past. The guy thinks he's doing all the right things--lists everything he should and shouldn't be doing, he knows what's right on a surface level--but he can't dissociate himself from the situation, look at it objectively, and read her actions and what they mean. Everything he does is in the frame of attachment and neediness, which, even if you do recognize, it'll still try to subvert you. It's easy to be jaded i…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 03:10 AM
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Yeah, if you can do everything to increase your body's test naturally, it's not a quick fix, but it'll be a much better option in the long run. All of these things suggested are pretty much part of the red pill ideal lifestyle anyway, so you may want to see what you can do over the course of time. Also, re: sex drive, test isn't the only thing at play. It'll help significantly if you stop watching porn/masturbating--assuming you are, of course.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 01:57 AM
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The locker room is a just a simple metaphor for a space where guys can speak without a filter. It's just a place where we can let the balls hang free and speak our minds, without trying to self-censor. I find much less jargon used here than in say...seddit. Part of the process of swallowing the red pill is usually bitterness. Most replies to such, I've found, try to quell that and get them to move on, and get their own shit going. People scrutinizing this sub fail to see the depth.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 01:32 AM
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TRP is like a mens' locker room. If you've never been in one, and go in for the first time, it might shock and cause a gut reaction--crass language and penises everywhere. Instead of challenging what they 'know' and have been told about how men and women work in society, they'd much rather be vocal about the obscenity they found in that locker room, purposely failing to extract any depth to the discussions the guys were having--because it challenges what they 'know'. It's a defense mechanism. It…
/r/askTRP02/10/13 12:42 AM
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Yeah, this is the shit I'm talking about. Specific things, keeping them primed, just enough. If you want to keep them around--you want to keep them loyal to you, you need to give them a little something every once in a while without too much investment. That's the general on how I try to go about things, but I made this thread to see how others go about it and to what degree of success.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 12:33 AM
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Also, if anyone has good resources they can link to related to this (specifics on managing your social life with these women after a few dates/hookups/etc), they may be valuable.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 12:12 AM
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I think people forget that swallowing the red pill is a process. OP is seeing more clarity and, yes, getting validation. People learn by validation. This is reinforcing the good shit he's picked up. This is just a stepping stone, as long as he keeps going. That can be said for pretty much anyone here.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/13 11:06 PM
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At some point, he's going to have to swallow his pride and get over her.... the question is...will he have more pride in choosing to leave her now or after being dragged through this shit, for months, while she'd rather fuck another guy. You're better off getting out now OP and moving on. Don't even think about going back if she starts to want you back. Be better than that.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/13 10:37 PM
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I'm talking about maintaining that preselection; of course, managing personal boundaries plays into that as well. 'Get your plates, spin them, and everything will be natural based upon what you set up' seems to be the advice, but I really would like to break that down, and get into more specifics...which, the sidebar material doesn't, and doesn't talk about the various forms of communication we're faced with.
/r/askTRP01/10/13 10:17 PM
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What if you've brought home a shy girl? She isn't very 'present/in the moment'. It's like there's a lack of energy. I find it difficult to get myself amped up. I've always had an easier time being dominant over the girls that have a bit of spunk, or even try to be dominant. You can take it away from them (as in, fighting a wolf and winning vs fighting a puppy...too easy, not very high energy). So then,...how do you resuscitate a dead fish?
/r/TheRedPill30/09/13 05:53 AM
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Which to her mind is actually the bottom of the barrel because the 0 - 69 percentile is literally invisible to them. There was some OKCupid data that pointed to exactly this. Of course, it was only true for how women rated men, and not the other way around. Unrealistic expectations.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/13 03:10 AM
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She knows you aren't attracted to her Just keep things as friends...and most of them will think there's a chance. I'd say this is one of the few things guys and girls have in common when they're really infatuated with someone. But, yes, as you say, if you cross that line and make it obvious that you're not interested or fuck their friends without plausible deniability...then they'll cut you out of their life, perhaps in a bad way. Men don't tend to do that.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/13 07:37 PM
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'Reparations'. In some way, they relate former gender roles in an early industrial society with slavery.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/13 08:21 AM
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Man, you can't push the horrible hambeast that far. You need to disregard all knowledge of her attraction to you. After all, to you, she's just a friend. Maintain that and she'll never want to sacrifice that friendship/("there's still a chance?")--even while she inadvertently aided you in fucking her hot friends (with an nonthreatening introduction and positive social proof).
