I get that TRP advocates for things like abundance mentality even if there's no abundance but what about lying about your intensions? I talked up a milf into agreeing to drinks but the premise is that I share her wanting of an actual relationship when I really just want to have sex with a milf. An important detail is that she's specifically told me in no ambiguous terms that she does not want to be a notch on my bedpost or a sexual conquest. She's only wanting solid and real loving relationships. I told her I want this and denied that the generic pick up line I gave her was actually a generic pick up line but rather that she misunderstood something more consistent with what she'd wanted me to say.

Part of me is thinking it seems dishonest because (a) it's actually not honest but more importantly (b) because she seems really sweet and to really value the committed longterm relationship I'm offering her. The other part of me is thinking she'd have to be stupid as fuck, like legendarily stupid, to think a guy barely half her age who initially fed her a generic pick up line, would actually want a relationship and this part of me really feels like if she's actually buying the act then it's just her inner hamster going wild. A third part of me wants to just dismiss it with the assertion that sexual strategy is amoral. What's there to do here?