Paying for the first date?

DumpyLips · 2015-01-15T00:58:46+00:00

Some people will make a big deal about not paying for the first date.

I think it's much more how you go about it.

Personally, I always do coffee or a single drink at a bar for the first date. Something quick and low commitment. I always pay since I choose places that can't be more than 15 bucks all together.

When the check comes, I'll look her in the eyes and casually but assertively say "nah, I'll pay for this"

What I'm trying to demonstrate is that I dont feel like I need to pay for it but I'm going to.

I'm not sure if that body language or idea totally makes sense through text

vandaalen · 2015-01-15T01:00:54+00:00

It's totally up to you. Just handle it, like you would handle it, if you were out with one of your male friends, but keep a couple of things in the back of your head:

Why do you pay for the first date? What's your motivation to do so?
Why do you think, it's not the girl who should pay for the first date?
The first date shouldn't be something expensive. Get a mutual coffee and find out if there is any attraction and if it's worth investing more time, attention and resources.
Many bitches make a living of going to dates, especially the good looking ones. If they are hungry, they'll just flip through their phonebook and choose some fag who they'll allow to pay for their meal.
Many bitches think that they are entitled to all this shit, just because they are born with a pussy. Do you want to support sexism?
Occupying your time and your resources is the women's way of fucking you. Why would you want to pay for a whole night out upfront, if you do not even know if it's going to pay out for you? Are you a slut?
You won't be able to pay your way into her panties, unless she's just a gold-digger or an ordinary whore.
If you are going out some time later, after you've fucked her, it's kind of an expensive thing to do, and she lacks the money, but you can easily afford paying for both and it's a thing you want to do, there speaks nothing against paying for those activities.

M3_Drifter · 2015-01-15T01:38:44+00:00

I pay for the first date. However, my first dates are always something simple, reasonably cheap (like coffee), and where either of us can run away if it's totally horrible. Going to the movies is the worst possible first date. You sit for two hours with a stranger you can't really talk to. This is not how you figure out if you want to do a second date.

thrway1312 · 2015-01-15T01:49:20+00:00

Last girl I took to the bar, lots of bodies were taking up space; to ease logistics I asked her what she wanted and paid, then told her she can get the next round.

We finished that round on the dance floor and made our way to my place shortly after.

thenarrrowpath · 2015-01-15T18:57:34+00:00

I think its okay to pay, but I never pick anything more than coffee or a beer and I always try to set it up for a weekday night. Fridays/Saturdays are reserved for gaming/hanging with friends/hanging with girls that proved themselves. Also, I don't like to use the word date around girls, its a meet up.

throwaway_groupie · 2015-01-15T07:17:27+00:00

Go to coffee or cheap drinks and get to know her a bit. If you think you're gonna fuck her, pay. If not, say "wanna split this one?" If you aren't gonna fuck her who cares what she thinks.

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Date	January 15, 2015 12:41 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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