Mayor of betaland, new to trp: need help finding a plan

secret_barber · 2015-01-26T20:56:28+00:00

We found out she's pregnant a week ago.

Pray for miscarriage. Discuss abortion. If either happens, I would dump her, soon after.

I started adjusting to maximize the number of hours we spend together

NO! You need to be your own man, away from her. Have a ton of shit going on that does not involve her, at all. You are boring her. There is no mystery to you. She knows way too much.

We had sex every day. Now, it's down to 2x a week. She blames the pregnancy.

This is a huge red flag that you have lost control of the relationship. You do not excite her.

I'm brazilian, she's american, we're in the US. I'm way more affectionate than she is.

This has nothing to do with nationality.

I resent the fact that she isn't as affectionate. I brought this up time and again.

You can not talk her into being affectionate or sexual. Stop talking about it. Stop communicating what is bothering you. Stop initiating, focus on improving yourself (health, work, hobbies). If she initiates, you must dominate her - treat her like a whore.

She flat out said I'm trying to initiate sex all the time, leaving her no room to do it. She's frustrated by that. And wants me to care less for sex.

This has a lot to do with the fact that you think you can talk her into sex. You have to make her want sex, through your actions. Stop talking about sex.

I've started reading...

Keep at it. You have a ton of work to do.

oldredder · 2015-01-27T10:10:38+00:00

Don't smother her. She's got your baby inside her, it's not like she's forgetting your physical presence. Also pregnancy will from time to time make her not want sex. At some point it will probably make her really badly want sex.

If it's always been a thing for you before this that she did get a chance to initiate sex and that goes well then ya... give her a chance to do that.

Also find things to do with your time that aren't with her because it really is annoying as shit for a person to lose all their personal space. Don't you ever feel you get quality out of time by yourself? Ever? You should.

Title	Mayor of betaland, new to trp: need help finding a plan
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Date	January 26, 2015 8:30 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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