Guys shit test

RobertCarraway · 2014-10-26T19:26:39+00:00

It's a good question. My opinion: We don't do it in the same way as women do, but we do it. Men primarily shit test men who they are in competition with. Back in middle school when kids would call each other names, whoever broke frame first lost. With adults it's the same way except subtler. Status is proven by who can hold frame longest.

We used to out-gay each other in conversations as a sort of shit test. The person who got uncomfortable first lost and was seen as being the least comfortable in his hetero frame. I know a lot of guys do the same.

I think generally though it's considered a hostile act if it is not done in a fun way like the gay shit test. The gay shit test is basically practice in holding frame.. But outside of practice like that it is not a friendly thing to do. If you are on the same side, status is more fluid, and position of alpha can actually change depending on whoever is the best at the activity at hand. In these friendly situations I don't think shit-testing is necessary. The group decides who is alpha based on skill and competence, not on holding frame like in hostile situations.

I'm sure there are all sorts of holes in this, I just though I'd give a crack at it because its an interesting topic.

aOs_Student · 2014-10-26T21:50:45+00:00

Shit testing is ment for mate selection when it comes to women. Men assert their dominance when in social interactions. There's clearly a difference.

raweggsoup · 2014-10-26T18:31:55+00:00

Not in my experience. But, jocks can I suppose. I'm not really sure, but good question.

Title	Guys shit test
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Date	October 26, 2014 6:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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