/r/TheRedPill27/09/13 08:11 AM
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how do I use my friendship with her as a way of meeting her attractive friends? Get invited to social events and parties. If they're friends, they should be invited as well. You already have an in since you have the approval of their fat friend. Then it's just game. Also, if you casually get yourself into a situation where it's only your fat friend and hot friends, it's not like you need a wingman. You're now a new, probably-not-creepy, potentially-interesting guy. They don't know you well, but …
/r/TheRedPill27/09/13 08:03 AM
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I went to an engineering university where most of the asian girls weren't that attractive. I never cared much for asian girls. Then I traveled to Japan. Oh my god the legs. The thigh highs. There were so many young and attractive Japanese girls. Osaka particularly. All of those factory workers' daughters bucking the rigidity and pretension found in Tokyo.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/13 03:07 AM
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If you are bad at night game you need to figure why and 90% of the time it isn't because you aren't having 'fun.' I'd reword that, and say...you need to figure out why you aren't having fun. That's what this post is missing.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/13 06:34 AM
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No drama, I didn't say a thing to him. Passive aggressive drama. I had to laugh when I read your OP. You take things too seriously and counted this as a massive slight against you. If you were relaxed about it and didn't take it so personally, you could casually mention how you would have wanted to do that--or just let shit be. But instead, "forming enemies is something [you] do quite easily." You felt entitled to being invited and then got let down. How you felt is on you. Hell, maybe it's good…
/r/askTRP14/09/13 06:22 AM
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It doesn't have to be her in control. There's a give and take to it all. Get her to want to grind you... to make you feel good. It's the same as getting a chick to want to give you a blowjob. Control how you dance. Rub your hand along her thigh. Grasp her shoulder/neck. Switch to facing each other. Separate. Push her away. Bring her in close. Stick your leg between both of hers. Grab her ass. Now she's grinding on you to make herself feel good with you. Your mindset is all wrong. Dancing is sex …
/r/TheRedPill04/09/13 03:23 AM
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uh...read everything on the sidebar over in /r/TheRedPill (inner game, dominant, alpha, etc...) This post is like asking how to hook up with a hardcore-neo-feminist. It's all the same as long as you dance around their sensitive subjects. Cognitive dissonance is a wonderful thing (i.e. feminists actually like dominant men if they avoid her mental traps). Women are women. Subtle differences here and there. Some will initially like you better than others, some none at all.
/r/askTRP01/09/13 09:37 AM
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All I read was that you ended up playing videogames, thought that she was calling you beta, and you proved her yourself right by not acting/questioning it later. Don't act all excited about being called cute, but don't take it negatively (like you did). You get called cute often so it's no big deal.....right?? A girl that has called you cute has mildly suggested she's interested, so don't fuck it up. Move from "cute" to "he makes me tingle".
/r/askTRP01/09/13 09:32 AM
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"Cute" averages out to be neutral. You can be cute and never get laid, or you can be cute and take it further to hot (aka, be attractive besides your looks). And as someone else said, you do have the advantage of not being initially being considered creepy.
/r/askTRP01/09/13 09:27 AM
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They're pretty much the same as any other woman in general. Honestly, some may have fucked up baggage though (one I hooked up with was raped as a kid, and couldn't sleep in the same bed as me--but the sex was good). Don't worry about not being like them aesthetically. Be attractive, in the way that we define attractive here in TRP. Myself? I'm your very clean cut Polo advert, but went so far as to hook up with (and date?) a girl that had a mohawk, tats, scarification, piercings, and enjoyed body…
/r/askTRP01/09/13 09:21 AM
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Yeah, seriously. This is more than salvageable. Have none of you dealt with this "I have self-respect now!" shit before? I've had similar text convos with past hookups that I wanted to reignite, just saying random shit, not putting in much effort, granted not this bad. They're hooked and everything they say is to try to convince themselves. They can't handle it when you don't give their words any weight.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/13 07:20 PM
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She's not self-aware...if she was, she wouldn't be replying. How are you guys not seeing that she's still, after all that shit, interested?
/r/TheRedPill31/08/13 08:53 AM
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http://therationalmale.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/ Even if you're worth billions, guys try to seek love. But...women don't love the same way men do, so there will always be that disconnect (until he's able to acknowledge this, and change his expectations).
