RP practice, BP release relationship

vandaalen · 2014-11-11T11:55:04+00:00

Too unethical?

All is fair in love and war.

Seriously, I think playing along with your oneitis too soon after you accepted the truth and started to improve yourself will just set you up for another failure.

It's much better to cut contact for a while and keep focusing on yourself whilr you start gaming other girls.

You could come back to her somewhere in the future if you feel an urge to finaly close the chapter and fuck her at least one time.

A friendship-type relationship with such woman will most likely not get you anywhere. Nothing to gain from women you aren't fucking, and if she is on a higher level regarding manipulation, you might just fall back without even noticing.

Also worrying about her and thinking about maintaining the relationship, for any purpose whatsoever, instead of just cutting the ties, tells me, that you aren't really over her yet.

Who gives a fuck if she's hot and horny? Go to a mall and count the girls you think are hot and horny. There's enough of them. Bitches are like taxis. There's always a next one.

One more thing on the ethical view of it: She's got no problem using you as her orbiting slut, so why should you worry about using her as your fucktoy or educational doll?

teeay · 2014-11-11T12:06:03+00:00

AskTRP thinks nothing. People have their own opinions and can share them with you. They cannot make a moral choice for you though.

What risks do you see? What is your ethical standart?

Personally, whenever I understand relationship is over with someone, I feel I have to tell them immediately, so that they are no longer bound to me. I want to respect their time. I don't want to give them false hopes or exploit their emotions towards me. I don't want to stick with them just so I get laid or some other benefits UNTIL I can get those benefits from someone else.

Had an LTR of about 2 years, and then I just met another girl and understood how much I am missing with my LTR and how much more fun I can have with a girl that shares at least some of my interests. Before I got anywhere with this new girl (and in the end I got nowhere with her), I told my LTR our relationship is over - not because I've fallen in love with someone else, but just because I now see she's not the right type of person for me.

However, that is when the relationship is exclusive.

If you never told her your relationship is exclusive and she never asked, then, I think, you can stay with her as long as you like, and use her however you like. You're with her because you want to be with her (to practice shittests, holding frame, whatever). That's what people do - they spend time in the company of people that are useful to them. People like to talk to me about programming, computers or Christianity because I'm knowledgeable in these topics - they use me to gain knowledge and understanding at expense of my time and effort, while I gain little in return. Is it wrong? There's nothing wrong about that because I know it's exactly as is - I'm not getting something from them in return for these "consultation" serivces (even sounds ridiculous to expect it, right?). So you can treat your situation the same way. You need practice, she's around, as long as you're not forcing her to spend time with you and you're not lying to her - it's fine!

In the end, you should decide. You, as a man, should have a mission, which is basically an answer to a question of "how do you want to shape the world around you". What is your view on things? Do you think it's okay to let people willfully mislead themselves (and give you benefits), or do you think it's your moral duty to correct them (at your expense). What do you want to share with people, what do you want to teach people, through the interactions with them?

For example, if you think she's only with you on terms of having exclusive relationships with you (meaning, if she'd knew you have no LTR plans for her, she would not spend time with you), but you never discussed the topic, do you let her dwell in her delusion, or tell/hint her somehow that you're not exclusive to her?

If some person is doing something for you while covertly expecting you to do something for him in return that you never plan on doing, do you accept or reject his offering?

I'm the kind of person who tries to correct people in such scenarios (even though I lose something I could easilly get if I let them remain delusioned), but I think it's not immoral or bad to just do what benefits you and consider it's their fault for imagining something that's not real. And when they realise they won't get what they wanted, tell them that's how it is - there was no agreement between you so they should not have expected it in the first place. After all, world is harsh and they should learn it is so.

mister_barfly75 · 2014-11-11T12:36:43+00:00

Risky? Yes. You're in danger of failing her shit tests and falling back into orbit. Unethical? TRP is amoral - it's not about good or evil, it's about learning how the world works and using this knowledge to maximise the time we spend on it.

Next her. Go ghost and disappear.

gussiie · 2014-11-11T11:20:15+00:00

She will be attracted to you once you show more masculinity.

Don't return her calls or messages
If you do be short and concise
Do whatever you want to do despite whatever games she's playing. Nobody gives a fuck about her.
Chicks don't even know what they want.. So getting you to behave in a certain way is your doing, not theirs.

oldredder · 2014-11-12T04:15:05+00:00

The only real risk is that she doesn't play along as you need so you learn less, or that you fail so utterly you fall in love with her and get to be a slave again.

Ethics don't even matter for this.

Title	RP practice, BP release relationship
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Date	November 11, 2014 11:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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