/r/TheRedPill29/08/13 02:51 AM
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Apparently I attract veg*an feminists, but honestly, I've found them to be interesting people, comfortable with sex, and pretty submissive (anything else is more like acting). Most admit that, but I've learned not to connect the dots for them and relate it back to feminism. Cognitive dissonance is amazing.
/r/askTRP27/08/13 07:38 PM
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I'd say the better option is this. It's like a parent to a child.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:23 AM
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My (married) aunt would often go on trips with her divorced friends to exotic locations. After a number of years of this, she's still married but her husband has moved out of the house, and she continues to go on these holidays...
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:16 AM
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So the question is, if you're married & already have a child with this woman and she wants to go to Miami like this, what do you do? Mind you, I don't have children and hopefully wouldn't marry someone like this.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 02:30 AM
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If she's just there to have her friend screen you then there's either no interest or some deeper issues: NEXT. Huh? No. If there's no interest, she doesn't show. If her friend is there, it's likely because it makes her feel safe and/or she can get a second opinion. It hardly changes things. Engage them both. (At a bar? Sit between them. Tell them you want one of them to move over if you have to. I've joked about being the meat in their sandwich. Were they already sitting? Tell one to move over.)…
/r/askTRP19/08/13 03:11 AM
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Also, it says 'pestering'...implying that you've tried, failed, and kept at it. Don't do that shit. Solid advice. In grad school, you're likely going to be in tiny classes, so shitting where you eat is a bad idea as well.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 10:59 PM
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on emails, as Guurzak said: You can turn a yes into a no, and the easiest way to do that is to be insecure or try too hard. email/text removes a massive amount from a conversation. Words aren't very important.
/r/askTRP15/08/13 06:18 PM
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You've already got an instant in just by opening your mouth--you're unique. This applies especially to younger girls that aren't used to meeting many internationals. just don't over play it. You can still have fun after a long time. When I was 19 and at the end of my 5 months in Australia, I remember going out on my own to a club and pretending to be an 'American tourist' that night. I knew everything about my city, but I'd just play along for fun. I'd go early to a bar/club and always make frie…
/r/TheRedPill14/08/13 04:19 AM
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but you can kind of next her short-term The term I've seen used is "soft next".
/r/askTRP14/08/13 04:04 AM
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What you just said is more truth than any of what that link described. The whole desire to label someone as one specific type is absurd. We need to look at ourselves and take note of our thoughts/actions in certain circumstances, such as seeing where they fall on that alpha/beta spectrum. Each person is far more complex than one label can provide (hence why I think things like sigma,gamma,etc are useless).
/r/TheRedPill13/08/13 09:33 PM
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If I was coming to TRP as a blue-pill, those bullets wouldn't really help me understand/change my thoughts. You've got to say something that they've seen (yet likely disregard). It has to be a truth that deep-down they know. Here's my take: Women like leaders. They think logically--they should like the nice, sweet guy that takes care of them--but emotionally, they like the assertive leader--this is what makes them tingle. Through media, [books/film/tv], many boys have been consistently told they…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/13 09:17 PM
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Yeah, they're doing this for completely the wrong reasons, as dewbaccaha says. I'll add that, IMHO, video game women are made too sexy. You have guys curled up with their controllers, alone, worshiping video game characters. I've adopted a negative view on porn as well though--not because of how 'women are exploited' or for twisted morality, but because it fucks guys up and leaves them satiated.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/13 08:47 PM
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While that sounds nice, it reads like a fortune cookie or astrology. It applies broadly so that you may hear what you want to hear. Just playing Devil's advocate.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/13 08:18 PM
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Yeah, after she came over the first time, I was pretty curt (honestly, too cold--I overdid it, a bit of bravado--hence the extreme). But she started making shit difficult. 'I'm busy tonight/those days' and made no attempts to get something to work. This happened with my 3 or so attempts to set something up over about two weeks. Time went on, and instead of letting it go, I was afraid of losing her--but, mostly because I felt it was my fault for the bravado. If there was just no attraction/we had…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 06:43 AM
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I mean, our 'talk' was fine. Gave her a squeeze & cheek kiss from the getgo. This surprised her, and then we just shot the shit for a while and had some laughs. Then near the end, we got more serious and I was just honest. She was back to being very much into me. Body language just completely changed, she mentioned/got very excited for the road trip we talked about before, etc. Then I swan-dived. Now when I mentioned the road trip, she's like 'idk I dont think I can afford it' and then hours lat…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 05:49 AM
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